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Hi everyone. I'm buzzing because I'm on hot wife Alice's boat. She's just left. I'm spending the night here, and we're shooting tomorrow. But we just had an amazing chat. So, obviously, I had to record it so that you could watch. I
Ruby Onyx chats with Hotwife Alice about their hotwife lifestyle, cuckolding, communication, and evolving relationship dynamics.
Key Takeaways
- Open, honest communication is essential for a successful hotwife or cuckolding lifestyle.
- Every relationship dynamic is unique; partners have different boundaries and preferences.
- Cuckolding and chastity play can be empowering and consensual, not signs of weakness.
- The lifestyle evolves over time and requires flexibility and mutual respect.
- Female pleasure and shared sexual experiences are becoming more central in alternative lifestyles.
Summary
- Ruby Onyx interviews Hotwife Alice about her 10 years in the swinging and hotwife lifestyle and 3 years in content creation.
- They discuss the evolution of their relationship dynamics, including cuckolding and chastity play.
- The importance of communication and consent in non-traditional relationships is emphasized.
- Differences in partner submissiveness and preferences in humiliation and dominance are explored.
- They address common misconceptions about cuckolding and the bravery involved in embracing it.
- The conversation touches on how porn and lifestyle trends are shifting towards female pleasure and shared experiences.
- They share personal anecdotes about swinging, dating, and evolving sexual boundaries.
- The role of chastity devices and power exchange in their relationships is explained.
- They highlight the ongoing evolution of their lifestyle and the need for flexibility and open dialogue.
- The video encourages viewers curious about the hotwife lifestyle to learn and communicate openly.
Chapters
- 00:00Introduction and Meeting Hotwife Alice
- 02:17Exploring Relationship Dynamics and New Experiences
- 04:19Submissiveness and Power Exchange in Relationships
- 06:13Popularity and Misconceptions of Cuckolding
- 08:12Communication and Bringing Up Lifestyle Topics
- 10:03Personal Stories and Lifestyle Evolution
- 12:34Chastity Play and Dominance Details
- 17:01Lifestyle Reflections and Future Plans
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Speaker A
hope you enjoy. If you're interested in or curious about the hot wife lifestyle, I highly recommend watching this because it's got a lot of information that you're going to want to know. And she's just lovely. She's just amazing. So, I'm
Speaker A
very excited to share this video with you. I hope you enjoy. If you're new here, hi, I'm Ruby. Please follow and subscribe if you like what I post, and uh, let me know what you think of our little
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chat. Enjoy. [Music] Right. Hello. Hello. We are meeting for the first time. I can't believe it.
Speaker A
I've been wanting to meet you for so long. Same. Ever since I started, I was like, really? Well, it's just so nice to hang out with like a fellow hot wife. We've got so much in common.
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I know. And I'm quite interested to know what the differences are in our hot wife dynamics 'cause obviously everybody's different.
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Yeah. We've got some questions from our followers. So, we'll have a look at them. Yeah.
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Would you like to introduce yourself? Why not? To YouTube. So, I'm hot wife Alice. I've been swinging for 10 years.
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Have you? And then got into content 3 years ago now, but I was taking videos since I was like 18.
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Oh, really? And then you just not selling them. Might as well sell them. Yeah, exactly. That's what I do.
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Um and then yeah. Yeah. So, it started off like hotwing, going to different clubs, and then hubby was proper into like watching.
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Then he's like, "Oh, why don't you go off on a date and I'll just sit in the pub." So, that's how that started.
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And then we then I'd see guys separately. And then we got into the cuckolding stuff 2 years ago.
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Oh. So, kind of new, kind of. Still figuring things. It takes a while to kind of find what works, doesn't it?
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Yeah. But he just loves being dominated, does he? See, this is I find interesting 'cause my husband's not submissive. Like he loves me going off and getting pleasured.
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Yeah. But he doesn't like to be humiliated or anything. Maybe sometimes teased a little bit gently by me, not by the guy.
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Not by anyone else. But yeah, it's just interesting how guys are so different with Yeah, 'cause he's like he doesn't like verbal humiliation.
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Okay. But like it's more in the act of getting him to do certain things like wearing his cage, getting him to clean up.
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That's my favorite part. But my husband doesn't do that. Does he not? No. I have to get other pets to do that.
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Fair enough. But no, that's what that's when he first said that I was like, "You sure?" Yeah. Yeah. It seems really strange, doesn't it, at first? But now he eats his own anytime I tell him to. Oh, yeah. Yeah. He loves it.
Speaker A
Oh, sometimes I wish my husband was more submissive, you know. He's not into chastity or anything. Like I have to have to get that from other guys.
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Yeah. No, he does like the cage. And now he's caged most of the time, but that's more of me thing than I know him thing.
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He's got no choice now. So is his cage like 24/7 pretty much like he has to beg to get it taken off?
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Yeah. You could put those puppy dog eyes away. Steven, when he's begging, you can basically use that to your advantage and say, "Well, if you want your key back, you have to do this." Exactly.
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I love that. I know. Yeah. But then it's like really dominant in other things in life. So in work like Yeah.
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Different parts of our relationship. I think in that don't you? I think he just likes to let go sometimes of the control that's just one part of it.
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If I think if a guy was submissive all the time Yeah. it would be a bit difficult I think.
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Yeah. I think also a bit of like the misconception is like people think cucks are just I don't know a bit like loser or like weak or which really annoys me because like he wouldn't have got into that if it wasn't
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like if he wasn't really sure about his sexuality or what he liked or if he was if he wasn't comfortable with himself he wouldn't be going around eating other guys you know. No, true. And it's actually it's quite a brave thing to do.
