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Entrepreneurship coaching session addressing ambition, money mindset, and overcoming mental blockages with a dating app founder.

Key Takeaways

Ambition and desire for financial success can cause internal conflict and guilt, which need to be addressed for growth.
Entrepreneurial success often requires overcoming deep-rooted social and familial beliefs about money and values.
Mental depolarization and coaching can help unblock limiting beliefs and facilitate breakthroughs.
A clear mission and core values, such as honesty and meaningful impact, are essential for sustainable business success.
Entrepreneurs benefit from embracing imperfection and focusing on the broader impact beyond personal gain.

What the video covers

The video features a coaching session with Virginia, founder of Matchmakers, a dating app focused on serious relationships and family building.
Virginia shares her journey from law to entrepreneurship and the challenges she faces, including resistance around ambition and money.
Pierre David guides Virginia through mental depolarization techniques to unblock limiting beliefs related to success and financial abundance.
The discussion contrasts Matchmakers' mission with typical dating apps like Tinder, emphasizing meaningful connections over casual encounters.
Virginia reveals the social and familial pressures that cause guilt and resistance toward her entrepreneurial ambitions.
The session explores character traits such as honesty and integrity as core values for Virginia’s business and personal identity.
Pierre explains the coaching approach, including shortcuts and projections outside formal processes to facilitate breakthroughs.
The video highlights the importance of mindset shifts for entrepreneurs to embrace imperfection and freedom in their journey.
Virginia’s ambition is to create the largest matchmaking agency focused on marriage and family creation.
The session includes practical advice for entrepreneurs, athletes, and coaches on how to overcome mental blockages quickly.

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What is the main focus of Virginia's business?

Virginia's business, Matchmakers, focuses on creating meaningful relationships aimed at marriage and family building, unlike casual dating apps.

How does the coaching session help entrepreneurs?

The coaching session uses mental depolarization techniques to help entrepreneurs identify and overcome internal blockages related to ambition, money, and self-belief.

What are some common mental barriers discussed in the video?

Common barriers include guilt around wanting financial success, fear of being perceived as arrogant, and resistance rooted in social and family beliefs.

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Speaker A

Being too ambitious and wanting too much money is actually a bit disturbing. When I started out as an entrepreneur, I would tell my daughter, "Yeah, we'll get rich and so on." And that, for example, is a bit like a broken promise to me. You don't always have to be perfect. And even this imperfection can have benefits. My impact can be much greater than me. What I saw made me feel good to see all that. And in terms of guilt, it's like I'm telling myself, "Well, I really have to go for it." In fact, that's what I wanted, but I feel freer.

Speaker A

promise to me. You don't always have to be perfect. And even this imperfection can have benefits. My impact can be much greater than me. What I saw made me feel good to see all that. And in terms of guilt,

Speaker A

Hello everyone and welcome to this new episode of the podcast on blockages, where we go into depth about mental depolarization sessions to show you how to remove a blockage. If you are an entrepreneur, athlete, coach, or even an artist today and you want to overcome your obstacles, these live sessions will help you understand how to quickly remove them. Today, we are with Virginia, who is the founder of the company Matchmakers, a dating app. Hi Virginia. Hi Pierre, how are you? Great, thank you. Can you introduce yourself and your company? Yeah, my name is Virginia, I am 36 years old, married, and have three children. I was originally a lawyer, I studied law, and I discovered entrepreneurship by chance. I discovered that in the field of dating, it was complicated to meet people these days and there were lots of women who had this dream of wanting to be a mother, to be in a relationship, and so on. So, this is something that really resonates with me because it is very important in my life. So, I wanted to find ways to provide solutions and help in this area. So now I'm a matchmaker.

Speaker A

Hello everyone and welcome to this new episode of the podcast on blockages, where we go into depth about mental depolarization sessions to show you how to remove a blockage. If you are an entrepreneur, athlete, coach or even an

Speaker A

Great. How did you come up with it? Was there a specific point that told you, "Okay, there's this need, uh, for traditional dating apps or not meeting this need?" And in fact, yes, I was in my tax office and I was starting to read up on entrepreneurship and I thought to myself, "Maybe I should come up with an idea if I want to get into entrepreneurship." And in fact, it was while listening to dates between colleagues, or colleagues, that I said to myself, "It seems really complicated to meet people in depth, because in the end, it's a lot of consumption, we go from one thing to another, and building is complicated." So what's the difference with your business model or your approach compared to Tinder? Well, in fact, I'm really going to, uh, understand everyone's criteria, to avoid them saying "Hi, how are you?" excessively, because I'm the one who takes care of it. From this part of, uh, well, checking each person's criteria, seeing if they match, asking questions, and so on. And once they match on the physical and all other aspects, I'm going to put them in touch.

Speaker A

how are you? Great, thank you. Can you introduce yourself and your company? Yeah, my name is Virginia, I am 36 years old, married, and have three children. I was originally a lawyer, I studied law, and I discovered entrepreneurship by chance. I

Speaker A

Okay. And now, what is your company's ambition today? Well, my ambition is really to create the biggest dating agency, but really in the field of marriage. Okay. That's really my point because Tinder, I think there are also a lot of quick encounters. That's not my thing at all. It's really about building families with children, babies, and so on.

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this is something that really resonates with me because it is very important in my life. So, I wanted to find ways to provide solutions and help in this area . So now I'm a matchmaker.

Speaker A

Okay. So here, OK, so here, we have a mission that's a little different from Tinder. I don't know, I don't know the mission, the reason for being of Tinder, but in any case, on yours, on Matchmaker, it would really be to start your family. Finally, find the go find a family and OK. Excellent. Today, what is it that is holding you back in your business?

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was starting to read up on entrepreneurship and I thought to myself, "Maybe I should come up with an idea if I want to get into entrepreneurship." And in fact, it was while listening to dates between colleagues, or colleagues, that

Speaker A

What made you decide to say, "OK, I'm going to come and spend some time with Pierre today?" Well, actually, you have to know that there are no entrepreneurs in my circle. There aren't really any entrepreneurs, there are freelancers and so on, but I think I'm more in an environment where we're struggling, where it's hard to make money and so on. So there's all this background, even in my ancestors and so on. Well, I think it's quite deep-rooted.

