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One of the things that used to annoy me most about women was their ego.
Learn how to deflate a woman's ego by seeing it as an illusion and responding with calm confidence rather than reacting emotionally.
Key Takeaways
- A woman's ego is an illusion and a defense mechanism rooted in insecurity.
- Reacting emotionally to ego-driven behavior only strengthens it.
- Ignoring or playfully exaggerating ego attacks disarms them effectively.
- Understanding this psychology allows men to maintain confidence and control in interactions.
- Treating ego as a performance frees men from feeling inferior or threatened.
Summary
- The video explains that a woman's ego is often inflated due to constant male attention, but it is fundamentally an illusion.
- Women develop self-confidence externally but are deeply insecure internally, especially regarding their looks and dating.
- A woman's ego acts as a shield and a performance, not a reflection of reality or genuine superiority.
- Men typically react to ego-driven behavior by either defending themselves or fighting back, both of which reinforce the ego.
- The correct approach is to ignore the ego and treat it as meaningless, thereby 'destroying' it by not validating it.
- The video outlines four types of ego behaviors in women, starting with the 'insult' where she tests a man's reaction.
- When insulted, the best response is to exaggerate and agree calmly, making the insult ridiculous and showing emotional control.
- This approach signals to the woman that her ego attacks have no power over the man, which unsettles her.
- The video emphasizes that understanding this dynamic will prevent the ego from being a problem in future interactions.
- Ultimately, the key is to see through the ego and maintain a mindset of equality or superiority without confrontation.
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I used to try to play the role of the self-confident man, the high-value man, but every time I stood next to a beautiful girl, her inflated ego would overpower me.
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Until the day I found a solution and realized that all along I had just been wasting my time.
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By the end of this video, her ego will look like a wall made of cardboard to you, all you will have to do is touch it and it will fall on its own.
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So, listen to me carefully now.
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What I'm about to explain to you today is one of the greatest secrets you can ever learn about women in your entire life.
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In this video, you're going to understand women's psychology with me, so stay focused.
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The first thing you need to understand is that this ego you have a problem with.
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Once you truly understand it, you will realize that it means nothing in the first place.
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How?
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A woman, from the moment she grows up, starts being chased by men on social media, in the street, in clubs.
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She starts seeing the same reaction over and over again from men.
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And this makes her absorb the idea that she is better than everyone else.
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And that all men want her.
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So what happens here?
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She develops self-confidence.
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This sentence, I want you to take a pen and cross it out.
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And here, I'm going to give you a golden rule that I want you to remember for the rest of your life.
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A woman is a person who does not trust herself.
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And listen to me carefully now.
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A woman may trust herself at work.
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She may trust herself in school.
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But the moment we start talking about dating or relationships, women are very insecure human beings.
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Because look, a girl knows very well that all the men who message her on social media and all the men who approach her in the street do it because of her looks.
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She knows that her value in this area comes from her looks.
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Yes, maybe you hear people saying that personality matters too.
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And maybe even she says that looks are not that important.
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But deep inside, she knows very well that her looks are the main thing men are looking for.
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She knows very well that all the attention she gets is because of her looks.
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But the problem is that a woman, no matter who she is, is insecure when it comes to her looks.
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Why do you see girls spending tons of money and time on makeup and clothes?
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Why do they take 100 pictures before posting one on social media?
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Because they do not trust themselves.
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And if one day you hear a girl say, I am confident in myself.
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She is not.
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She is just lying.
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Girls do not trust themselves.
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Girls are insecure to a very high degree.
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So starting today, I want you to remember this rule.
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A woman is a person who does not trust herself.
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Now you will ask me, why?
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Why are you telling me this?
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And listen to me carefully now.
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When you see a girl with a big ego, without realizing it, you start seeing her as better than you.
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And this happens inside your own mind without you even noticing.
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Because her ego pushes her to treat you as if she is above you.
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She sees herself as better than you.
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But as I explained to you earlier, the way she looks at you is not real.
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It is imaginary.
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Meaning, ego is nothing but an imaginary shield that girls have.