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I think a lot of guys probably have thoughts like that, but they're not confident enough to actually do it. I get loads of people on my page.
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Keep it inside and with all that shame and guilt and when there's nothing like if you're both having fun, it's all consensual. Like what is the difference?
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I think it comes from like 'cause the word cuckold used to be it's been around for quite a long time, hasn't it? And it was the cuck chair got famous on social media a few years ago, didn't it?
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Oh, I love the cuck chair. Yeah, I know I do. Do you know what my friend calls the armchair in a hotel? There's always one.
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Well, sometimes there are two. It's the cuck chair, isn't it? The cuck chair for cucks.
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Well, should they not be in the kitchen? No cucks. Did I see you reviewing cuck chairs recently on social media?
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We did a little like teasery one. I love that. Yeah, me mads. But yeah, I've got a few cuck chairs dotted around my house like we've just got a new house and I'm like that there definitely needs to be a chair in my corner. Cucks like
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the I'm like yeah pretending it's for my clothes but it's not to sit in.
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But yeah, it used to be like used as a way of insulting a guy. His wife was cheating on him, didn't it?
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And now I think it's evolving. It's a It's actually a really popular thing now, isn't it?
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It's my bestselling content. Yeah, same. And I think people are coming to terms with it a bit more that it's okay. People like the humiliation, the degradation, you know, that kind of thing. But I don't it doesn't always
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have to be about that. No, it's interesting how it's becoming more popular. And I have a theory because I think porn has always been about more about the man's pleasure.
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It's all about me. And women's pleasure is starting to come more into it. I think and that's the whole point in it.
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Yeah. And I think guys are starting to realize like actually it's hot to watch a woman enjoy herself. And if you obviously we don't really that much anymore, but we used to and if you like that's how it started.
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He was like I know how good it feels so I want to share it.
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Yeah. Yeah. And that's what I found really hot about it to start off with. I was like oh yeah. Does your husband swing with other people?
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No. No. We used to like 10 years ago. That's how we started, but nah, not anymore.
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No. Love that. What about you? We didn't used to, but recently we started going with that.
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Um, so yeah, he he's recently got back in touch with an old flame and and I said, "Go for it. See how it feels." That's what I know. People, are you going to cage him forever? And I'm like,
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"No, we're just playing with this dynamic at the minute that we find really hot." And it might change for us. Yeah. Yeah.
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One day it might be like, "Oh, I'm not it's not making me horny anymore, so we'll try something else." It's constantly evolving, isn't it?
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Yeah. But that's life, isn't it? That's what's be like so beautiful. You must have good communication between Yeah, that was the biggest thing. You've got to Yeah, that's what at the beginning. And a lot of fans come onto my site and
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they're like, "Can you share this?" Or, "How do you even bring it up?" Or like, "What do I say?" Like, like you said earlier about having the thoughts of not being able to tell anyone. It's not like these guys go down the pub with
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the mates. Oh, by the way, I want to see my wife get stretched out.
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Can you imagine? Well, some of them do. They probably do and they've had a few drinks.
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Yeah, exactly. What would you say to someone then if they were like, "How do I tell my wife that I want um I think I'm trying to think how we did it." It's like was watching that kind of porn.
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Mhm. And then I think my hubby kind of joked like, "Oh, what about going on Fab Swingers?" I don't know if you ever been on there. I was like back in the day.
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Ye
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and it all escalated from there. But I think just having a bit of open communication about if you do watch porn, watch that kind of porn together or or just suggest like for date night going to a sex club but with no I think
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people are so scared. But if you say like there's literally no expectation, but just like go for a date night just you two to see how you experience it together. I think that can be quite a good thing.
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Yeah, definitely. If she's open to it. if she's open to it. If not, a lot of people don't really know anything about it, so you have to be quite gentle with how you bring it up. I often say
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it took us a whole year before we actually went anywhere. Really? Yeah. We spoke about it for a whole year.
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Wow. That's good, though. You've got to like you can't just dive in. Well, I mean, you can, but you've got to be aware that you're probably going to get hurt and then you have to kind of figure it
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out. And then you just Yeah. Like we'd always we had certain rules and then the next morning we'd talk about them and then oh I didn't like that or I did like that and that was like for for the probably the
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first like 3 years. Oh really? And then after that it's like oh just do what you want. We're obviously meant to be.
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This is getting with other people isn't going to change that we're meant to be together.
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No that's right. It's that it actually it's a huge security thing. And I don't think a lot of people are ready to give your all to someone and that's why they get scared because because you're not giving your whole self to
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someone and so you're not fully communicating or you're scared or you're shy. I don't really know how to put it into words.
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I think maybe people feel like their relationship is disposable. Yeah. Disposable. And it's and then when once that it's never going to work, I don't think.
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No, you have to. Are you married? Yeah. I think that for me getting married, we were together six years before we were married, but getting married really felt me like made me feel unified with him and like this is it
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now. This is my man. Yeah, this man is my God. And no matter what happens, I know he adors me and I adore him too. So like, yeah, go you like they're not bothered.
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I know. It's like for me though, the marriage thing didn't actually make that like we only we got married 10 years in.
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Oh, did he? Yeah. So, for me, like that didn't make much of a difference. But I think maybe once we've been together kind of like five years and we'd started exploring like the lifestyle and then we just kept getting drawn back
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to each other and communicating like we never was like, "Oh, we'll just leave me there." No. You know what I mean? It wasn't like I think as you get older as well that makes a difference.