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compared to Tinder? Well, in fact, I'm really going to, uh, understand everyone's criteria, to avoid them saying "Hi, how are you?" excessively, because I'm the one who takes care of it. from this part of, uh, well, checking each person's criteria, seeing

Speaker A

OK. And so, this desire to be in abundance, to break through barriers and so on, is, well, I feel resistance on many different levels.

Speaker A

Okay. And now, what is your company's ambition today? Well, my ambition is really to create the biggest dating agency, but really in the field of marriage. Okay. That's really my point because Tinder, I think there are also a lot of quick

Speaker A

OK. OK. That is to say, when you feel resistance, it's, uh, how do you see yourself if you earn a lot of money in relation to your family and so on? Well, I know that when I started my entrepreneurship, I thought to myself: "Oh, I want to... I had big ambitions, and so on." And it's true that the reactions were a bit like: "Yes, but we shouldn't forget our true values, like being a good person, and so on." And the fact that, well, being too ambitious and wanting too much money is a bit disturbing, in fact.

Speaker A

Okay. So here, OK, so here, we have a mission that's a little different from Tinder. I don't know, I don't know the mission, the reason for being of Tinder , but in any case, on yours, on Matchmaker, it would really be to start

Speaker A

And so I thought it was a bit weird and I was also motivated. I had confidence in my abilities. I told myself that I'd be fine and so on. And then the word arrogance started to appear. Yes, we are considered a bit arrogant and everything and I said to myself, well, there is this side to me that I'm going to be a good person. And then they tell me understand that these aspects can be a bit disturbing.

Speaker A

What made you decide to say, "OK, I'm going to come and spend some time with Pierre today?" Well, actually, you have to know that there are no entrepreneurs in my circle. There aren't really any entrepreneurs, there are freelancers

Speaker A

Okay, well I see two angles. We'll see if we do an angle on a character trait that you can judge to see how we can unblock it and then we'll do another angle that is more related to money. We'll see depending on the time we have. Uh, once again, for those who are listening or watching this interview for the first time, here we are outside the system of the lamentation process as taught at the performance academy.

Speaker A

OK. And so, this desire to be in abundance, to break through barriers and so on, is, well, I feel resistance on many different levels.

Speaker A

Since it's over a time frame of about 1 hour, I'm going to take the liberty of making shortcuts, projections, and taking angles outside the processes. And so, uh, so there you have it, so everything that is done here should be taken, of course, with a grain of salt, a little perspective on the context that allows us to record this format.

Speaker A

entrepreneurship, I thought to myself: "Oh, I want to...I had big ambitions, and so on." And it's true that the reactions were a bit like: "Yes, but we shouldn't forget our true values, like being a good person, and so on." And

Speaker A

So, uh, the character traits that bother you the most, what would they be?

Speaker A

And so I thought it was a bit weird and I was also motivated. I had confidence in my abilities. I told myself that I'd be fine and so on. And then the word arrogance started to appear. Yes, we

Speaker A

Well, I don't really have a trait that annoys me in people. What's important to you in terms of value?

Speaker A

Okay, well I see two angles. We'll see if we do an angle on a character trait that you can judge to see how we can unblock it and then we'll do another angle that is more related to money.

Speaker A

Well, honesty, being a good person. I think that, yeah, I have that thing. Okay. Could you find someone who you think is a bad person?

Speaker A

Since it's over a time frame of about 1 hour, I'm going to take the liberty of making shortcuts, projections, and taking angles outside the processes.

Speaker A

If you could find someone who is a bad person or who is dishonest. I don't really see it, I don't focus on that much, but yeah. In your past when you were younger.

Speaker A

So, uh, the character traits that bother you the most, what would they be ?

Speaker A

Yeah, let's say. Yeah, I see, I see someone. You OK. What would be the adjective that we could give him?

Speaker A

Well, honesty, being a good person. I think that, yeah, I have that thing. Okay. Could you find someone who you think is a bad person?

Speaker A

Well, it's yeah. Basically, having ambition, not at all costs, but even if it means not really delivering the things that are promised or in fact selling a bit of a dream.

Speaker A

Yeah, let's say. Yeah, I see, I see someone. You OK. What would be the adjective that we could give him?

Speaker A

That would be a scammer or it would be... well, it's not really a pure scam, I think, but it's... Yeah, it's a bit like being focused on your goal, regardless of whether there are people who are OK on the road. So what would be the adjective you could give him? Dishonest? Yeah, maybe dishonest because I don't see any others.

Speaker A

That would be a scammer or it would be ...well it's not really a Pure scam, I think, but it's...Yeah, it's a bit like being focused on your goal, regardless of whether there are people who are OK on the road. So what would be the

Speaker A

You know this person? Uh, yeah, well, yeah. Okay. Yes, if tomorrow you didn't know them at all and so on, you would allow yourself to really judge, you would judge...

Speaker A

You know this person? Uh, yeah, well, yeah. Okay. Yes, if tomorrow you didn't know them at all and so on, you would allow yourself to really judge, you would judge...

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In fact, I was able to get support from this person. So that's it, and I wasn't satisfied. That was mainly what made me...

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So what would be your judgment about him at that time? Like, what was the judgment? What would be the adjective you could have given him? Well, yeah, maybe not really a scam because I still learned and in fact, as I I'm positive,

Speaker A

So what would be your judgment about him at that time? Like, what was the judgment? What would be the adjective you could have given him? Well, yeah, maybe not really a scam because I still learned and in fact, as I I'm positive, I'm there, but that's not it wasn't very... Yeah, I don't know how to explain it because it seems a bit extreme to me to be dishonest, but that's not very... Yeah, not very, well it's not it's not fair, but yeah, I don't know how to say it, how do you describe it or imagine you really letting yourself go in a judgment mode? I don't know, it's just not fair. What would be the big label?

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but yeah, I don't know how to say it, how do you describe it or imagine you really letting yourself go in a judgement mode? I don't know, it's just not fair. What would be the big label?

Speaker A

What would you be? Uh yeah, we can say we can start with a scammer even if there are OK. Actually, why am I asking this question? Have you ever worked, have you ever done a depolishing session?

