HOW TO ACTUALLY “JUST” DECIDE AND COMMIT TO AN IDENTITY

Ellie explains the true meaning of deciding and committing to an identity, emphasizing cutting off other possibilities for manifestation success.

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Key Takeaways

To truly decide is to cut off all other possibilities and fully commit to one identity.
Manifestation succeeds when contradictions are acknowledged but not aligned with.
Effort and techniques are optional; the key is embodying the identity with a 'doesn't matter' attitude.
Wavering between identities or settling leads to manifestation loops and lack.
The decision is deeply personal and foundational to manifestation and self-fulfillment.

What the video covers

The word 'decide' etymologically means to cut off other possibilities, not just to choose one option.
Deciding on an identity means fully committing to it and rejecting all contradictory identities or options.
Ellie shares her personal experience of being stuck in a loop due to not fully cutting off other identities.
Manifestation requires awareness of contradictions but not aligning with them once a decision is made.
The process is likened to method acting, where one fully embodies the chosen identity.
Ellie stresses the importance of 'doesn't matter' mindset to dismiss egoic thoughts and external circumstances.
Effort and techniques are not necessary; fulfillment comes from fully assuming the identity without resistance.
Settling or wavering between identities causes manifestation failure and keeps one in lack.
The concept ties to a biblical paraphrase about having more being given and lack leading to loss.
Ellie positions herself as a 'stillness first' coach, focusing on decision and identity rather than effort.

Chapters

What does it really mean to 'just decide' according to Ellie?

Ellie explains that 'just decide' means fully committing to one identity by cutting off all other possibilities and not wavering or settling between options.

How does Ellie relate deciding to manifestation?

She relates deciding to manifestation by emphasizing that manifestation requires fully embodying an identity and dismissing contradictions, which means cutting off other identities and options.

Does Ellie recommend using manifestation techniques or effort?

Ellie does not recommend effort or specific techniques; instead, she focuses on embodying the identity naturally with a mindset of fulfillment and stillness.

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Let's talk about the controversial topic of just deciding, but actually what it means, and I mean actually what it means, the word, and also I'm not really a just decider. I'm a decider. A lot of people get hate for just deciding, and I really

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think people are leaning on the word just. They, I don't often hear about just deciding meaning only deciding, meaning flippantly deciding, nothing else, never thinking about it again versus deciding being aware of contradictions, saying the contradictions are relevant,

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being aware of your 3D that does not match it, etc. All of the everything gets filtered through that identity because it's actually [ __ ] important. Let's talk about what it means to decide. This morning I was watching TikTok. Eliza

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Day came up on my For You page. She's not a manifestation content creator, but she was specifically talking about how she has been like kind of noodling in the etymology of the word decide and decision.

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She was talking about it mainly for rejection. I want to talk about it for manifestation. So if you look into what the word decision means in English and also like in the root of Latin, Middle English, French, whatever the [ __ ]

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It's literally to cut off, to cut off or you could also say to remove other possibilities.

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Cutting off other possibilities, deciding against them, etc. So it's actually more about the decision against so many other things than just the decision on this one thing.

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So she uses the example of like if you are deciding to be with someone, it is more about deciding not to be with anyone else. Let's tie this to manifestation. If you are deciding on an identity, you're also deciding

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to cut off other identities. This is what had me stuck in a loop for four years.

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I would decide that I was the identity of being with my SP, like my SP and I are dating. And then what would happen is that would go from no contact because of this identity, no contact to contact.

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Okay, the contact is not exactly what I wanted, you know, I wanted to be together. I was still married to linearity, too. I thought it was going to happen in a certain way or like certain steps would happen. So, we would

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start talking first. Then, when the conversation would seem a little bit dry, anticipating a pattern here, the conversation would seem a little bit dry, I would start to overthink, "Oh, no, what should I say? Should I ask a

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question to seem more interesting?" Like I would start overthinking, "Oh, no, they left me on read. What should I do?" That's not being the girlfriend anymore.

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You're saying this happening a certain way, like my being the girlfriend is now contingent on this happening a certain way. I need to do things in order for this to happen. Why am I changing the 3D with the 3D? So, now I'm identifying as the

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middle. I didn't cut off that identity. I didn't. I no longer am deciding on this identity. I've decided on another.

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I've now cut off that identity because I decided on this one. I decided I'm part of the middle now. I decided I am the middle now.

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I went from I'm deciding that I'm the girlfriend to now, not that I intentionally said, "I decide I'm in the middle," but by me identifying and thinking, "Okay, how do I get to here?" That's me saying I am here right now.

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So, now I've cut off other possibilities. I'm just here. And this is representative of, I think, Matthew 13:12. To those that have more is given, to those that don't have what they do have is taken away.

