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I am Sam. Sam. [music] When I look at my son, Sam, and I look at how he is trapped in his body, I think, how can Sal have a relationship with him?
Sam suffers massive strokes, leaving him trapped in his body. His wife Sal fights for his recovery and searches for miracle treatments.
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Key Takeaways
- Severe strokes can cause devastating brain damage but slow recovery is possible with intensive care.
- Family commitment and emotional support are crucial in the recovery of brain injury patients.
- Experimental and overseas treatments may offer hope but face medical skepticism and risks.
- Cystic fibrosis and stroke combined create complex medical challenges requiring multidisciplinary care.
- Hope and love can sustain patients and families through prolonged medical crises.
What the video covers
- Sam was diagnosed with cystic fibrosis as a baby and lived a determined, active life despite his condition.
- On Valentine's Day 2010, Sam suffered two massive strokes after heading a soccer ball, causing severe brain damage.
- Doctors were pessimistic, predicting he would not survive or would be a vegetable if he did.
- Sal, Sam's wife, remained deeply committed and refused to give up on him despite the challenges.
- Sam spent weeks in a coma and months in ICU, gradually regaining minimal movement and responsiveness.
- Sal researched every possible treatment, including a controversial overseas drug that doctors initially rejected.
- Sam showed some dramatic recovery at a brain injury unit but progress eventually plateaued, causing frustration.
- The video highlights the emotional and physical toll on Sam, Sal, and their family during this journey.
- It also touches on the hope and challenges of experimental treatments and the power of love and commitment.
- Despite setbacks, Sal and Sam maintain their bond and hope for further improvement and a future wedding.
Chapters
- 00:00Introduction: Sam's Condition and Family's Struggle
- 01:45The Search for a Miracle Drug
- 03:21Sam's Early Life and Diagnosis
- 04:57The Stroke Incident and Immediate Aftermath
- 06:17Medical Prognosis and Initial Recovery
- 09:07Emotional Impact on Sal and Family
- 09:27Therapy and Rehabilitation Progress
- 10:30Challenges and Hope for the Future
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[music] Sam is not the man that Sal fell in love with, and maybe he will not be that man again.
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[music] Our life and our relationship has changed completely. Um, it's a horrible thing to say, but taking care of Sam isn't a way [music] like having a child.
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It would have been easy to walk away and start a new life, but I didn't want to.
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That's my person. That's the person that I'm meant to be with, and we're meant to do this together, and we need each other.
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Sal is totally committed to Sam. It's a love that is just so extraordinary. [music] We had all the way along [music] researched every possible way to get Sam better. As a family, you do that. You sit on Google for hours typing in every
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possible combination of words to find some sort of miracle drug or treatment that will bring your person back to you.
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We learned about this drug and how it was available overseas. We read about people who had taken this tablet, and within minutes were, you know, from being vegetables were talking and doing all sorts of things. [music] And it was like a light bulb, and I
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thought Sam has to have this drug. But the doctors didn't want anything to [music] do with it at all.
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They said it was risky. It was almost like a last [music] last chance or a last hope we had.
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This miracle drug. This fantastic [music] cystic medicine. I remember the first [music] time I met Sam. I was at uni and I was walking across the grounds and Sam was walking towards me and I just stood there in awe of this guy
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[music] who was so handsome. He winked and that was it. That [music] was I knew that was my person.
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We are set up. Bye-bye. We are in our little tuk-tuk. Sam had played the field a bit, but when she came along we were convinced that she was the right, uh, person for him.
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[music] And we fell in love with the two, I've got to tell you. Oh, NO, YOU DON'T.
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I'M SO SHAKY. WELL, SAM'S entry into our life was a little bit like the human tsunami.
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He hit us like a fireball. Well, happy birthday, man. Boys. Excellent, Sam. Happy 21st.
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Big 21. Sam was diagnosed with cystic fibrosis when he [music] was about 6 weeks old.
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What do you want for your birthday, Mom? Good on you, Dad. Let's go. [music] But he said, "Well, if I've got this thing, it's not going to stop me from doing anything I want to do." And that drove him.
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Oh, THAT WAS SICK. YOU ALL RIGHT? THAT WAS AWESOME, MATE. Overconfident, very cocky.
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He was, um, always keen to do better than everyone else. And he usually did.
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Thanks, Josh. How's your head, Josh? All right, we're going to stop. Before you go, Josh.