Speaker A
I think so. Yeah. Ordering wise. Exactly. Right. Should we have a look at some of these questions we've been sent? So, I've got one here. Do you have a [ __ ] in real life? Well, obviously you got your
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husband. Do you have have other cards? Um, so I've got a few online ones which I'm very much enjoying.
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Do I do like virtual key holding and send out daily tasks and kind of see how well they're doing, help them along.
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Sometimes they want a break, sometimes they don't. Can I just butt in and ask a question?
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Virtual key holding. Yeah. They have to have self-control. Yeah. So, you don't hold anyone's keys physically?
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No. No. Give them tasks to make sure that they've still got a co ways, isn't there?
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Yeah. I like the ice one. Yeah. Yeah. I've looked into apps and stuff, but I've never I'm just like, do you know what?
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Some of them look a bit wishy-washy, don't they? I haven't tried it. No. So, yeah. I mean, I call it keyholding. It's basically virtual.
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Yeah. And just the task that I give them. Yeah. They need to prove that they've still got their cage on.
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I love that. Do you have any plans for locktober? Definitely. What are your plans?
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So, I'm going to offer the daily thing. So, I'm going to do two days, 10 days, or the whole month.
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Oh, like different tiers. Yeah, different tiers. Okay. So, that's a good idea cuz if anyone's a newbie and they feel a bit daunted by So, then they can try it and then if they like it, then they can like upgrade
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to it. I like that. That's genius. Mhm. And then obviously we're going to do some videos together.
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So that'll be included one a week all different styles of different cooking and I'm going to include like little personalized videos to help them along.
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Yeah, I'm doing a similar thing really. I've asked them to tip $50 to join and then from the 1st of October they'll get daily check-ins, tasks, little clips. Pretty much the same thing really.
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Yeah. I think that's what they want though, isn't it? Yeah. I think they want the attention.
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Yeah, they do. The personal interaction, of course. It's like girlfriend experience, but not way better.
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Can't blame them really when they've got this big clunky cage on their thing and they're constantly reminded of it. We're just going about our daily lives like I was going to do like a little challenge obviously. So, every time I
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got a new one, put a new key on my necklace. Obviously, I've just got cookies on at the minute. And then like whoever did like the challenge best, but then I got a bit scared. I was like, "Oh, is OF going to like if sometimes if
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they don't win the challenge, is that against to because they're not actually getting everything." So, I got a bit scared cuz I was going to make it into a bit of a competition. But I thought, nah, it's probably not fair.
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No, to be a winner, don't only fans. People can't like tip for like a raffle or something. No.
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Yeah. It makes it a bit tricky. So that's why I was like, I'll do personalized video, daily tasks and checkins, weekly little drop that we're going to film tomorrow.
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Cool. Just It's my first one. So it's the first time I've ever done an event like actually done something for it. Like obviously I've made content and stuff, but yeah, like never done an interactive thing.
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I know. I'm excited because I do have played the game before. I'm like, "Oh, you occasionally like Yeah, I've tried it a bit." I'm like, "How about virtual key holding it?" I'll keep an eye on them every day. Obviously, little
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tribute for that, but I've never tried like a big, you know, like trying to get as many as I can at once.
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Yeah. Yeah. I'm excited. Fun. Have you got any questions? I'm really enjoying chatting with you.
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So easy. And I've got so many questions in my brain that I want to ask.
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I'm just going to run through them because I think we've covered most of them. How did you get into hoting?
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Covered. How did you get into hot wife then? So, I met my husband on a regular dating app. Yeah. A few months in, he started hinting that he liked the idea of seeing me with guys that were more wellendowed than
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him. Yeah. So, we got on Fers. I think it helped that I was um already in the adult industry doing webcams, so I kind of had an understanding of these things. And yeah, it went from there. We were um I was getting little I was going
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and meeting guys and getting little clips for him. Started putting them on only fans and yeah that was like me.
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A lot of people do it that way. I've got all this content like might as well make money out of it.
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I know. I think I was on admire me stuff with and then that never really took off and then as soon as I started OF I was like why did I not go on this like 5 years ago before lockdown and it boomed
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as well. I was like but doesn't matter. How do you approach this lifestyle with a partner? So, we went through that a little bit.
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Yeah. I think one thing I wanted to add to that was if you want to tell your partner but you're scared of their reaction.
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Yeah. Cuz that must be a big cuz it's so normal for us now, isn't it?
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It is like No, like we're not shocked by it at all, but some people if they hadn't heard of it. I'll be honest, actually, when my husband first said he wanted to see me sleep with other people, I did have a few questions.
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Like, I I wanted to know, do you actually love me? Yeah. Yeah. Um, is this okay?
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Yeah. And I also wanted to know like, does this mean you want to have sex with other people?
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Yeah. Like, is that just a way of saying it? Yeah. Yeah. And, you know, Yeah. I just wanted to know if he was serious about me cuz I I'd not been in any relationship like that before. So in my mind I was thinking does he not
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see us going anywhere? Uh like more of just like a fling thing. Yeah. But he said and it made so much sense. He was like well we're quite new together.
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If it doesn't work out then it's no great loss. No. And if it does let's just try it.
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Yeah. If it doesn't we're meant to be together here you are 10 years later.
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Probably not. It actually ended up being really bonding and like this is healthy. This is good.
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I think we're bonding because it does unlock that deeper level of communication. I think because you can't hide anything if you're a bit jealous, which is totally normal or a bit annoyed about something like you can't hide it.
