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Now I'm not going to lie to y'all, this video might get a little bit of backlash.
Synfinite compares his experiences dating Black women versus White women, highlighting cultural differences and relationship dynamics.
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Key Takeaways
- Dating experiences vary greatly due to cultural differences and individual personalities.
- Black women, in Synfinite's view, provide strong emotional support and honest feedback.
- White women, according to Synfinite, may lack assertiveness in relationships.
- Cultural education is important but can lead to frustration if partners try to overcompensate or act inauthentically.
- Authenticity and mutual respect are crucial for healthy relationships regardless of race.
What the video covers
- The video discusses the differences in dating Black women versus White women from Synfinite's personal perspective.
- Synfinite has mostly dated Black women and shares that these relationships made him feel seen, heard, and important.
- Black women are described as loving deeply but also being very direct and honest about flaws.
- He shares a humorous anecdote illustrating the candid communication style in his relationships with Black women.
- Synfinite notes that Black women have more 'sauce' or soul, bringing authenticity and realness to interactions.
- He describes Black women as sometimes harsh when angry, often expressing strong emotions and criticisms.
- In contrast, he finds dating White women to be more challenging due to perceived lack of backbone and self-respect.
- White women in his experience tend to let partners walk over them and do not stand up for themselves in relationships.
- He discusses cultural misunderstandings and frustrations when educating White partners about Black culture.
- Synfinite criticizes White women who try to imitate Black culture in an exaggerated or inauthentic way.
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Not by, you know, anybody with common sense, but by the racist people.
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Because we're talking about a touchy subject, but it's one that needs to be talked about.
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Because your boy Syn, I'm not going to lie, I have definitely dated a lot of different women.
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Mostly black, 99% of the women I dated black, but you know, once or twice in my life I've dated a white woman.
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And you know, I'm not saying that all white women are the same.
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But, uh, it was kind of terrible.
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And it's all good, you feel me?
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But that's what we're here to talk about.
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Today I am comparing what it's like for me when I was dating black women versus dating white women.
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Strap in because this one is a little shaky.
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All right, so let's start with black women.
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I'm not going to lie, not every situation with black women has been great.
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Because it's as simple as everyone is different.
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At the end of the day, your skin tone doesn't really matter.
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However, there's a lot of cultural differences between black people and white people.
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And, you know, by cultural, I'm talking about us black folks.
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Because the white side of me doesn't have culture.
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They just steal everyone else's.
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That's just what it is.
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But I'm not going to lie, bro.
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So dating a black woman, it's, it's amazing.
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For the most part.
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They love so hard.
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Which is something that I really appreciate.
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They make me feel like I'm someone.
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And you know, obviously I should feel like that about myself in general.
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But some of my best relationships, they really truthfully made me feel like I was seen, heard, and I was like important.
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And that's like something that I love.
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A lot of positivity there.
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However, like I said, it wasn't all sunflowers and rainbows.
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Because just like they'll show you that love, they'll definitely keep it real with you, especially if you're doing some goofy shit.
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And your boy Syn, he be making mistakes.
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So there was this one time, I'm dating this one shorty, we'll call her, uh, Alexis, right?
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So me and Alexis are dating.
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Everything is cool.
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I'm sitting and I'm playing the game one day.
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Now, I'm not going to lie, around this time.
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Your boy Syn was being a little lazy.
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Now, it's not that I didn't have money, I did, but, you know, I was moving in packs.
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So I didn't have no nine to five.
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All of my money came from illegal situations, which I mean, it is what it is.
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That's just life.
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But this girl that I was with didn't like the fact that I was just sitting around the house, not really doing nothing.
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And we ended up getting in this argument about it.
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It went something like this.
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Yo, move, move, okay, okay, run around the building, run around the building.
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No, he's right there in the bush.
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You got to shoot at him, bro.
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Yo, shorty, move, bro.
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Why are you standing in front of the TV?
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What the fuck?
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No, I'm tired of this.
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Tired of what, bro?
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If you're tired, go lay down or something.
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Come on, man, I'm about to I'm on a score streak right now.
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You need to go on a score streak of putting in job applications.
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And you need to go on a score streak of going in the kitchen and make me a sandwich.
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All right, I'm just kidding, y'all.
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I didn't say that.
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Oh, make you a sandwich.
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Okay.
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Well, you need to get the streaks out of your drawers, you dirty ass nigga.
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Yeah, so you're just going to call me dirty in my own house.
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Damn, hold on, I do need to take a shower.
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No, I'm playing, y'all.
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Nah, nah.
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But all jokes aside, though, bro, like literally, the only thing I didn't like about some of my relationships.
