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Not everybody who smiles with you is for you, and not everybody you love knows how to love you back.
Nick Peace urges protecting your energy by setting boundaries and surrounding yourself with people who add value, not drain you.
Key Takeaways
- Set boundaries to protect your mental, emotional, and physical energy.
- Surround yourself with people who add value and support your growth.
- Stop being constantly available to those who only take from you.
- Prioritize your own well-being and self-care to avoid burnout.
- Recognize that not everyone you love or trust will reciprocate that love.
Summary
- Not everyone who smiles with you or whom you love reciprocates genuine care or love.
- It's essential to protect your peace, mind, soul, and energy from people who drain you.
- Many people rely on you for energy, time, money, and peace without giving back.
- Growth and peace come from being around those who pour value into your life, not just take from it.
- Being constantly available to others can lead to emotional and mental exhaustion.
- Setting boundaries and sometimes becoming unavailable is necessary for self-care and alignment.
- Selfishness in focusing on your own needs is sometimes required to maintain balance and well-being.
- People who only take will fade away when you stop being available to them.
- Protecting your energy is crucial for pursuing your dreams, family, and personal growth.
- You cannot pour from an empty cup; self-care is essential for sustaining meaningful relationships.
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You gotta protect your peace, protect your mind, protect your soul, protect your energy.
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Because people will drain you, there's a lot of leeches out here, there's a lot of leeches around you.
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There's people who's counting on you for your energy, for your time, your money, your peace, they're here to steal it from you, they're here to take.
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One of the biggest lessons I had to learn was I needed to put myself in environments that people were willing to give value.
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I shouldn't be the big dog in every room I go in, I shouldn't be the the go to in every situation.
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In every conversation, I've learned if I wanted to grow, if I wanted to truly have peace and and good vibes, I had to get around people who wasn't just trying to take, wasn't just trying to see what they can get from me.
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But around people who was willing to pour inside my cup, even when I didn't ask for it, because I'm not the type to ask for advice or go to anybody with my problems, cause I like to keep them to myself, I've always been that way.
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And that's gotten me in trouble, that's hurt me in so many ways, but I couldn't get vulnerable around people that I knew was only there to take from me.
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I knew they were there to pull from me, but it was it was something in me that I felt like I needed someone to need me, it filled like a hole in in my heart that it made me feel like I was valuable, I was worthy because someone needed me.
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And like I said, that hurt me, because I was inserting myself in situations and places and in people's like problems and stuff that I had no business being in, and it was taken away from my peace, my energy, it was taken away from my mind and my time and my money, because I'm trying to show up for other people who never show up for me.
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They never poured into my cup, they never asked me how I'm feeling, what can they help me with, even when I tried in little ways, it always got reversed back to them.
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And that's where I'm coming from, not everybody you smile with is for you.
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Not everybody you love knows how to love you back, and you have to understand that.
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I'm not saying withdraw your love.
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I'm saying pay attention to how much you're giving, pay attention to what you're outputting.
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Because you're leaving yourself dry, you're you're draining yourself, you're you're digging your own grave.
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Some people die before they're even dead, and that was me, I was dead.
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I was dead, I was I was walking but I was dead inside, and that's because I I didn't take care of myself, it was always about other people.
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Even when I tried to make it about me, like I said, switched it to them, it always was about them.
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It was always about their problems, their issues, their situations.
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And I was always there to give value, I was always there to be a a a ear, one phone call away.
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And that that's one of my biggest things I've said on social media for a while, stop being everybody's one phone call away.
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I had to stop being everybody's one phone call away, I had to stop answering the phone sometimes.
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I had to say I'm busy sometimes, even when I wasn't, I had to say I got things going on.
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I can't I can't come over here and fix your problems when I have problems, I can't fix your mind when my mind is messed up.
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I can't fix your heart when I'm trying to build mines, I can't pay your rent when I'm my rent is due on the first if that makes sense.
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So I had to set certain boundaries, I had to pull away just a little bit, sometimes a lot, so I can get aligned.
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I wasn't aligned with myself, I wasn't aligned with God, I wasn't aligned with my purpose, and that's where I was failing.
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I was failing myself, smiling with people who wasn't for me, I was failing myself.
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Loving people who didn't know how to love me back, and instead of sitting there and being hurt by the situation, which I was.
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I decided to do something about it, I decided to change and and do things differently.
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What if I get a little selfish, what if I start focusing on myself, what if I start taking care of my responsibilities and and my issues and my problems and and my situations first.
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Are these people gonna still be around? Nope, they fade away because they realize that they can't take from you anymore.
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You you're not available to them the way you used to be.
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And that's a big one, you have to stop being available, even when you're available, stop being available.
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Sometimes you need to take that time for your peace, sometimes when you see that name pop up on your phone, you need to I'm protecting my peace today.
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I'm protecting sometimes you're protecting your pockets by not answering that phone, because you know if they they get you on that phone, you're gonna probably sucker in and cause you wanna help.
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It's that people pleasing mentality, it's that good heart that you have that God placed on you.
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But God also wants you to have boundaries, you can't you can't give all of yourself and expect you to have a percentage of yourself for yourself or your family or your kids or your your spouse, you whatever, whatever you got going on over here, you can't expect yourself to give 100% over here and then give a a percentage of yourself over here.
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You're drained, you're not a robot, you're not a robot, you're a human.
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And we get tired, and you gotta get tired, I got tired of showing up for everybody else.
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Pouring from an empty cup, I got tired of not getting the same love reciprocated, I got tired of people mistreating me, I got tired of people not showing up for me, I got tired of it.
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You're tired, and now it's time to become unavailable.
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Unreachable if you have to, because this next chapter is about protecting that peace, protecting that mind, that body, that soul.
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Protecting that energy, you need all your energy for your dream, you need all your energy for for that family that you're you're building.
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You need all that energy for that empire that you're building with your family, you need all your energy, stop giving it away for free.
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Especially with people who ain't gonna do nothing with it.
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All they gonna do is drain you and then find somebody else to drain after they're done with you.
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Like I said, not everybody who smiles with you is for you, and not everybody that you love knows how to love you back.
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Simple.
Topics:self-careboundariesenergy protectionmental healthtoxic relationshipspersonal growthemotional exhaustionNick Peaceself-lovesetting limits
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