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The behaviors that come out of that ego are meaningless behaviors.
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Just lies.
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Just acting.
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Just a performance.
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They mean nothing.
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When you understand this concept, when you learn to see her ego as a performance, you will understand that your whole life you were nothing more than a member of the audience.
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And all you need to do is stop being one.
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And today, I'm going to explain this concept to you properly and I'm going to explain what you need to do.
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And believe me, starting today, this problem will never bother you again in your life.
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Now let me explain to you, how do you destroy her ego?
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Imagine that you are standing next to a beautiful girl.
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The moment her ego gets activated around you, she will expect you to behave like all the other men.
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Which means submitting to that ego.
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Believing that it exists.
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How does this show up?
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For example, she might say something like, I don't have time.
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Or, you talk too much.
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What do most men do?
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They start explaining themselves.
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For example, no, I don't talk too much, I just wanted to explain to you.
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And then there is another type of guy who tries to fight the ego.
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For example, he ignores her, tries to think of a smart reply and puts her down.
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Both of these ways are wrong.
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Why?
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Because in both cases, you are still interacting with her ego.
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You are still dealing with her ego.
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And that is not the right way.
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To overcome her ego, you must understand that this ego is, in the first place, just an illusion.
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Which means you should not talk to it at all.
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You should ignore it.
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Always, whenever you're talking to a girl and you feel her ego, remember me and say to yourself, this is just an illusion.
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This is not real.
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Meaning, simply.
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You destroy her ego by seeing through it and by acting as if it does not exist.
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You deal with her on the basis that she is not better than you and that you are better than her.
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So how do you do this?
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Actually, if you truly understand what I just explained to you, then you are already halfway there.
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But because I know that the moment you go talk to a woman, you will forget everything I told you.
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Let me take you inside the mind of a girl and explain to you with examples how to deal with ego.
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There are four types of behaviors that a woman's ego produces.
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Every ego move a woman makes falls into one of these.
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And each one has a specific way to destroy it.
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The first type is what I call the insult.
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This is when she comes at you directly.
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She attacks something about you.
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She picks something and she swings at it.
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She says something like, you look like you still live with your parents.
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Or, are you serious right now?
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Or she looks at your outfit, makes a face and says, interesting choice.
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Now why does she do this?
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Because the insult is the fastest way to see what a man is made of.
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One sentence.
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That's all she needs.
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One sentence and she knows everything about you based on how you react.
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And most guys, they react in one of two ways.
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The first guy gets hurt.
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He starts defending himself.
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He says, what do you mean, this is actually a nice shirt, it's from XYZ.
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And now he's explaining himself.
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He's justifying his existence to a girl he just met.
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And in her eyes, he just became the smallest man in the room.
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The second guy gets angry.
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He fires back.
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He tries to insult her.
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He says something rude, thinking that makes him look strong.
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But it doesn't.
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It makes him look emotional.
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And an emotional man is a man she already controls.
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Both guys lost.
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You know why?
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Because both guys treated the insult like it was real, like it actually meant something.
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Like her words had weight.
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They don't.
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Her insult is not a real opinion about you.
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She doesn't know you.
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She saw you for 30 seconds.
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That insult is just the ego checking if you're solid.
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That's it.
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Nothing more.
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So, here's what you do.
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When she insults you, you take that exact thing she said and you make it 10 times bigger.
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You agree with it, you exaggerate it, you push it so far that the whole thing becomes ridiculous.
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And you do it with a calm face, like she just made your day.
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She says, you look like a mama's boy.
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You say, mama's boy, I still call her before I cross the street, she picks my socks every morning.
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Now look at what just happened.
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She threw an insult at you and what did you do, you treated it like it was just a joke.
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Like it meant absolutely nothing.
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And when you do this, you are communicating something about yourself that words could never say.
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You're telling her that nothing she throws at you will ever land.
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And that drives her crazy.
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Because every man she has ever insulted either broke or fought.
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You did neither.
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Let me give you some more examples.
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She says, you dress like my dad.