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No, you have to get it out. You have to say something and have those awkward conversations.
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Yeah. Um but yeah, sorry, I' I've digressed. I always suggest making a joke about something to partner or like say a guy wanted to see how his partner reacted.
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He could just maybe say, "Oh, look at that guy over there. He's hot. I bet you'd love to do him, wouldn't you?" Yeah. That's where we started. Like my husband be like, "He's fit, isn't he?" Like, what? And then it kind It just gets in
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your brain a bit, doesn't it? And you're like, "Oh, yeah, he is actually." And that's a way for for a guy to to gently say like, "I'd pick up with it." Yeah, that's a good one.
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Yeah. Yeah. I hadn't even thought like I suppose if you're out and about cuz a lot of girls will be like, "Why are you looking at that girl?" or "Why are you looking at that guy?" Yeah. Yeah.
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Whereas if it doesn't bother you, then that's a good kind of indication, isn't it?
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Definitely. I love your nail. That nail change. Yeah. I got it for locked over.
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I was like, I love it. But I was like, "Do you have a key?" But they didn't have a key, so I was good.
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Should have should have put them to order some in. But they they had chains, so it's like gorgeous. Cookie is very lucky to have a hot wife like you. How do I find one?
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Oh, how do I find a hot wife? Like I get this question quite a lot on my OF, but I'm like, we're both lucky.
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They always think that like the husband or the cook's the lucky one. Maybe because they want I think maybe Yeah, I think we think Yeah, maybe because they want it and they've not found a woman that'll share that
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lifestyle with them or openness. I'm like it goes it works both ways. I think that's a thing to say.
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We are not performing for our husband like we do it for our entertainment. Yeah, exactly.
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Yeah, we're both lucky in this situation. So yeah, I think like the biggest thing is just finding someone that you click with. But I don't know. Is that really hard nowadays? Maybe. I'm so naive. That was h was been like 12 years ago in the
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pub. Did you? Oh, right. No way. Yeah. Like at the end of a night out.
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Doesn't happen much these days, does it? I was going to say like for someone single who wants to get into a hot wife relationship.
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Yeah. Probably like one of the kinky dating apps would be or like um polyamorous dating apps or like going to a a swinging club.
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Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And just kind of chatting to people, getting to know people. Yeah, cuz there are single girls that go to those kind of clubs, aren't there?
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Definitely. And a good [ __ ] is like gold dust. Like, oh my god. Yeah. Dreamy.
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There are women looking for cats. I know. Exactly. This is an interesting one. Why is it that white girls like black guys?
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Now, this is an interesting topic. Do you want to go there? Yeah, we can a little bit. For me personally, I just think visually it looks great. That is literally the only reason.
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So, you do have a preference. Well, do I have a preference? I just like a good big thing. I don't care what race they are as long as it's big.
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So, do I have a preference? No. I just think visually a big. Yeah. And whether it's black or white, it doesn't bother me. I agree. But I think this whole thing about women preferring black guys. I think that's in white guys
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heads. Yeah, I do. And I don't And like Cookie for me just says just visually it looks good. The contrast that's that's that's literally the only on camera.
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On camera. That's He's like that's literally the only reason I think it looks good compared to But like a big still looks great.
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Mhm. Doesn't matter what. Yeah. I don't have a preference either. Like I'm I'm all about the size.
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I can be attached to anyone. I've had sex with some right mingers because I've got a big one.
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Don't look at the face. Here's a here's a hood. Just pop this up for me.
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But then it's not the sex isn't good anyway, is it? I don't know. I've got to have a bit of a vibe with someone.
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Yeah. A lot. whatever color they are, it doesn't as long as there's a good vibe.
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Yeah, I agree. And the chemistry. I just think yeah, guys get it in their head that, oh, you only shoot or you only do that with the certain people and I'm like, it just visually looks nice. I don't like it
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doesn't don't have a preference, but it's just one of those things. Yeah. Yeah. I think white guys seem so obsessed with it. I'm not sure why.
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Maybe it comes from that old saying, once you go black, you never go back.
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And like so many white guys is like just men men fixate on things especially when it involves sex.
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And I always think it is a bit of a human thing like you always want what you can't have.
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Yeah. Yeah. So for me personally, my husband's white, so like I just like a bit of variety when I'm not with him.
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Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Variety. Yeah. That's literally the only That's the beauty of being a hot wife, the variety.
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Yeah. Like not having to have sex with the same person forever. forever. I love it. I love the freedom.
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Yeah, I do. And just not having to like worry or Yeah. No, there's just something very liberating about if you fancy someone if you get a crush on someone rather than keeping it in your brain.
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Yeah. You can tell your partner and be like, I want to I want to do them.
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Yeah, I know. And then you can just go and do it. Exactly. I love that. That is the best bit, actually.
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I know. It's amazing. Or like if you're out and about with your friends and someone's flirting, you don't have to feel guilty about it.
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Yeah. Don't even have to do everything. But the fact that you can just be so Yeah. So free. Sorry, that just made me think of a question I have for you.
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Go, go, go. So, right. So, in my relationship, if I So, I went on a night out Yeah.
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and I saw a guy I liked and I wanted to pull him there and then.
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Yeah. That's a nogo. Oh, okay. For me, for my husband, he wants to be involved in the buildup, know what I'm doing, know that I'm safe, know who they are and all of that.
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Have a conversation with them or Yeah. Oh, no, no, no. He he bothered about talking to them, but he just wants to be involved.