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That was wicked. All right, love it. We planned to get married on May 8th, 2010, which would have been our 4-year anniversary. And being a wedding planner, I was super organized. And everything was pretty much done and dusted within the first 3 weeks.
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We'd just been to the venue and finalized all the wedding plans. And Sal and Sam were so excited.
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And it was almost probably a week later that Sam [music] had his accident. On Valentine's Day, 2010, Sam was playing in a charity soccer match [music] for his work as an accountant.
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And it was about midday when I got a call from Sam saying he didn't feel too well.
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When I arrived at the soccer field, I was told that Sam had actually headed a ball and scored a goal.
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[music] He very quickly vomited quite excessively to the point where he couldn't even walk to the toilet.
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And [music] Sam was actually screaming at the top of his lungs. And he was rocking back and forth saying, "My head's [music] going to explode. My head's going to explode." the whole time. And that's when we knew it was really serious.
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[music] When Sam first came in, he had sudden loss of consciousness. [music] Because he was so deeply unconscious, we were quite pessimistic about his outcome.
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[music] And I got on the phone to Dad and I actually couldn't even talk. I just cried because that's when I knew that it was really bad. [music] We were told that he'd had two massive strokes.
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It was like a grenade had gone off in his brain. Um, they said the all of the intellectual cortexes of the brain were totally wiped, what they call infarcts, [music and singing] which are, which is total damage.
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And they also said the occipital part, which is the vision part, was also wiped out.
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Um, [music] and so we were told that the prognosis was that he wouldn't live.
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Uh, but that if he did, he would be a vegetable. [music] There were up to nine or 10 different teams working on Sam's condition. What caused it, we still don't know.
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But, uh, I cannot believe that hitting a soccer ball could have created the damage to Sam's brain that eventuated in his strokes.
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The doctors themselves didn't know why he made it through at times. They didn't know. They just said why he's holding on, why he's there. And we just said, [music] "That's Sam." When Sam was in the deepest of comas and
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the advice we had was look, nothing will get through to him. My wife and I saw Sal go up to his bed one day, give him a a kiss and a cuddle, looked up at the monitor on the the
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blood pressure monitor, spiked up. The heart rate monitor spiked up. And I think it was probably from that time on that we started [music] getting more response from him.
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You need to move your head over to where you can hear this [music] noise.
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Move your head all the way over. He took weeks and weeks to wake up [music] out of the coma. And then he slowly started to respond, but the responses were agonizing. [music] Come on, Sam. Put your head down. Once
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your head touches the pillow, then you can stop. [music] And then after 45 days, he was able to move out of ICU.
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Try and move fingers out. That's it. Well, come on. Few more, mate. He could move his hand into a fist [music] and open it again. He could lift his arm really slowly, but everything was a challenge.
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You're a wonderful [music] mate. That's really, really, really good. Well, we were worried [music] about Sal on May the 8th.
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I knew that Sal around that date would be okay on the outside, but I wasn't too sure about her on the inside as any bride [music] would be on that day.
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I'm thinking that this is the day we would have got married. I didn't cope very well at all, [music] and I actually completely lost it. I'd say I probably had a nervous breakdown.
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[music] But I picked myself up pretty quickly after that, dusted myself off because what I was going through was nothing compared to what was Sam was going through.
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Nothing at all. I initially took 4 months off work to be by Sam's side, and then reality set in and I had to go back to work because someone has to pay our mortgage.
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Um, so that was a really tough time. Seeing someone standing there in a white wedding dress ready to spend the rest of their life with their one person who was perfectly healthy, that was exceptionally difficult.
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Okay, have some nice deep breaths. The doctors continuously told us that he'd be brain [music] damaged and said he'd never walk, he'd never breathe on his own, and I challenged it every step of the way.
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Good job. That's excellent, Sam. They were talking about sending him off to a nursing home.
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We were talking about having the opportunity to get some real therapy. We learned about the brain injury unit at PA Hospital, and we finally won approval to get him there. It would have been in September.
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This is day one of a new program. We had some pretty dramatic recovery. Uh, he was walking.
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You're walking, Sam. Sal's not holding Sam. He's walking on his own. Totally. I'm really hungry.
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I'm really hungry. And so he got to that stage by Christmas time, and it was pretty exciting.
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Go, Sam. You're a show pony, aren't you? But then it kind of stopped. There was very little progress beyond that, and it became frustrating for him, and I've got to admit it became frustrating for us, too, because we all
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had expectations o
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um to not be afraid to walk away from Sam. You also have a life to live.