Speaker A

No. No. OK. So why am I asking you this question is that very often people have the part, especially when you said at the very beginning, uh yes, well I don't judge or I quickly, well I don't pay attention to that, so it's

Speaker A

No. No. OK. So why am I asking you this question is that very often people have the part, especially when you said at the very beg...

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don't like crooks, I suppose, you see. So for you, it's important to be the opposite of a crook. What would it be? Well, honest, honest, so you see, it's important for you to be honest and so on. So now it's

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important that we really work on what makes you feel good. So here we're going to take the label of crook. What can we call this person for exercise X Y Z X? We'll call him X. Okay. You have the

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moment when you really perceive him as a crook, when you say to yourself, OK, yes, indeed, I judge him to be a crook.

Speaker A

Do you get the image? Yeah, for me, he's a bit of a smooth talker, basically, a person who seems confident and so on, when in fact there's not much depth to him. It's That.

Speaker A

Okay. So what would that be, actually? What is a Yeah, well, it's promising, finally, having, finally, Yeah. Promising things that aren't necessarily achievable, for example.

Speaker A

Okay. He promises things, he promises. Yeah. There you go. He promises things that aren't necessarily achievable.

Speaker A

Yes. Okay, cool. Are you ready? We're going to move on to the question that's going to challenge you.

Speaker A

Yeah, that works. Okay. So here, the idea is for you to see when or with whom you expressed the same character translation. When were you able to promise things that weren't necessarily achievable or difficult to achieve?

Speaker A

When was it in what form were you able to express the STR of character?

Speaker A

Well, actually, that resonates with my business because my first offers were to finally get paid and then I'd go and look for my clients.

Speaker A

Yeah. And that stressed me out too. Well, it's still ongoing. Yeah. But so I have, there are people for whom I found and so on, but telling me that I was potentially paid, that I can't find, that can actually block me.

Speaker A

You have examples in mind of people who paid you for whom you didn't find. Okay . I'm not satisfied. I'm not fully satisfied.

Speaker A

And so suddenly that puts me off. Yeah. because you feel like you promised something basically and you don't give them their real names, but it would be what we could call them if you have one. In fact, the idea is that

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each time you really see the image of this person. Yeah, well I see her, yeah, we'll call her Y too.

Speaker A

You have to remember me, you can write the real first name on your side. Okay.

Speaker A

Put Y in front anyway, so we'll know we're talking about the same thing. Find several moments like that. Three moments outside of entrepreneurship.

Speaker A

That Maybe outside of entrepreneurship if you want. You can stay in the entrepreneurship bubble.

Speaker A

You can, I don't really see. Find out, you can find others in entrepreneurship if you see.

Speaker A

Oh yeah, it's really that thing where you have other people with whom you were able to put things together? I have others, well, I have several current clients, so it's for each one, I tell myself, I don't have this, not

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this debt, but I want to find them someone, and finally, it's important to me.

Speaker A

Yeah. And there are some that you haven't found for a while. That's it. Yes.

Speaker A

How long has it been since you found them? Well, there are some, well, it's been several months for some.

Speaker A

OK, because there were introductions to people and so on, but there wasn't the person who really fit, so that's okay.

Speaker A

And the promise, did you make a promise of time or not? Well, no, in fact, there was a guarantee. Basically, I follow through until you find it.

Speaker A

There you go. Okay. Okay. Well, find other times when, uh, so there are several people where Yeah. You can write down two or three.

Speaker A

Okay. Uh, I just three people. Okay. Yeah. Otherwise, other times in your life, when you were a lawyer, you didn't practice?

Speaker A

Uh, no. As a tax specialist. Yes. Otherwise, no. Well, no, there was no I wasn't dishonest.

Speaker A

I don't know, look at times when you were able to give things to people and you realized that it wasn't feasible later or later.

Speaker A

I have an example because when I started entrepreneurship, I told my daughter, "Yes, we're going to become rich and so on." And that, for example, is a bit like a broken promise for me because I put this thing in his head

Speaker A

and I tell myself that I have to do it because I promised him. We're not going to. OK, that's another example for me.

Speaker A

OK, great, find three more examples. I'll stop you for a second. If what you see inspires you and you'd like to be supported by someone from my team or by myself, I invite you to make an appointment which is 100%free in the

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link in the description and we'll see together if we can help you or not. I don't really see because I think it's something that bothers me.

Speaker A

Yeah. So look at what form it takes. I don't know. It could be with your parents, with your brothers, with your sisters if you have any, with your husband.

Speaker A

Honestly, it could be about everyday things where I'll make promises that I'll keep where you said yes, yes, yes, it'll be fine, etc. and in fact you didn't. done. Well yes, maybe with the children sometimes we can, well I can tell them we're

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going to watch a cartoon or something and in the end it's complicated so it's , so to speak, canceled so there might be that, yeah, so find a few moments like that, yeah, yeah, I see some times I'll tell them, well we're

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going to play the Switch and so on and in the end I have other things to do so I say no and then they're a little disappointed and that's it, OK. Well, you can write that down, OK. And otherwise, uh, maybe with your

Speaker A

parents where you said you were going to do something and then it's not done.

Speaker A

Hm. Afterwards, yeah, it can be little things like saying, "Oh well I'll make an appointment with you, well, people, I have a lot of people who prospect me and so on." Yeah, who I don't answer sometimes or I don't know if that

Speaker A

counts but I don't know, sometimes look at people you were able to say yes, we're going to make an appointment with actually.

Speaker A

Yeah, yeah, yeah, there you have a few in mind, yes, there, yeah, I had one in mind there, you can write it down too, okay, so you see, the first step is actually there, when we have individual support,

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it can last 20 minutes, 30 minutes, sometimes 40 minutes for this step. And the idea is to write down a good ten times that we did it.

Speaker A

OK. So it's long, but at some point we see that we also express it in our own way and often what we're going to feel is what? It's more like shame or guilt.

Speaker A

H, it's not cool for my kids. Well, yes, it's not cool for, uh, for y, for example.

Speaker A

H, uh, we're going to see what angle we do first. If we lean over, if we come back For example, for this person, you told them that you were going to find them someone, is that it? Where? Yes.