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Okay. I think in some way. Mhm. So, what what what would that be for you if you were on an island? So, at the beginning it was full on like we'd have to be there in the same room or like had
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a conversation about what was okay, what wasn't, and then as we kind of got into the more hot wifeing thing, he was like, "As long as you tell me afterwards or you've got little videos to show me and
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then we can like enjoy that together afterwards or he'd often come join us." Okay. But then just the more cookie he got and then as soon as I started caging him like I'd go off on dates to like
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hotels with people like he kind of knew from the lifestyle like we've been in it 10 years so it' be like a friend of a friend or and he'd be like you don't even have to text me really.
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Yeah. You don't even have to tell me tomorrow if you don't want like ultimate and then so like the whole like consensual cheating thing really like gets turned off.
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See I love that. Yeah, I love that you can Yeah, just text him and surprise him with it like he's got no idea.
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No idea. Like he thought I was out with the girls the other day and I wasn't Oh, really? That's so fun.
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Yeah. Yeah. I think my husband would just worry like I think he likes the idea.
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That's like as long as you say. So it's always So that kind of thing is always with people he's either met before or Yeah. friend of a friend or someone in the industry. So he knows that I'm safe.
Speaker A
Yeah. But then he we also got that trust now that he's like if you're not being safe then you're just an idiot.
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Yeah. Like you're 36 years old like you know what I mean? So we do have that understanding that that's good.
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Yeah. Which is nice cuz then it's obviously got the freedom. Yeah. So yeah it used to be like that but then now as just as we've got more into it Yeah.
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and I think doing content more it's just like yeah do what you like. Do what you want.
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Cool. So another question. Yeah, my husband happy for me to go off and, you know, have sex with someone, but he wouldn't like me staying the night with someone, would he not? I've always got to go home to him.
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Yeah. Like he wouldn't like me he basically he wouldn't like me really spending a lot of time with someone.
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So, it's purely like a physical thing. Yeah. Has to be purely physical. I think he out of the bedroom. He wants me all to himself. He wants as much time with me as he can get. If I was to spend
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the night with a guy, that would be a huge no no. It' be like a like put too romantic for two romantic in his eyes.
Speaker A
See, so we did like at the beginning we never really stayed or we'd like stay at places together.
Speaker A
Mhm. And then as time went on. Yeah. Because he likes the whole cheating thing. He kind of liked that I'd like have a cuddle afterwards and he didn't know what we're doing and Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker A
Like he likes that jealousy a little bit. It's what he thrives off. What makes him horny? So if you like stayed at a hotel all night that would be quite fun thinking of him at home by now. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Especially if
Speaker A
he's caged. Yeah. Yeah. But like I'd get home the next day, I'd have to have that reconnection.
Speaker A
Yeah. If we then had to go have plans or like I hadn't got time in home just to give him half an hour to like reconnect. Then he's like in a bad mood all day. But I kind of like thrive off that too.
Speaker A
I just wanted to reconnect with you. Well, when anything about you cuz he's like Yeah. It's like you've been naughty and I know I've been naughty.
Speaker A
So, it makes me want to do it more. But we also have that understanding as well.
Speaker A
So, but then that's the play dynamic and the power dynamic now. It's like how far I can push him, how far he can push me, though. Cuz it's like, oh, not. It's like, oh, I can tell her to go do it,
Speaker A
but will she? It's like testing my boundaries, telling me to do something. It's like, am I going to come home? He's going to like be all over me or is he just going to be really?
Speaker A
Yeah. Which is exciting. We like playing with dyn dynamics clearly. That's like a little bit risky, but I guess if you've got a good communication and good relationship and we can always make we always work on it.
Speaker A
How do you guys reconnect? Like how do you just spending time together like chatting about like what we've been up to?
Speaker A
Yeah. Having a little snuggle on the sofa. I'll te quite a lot. I'll tease his cage and tell him what I got up to.
Speaker A
Do you? And then sometimes I'll let him out, sometimes I won't. You let him out and like give him a little Yeah.
Speaker A
Yeah. Just don't even need to just do it like two seconds. Yeah. Or edging him. That's like one of my new favorite things when he's not in his cage.
Speaker A
Oh, that's fun. When they get right to the point and then he's like, "Okay, bye now." Yeah. Literally, it's just like spurting out.
Speaker A
evil. I'm not a love. Oh, it wouldn't work if we didn't love each other though. I always think that like like I think you kind of have dynamics with other cooks, especially online, and you can help them through a journey.
Speaker A
But if you've got to have that love there as well, otherwise I don't know, that's how I see it. But yeah, that love and that partnership.
Speaker A
Yeah. If someone doesn't have that and they want to try it out with you, just like helping them through, it's quite an emotional thing. I think it is really intense. Like my husband always says how when I'm with someone, he has all the
Speaker A
emotions going through him at once. Like jealousy and totally normal. Yeah. And like horniness and fear and excitement.
Speaker A
Yeah. And they just want to know, but then they don't want to be annoying or Yeah.
Speaker A
Where's my video? The first time you told me not to send videos, that was a bit of a funny one, but I was like loving life.
Speaker A
Yeah. So I don't even have to think about it. Just going to have fun. Yeah, it's a bit annoying when you're like, "Hold on a second. Let's just stop.
Speaker A
I've just got to fix my husband." Yeah, exactly. But quite often I'll be texting all my subs online at night. This is when we used to when he wasn't caged so much.
Speaker A
Just like bend over and I'll be like we're playing to all my fans and like that's the kind of dynamics that we like.