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Day 212. Dear Sam, I started thinking, "What would I do if this is it for the next 40, 50 years, and he can't talk, and we don't know 100% that he's in there.
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What am I going to do? Should I give up my hopes and dreams of having children and having a nice life?
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I should be pushing a pram, not a wheelchair. And then I started to think that Sam's going to be missing out on all those things as well. So why not miss out on all of them together? As long as
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we've got each other, it doesn't matter if we don't have a beautiful home and great careers or children. As long as we're together, that's all that matters.
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We have always believed as a family [music] and with Sal that Sam's brain is not nearly as damaged as they have told us many times.
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We're looking for the miracle cure. and let's face it, you're a parent, you're grasping.
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[music] Sal and I came across this sleeping tablet called Stilnox and it was having a a different reaction on [music] on brain injury victims to people simply wanting to sleep.
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And we found that it had been first discovered with a brain injured patient [music] in South Africa 10 years ago uh with a family member who was sick of the grinding one night and gave the person a a Stilnox sleeping
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tablet just to try and I suppose shut them up. This is someone who had been gone for years.
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Moments later, that person's talking and conversing and sounding quite intelligent. So, we started talking to the doctors about it and we got a very negative view.
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They just couldn't see it helping Sam. And there's no doubt they were also a little bit risk-averse, too.
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We found out [music] it had a pretty bad reputation. A lot of people had some [music] incidents of sleepwalking and harming themselves and other people while on the drug. So, we were a little bit cautious, but we knew it was time to
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start taking some responsible risks in Sam's [music] recovery. We needed a prescription for it and none of the doctors would give [music] us a prescription for Sam.
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It simply became our mission to convince the doctors to give him a go. Sammy Can you wake up?
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Yeah. [groaning] On the 13th of May, we brought him home. I don't think they saw Can you hop up now, love?
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any further prospects for him beyond that. So, I'm just going to take him to the toilet before I give him the drug.
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After obsessive and constant nagging from Sal and Lesley and I, we got agreement to trial him on Stilnox about 3 weeks ago.
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So, this is the drug called Stilnox, which we used to give Sam. [music] Um and it states on the back to give him 10 mg, which is one tablet.
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First day we noticed a huge increase in his alertness, [music] his responses when he moved, but no speech at all.
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[snorts] And then, after about 6 or 7 days, I thought [snorts] "What's the point of not trying more?
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What's the worst that can happen? He's already had a stroke. What's the point of not trying a little bit more?" [music] So, I gave him 15 mg.
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So, I just make sure it's really nice and crushed well, so it can go down the peg.
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So, what I'm going to do now is I'm going to give Sam the drug.
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So, it just like clips on. [snorts] So, we just put it in with a little bit of water. Make sure it goes all the way down.
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So, Sam's now had the drug, and it's exactly 2:00. And I sat there with great trepidation, thinking this is going to go one of two ways. [music] He's either going to be okay, or it's not going to work, and something
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terrible could happen. What do you want to eat? [snorts] Weet-Bix. So, over about 15 or 20 [music] minutes, I was watching him, and slowly his face just started to relax.
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Come on, we can have a cup of tea. Biggest smile [music] I've seen since he's been sick. And he'd giggle and laugh.
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He thinks he's very funny. I'm just a big feeding cow that comes along and just cooks all day, aren't I?
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[laughter] And then, he just started joining in our conversation. It was amazing. All right, How are you?
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That's good. What have you been doing? Not much, huh? You've been doing having a bit of a sleep?
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[groaning and snorts] What are you doing, Sam? You are talking, aren't you? [snorts] How do you feel?
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I'm great. You feel great, don't you? [laughter] What have you been thinking in your mind the whole time for 15 months that you couldn't talk? What was the one thing that you thought, "If I can talk again, I'll say it."?
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I love you so much. I love you, too. It's one of the first things he said was, "Let's get married tomorrow." And I said, "Don't you think that's a little bit quick?" And he said, "Okay, next week. On second
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thoughts, 2 weeks." And what's it been like having Sally with you? I love you.
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She's my queen. [laughter] I love you so much. I love you. I love you, too.
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It was fantastic. It made me smile on the inside. We had our Sammy back.
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He was still cheeky and he was still you know, having a go at everyone and having a laugh and and he was in good spirits about it and he had a good attitude about it, which means he'll fight all the way to the end.