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You say, your dad has good taste then, tell him I said thanks, actually give me his number, I need styling advice.
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She says, you are kind of short.
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You say, kind of, no, I'm very short, I'm actually shrinking, by the end of this conversation I might disappear, enjoy me while you can.
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You see what's happening?
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Every single time, you're taking her insult and running with it so hard that she can't keep up.
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And every single time, she's going to laugh.
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Believe me.
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And once she laughs, it's over.
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The insult is dead.
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The ego cracked.
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And she will remember that.
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Trust me, she will remember you for a very long time.
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The second type is what I call the crown.
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This is the one you're going to see the most.
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Way more than insults.
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Because most beautiful women don't need to insult you.
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They just place themselves above you and wait for you to accept it.
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She says things like, I'm really picky.
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Or, most guys bore me.
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Or, I don't usually give my number out.
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Or, I don't usually talk to guys like you.
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She's letting you know where she thinks she stands.
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Above you.
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And she's waiting to see if you agree.
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And almost every man on earth agrees without even realizing it.
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The moment she says, I'm really picky, and he starts trying to be interesting.
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He agreed.
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The moment she says, most guys bore me, and he starts trying to be funny.
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He agreed.
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He accepted that she's the judge.
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And now he's performing for her approval.
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That's the crown.
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She puts it on her own head and every man around her just bows.
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But remember what I told you earlier.
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Her ego is an illusion.
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It's not real.
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Which means the crown is not real either.
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She put it there herself.
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Because nobody ever took it off.
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So here's what you do.
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Nothing.
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When she crowns herself, you just continue the conversation as if she said nothing important.
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She says, I'm really picky about who I talk to.
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You say, okay.
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And move on.
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You talk about something else.
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You ask her something you're genuinely curious about.
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Or you tell her something about your day.
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Whatever.
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The point is, you do not acknowledge the crown because here's what happens in her head when you do this.
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Her whole life, every time she said, I'm picky, or most guys bore me, the guy in front of her started trying harder.
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And she felt him drop below her.
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And to make it even easier for you.
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When she puts the crown on herself, treat what she says like it is just some random piece of information that has nothing to do with you.
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Like she told you she likes orange juice.
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Cool.
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Anyway.
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She says, I don't usually talk to guys I don't know.
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A normal guy says, well, let me introduce myself then, I'm blah, blah, blah.
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You say, yeah, me neither.
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And you keep going.
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That's it.
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Two words.
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You just told her that you and her are on the same level.
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She says, most guys try really hard to impress me.
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A normal guy thinks, okay, I need to impress her differently.
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You say, sounds exhausting.
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And you change the subject.
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You didn't try to be the exception.
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You didn't say, well, I'm not most guys.
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That sentence alone is one of the most losing sentences a man can say.
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Because it is exactly what most guys say.
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You just acknowledge what she said, like it has nothing to do with you.
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Because it doesn't.
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Her experience with other men is not your problem.
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You are not in that category.
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You are not in any category.
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You are just here having a conversation and she can either join you or not.
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And that's the thing that breaks the crown.
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When the man truly does not care about the position she is offering, when he doesn't compete, doesn't try, doesn't even acknowledge the game.
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She starts wondering why.
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She starts thinking about you.
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Because you didn't do what everyone else does.
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And slowly, without even realizing it, she takes the crown off herself.
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And that's when she meets you as an equal.
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That's when the real conversation starts.
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That's when she stops performing and starts being a person.
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All because you treated her crown like it was invisible.
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The third type is the wall.
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She gives you nothing.
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Short answers.
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Yeah, cool, okay, hmm.
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And this one messes men up the most.
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Because silence makes men panic.
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The moment a guy feels that wall, he starts talking more and asking more questions.
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So where are you from?
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Here.
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Oh cool, do you like it here?
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Yeah.
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So what do you do for fun?
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Stuff.
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And he keeps going.
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Question after question after question, like he's interviewing her for a job she didn't apply for.
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And every question he asks, he gets smaller.
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And every short answer she gives, her wall gets thicker.
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Because the wall is not about you.