Speaker A
Yeah. Your fans love. Yeah. Like what are you doing? And I'm like when my fans message me say what you doing I'm like watching tell.
Speaker A
Do you ever get noticed in public? I love this question. I never get noticed in public.
Speaker A
Um I've been recognized once. Once? Yeah. Just one time I was at the train station in Norwich where I live picking someone up for a shoot.
Speaker A
Yeah. And a guy walked over and said, "Are you Ruby?" And I thought, "You're not the guy that I'm picking up." Oh my god.
Speaker A
And he was like, "Am I your only fans?" And I was like, "Oh, cool.
Speaker A
Oh, no way. This has never happened before." He said, "Can I have a selfie?" I was like, "Yeah, I quite like this." But it's never happened.
Speaker A
No. Has it ever happened to you? No. I had someone message saying, "Oh, were you in Oxford services like last weekend?" Scared to talk to Yeah. But it wasn't me.
Speaker A
Oh, yeah. And I have it quite a lot like, "Oh, you were you in this gym in West London?" And I'm like, "No." So, I think I must just have like either look really similar to loads of people or I don't
Speaker A
know. But no one's actually ever come up to me and be like, "Alice, Alice." somewhere.
Speaker A
It's It's a nice feeling. Definitely could get used to it. But when I'm like in full on like work gym mom mode.
Speaker A
Yeah, in real life. I'm not I don't look like hot wife Alice. I don't either.
Speaker A
Sorry. I hate to break it to you. No, I don't. If if I can have a day without makeup on, I'm taking it. I love it.
Speaker A
But then I love dressing up and glam and the performance. There's a time and place for it. Like every day I'm like slobbing out. Yeah.
Speaker A
Just shattering the fantasy. Everyone, does your hubby ever watch live as you play with other men?
Speaker A
Oh, yeah. All the time, is he? Yeah, a lot of the time. Obvious unless you're doing like the whole cheating thing.
Speaker A
Mhm. Um, but yeah, he loves being there either filming, watching if it's just like a random date. We don't really have so much time for that anymore, but we do try occasionally.
Speaker A
Yeah. Is he like in the fully submissive [ __ ] roll when you're doing that?
Speaker A
He is now. Yeah, he used to join in. Yeah. Um but over the last few years he's not bothered. He just likes watching us sit in the cup chair.
Speaker A
Yeah. Cheering me on his pom pom. Yeah. You go, girl. So, do you like talk to him while you're doing Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. him.
Speaker A
Yeah. Like tell him it feels better, how much bigger it is, how pathetic he is.
Speaker A
He loves it. Did you get a kick out of that? Yeah, I love it.
Speaker A
Mhm. Did you always again? It's like it was just a bit of a journey. Like I can't even remember like how we got into chastity. I think did I suggest it or did he honestly need to remember?
Speaker A
He bought a cage, a big metal one that was far too big and he wore it in like one of my videos once and everyone was like that is such I remember now. So he bought a big metal cage just to try it
Speaker A
out and then he liked it and then so we started using it like you know once a month or something and then we started doing a few videos and then it got to the point where all the fans were like
Speaker A
why is he wearing such a massive cage? We had like no clue rattling around.
Speaker A
Yeah, literally. And then we got one that fit and that was comfortable to wear every day. Now he's got one that's comfortable. It's a lot easier.
Speaker A
That's so fun. What kind of cage does he wear? He's got a kinkedked one, so it's plastic.
Speaker A
Okay. It's like not a mesh, but you know, it's got like gaps in it.
Speaker A
Okay. You'll see it in all my videos. Does it have like Does it have a built-in lock or is it a padlock?
Speaker A
It's No, it's got a built-in. So, this goes in and then it the key pulls out with it.
Speaker A
Yeah. So, I think you probably could put a perma lock in it, but it comes with like a little metal.
Speaker A
Yeah. They're good. They are really more comfortable than having a padlock flapping around. Yeah. So, the old one was a padlock that flapped around like the one that was too big.
Speaker A
It's coming back to me cuz we've had this kinkedked one for so long. Well, a year now. Um, and it's just so much better. At least we've got one that fits now. But now I need to get them a
Speaker A
smaller one now. That one's too big. At least you can hear him coming before.
Speaker A
Ding ding ding ding ding. Oh my god. Yeah, that's totally just coming back to me then.
Speaker A
Well, my husband doesn't like to watch. He doesn't. No, he'd rather not be there.
Speaker A
Really? He likes he likes even though he was like, I want to see you get he likes the videos afterwards. He likes he likes talking about it and texting.
Speaker A
Like I I'll finish seeing someone and then I'll text him be like all done.
Speaker A
He'll be like, "How was it?" And I'll tell him all how it was. He's sitting at home text like he loves the texting or texting. He loves it. and a few pictures, but he doesn't actually want to sit and
Speaker A
watch. He watches obviously because he's my cameraman, so like he sees it all the time and like Yeah, he gets a kick out of it, but he'd rather not.
Speaker A
He likes me telling him what I did, the like imagination of it. Yeah. Oh my god, that's fascinating.
Speaker A
And he likes to hear how I felt about it rather than enjoyed it rather than actually watching it there. And which is kind of a bit like the cheating thing.
Speaker A
Yeah. With my cookie, isn't it? I guess. Yeah. They want to know like again, it's just all your pleasure, isn't it? That car about. I think that's what it's about.
Speaker A
Yeah. My husband's definitely a giver in the bedroom. He likes to satisfy, to give pleasure.