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[gasps] [sighs] The joy we felt was just unbelievable. Just unbelievable. I couldn't even start to express it.
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And have you been wanting to talk that whole time? Oh, yeah. coming out. Oh, yeah.
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Uh most definitely. Just that first day was enough to know that he's definitely in there and he's fine and he doesn't have brain damage like they've said all along. The muscles in his mouth are so tight that he can't
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chew without the drug. I really excited about these days. [laughter] Do you want another one?
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Yeah, I'd love to have another one. We get about an hour a day of clear, [snorts] really solid vocal communication.
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And that starts to wear off. It's very difficult to comprehend the fact that I can talk now.
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And then an hour or so later I go oh. Oh. Oh. Uh it's like it really sucks.
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The most frightening time of taking the Stilnox [music] is when it starts to wear off because you can see Sam's face start to tighten up.
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[singing] You are better than you were yesterday. You're getting better all the time. [music] His words start to slow down. They become very slurred [music] and he starts to panic.
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And he gets very emotional and upset because he doesn't want to lose the ability to talk. [music] And he doesn't want to regress back into feeling trapped inside of his [music] body. So, it's painful. It's really painful to watch him go through that
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after about an hour every day. It's very hard to say. It would be insane torture for him.
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It would be like being in a prison they couldn't make noise from, couldn't move from, couldn't do anything.
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I think for him it would be torture. It [music] absolute torture. Can you use your words and not your signs?
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At the moment we are really searching the internet just looking for someone that can help us.
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We really have no guidance at all as to what we should be doing in regards to the drug, if it's safe to give over a long period of time, um how much to give, how often. Do it all again tomorrow.
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Can we have longer? Can we have two windows a day? Can we have two hours? Is it possible? How will it affect him? How is it affecting his brain?
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Can you hear me, Sam? Yes, I can. Say hello to Mommy, Sam. Hello. Hello, Sam. It is absolutely wonderful to hear your voice.
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Thankfully, given our lack of support here, we were lucky to find Dr. Wally Nel in South Africa.
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It's changed my life completely. Now, this is the guy who pioneered the use of this drug Yes, it's been life-changing.
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Yes. It was in fact his patient who first discovered the use of Stilnox by chance.
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I've seen so many patients in my life through the years. I'd say 600 people all over the world now. I can really see it in your eyes from the time that you started taking the drug until now. You
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can see the sparkling eyes. It changes this person, not all of them. We have the results where we get nothing. But it changes that person in 20 minutes from what he was into what he is.
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Over the last decade, basically, and Dr. Wally Nel and I have been uh working on trying to figure out how this drug works.
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I'm a nuclear medicine physician by training, and what we do is uh we do brain SPECT scans. So, this is before Zolpidem. That's after Zolpidem. Quite a clear change. In every brain injury, it seems you have a uh a
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part of the brain which is destroyed and another part which is suppressed. And what Stilnox or Zolpidem does, it reverses the suppressed part of the brain.
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The brain begins to work again. We published a clinical trial last year. 23 patients we isolated and [music] 10 of them showed a response between 10 and 20% improvement in their functioning.
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Um some more some up to 40%. This is of course a fairly small clinical trial. We would consider this as a as a pilot study.
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But I think we are getting there slowly but surely. Generally in medicine, we try and practice evidence-based medicine.
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Uh we will not institute things that we are not comfortable have been adequately tested. And uh from my understanding, Stilnox is still experimental. And it's fantastic that Sam has uh responded to it.
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And not for one minute would I suggest that Sam does or doesn't take it. It's out of my domain.
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I'm not a neurologist. But uh it is not in the domain of evidence-based practice yet.
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Certainly a few years ago, there was some concern about some of the adverse reactions to Stilnox uh when it was being used as a sleeping pill.
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I suspect that that's one of the reasons for reluctance to uh endorse the use of the medication widely.
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Move them. Having said that, I think it is exciting. Certainly if it was me who had the brain injury, I would want people to try whatever they could to try and help.
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Rather than giving 15 mg at once, we might get hallucinations and we might get this uh drowsiness.
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We're talking right here and monitoring the side effects of this. It's only when we're giving 15 mg in one that he'll start talking.
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He sometimes gets a bit hot, and Dr. Noel was very helpful in guiding us on that one.