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Listen to me.
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The wall has nothing to do with you.
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She doesn't know you.
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She doesn't know if she likes you or not yet.
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The wall is automatic, it's her default.
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It's what she gives every man who walks up to her because every man who walks up to her does the same thing.
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They ask.
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They try.
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They chase.
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And she's tired of it, so she gives you the wall, hoping you'll go away like everyone else.
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Now, here's where most guys hear this and think, okay.
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So I should be persistent.
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I should try harder.
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I should push through the wall.
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No.
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That's exactly what she expects.
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That is still you engaging with the ego.
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That is still you acknowledging the wall.
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And anything you acknowledge, you give power to.
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So here's what you do.
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You stop asking.
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Completely.
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You stop asking her questions.
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You stop trying to pull words out of her.
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You stop acting like you need her to participate for the conversation to exist.
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Instead, you just start talking.
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You say something like, you know what the craziest thing happened to me today.
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And you tell her something from your life.
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A real story.
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Something that actually happened.
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Something that matters to you.
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And you tell it because you want to tell it.
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Not because you're trying to crack her open.
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You know what you're doing here?
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You are showing her that you don't need her cooperation to have a good time.
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And that is something she has never experienced before.
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Every man she has ever met needed something from her.
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But you're just here.
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And if she wants to join, she can.
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And if she doesn't, you'll be fine.
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And here's what happens.
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She starts listening because you're the first man who didn't need her to listen.
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And the final type is the trap.
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And this one is the most dangerous.
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Because it feels like a normal conversation, like she's just asking you a question.
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But she's not.
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She's setting up a box.
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And no matter what you answer, you're inside it.
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She says things like, do you say this to every girl?
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Or, how many girls have you talked to today?
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Or, be honest, what do you really want from me?
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Now on the surface, these sound like normal questions, right?
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Like she just wants to know.
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No, she doesn't.
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She already knows.
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She already decided what you are before you even opened your mouth.
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Let me give you an example.
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She says, do you say this to every girl?
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If you say, no, you're the only one.
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She knows you're lying.
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Now you're a liar.
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You're in the box.
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If you say, yeah, I talk to a lot of girls.
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Now you're a player.
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She uses it against you.
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You're in the box.
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If you get nervous and say, what, no, I just thought you were.
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Now you're weak.
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You're definitely in the box.
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Every answer loses.
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That's the point.
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It's a test designed so that any answer you give puts her on top and puts you below.
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And most men fall into this every single time because they think the question deserves an answer.
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And that's the mistake.
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You are treating the trap like a real conversation.
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It's not.
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So here's what you do.
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You don't answer.
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You take the question and let it pass through you like it was made of air.
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She says, do you say this to every girl?
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You don't say yes, you don't say no, you don't explain.
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You just say something like, you're thinking way too far ahead.
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We've been talking for two minutes.
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Now look at what happened.
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She tried to put you in a box, you didn't even look at the box.
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You just reminded her that the conversation barely started.
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And she's already trying to categorize you.
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She says, what do you really want from me?
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You say, I don't know yet, I'm still figuring out if I even like talking to you.
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That's it.
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You gave the real answer.
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Which is, I don't know.
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We just met.
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I'm not here to prove anything.
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I'm here to see if this is worth my time.
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And that shifts everything.
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Because now she is not the one evaluating you.
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You are both evaluating each other.
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The trap doesn't work when the other person isn't trapped.
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She says, how many girls did you talk to before me?
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This one is designed to make you either lie or look bad.
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There is no clean answer.
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So don't give one.
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You say, why?
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Are you keeping score for me?
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That's sweet.
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Now she's laughing.
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And now.
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You know, every ego move she will ever make on you is one of these four.
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And none of them are real.
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Her ego was never the problem.
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Your reaction to it was.
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And from today.
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This was the dark needle.
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I love you.
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And I'll see you in the next video.
Topics:women's egodating psychologyconfidenceego destructionrelationship advicesocial dynamicsself-confidenceemotional controlmale-female interactionsThe Dark Needle