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And I don't think that this is a specific black thing.
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They definitely will tell you about yourself way more than like my experiences with white women have been.
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Bro, they're definitely not holding no punches, bro.
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You could be being lazy, being a bum.
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They're going to tell you.
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And I mean, I honestly take it more as like motivation, like I'm trying to get you right.
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Trying to get you in a situation where we're winning, not losing.
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That is something that I do appreciate from black women that I just didn't get while dating white women.
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A lot of times, well, I'm getting too far ahead of myself.
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We're not on the white women shit yet.
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Another thing about black women is that they got way more sauce.
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I mean, that's just being black.
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You got soul, bro.
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And it's like every time you talk to them, you feel it.
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You know that the shit that they're about to tell you.
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It's got a real nigga behind it.
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Nine times out of ten.
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You'd be like, all right, nah, nah, nah, you you talking that real shit right now.
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And that's exactly how life is with them.
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For the most part.
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Except when they're mad at you, bro.
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Boy, that's rough.
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I ain't going to lie.
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When your black shorty mad at you, bro, that shit be, man.
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They'd be the worst.
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I ain't going to lie.
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Because they're going to tell you about yourself to the extreme, like violate you.
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I've gotten told some fucked up shit by some of my black girlfriends.
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Yo, like.
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They'd be telling you to unalive yourself, they'd be telling you to go to hell.
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Then they're getting mad at you, then all of a sudden they'll talk shit about you.
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They'd be bringing up shit that you told them in confidence and shit.
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That's I ain't going to lie, they'd be doing that shit.
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But dating a white girl, that joint is OD, bro.
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Because a lot of times when I dated white girls, bro, they just be letting you walk all over them, bro.
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They don't stand up for themselves, they got like no self-respect, I guess when it comes to relationships.
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And in their mind, they're just like, man, as long as my boyfriend's happy.
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And it's like, bro, why are you living like that?
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Tell that nigga no sometimes.
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I was in this one situation and this happened.
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What's wrong, baby?
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Everything is wrong, bro.
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I'm tired.
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I got like no sleep last night.
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I'm just sleepy, man.
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I ain't going to lie, I think I'm going to go to bed early tonight.
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Go to bed?
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Yeah, I'm tired.
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Oh, okay, I'll come with you.
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Nah, nah, nah, nah, I'm going to just go by myself.
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You can stay out here.
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Who the fu-? Stay out here!?!?
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In this situation, you tell that to a black girl, bro.
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They is not going for that shit, bro.
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They's going to violate you.
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Because what do you mean I got to stay out here?
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I told this to this white girl, bro.
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And she dead ass was like, oh, okay.
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Sad as hell.
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But didn't say anything.
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And I'm not going to lie, I was wrong for that.
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I was dead ass wrong, bro.
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Like I'm I'm man enough to hold myself accountable.
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I should have not have done that.
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White girls, they don't got no backbone for real.
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They'd be dead ass out here allowing shit.
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I don't understand that.
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Speak up for yourself.
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Another thing is they don't understand our life.
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So a lot of times when we be doing things a certain way because that's how we were brought up.
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They dead ass don't understand because they weren't raised the way we were.
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And it ain't really nothing you could do about that.
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I guess you can try to like educate them and things.
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But that gets frustrating, bro.
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Because then when you educate them too much, they start trying to like be something they're not.
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Like they're putting that proverbial black face on.
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Oh, shit.
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Like I remember this one time, bro, I was dating this one white shorty.
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You can call her Steph.
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Now Steph, she learned all my slang, how I say things, all that, bro.
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To this day, she changed up her whole personality.
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Bro, she used to be chilling, just, you know, dating me.
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Everything was cool.
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Now, bro, she dead ass be acting mad ghetto, she acts like the exaggerated version of what she thinks a black person is supposed to act like.
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And that's why I hate when white people be trying to be like us, bro.
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Because they never do it regular.
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They never just vibe in.
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It's always some bullshit.
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It's always some extra shit.
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Like them trying to over dramatize what being black is.
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And that be happening a lot in white relationships, bro.
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Like, no, bro.
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Stop trying to be something you're not.
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Just be fucking Tyler from the goddamn suburbs, bro.
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You out here trying to be Bruce Wayne mixed with with with fucking DMX and shit.
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Oh, shit.
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But all in all, bro, dating, uh, you know, any race is going to be different, bro.
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It's just, I feel like black women in closing have more sauce and more real genuine love.
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Although they're meaner when they get upset, they really care deep.
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And I think that's why it'd be hurting them.
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All in all, once you go black, you never come back.
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