Speaker A

How long has it been? Let's say about 6 months. Okay. Sometimes they call you back or she calls you back or I keep them informed because there are introductions that are made and so on in the meantime, but it's actually this side of

Speaker A

uncertainty because I would really like to find people that they like because I can see the profile and as long as I don't have that person , it can create a bit of tension for me .

Speaker A

Yeah. Okay. So what are the benefits for Y if you haven't found the person yet? Well, I don't know, maybe they're still moving forward in their life. He or she, because there are girls too, they're still moving forward. Maybe

Speaker A

they have things to work on. Prepare, just target one person for the If we just focus on Y, you have it, you have the image.

Speaker A

Yeah. Just look at the benefits for this person. It's a guy, it's a girl.

Speaker A

Uh, let's say it's a guy. Yes. Yeah. So it's a guy. Y is a guy. Okay. So look at the benefits for him, so for now, well, I think that the fact that he's single means he's free, I think, to do

Speaker A

what he does, his activities and so on. Yeah, he has time, versus someone who's in a relationship and who may have constraints and so on. There are no constraints. Uh, I also think the fact that we do different presentations,

Speaker A

well, it also shows him, it makes him perhaps aware of things in relation to what he's looking for in his future wife. He's had several presentations.

Speaker A

Yeah. How many has he had? You know, how many? I think there were 3.

Speaker A

Okay 3. So what are the benefits for him of having made two or three presentations? After the presentation, I present the profile. But then, well, I think that it allows us to make things a little more concrete and say to ourselves, well, I

Speaker A

have to make a judgment on this person. Do I like them or not? It challenges their expectations a little, etc.

Speaker A

Okay. That challenges their expectations. Okay. And then, does he give you feedback afterwards? Well, we say, we exchange, we discuss, but no, I don't really know what it can bring to him, or what is said or whatever. No,

Speaker A

not really. Okay. Okay. Afterwards, you don't tell him, "Okay, what went well? What didn't go well?"" Well, yes, yes, I know that. But then, maybe the person says other things. For example, I don't know if it's someone in terms of age,

Speaker A

uh, it could help us better calibrate what we're looking for. Okay. Okay. Uh, look, what would have been the drawbacks for him if there, that's it, it's good, it's found. What are the unknowns for him according to you? I was going to say there aren't

Speaker A

any, I think. If there are, but the drawbacks, uh, well I think that yeah, it's maybe the fact of having to get involved in this relationship, so having less time, finally certain constraints, maybe being less emotionally free too because we're

Speaker A

caught up in all that. Yeah. Look at it in relation to...Do you in relation to the job he does, in relation to his social position today, in relation to all that? Or what would be the disbeliefs? I think it can be a bit disturbing

Speaker A

depending on how it happens because we don't know how it's going to unfold. So yeah, I think it can be a discovery like that and get emotionally involved.

Speaker A

I think it can also interfere a bit with his activities, his life. Yeah. OK. So if he's already got the match, maybe it'll interfere with his life.

Speaker A

Absolutely, that's fine. Yeah, I think so. And is he ready for that? He seems like he is. Yeah, he seems like he is.

Speaker A

Yes. OK. Now, I would be curious to dig deeper, to see exactly what the benefits are for him so far, you haven't kept your promise so far. For now, it's allowed him to refine. He's had two or three meetings.

Speaker A

Yes. Well, two or three presentations. Yeah. Presentations. Yeah. OK. Because yes, it's mainly about looks and also the criteria and so on. And here, we see that it's looks that mean that each time we eliminate each profile.

Speaker A

OK. OK. It's when he meets the person. Well, no, I'm just the one who suggests the photos and that's it. Oh yeah, he doesn't have them yet, he hasn't met them yet. It's really from a distance actually.

Speaker A

OK. So it's still a bit abstract, so to speak. Yeah. OK. So here, the benefits for him are that it allows him to refine, that's it or to...Well yes, I think to refine a bit. Maybe the fact that time also passes, maybe he'll

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tell himself that he should perhaps base it less on looks, maybe get to know people a bit more and so on. Well, I don't know what to say off the record actually.

Speaker A

How old is this person? 30 years old. 30 years old. Okay. So look at this 30- year-old person in relation to...You know him well, don't you? Have you really dug into his personality? You've uh we've talked a lot. Well, I can kind of get a

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sense of his personality. After that, what do you think the unbelievers will be like for him if tomorrow, boom, you send him the person of his dreams? Well, I think he'd be happy and so on, and then I think that

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would be very concrete. Okay. Because right now, the fact of choosing only photos like that in a somewhat detached way creates distance, whereas a relationship is when it's concrete, close, that emotions, everything starts to work.

Speaker A

Yeah. And so that's what I think will challenge him. Challenge him. Okay. Well, that challenges them all, because there are a lot of encounters like that and I see that people are activated in their...well, sometimes, little blocks that they have and Etc.

Speaker A

Yeah. So I think that's going to do that to him too. Yeah, that's Yeah. And in relation to his profile, he's rather shy, rather no no not extroverted. There you go. But not shy either. He's generally comfortable with women.

Speaker A

He seems...Yes, he seems OK. Okay, so if we're going to take another topic on the subject, look at it in relation to your children and the Switch. Look, it's very current.

Speaker A

Yeah. So look, what would be the disadvantages for them if, boom, you kept your promise all the time to play the Switch?

Speaker A

Oh, well, I think it would become more commonplace, whereas here it's little by little, so it's a nice moment too.

Speaker A

Finally, they like to see me play the Switch. I like to play the Switch too.

Speaker A

And so, yeah, if I...Yeah. Then maybe they wouldn't say to themselves, well, because they're Disappointed. Yes, you, but you told us that and so on. So it's a bit like this side of things, well sometimes we say things, they do it too

Speaker A

, but sometimes we say things and in the end it doesn't happen and it allows them to adapt too.

Speaker A

Okay. What's the benefit for them to see that their mother can sometimes put things down and sometimes not hold them and it can happen to them too?

Speaker A

Well maybe they won't feel guilty about doing it because they'll say," Oh well she does it too. "" Basically, we each have our own thing.

Speaker A

Yeah. Okay. Okay. So what do you think about seeing the benefits for your children when you sometimes don't keep your promises on Switch? It helps them feel less guilty because basically, you don't always have to be perfect and even this imperfection can have

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benefits, so to speak. So yeah, look, what do you teach them as a mother? What do you pass on to them when you sometimes make promises to them?