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Go go slow. Go slow. Don't go and rush in there, please. What I saw on the on the Skype this morning, it can get very good. It can get very good to him. You observe it, note down what he does, and
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you get the right doses. He's responded, and he will not stop responding. There's no cutoff time for this. It's not like the the film Awakenings. There's no resistance building up against this.
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And Sam will get better. Wally, we're all very grateful. Thank you so much. In talking with Wally now, and also looking at Professor Klaassen's research, we're hoping and praying now for his very full recovery against all odds.
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That might seem unrealistic to some, but that's the way we are. I try not to ask Selly too many deep questions that maybe she doesn't want to answer, but I did today. [music] Cuz I asked her, "Is one arrow day of still not enough
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for you for the rest of your life, Sel?" And she said, "Mom, Sam lights a fire in my heart. Yes, it is." I love you, too.
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Sam's really excited to get [music] married. So, when he's a little bit more able to move around and talk freely, then we'll definitely get married.
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If this is the best it is, then we have a great life. Ah, I'm getting better. I'm back, baby. I'm back. I'm back. I'm back, man.
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7 mg dose of Stilnox. And we'll give it to him now, and he should just start talking better in about 15 to 20 minutes, you reckon, Sammy?
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You reckon? At that time, the Stilnox was still working really well for him. Whereas now, it's kind of died off a little bit.
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Absolutely hanging for it. I have a huge [ __ ] right here right now.
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It's Sam the man. There you go. Over the time as his body got used to it and metabolized it faster, he needed higher doses, and the outcomes were less. So, his speech wasn't as clear.
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Um his eyes didn't sparkle as much, and he would get incredibly frustrated that it wasn't working as much as it used to.
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And he hunt you. Very good. You did you hunt you him. Why did you hunt you the doctor?
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He was what? Ignoring you. Say to the stewardess. And that's Sam the man. It has helped long term, but not to anywhere near the extent that we would have liked it to.
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It feels Excellent. Excellent. He's a great dog. [laughter] He is your dog. He is your dog, Sammy.
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As the years went on, I believe Sal hoped that Sam would come back fully.
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But the reality check is, no, he wasn't going to come back fully. For me.
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For me, baby. Thank you. Cranky, are you? [laughter] What are you? Started to eat your own conscience a bit.
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What's the point in two lives being destroyed? In fact, we struggled with that all the time, and so on conscience, we raised it with Sal at one stage.
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And she wouldn't have a bar of it. She just said, "No, no, I'm I'm staying here for the for the long She's suffered a stroke 3 years ago, which left this teacher barely able to walk or talk.
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I'm I'm fine. And then we saw a program about a a new drug called etanercept.
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One injection of a drug called [music] etanercept which was being used successfully in stroke victims in the United States.
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I I I'm fine. She made a full miraculous recovery and we thought we've got to try this on Sam.
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[cheering and screaming] It It worked. I I'm me. Yeah. Once we saw that, I think we were on a plane within about a week and a half.
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Sam's heart lifted and so we all got excited. We thought, "Oh, there's hope. There's something else." Yeah, you're about to have it.
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How happy are you, Sam? You've had to do a lot of walking this morning.
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Then did a series of etanercept injections and we [music] hope to see some pretty quick um positive outcomes from that.
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What do you think about that second shot Sam? It will work. Let's hope so, eh?
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You can have three hugs. We were all convinced that Sam was starting to get some benefits from it.
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But Sam [music] wasn't. He wanted the the the miracle outcome, the total cure or nothing at all and so he was toxic.
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And he was very depressed. He just fell into a a pretty sad place, to be honest.
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[screaming] It came to a point where Sam's depression and his anger was so strong and so it was just totally flat. Like flat.
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And it came to a parting of the ways at that time. It was mutual. I was his carer more than I was his equal partner, um which had frustrations for both of us. But he was also pushing me away a
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lot. Um I think he had big dreams for me to get married and have babies and do all those sorts of things. And as I did for myself, I wanted those things equally and we knew it wasn't going to happen together. But
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we also didn't want to let go. When the breakup occurred, I would say in some [music] sense that Sal struggled more than Sam did.
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He was racked with uh sadness for I'd say weeks. He came to terms with it.
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But Sal struggled with with finding a way to to actually move on with her life.
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It was really, really hard not to be with him every day. [music] And I felt like I needed to just take myself away and process things.
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So, [music] I went away for I think 5 months. And it was very cathartic.
