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you are too worried and too focused on other people.
Focus on your own growth and well-being instead of trying to fix others' chaos. Let people live in their chaos and prioritize your peace.
Key Takeaways
- Focus on yourself and your own growth rather than trying to fix others.
- Let people live in their chaos if they choose to, without draining your energy.
- You have the power to change your environment and relationships for the better.
- Prioritize your mental health, peace, and spiritual growth.
- Accept others as they are and stop wasting time on those unwilling to change.
Summary
- Stop worrying about other people's problems and focus on your own well-being.
- You don't have to stay in toxic relationships or environments; you deserve better.
- Fix your own foundation—mental, emotional, financial—before trying to fix others.
- Many people thrive in chaos and drama; you must accept that and let them be.
- Continuously trying to change others who don't want to change wastes your energy.
- Take a step back and allow people to live their lives as they choose, even if chaotic.
- Prioritize your growth, health, sanity, and relationship with God.
- Avoid complaining about being drained when you choose to stay in chaotic situations.
- This season of life should focus on self-elevation and peace.
- Accept that you cannot control others' choices, only your response to them.
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Your focus has to be on you now.
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You gotta stop trying to save people from their own chaos.
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You have to stop worrying about other people problems and what other people got going on,
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especially when they ain't worried about you.
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When they don't show up for you, they don't ask you how your day is going, they don't ask you how you've been, they don't try to pour into your cup, but we we get bored and we feel like we have to show up for everybody, but nobody showing up for you.
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You have to stop worrying about people and start worrying about yourself.
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Get your own well-being right.
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Get your own friend group right, get your own type of family that you need, you you ain't gotta be stuck with what you come from.
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You can go get something better.
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You don't have to stay in that relationship.
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You can you can get better, you you deserve better, you can move in a different direction.
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There is nothing wrong with that.
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But you have to start worrying about you.
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We are in everybody else's business for what?
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You're trying to fix their problems.
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For what you listening to their issues for what when they just go back?
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You trying to you trying to fix every situation but your own.
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You trying to focus on how you can bring this person to God, but you not there.
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You trying to fix other people financial problems, but your finances ain't there.
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We have to start worrying about ourselves.
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Fix your foundation first, fix your house first, and then we can start worrying about everybody else's.
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If everybody was focused on their own problems and their own issues, the world would be a better place.
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Because you have a bunch of people who's fixing their self and not just breaking other people.
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But it's insanity when you sit there and you know that that person is not gonna leave that person, you know that person is not gonna stop spending money on things they shouldn't be spending on, you it's it's insanity when you're trying to push into somebody head that they shouldn't be doing the things they do.
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But you know for a fact that they gonna do it anyway.
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We be knowing for a fact that these people are not listening to a thing we say anyway.
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It's all talk.
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It's all because we bored, it's all because we feel like we have an obligation or something, but your stuff not right.
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You you not where you wanna be, but you focused on them.
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We have to get in that space where life becomes more enjoyable, more livable.
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It's not because we we surrounded by so much chaos and sometimes it's a chaos that we choose to be around.
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It's the people that we decide to associate ourselves with and their chaos.
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A lot of the times it be other people's chaos.
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It don't even be our own chaos.
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But it feels like our chaos because we accept it, we accept it in our lives, we accept the conversation.
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We we show up every single time they call or they got an issue, but it's something you've been beating in their head forever to move away from.
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But they want to live in their chaos and you gotta start letting people live in their chaos.
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You have to stop worrying about people who are not as worried about themselves.
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If they wanna live that way, let them live that way.
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If they wanna move the way they move, let them move the way they wanna move.
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If they wanna hang around all the wrong people and do all the wrong things, let them.
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Let them.
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At some point in your life, you have to take a step back.
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You have to take a step back and start allowing people to be themselves.
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Maybe that's where they wanna be.
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Maybe that's who they wanna be with.
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Maybe they want that that's what they thrive in that chaos.
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That's what is the highlight of that.
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Their day, their day.
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That's what makes them happy is being in chaos.
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And we just got to start accepting that some people want to live in chaos.
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Some people like drama, they like controversy.
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They like who cheated on who, they like who selling this and who doing this.
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And can't you believe that this person was messing with this person?
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That that's what they thrive on.
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That's what their life is based on.
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But you you want different, you want more, you want you want more quality people.
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But you gotta make the choice to take a step back.
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And start allowing people to be themselves.
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They're telling you who they are.
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They're telling you who they are.
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But it's up to us to accept it.
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It's it's up to us to understand that this is who they wanna be.
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And the things and the choices that they make.
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It's up to them.
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No matter what you say.
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And you you wasting your breath, you wasting your time.
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You pouring all this energy, you wasting hours upon hours.
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Days upon days dealing with somebody who's never gonna walk away.
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Dealing with somebody who is not going to take their.
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Their life more serious, their health more serious.
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Their relationship more serious.
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God more serious.
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They're not going to and you know this deep down.
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But you continue.
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You continue.
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To to push the issue, you continue to show up.
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You continue to answer the answer the phone.
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But then you wanna complain about how drained you are.
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You wanna complain how how nobody shows up for you.
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You wanna complain how they hurt you and how they disrespect you and all the things they do.
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But when the when the ball is in your court and you have the you have a decision to make.
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You choose the chaos right along with them.
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This next season of your life is need to be the season of your life where you no longer worry.
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You no longer worry about the choices that other people make.
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You no longer worry about the things that other people are doing.
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This next season of your life is to be focused on you.
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Focused on your growth, your health, your mind, your sanity.
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And your relationship with God, that's where the mindset has to be.
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That's where the mind has to rest.
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It has to rest on elevation.
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Evolving yourself, becoming that better version of yourself.
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That's where the mindset has to be.
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And we have to let people live in the chaos that they create.
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And that they surround themselves in.
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It's not on you that they make those choices.
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But it's on you to accept.
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The drama, the issues and the problems that they bring.
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If you allow it.
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If you allow it and if that's what you want, stay there.
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But you don't get the right to complain when you had plenty of choices.
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And decisions that you could have made to start taking steps back.
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And allowing them to live in that chaos.
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And you move towards peace.
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Simple.
Topics:self-carepersonal growthmental healthletting gotoxic relationshipsboundariespeace of mindspiritual growthchaosself-improvement
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