Speaker A

Yeah, I pass on to them that sometimes there are constraints or other things and it's OK and well, you have to adapt and you'll play at another time and that's it.

Speaker A

Yeah. So what are the benefits for them of learning that? That sometimes there are constraints that you have to adapt to.

Speaker A

Well, they'll be better able to accept all that in their everyday lives, I think.

Speaker A

Yeah. Okay. Okay. And What are the disadvantages if you keep making promises to yourself all the time? What would be the disadvantages for them?

Speaker A

Well, maybe they would also say to themselves, "We have to be perfect, we have to keep our promises all the time, otherwise it won't work." Maybe they would feel guilty or...

Speaker A

Yeah. Yeah. How does it make you feel to see that? To see that as a mother, when you don't keep your promise, you help them to feel less guilty and perhaps allow themselves to...

Speaker A

Well, that's good. That's our thing. If we now go back to the person on X, you have the image where they don't keep their promise.

Speaker A

Oh yeah, yeah. Look, what are the benefits? What were the benefits for you? Um, my benefits for me, well, it was also to understand a little bit about the coaching market and also to understand that it's not up to people, well, I

Speaker A

shouldn't find the solution in the person, waiting for that person to come and solve my problem. life, so to speak , and that it still depends on me. Hm. OK . So what was the benefit for you of

Speaker A

learning that it depends on me? Well, I take back my power a little because I said to myself: "Well, maybe to succeed in entrepreneurship, you have to be coached, etc., by other people." And then, seeing that, well, that wasn't necessarily the case,

Speaker A

that's what made me work, and maybe be more...well, find solutions more by myself, you know. Did you find solutions by yourself? Uh yes, because it helped me move forward a little bit, but after that it was a lot

Speaker A

by myself by looking for them or by experimenting that I ended up moving forward on my own.

Speaker A

Yeah. What specific point did you make progress on? Uh well I think there are a lot of blockages, especially internal ones, well a lot of blockages that I may have had in the development, for example, of my business.

Speaker A

Yeah. day after day, because for example, selling was a bit of a subject , uh, daring to create an offer and so on , and without being perfect, I had this side of it where everything has to be

Speaker A

square before doing it, and there, well, that allowed me to sometimes take the plunge, to dare to take the plunge. Okay, so that allowed you to dare to take the plunge. So, the fact that you provided this support,

Speaker A

the guy didn't promise. Ex. Yeah. Uh, he didn't give you what he had promised. Uh, thanks to that, you were able to take the plunge, to dare to take the plunge.

Speaker A

Yeah. Plus, at the time, it was more in the field of law when I did it. So, uh, yeah. That allowed this business to succeed, it didn't necessarily work, and also that I said to myself, well no , but meeting someone is really

Speaker A

something that I like and I want to do this. Okay, so the benefit for you is that it didn't deliver the promise, it's thanks to that, it redirected you towards the meeting and you said to yourself this is what I

Speaker A

really want to do. Yeah. And what's the benefit for you then? Well, it put me back on the right path, let's say.

Speaker A

Yeah. So the fact that X didn't promise things that weren't necessarily achievable, thanks to that, you got back on the right path.

Speaker A

Yes. How do you feel about seeing that? Well, well, in the end, it's a good thing because yeah, it's always something that I had kept. I would still tell myself it's not in relation to that person. And in the end, well,

Speaker A

it actually brought me. Yeah, so much the better. And what did you take the support for?

Speaker A

Well, it was business support precisely to develop your business. Well, that's it. How to find clients and so on, that was really, at the very beginning. And I think it's like there's Still, there were some small skills that I kept

Speaker A

afterwards, but it didn't work out as promised. What skills did you develop thanks to this support? Well, I think I dared to talk to others. I did a few live sessions. Well, I kind of stepped out of my comfort zone.

Speaker A

Yeah. Yeah. Because I really applied myself. I thought, okay, I'm going to apply everything to the letter and then it'll work and everything. So I applied myself and I still made progress. Yeah.

Speaker A

Yeah. Did you apply yourself? Did you do live sessions? Yeah, I did live sessions. The method was to create Facebook groups. So I did it.

Speaker A

Okay. There you go. It allowed me to make progress in a way. Yeah. So what were the benefits for you of learning to do live sessions, of making progress, of creating Facebook groups?

Speaker A

Well, yeah, I think about challenging myself, putting myself in a bit of discomfort, adapting to discomfort too.

Speaker A

And finally, some points that are ultimately important when you're an entrepreneur. Look, what are the benefits for you, specifically, for your new business that you've learned to create Facebook groups, to do live streams? Oh, well, it's certain that there I was, it's as

Speaker A

if I was able to capitalize on it because I'm more comfortable, I'm more used to talking to people, selling my services, and so on. So it still brought me benefits in a way, for what I said, it wasn't really a dishonest

Speaker A

scammer because I still got some good things out of it, but that's not the promise that was sold.

Speaker A

Yeah, and look, what were the incredible things for you if he had kept the promise he had sold you? So, I would have succeeded in the other area, in taxation, and so on, and maybe I would have had to Today, I might not

Speaker A

have had the time to get involved in the meeting, I imagine. And what are the drawbacks for you to stay in taxation, to not get involved in...

Speaker A

I also like taxation, right? But yeah, I think that meeting people is what impacts people more in their personal lives and so on, and it's this family and childhood aspect that resonates more with me than taxation.

Speaker A

Okay. So what would have been the unknowns for you if you had launched your tax firm? Well, I think I wouldn't have discovered all this, well, the fact that it's important to me, the fact of perhaps giving back, because my

Speaker A

family life, my relationship, it nourishes me enormously and I tell myself, well, it would be good to participate a little in my turn, to help other people have the same thing as me.

Speaker A

And well, I wouldn't have been able to do that thing. Okay. And so what would have been the unknowns for you...

Speaker A

Well, it would have been...Yeah. A little bit of a lack of contribution, a contribution that wouldn't have been as big.

Speaker A

Okay. But at least he would have kept his promise. Yeah. Well, he might not keep it.