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And then I could come [music] back and be in Sam's life in a more positive way.
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We caught up with her when she came back. She spoke to John and she said, "Look I I will always love Sam.
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And I want to visit him every week." And we said, "Great." [laughter] Hey, Sam.
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And so Sal continues [music] to do that to this day and will continue to do it until Sam passes.
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Hey. Stinky. [laughter] That's the first nice thing you've you have to say to girls, Sammy.
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I smell like roses. The situation that we have just meant we couldn't be together.
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Um we still love each other incredibly and I think that will always be there.
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You smell like chocolate cake and ice cream. You're welcome. About June 2015, uh she said I'm going to Tasmania for a week. And I said, "Oh Sal, that's lovely." And then she looked at me and then she decided to tell me cuz I
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felt there was someone else in her life, but I wasn't sure because you don't ask Sal, she tells you. Just fine. And she said, "I'm getting engaged." I just gave her a big cuddle. I said, "Congratulations. I am so happy for
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[music] you." And she just went, Phil is a very easygoing [music] patient, kind-hearted man.
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He knew right from the start that if he was going to date me, he also got Sam as well and Sam's family. So, he got the whole package.
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So, we met Phil. And Sam just said looked at them, he went quiet, [music] and he just looked at both of them and said how good they looked together. And I just wanted to cry. I just thought that's [music] the most beautiful thing
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he could say. It was just lovely. [snorts] Sam was amazing about the whole thing, which was an incredible blessing [music] to have.
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We got married after 10 months [music] of being together. Sam's really funny about it. He's great when he sees Phil and he always jokes with Thank you, Phil. Um maybe [laughter] don't put that in there.
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I'm all right. I'm doing Excellent. That's fantastic to hear. Would you like plum or vanilla custard today?
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Yeah. Sal's still here every week. She takes an active interest in in all of his treatment programs.
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We love her. Yeah. No. I could be saying I'm incredibly happy now and I love where I'm at in my life, but it's also very hard to reconcile the feelings with myself that I had a responsibility to him and I had
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made promises to him. So, I felt like I broke that and I I hate to break a promise.
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So, I still feel very guilty about that. Okay, I'm going now. See you later.
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She's a fantastic individual who's tried really hard for my brother and Oh. and she will always continue to try because she loves him.
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And that's how it is. So, hats off to Tahlia Nelson. Boost him. Sam's probably nearing the end of your journey.
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That's my head. Can I keep my head, please? He's 30 years old but his lungs started to to fail on him about a year ago because of his cystic fibrosis which is a a lung disease primarily.
Speaker A
Now, Maddie, you are in total control, okay? You pop this one on your mouth.
Speaker A
You make sure Maddie knows to take a huge breath in. You're ready? Big breath He has very little oxygen going to his brain.
Speaker A
Squeeze, squeeze, squeeze that little bit more. He gets very anxious and he gets very hard to handle.
Speaker A
Well, it's a little bit and you'll let you off. Well done. Very, very upset and it's hard to see.
Speaker A
It's hard to cope with. Josh in charge of your treatment. Does that sound good?
Speaker A
Oh, yeah. You're terrified. [laughter] So, Lizzie and Josh and I sat down and we made a conscious decision to totally bring his caring to family.
Speaker A
And so, Josh took on four days a week. And what's happened with Josh here is is that the most extraordinary vacationer has come out.
Speaker A
He's just the most wonderful carer. [laughter] The laughter is absolutely hilarious. The swearing is unbelievable. I've already apologized to the neighbors cuz their voices are loud and they're very tolerant and understanding. Um Josh brings joy and fun to Sam in a way
Speaker A
that nobody else can. Freaking well. It still works freaking well. So, very, very well. And they're our buddy.
Speaker A
With [snorts] a cheesy grin. Yeah, I'll swear and carry on like a pork chop. And I'll make him have a great time and make him smile as much as I possibly can cuz [music] he ain't got much time left and I want
Speaker A
him to feel as much joy as he can for the time he has. is [laughter] Uh excellent care.
Speaker A
Aw, thanks, buddy. Sam's life has value [music] and has meaning. Every day you find something to make it positive. He fights. He tries his best.
Speaker A
If I have relief when my brother leaves this world, it'll be relief for him.
Speaker A
That his fight's over and he doesn't have to fight no more. Yeah. Not for us. No.
Speaker A
It'll be relief for him. Yeah. Absolutely.
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