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Paraphrasing. To those that have the relationship, the steps are given into the relationship. To those that don't have the relationship, especially after she just [ __ ] said she had the relationship, even what you do have will be taken away. You don't have, so even

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what you do have will be taken away. Even the things that you do have, even the contact that you got from this identity. Now you're not that identity anymore. You said that you don't have this identity anymore. You're just this

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one. So what you do have from this identity, the contact, will be taken away. And it was. We'd go back to no contact.

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Because I didn't cut off all other possibilities. I was settling. Me settling for this, even though I didn't know that's what I was doing, me saying that I'm this in the middle, was me not cutting off all the other possibilities.

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When you decide, when you decide, this is how I got out of the loop. I would decide and actually stick to that identity. And this is what it means to just decide or decide is when I decide something,

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it's you know how somebody will be an actor and they'll like be on set and they'll be acting and like they're that character? Okay.

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But then they'll be aware that they're like kind of pretending, you know? And then you know the obnoxious actors that like method act? Like Austin Butler can't even stop talking like this because he's Elvis. Like he's still [ __ ] Elvis. I don't know if he still

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is. But like for a while he was like full-on method acting of Elvis. It's like everything that filtered through him, I, Elvis, would come out. That's me.

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That is me with my new identity. I fully assume that identity. If I saw, and I'm not kidding about this, if I saw an SP I wanted making out with a third party right now in front of me, doesn't

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matter, I'm already their girlfriend. It doesn't matter. I'm filtering everything through this identity. I said I was the identity, right? So why the [ __ ] wouldn't I think like that identity? And if I have a moment, nope, doesn't matter

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I'm that identity. An egoic thought, doesn't matter I'm that identity. Oh, you don't have it, doesn't matter I'm that identity.

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Doesn't matter, I'm source. I'm fulfillment in and of itself. Doesn't matter, I already said so.

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I see something I don't like again, doesn't matter I already decided. Doesn't matter. And the doesn't matter matters here.

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Because when we are not our thoughts, our thoughts are appearing. We decide which ones to agree with. A thought appearing that I don't agree with doesn't matter.

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Same thing for out there, out in the 3D. See something I don't like, doesn't matter.

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It's options. It's options presented in front of me. I don't like it, doesn't matter. Not for me.

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It doesn't matter. Because I decided. I cut all other things off. If I see something that I cut out, doesn't matter.

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This is how I do it. This is why I don't sit here and need to do techniques. You can do techniques if you want, you're not going to agree with my teachings, that's okay. I have plenty of mutuals that teach techniques, love

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them. I don't do them. You will not catch me efforting at all. I don't. My favorite hobby is sleeping. I don't. I don't want to effort. I don't have to effort. I am fulfillment in and of itself. I am

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source in and of itself. The only thing that keeps you from not having it, not having it when you literally already are it, is you putting a contradiction up. You not cutting off the other decisions. Where is it? Why

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isn't it here? I'm noticing the lack and not pivoting away from it. I'm not realizing I'm source, so I think that every single thought I think matters. La la la la la. Where? Why? How? How's it going to come? I don't have it. La la

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la. All contradiction. That's what I mean when I say that I'm a stillness first coach.

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It doesn't have to be all this effort. Just decide is not just decide and never [ __ ] think about it again, which then I'm obviously going to probably decide against something else, um decide against myself and decide on something

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else in the lack of it and then I'll live in lack. No. The decision's [ __ ] important to me, right? Yeah, 'cause it's me.

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It's me. I'm that. I am everything. I am source. If you would make the decision, actually cut off other options, and I understand that baby's first day, this feels hard. We can bridge the gap before you start [ __ ]

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typing. If you cut off other decisions and options, which includes the contradictions, and you're aware of the contradictions, and you don't sit there and align with them, whether it's in front of your

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you, your identity, what you want from that identity, what you now have as that identity, unveils itself. Adding one bit of context to that video, me entertaining the talking was not contrary to the decision that I am the

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girlfriend. That's not where I went wrong because I was still married to linearity, so I thought that it was going to, quote, unfold.

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However, where I went wrong was trying to interpret the 3D, and then that was me saying, I am this identity. I've cut off all other identities, like the middle, instead of I am the identity of being the girlfriend. I've not cut off all other

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identities. If I truly had cut off all other identities, when moving through the talking while not being together yet, I wouldn't have tried to like gain any information from the 3D. I would have simply existed in it, not

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over thought it, and known that no matter what I see, no matter what my ego tells me, my decision still stands, and I already am the person in that decision.

Topics:decideidentitymanifestationcommitmentcontradictionsmethod actingspiritualityself-fulfillmentstillnessmanifestation coach

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