Speaker A

How do you feel about seeing that? To see that the fact that he didn't keep his promise has an impact, or that has an impact on a lot of things, in fact. Yeah. How do you feel about seeing that?

Speaker A

Well, that's good. I tell myself, well, thank goodness it happened in the end. Okay. How do you feel in your body when you're happy when you think about him, you say, he cheated me.

Speaker A

Yeah. Well, actually, I tell myself, he didn't really cheat me. He brought me more in the end, even if it was unintentional.

Speaker A

Yeah. It just wasn't in the way that others expected. Yeah. Yes. There you go. Maybe I was expecting something from him.

Speaker A

particular. Yeah. And I had other really good things as a result. Yeah, but it wasn't Yeah. It's just that it was Yeah, the expectations that I had, that's what weren't right.

Speaker A

You see, yesterday, I was giving a conference with the person who was there before you, at the BPI, with a group of entrepreneurs who are quite advanced, and I told them: what's interesting is that life doesn't give us what we want, but it gives us what

Speaker A

we need. Yes. I have Yes. I've already experienced that too. And you see, in fact, your expectation was to make a living from your tax practice. In fact, your need was to realign it and reach out to people to help them start

Speaker A

families and so on. You see, I'll stop you for a second. If what you see inspires you and you'd like to be supported by someone from my team or by myself, I invite you to take appointment that is

Speaker A

100%free in the link in the description and we'll see together if we can help you or not. What's it like to take a step back and tell yourself that well, I think it was well done in fact.

Speaker A

Everything is good. Well, everything was just right in fact. Yeah. And look at yourself tomorrow if there are people to whom you make promises because you believe in them and you don't keep them. What are the benefits for others? It's possible that they

Speaker A

will have benefits that I don't actually see, so to speak, I feel guilty and I stress and everything because I have the same thing. I see a particular expectation when in fact it will bring them. So look at what you

Speaker A

can bring them by having them use your services. What can you bring them? In fact, it can bring a lot more things than I think, at least what I see.

Speaker A

Yeah. Like look at the benefits for them. Well, it's What are the benefits for them of buying from you? Even if they don't find it in the form they expected?

Speaker A

I think that yes, it can also reconnect them with this dream that they have because there are a lot of people who don't have much hope and so on and I know that I really believe in all that.

Speaker A

Okay. So it's a bit like giving them back hope in the couple, the institution of the couple and the family because I think that's very important even if it's currently in decline. Yeah, it's really about remotivating them so that they don't

Speaker A

forget this dream, in fact, because nowadays, with society and so on, we can quickly say to ourselves: "I trusted myself, I'm independent, that's not a big deal, anyway all men are like that." And my fear is that later she'll

Speaker A

wake up and say to herself: "But actually no, what I wanted was to be a mother, to be a wife and Etc." And so, avoiding that for them, well that's a great benefit. I would like...So, the benefits for...

Speaker A

incredible her that you don't keep your promises right away under force you can benefit a little from it because I think the most important thing is really that, the fact of not losing sight of her dream Yeah and nurturing it so that it can

Speaker A

OK so what's the benefit for her of buying from you even if you don't keep your promise in the end what's the benefit for her of buying from you?

Speaker A

Well, maybe so to speak a bit like me, of making their dream come true one day .

Speaker A

Yeah. In any case, it increases the chances of making their dream come true .

Speaker A

Yeah. Because first of all, they won't forget it. Yeah. They'll nurture it and well sometimes become aware of it because we can say to ourselves "Well, it's not serious when deep down if it's very, well it's serious." OK. So look, what are the benefits for

Speaker A

them of buying from you? Even if they don't get the expected result in terms of form, well I think in the long term maybe they'll be happier.

Speaker A

Yeah. OK. And they'll achieve an important part of their life because ultimately it's becoming a parent and finally being in a relationship and so on, it's a great experience. They're not going to miss out on this great experience.

Speaker A

OK. So what other benefits for them of buying from you? Uh, I think maybe they'll gain more self-confidence too.

Speaker A

OK. What can you bring to help them gain more self-confidence? Well, there are people who don't think about who they could be loved and so on and I think that I have another, more positive outlook on things and I can

Speaker A

bring that to them too. A bit of an example because well, I have this life, your dream, but it's a bit buried or sometimes hidden. There you go.

Speaker A

Yeah. So yeah, It's a bit inspired. Uh, OK. So R as a benefit for her to buy from you even if they don't have the instant meeting. What can you bring to them?

Speaker A

What can you make them understand? What can you give them? What can you... What's the added value compared to other applications?

Speaker A

Uh, well, apart from all that, I think there's a lot of Yeah. getting inspired , reconnecting with your dream, reconnecting with yourself.

Speaker A

Yeah. Telling yourself that they have value, that other people will see them too because there are people who...Yeah.

Speaker A

who doubt their value and their ability to be loved by someone, chosen by someone, and yeah, so you can bring that to them, bring them the fact of having more value, more self-confidence.

Speaker A

H How does it make you feel to see that ? Seeing that even if people don't find it under the expected form Yeah, in fact it's well I tell myself that my impact could be much greater than mine. What I saw was a little

Speaker A

Yeah, the drawbacks if, uh, well, they come and find someone, what would be the drawbacks? Oh yeah, that's true.

Speaker A

Maybe she wouldn't be as into this energy, so to speak, because in fact there's the meeting, but there are a lot of things after that, in fact, and to succeed afterwards, you have to have faith in all that, everything we've said, trust

Speaker A

and so on. In fact, it's as if we work on the preparation so that when she really meets someone, it succeeds because I don't just want them to match . I really want it to go well, for her to be fulfilled, the

Speaker A

husband too, for it to create a strong, solid couple where everyone is fulfilled, a family, well that's my vision.

Speaker A

Yeah. So What are the unknowns for you? If they come to your place in a month, it's good, they found it?

Speaker A

Yeah. Well, maybe. Well, sometimes that happens, connections fall apart because there wasn't all that energy, that preparation, in fact, it can be that you don't succeed in the long term, create a fulfilled couple, a family, etc., and that it's yet another failure

Speaker A

. Okay. Okay. Because you have to be ready, I think, to meet someone. You have to be ready yourself to be able to convert the try, so to speak.