Speaker A
Yeah. And the whole big big thing I think maybe in his mind, he felt like that's one thing he couldn't give. And then that kind of developed over time into his kink. That's that's my theory.
Speaker A
That's the theory. Yeah. Has he confirmed it? Um, no. Does he have a small?
Speaker A
He's had um fillers, so it's a bit thicker than it was. Oh my god. Wow. Can you do that?
Speaker A
Yeah. He's had um injections to make it thicker cuz it was quite slim. Yeah.
Speaker A
And pokey. Yeah. So Yeah. Like I definitely preferred something thicker, chunkier. And it is a bit thicker now, but I still prefer something thicker.
Speaker A
And he knows it, so it's fine. Thicker than a snicker. Exactly. We did wonder if it might change the dynamic once he'd had the fillers. Like, would he still want me to do that if he bigger? Um, but no, it didn't change.
Speaker A
No, it was still like what he enjoyed. so in his brain. Yeah. I think some people are just built for it and some people aren't.
Speaker A
Yeah. I don't also like think so how do you get into swimming? How do you get into life? And it's like unless you're in it or into it a little bit. I don't think you can make yourself.
Speaker A
No, I don't think so. You have to be because it's like it's whether it's a kink or it makes your horn like you can't I don't know. I just think you can't like force what makes you horny, can
Speaker A
you? No. No, you can't. training. You can try. Yeah, you can. And you can try new things.
Speaker A
You can like condition yourself or someone else to like something over a long period of time. But yeah, in the moment you can't fake it.
Speaker A
No. Cuz what's the point in that? Exactly. Can't be bothered. What is the thing is the biggest ick a bull has done that's made you go from 100 to zero in seconds?
Speaker A
Oh my god, this is funny. Have you got a story? No, I don't. But I'm trying to think of one now.
Speaker A
Um, biting my lip. I hate that. No. Yeah, I'm not. I think for me mainly it's if they think they can get involved in the dynamic me and my husband.
Speaker A
Oh, so if they start talking down to your husband. No, I don't mind that. But if they think that then they can see me when they want or if they then have control over my time a bit more, then yeah, that gives
Speaker A
me a massive. Yeah, definitely. Like, no. Sorry love. This is your I'm in control here.
Speaker A
I just want you for so then you can off. So for me that's a nick.
Speaker A
Yeah, definitely. Is it smelly balls? Smelly. Oh yeah, definitely. That goes about saying bit musty. A bit musty. I quite like bit of a pheromone thing.
Speaker A
Yeah, but not like Mega Man. Yeah, exactly. We don't need to smoke much. No, I tell you what I hate. Arrogance.
Speaker A
Well, that's the thing. That's the same thing kind of what I was saying, wasn't it? It's like, oh, like guys who think they're being dumb, but they're actually just being a like you can be dumb and be a gent at
Speaker A
the same time. Same time. Yeah, that's so true. You don't have to be an [ __ ] to be a dumb.
Speaker A
No. Or they think they're dumb and they're not. Yeah. They're just being a C. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker A
Or they're just hurting you. Yeah. That's just like a big No. I don't know.
Speaker A
Oh, I always tell them, please leave. Yeah. Get out of my house. Have you ever kicked anyone out?
Speaker A
Ever. We've like left clubs. Okay. And like left rooms. What? Because of people's behavior.
Speaker A
Yeah. But I've never like had to kick anyone out. But I wouldn't invite anyone back to my home that I felt like would end up kicking them out. Does that make sense?
Speaker A
Well, I got a guy I met a guy on Fab and I had a se I had a flat where I used to go to work when my daughter was younger and I couldn't work at home. Yeah.
Speaker A
Um, and I was kind of more relaxed about inviting people cuz he didn't actually live there.
Speaker A
Met this guy on Fab and he looked quite young. He said he was like 20.
Speaker A
But when he when he turned up at the door, he looked about 14. And I invited him in and I was like, "How old are you?" I'm 20. I was like, "I don't think you are." No.
Speaker A
I ended up telling him to leave cuz I just didn't. Did you have to look at his ID? I I must I don't think I even asked to look at his ID. I think I just didn't like the
Speaker A
vibe anyway. Like he was kind of creepy and like I just felt weird. So I was like, "I'm sorry. This isn't working for me. Can you go?" Was it fine?
Speaker A
He was all right. Yeah, he was he just went out the door with his tail between his legs. And then my husband's like, "How how's it going?" And I'm like, "He's gone." Like this wasn't working.
Speaker A
Yeah. Don't want to get arrested doing it for me. No. Exactly. No. People come to me and I'm like 25 or over is a key thing for me.
Speaker A
Yeah. You don't want too baby face. No. And I don't want to like get into trouble.
Speaker A
No. That's a big consent is a big Oh god. Absolutely. Big thing. So got to be grown up enough to handle all this.
Speaker A
Exactly. Think you can handle it? Yeah. This then goes on to what made you get into the cook lifestyle which we've spoke about. What do you get from locking subs in chastity? And do you actually enjoy being dominant with the
Speaker A
beaters? Right. So, I'll ask you first. What do I get from it? The control is just fun and power dynamics I find really hot. Like the fact that I I don't know why, but just seeing a guy locked in a cage and just seeing
Speaker A
his hands going for it and he can't do anything and the ball swelling. Yeah.
Speaker A
whilst I'm having fun. I find that really exciting. And I can't explain why. No, I can't.
Speaker A
But it's just fun, isn't it? Fun on so many different levels. Yeah. Also, like the power it gives you cuz when you've got someone locked, they get more and more desperate.
