Exploring how unconscious plans shape relationships and why outcomes like divorce may be predetermined from the start.
Key Takeaways
- Relationship outcomes may be predetermined by unconscious plans.
- Conscious desires for happiness often conflict with deeper unconscious goals.
- Choosing a partner is influenced by the need to fulfill these unconscious plans.
- Awareness of these dynamics can help in understanding and improving relationships.
- The high divorce rate reflects the prevalence of these unconscious relationship patterns.
What the video covers
- The divorce rate is around seventy percent, indicating many relationship patterns are repeated.
- Relationships often follow unconscious programs or plans that dictate their outcomes.
- The phrase 'the result was the goal' suggests that the outcome of a relationship is predetermined.
- If a relationship ends badly, it means the underlying program aimed for that ending.
- People have conscious goals like happiness and harmony but unconscious plans may lead to different results.
- These unconscious plans exist from the beginning of the relationship, not developed later.
- Partners are chosen based on the ability to fulfill these unconscious plans.
- Understanding these unconscious dynamics can help explain why relationships fail despite conscious desires.
- The concept challenges the notion that relationship outcomes are purely accidental or random.
- Self-awareness about these unconscious programs can be a step toward healthier relationships.
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Speaker A
If we talk about the divorce rate being on average around seventy percent, uh-huh, can you imagine how many programs are getting fed to the brim? I really liked what my psychologist said recently. A truly amazing phrase, you’re probably familiar with it. The result was the goal, of course. So if my relationship ended badly, it means that from the start, my program's goal was to end them somehow, or simply to end them.
Speaker A
I agree. I absolutely agree with that. For one simple reason. There are conscious goals. We all want to be happy, to live in love and harmony, yes, but for some reason, things happen differently for us. It’s a plan. And
Speaker A
this plan doesn’t arise during the relationship. Uh-huh. It is already there from the beginning.
Speaker A
Uh-huh. And we choose the partner with whom we can carry out this unconscious plan.
Speaker A
Uh-huh. And we choose the partner with whom we can carry out this unconscious plan.
Topics:relationshipsdivorce rateunconscious plansrelationship goalspsychologyrelationship patternsself-awarenessrelationship outcomeslove and harmonyrelationship therapy