Speaker A

How does it make you feel to see that? To see that if you keep your promise in a month, well, maybe women aren't ready enough for men, that doesn't suit me because if you take the time, maybe there are

Speaker A

other benefits that... Yeah. You see, what's interesting is that by doing this exercise, these exercises, I sometimes What entrepreneurs do when you work on the company's mission.

Speaker A

Hm. When you look at the benefits, the benefits for others of having to come and sign with me, the unbelievers if they don't, even if we made a small variation, it allows you to see that wow, in fact, I bring much more

Speaker A

than my promise and so when you market it, you put all that forward, you see.

Speaker A

Yeah. And bring even more value. Hm. And that fanality, as you said at the very beginning, is not just that there is a match behind building a family, but to build a family, well, preparation is whether you have

Speaker A

confidence in yourself, do you feel that you have value, etc. Because otherwise, yes, I can introduce you to someone and you will have a relationship together, but in a few months it will be over, you see.

Speaker A

And as you can see, what struck me was when you said that having yet another failure Yeah, you see, and I feel like you're projecting and I'm more in advisory mode. But I feel like you have a real

Speaker A

corporate mission where you're helping people avoid failure. For me, that's really what I want for them too.

Speaker A

Yeah. It's like I'm taking it on my shoulders, even if that's not what I promise, but that's what I want.

Speaker A

Yeah, in any case, that's what you're all about. And how does it make you feel to see that? That in the show, you might have to see how to formulate it in your corporate mission, in the slogan.

Speaker A

What's your company's slogan? Well, I don't really have one. But it's mainly that one meeting is enough because there are people who say to themselves that it's impossible to find someone when all it takes is one meeting out of millions of

Speaker A

people. So ultimately It's not a big deal. Yes. Okay. Well, I would be keen for you to think about it again, to avoid failure, you know, and to see how you can turn it around because when you said it, in my perception, I had the

Speaker A

impression that there was something strong, you know, in the mode of "well, I would quickly have one" and that's the mission, you know.

Speaker A

Okay, but that's what I feel and so it's more up to you to see how it works. But that's really it because they often fail and that's what makes them lose faith, they lose confidence when it doesn't really mean anything.

Speaker A

Yeah. You can't give up, you have to keep believing in it and so on because it's totally possible and I think that if they have that in them, it will happen, but that's not true.

Speaker A

Yeah. Well, it's a bit funny. It's like an entrepreneur. who is going to fight for their business, you mustn't give up, there are things. Well, it's the same for them, but in love, we actually live a little bit, it's

Speaker A

just that we don't have the same goal but we experience the same things, in the end.

Speaker A

OK. How do you feel already doing these little exercises? Well, yeah. No, it's good for me anyway , I think I'm not aware enough of my value, of what I bring and so on. So here, it shows me that too because I

Speaker A

didn't see it like that. Yeah. Well, you can continue to really write down 20, 30, 40 benefits that my business exists for others.

Speaker A

OK. And 20, 30 disadvantages if my business doesn't exist. And in fact, it allows you to have the substance, the reason for being, you see, and the reason for being is the mission. So everything that has no reason to exist on earth disappears.

Speaker A

And everything that is a strong reason to exist attracts. It's drawing good talents and so on for you.

Speaker A

Yes. So now, that was the first point, and you see, maybe it's going to free you from the fear of more and tell you, well, in fact, it doesn't matter if I don't keep my promises, but in any case, they will have had this

Speaker A

value, and in any case, the potential is all the probabilities have at least increased that I'll meet the right person and build a family. So, since that bothered me a little, I had changed my offer a little and now I

Speaker A

wanted to promise more things before finding the person. So, I had already changed my offer, but it was more for my clients who are in progress, but I felt like a kind of energy that was stuck. I think that's

Speaker A

good. Yeah... million euros. Okay, cool. 100 million compared to who in your family or your loved ones you might feel guilty about?

Speaker A

But in fact, I don't know anyone around me who has that much money and I know that people all struggle with money. So it's true that it's a bit, I think it would be a bit of a mirror,

Speaker A

how come she has that. Yeah. And would you feel a bit guilty or uncomfortable compared to some people? Well, not guilty but maybe a bit embarrassed, but I think I wouldn't have to show it off, well then I could

Speaker A

be even more generous and so on, so that would be cool, but yeah, I think I'd also adapt to who I am and not show off my money, yeah, you think about who could tell you that you're arrogant or that you only think

Speaker A

of yourself or that you're selfish or that now that you've become a businesswoman, you're someone Uh, I don't think of any people in particular because, for example, my father told me that, but you have to keep good values and so on, you can't

Speaker A

just be focused on money, maybe more so yes my father, I think, okay, it would be weird for him to see this opulence, so to speak. Yeah.

Speaker A

What would be the benefits for your father? Hm. That you have a super big apartment.

Speaker A

I think it would be great for him to discover all this, to break down his own barriers, whoever he has.

Speaker A

How old is your father? He's 60, uh, 63. Okay. So what would be the benefits for your father at 63?

Speaker A

No. How old is he? He was born in 1963. 63. Okay. Uh, the benefits for him, well, I was going to say, discovering life outside of his current spectrum.

Speaker A

It means that he has the right to all experiences, the most beautiful experiences, and also to be free because not having Money is also a burden to always have to count, to limit yourself and so on, and so I

Speaker A

think that would give him some breathing space. Yeah. So what other benefits would there be for him, that his daughter would have lots of money? Well, knowing that we're protected too, being reassured. But his grandchildren too. Uh yeah, in fact that would finally be a

Speaker A

lot of benefits for him. Yeah. Yeah. What would be the drawbacks that say, "No, I still don't want to bother my father, I don't know." Well, that would be staying in a limited life. Limited, you know.

Speaker A

Okay. What's it like to see that? To see that if you have money, lots of money, you're allowing your father to discover life, to breathe. That's something I've thought about a lot and it makes me feel less guilty. I tell myself that

Speaker A

even if he might have some resistance, he'll see later that it's actually going to be great.

Speaker A

Yeah, look. Yeah. What would that be like to tell you, "Yes, you're forgetting your true values because you're focused on your business and everything, and you know that you're building this and that it's going to make him breathe

Speaker A

and everything. In the end, it's OK. Yeah. OK. You have other people in your family, among your relatives, among your friends who you could, uh, I think that would still impress a lot of people." Maybe from girlfriends, from children, if we say, "Wow, that's

Speaker A

crazy." Because it seems very inaccessible, in fact. Yeah. And now it's getting closer. Well, maybe it's also saying, "But in fact, we know it, we know it, well, it wasn't like that at the beginning, it was built later on." So, in fact, it's

Speaker A

possible. I also want to succeed in this so that people around me can say, "It's possible for me too, maybe I have something to do or inspire."" OK. Yeah. So the benefits for your girlfriends are that you...Well, it's

Speaker A

true that it inspires them, that we can also have experiences that are completely out of the ordinary. Well, that we're amazed and so on, that's...

Speaker A

Yeah, a great benefit. And yeah, no, inspiring them, showing them that life is actually much bigger than what we might think.

Speaker A

Okay. While the drawbacks are saying," No, I don't want to bother them, I'm not going to be there. "Well, it's the same, it's a limited life where we think we deserve little.

Speaker A

Yeah, that's a shame. How does it feel to see that? To see that when you go and get the 10 million in turnover, you show yourself...well, it's a bit like before, it's the mission in fact, it's bigger because it's not that no, it's

Speaker A

not that Finally, because for me, it's not just about money, it's also about everything it means, everything it could bring to others around me.

Speaker A

Yeah. OK. How do you feel when you see that? Well, it motivates me and you see, it's important in our programs for entrepreneurs. We really have a module on money with, uh, uh, with the three parts. We have the part

Speaker A

about really generating, uh, saving and making it grow. Uh, then, there's the epigenetic notion and also attraction, but in these three parts, in any case, each time, what will prevent us from moving on to the next step is often a

Speaker A

burden, a burden of guilt towards someone. OK. Uh, I support a, uh, a big entrepreneur there and at one point she says," Wow, I've completely changed my life and everything, and like, I have a girlfriend, she hasn't come to my house

Speaker A

for years. "And uh, and in fact, well, so, we would have done this exercise in mode" What are the benefits for her?

Speaker A

That she sees that you live in another place and all to make her feel guilty Because very often, it's a guilt towards someone, a close or less close person who will tell us "OK, well actually no, I don't have it, I don't

Speaker A

want to be judged as a bad person." Yeah, well I think that's something there too.

Speaker A

So, aiming for money, if you take all the angles towards who I feel guilty about earning more money or who sees that I succeed and you look at what the benefit is, benefit benefit for him, disadvantage if I don't know until you

Speaker A

say "OK, actually it's fine, I can, I have the right, you see." That's Yeah. Because in the ones my mentors told me that for the mani and Samam said there are four steps to success which are the 4 to 1 is authorization.

Speaker A

Authorization, creating attraction, so that's where you're going to attract the right type of person, situation, circumstance. In three, well then, you're going to assume the price to pay in OK mode: there's the opportunity coming, but am I ready to pay the price

Speaker A

? And then, in four, it's action. Hmm but if you don't have the authorization , you don't want to create, you block it right away.

Speaker A

So there you go, cool. How do you feel after this session? So, I have the impression that the charges weren't deep and it went pretty quickly. So, we'll see what happens. But there were little clicks. But you, how do you feel

Speaker A

after this first session? Well no, I think it's good to see all that. Regarding guilt, it's like I'm telling myself, "Well, I really have to go for it." That's what I already wanted, but I feel freer.

Speaker A

What are you missing now to go for it, or what do you need to go for it?

Speaker A

Well, I don't know, I think it's good. Sometimes I feel like I'm underperforming a bit. I don't know how to explain it.

Speaker A

OK. It's like, well, in my studies too, it did the same thing to me. In fact, at the beginning, I wasn't succeeding, I kept repeating years and so on because I was working hard, but not that hard. And at one point, when I got

Speaker A

scared, I said to myself, "If I don't correct this, I won't get a Master's degree, etc." And that's when something clicked and the breakthrough came. I work a lot by breakthrough.

Speaker A

OK. And there, I also do, I'm on the move, I do a lot of things, but I don't feel like I'm, it's starting to come but this breakthrough mode there which Yeah. OK. Yeah. So there, in fact there

Speaker A

, I would be curious to see because at the very beginning, I think that the side in mode "I don't want to seem like a crook prevented you from saying" OK, I'm going, I'm going and too bad. "In fact,

Speaker A

these people didn't Yeah. Yeah, I had that Yes, you see. And I think that that held you back in mode" Yeah but I'm going to promise things but in fact I'm not 100% sure that people meet the right person.

Speaker A

" But on the other hand, if you see that your mission is not to make sure that they meet the right person, it's to make sure that they're prepared for the right person so that they can get into a relationship and have a lasting

Speaker A

relationship, you know. And I think that will make you feel less guilty about really selling your products. Yeah.

Speaker A

Ultimately, guilt comes from a lot of things. Yeah. And every time, guilt is what prevents us from taking action. It's either fears, or guilt, but I can't do that, it's arrogant to do that.

Speaker A

Yes, I can't do that. I can't do that. I'm scamming people. Either that, or a couple of yes, but if I fail.

Speaker A

Okay. And when you play on both sides, then after that, there's also the work on money to do for some people. Well, in fact, you have no brakes. You say," Okay, go! "This is my mission. My mission is to help as many women and

Speaker A

men as possible find the person they need to start a family. And now, you can go for it.

Speaker A

H, that feels good. Cool. How do you feel after this session? So, I thought, now all that's left is to go for it. All that's left is to...Well, listen, we'll follow it, so it's Matchmakers.

Speaker A

Matchmakers, matchmakers. We'll follow the activity. Do you have a link or something like that? Uh, yes, I have an Instagram account.

Speaker A

We can put the Instagram link below the video. Well, that's it for this session . So another session that's different from the others where we had more small tasks. Uh, if you're an entrepreneur, an athlete, a coach, an artist, or

Speaker A

you're simply into performance and you can't let go, well consider making an initial appointment with a member of my team. It's completely free, there's no obligation, and we will be able to see where you are today, where you want to

Speaker A

go, and whether we are the best people to help you. And with that, remember, it’s not what you do but who you become. Ciao!

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