Speaker A
Yeah. And more and more desperate for for your needs. Yes. Yeah. And you can ask anything you want from them because they're like, I'll do anything.
Speaker A
And I I really enjoy that. Yeah. I enjoy being a bit evil sometimes. Well, so do I. I think we've covered that, haven't we?
Speaker A
Do you get a kick out of being nasty sometimes? [Music] I'm trying to think like do I get a kick of being nasty? Not nasty, just the control.
Speaker A
Yeah, I think and like like you said, like getting them to do things that maybe they wouldn't normally.
Speaker A
like you getting all the pleasure and like they've not made it happen but they're the one that's like encouraged it yet they're the ones being deprived.
Speaker A
Yeah. Exactly. But then that again it's like it's kind of wicked but it's still everyone's having fun and enjoying it.
Speaker A
Yeah. Oh god. If I thought somebody wasn't enjoying it. No. No. Absolutely not. But also, I love the dynamic of me being dominant to the beaters and like the subs, but then the bull me being submissive to the bull.
Speaker A
Oh, yeah. So, it's like a whole And then I like the bull being dominant to the sub as well.
Speaker A
Okay. To the guy that's caged or I mean it doesn't even have to be caged to be honest.
Speaker A
No. But just like that power dynamic. Mhm. Me too. That's in that situation like once you stop doing theual stuff like the dynamic might change again.
Speaker A
Oh yeah. But in that like when it's like in the horny moment just like getting Yeah.
Speaker A
getting the guys to do whatever you want. Mhm. Clean up. Yeah. I spray it all over.
Speaker A
Clean up time. It's so lovely. It's so intimate, isn't it? Yeah, that's one of the things actually because we do do quite a lot of intimacy at the end like doing the kissing or like having a little cuddle
Speaker A
or or one of them took him to the shower and we did some water sports and everyone's like I was like so beautiful you're actually in love. I'm like yeah it's lovely and even when you're like doming someone like you don't have to be
Speaker A
cruel. No, it's more like nurturing in a way is it? that. Yeah, I think it is. Like the other day, was it yesterday? I had a cookie sub come on and was like, "Oh, I like it when you and the bull humiliate
Speaker A
the cook like verbally, blah blah blah." So, I sent him two of like my bestselling videos and I was like, it's not like hugely humiliating, but like just the act in itself for me is humiliating enough the way I do it.
Speaker A
Um, and then he wrote back and was like, "Oh my god, that's one of the best I've ever seen." Yeah, I feel like I don't need to be that verbally degrading or humiliating.
Speaker A
It's just the acts that I do and the way I do it is is enough.
Speaker A
There are some trigger words that are good to throw out there. And that works for some people as well.
Speaker A
My last one is what's left on your bucket list. This is a good ending.
Speaker A
Oh yeah, that is a good one. Go on then. What's left on your bucket list? Does it mean like things within the lifestyle that you haven't done yet?
Speaker A
Maybe. Or just in general. Or just in general. Let's do both. Yeah. So, in the lifestyle, I think just kind of carry on with the dynamic I have.
Speaker A
See how many cooks I can get? Yeah. Do you want to have like more real life?
Speaker A
Yeah, I think. Yeah. How would your hubby feel about that? Um, I think he'd quite enjoy it.
Speaker A
Yeah. Yeah. Would he be like top cup? It depend, wouldn't it, on the dynamic?
Speaker A
Would he be dominant to the the other guy? He might be. Yeah. And then they're at the bottom. It's like the bull me.
Speaker A
Yeah. Then him. Oh, that's a good idea, isn't it? Having a cook off. Yeah.
Speaker A
You can make them compete with each other. Exactly. In real life. Just not Who gets to do the clean out be like fighting each other?
Speaker A
Oh my god. that has to be done. That's like new video. It's all This is what where we get all our ideas from. We talk about like this all the time and I'm like, "Okay, we actually have to film
Speaker A
this now so we can show everyone what goes through our heads." Like we spoke about before, like just see where it goes. Like it is very fluid. We might not be in this dynamic in 5 years time, but just again just being open to it, I
Speaker A
think, is a big thing. And in life, who knows? We don't we don't live on the boat anymore. This is now my studio.
Speaker A
Yeah. See see what happens. Cool. What else is on your bucket list? Lots of traveling.
Speaker A
Lots of traveling. Yeah, I love traveling. Where you going to go? We're going to New York in a few weeks.
Speaker A
Oh, cool. Yeah. Well, for Halloween. Oh, America and Halloween is brilliant. I know. I'm so excited.
Speaker A
And then next year we're going skiing. We've done we've done like Asia. We've got friends in Japan.
Speaker A
Nice. Want to go there again and like life plan. I don't know. I'm very like in the moment. I just see what like you never know what tomorrow's going to bring, didn't you?
Speaker A
Yeah. I can tell that about you. Like type of person who would live on a boat.
Speaker A
I can imagine you're quite like spontaneous and definitely. Yeah. And I just think like I'm sure it might just go enjoy it. I haven't going to happen tomorrow. Absolutely.
Speaker A
So, yeah. Cool. What about you? On my bucket list, I think I've done everything.
Speaker A
That's so good. I like what we're doing. Yeah. I don't know. Unless Unless something changes. I'm quite happy with how things are for now. I think we'll see how it goes with with my hubby and his bit on the side.
Speaker A
I don't know what exciting where that will go. No, I don't know if he'll chat to other women. um or if it will just be her. I don't know.
Speaker A
But that's quite that's fine. I'm happy him to have that to himself. Like I'm not excited by it. I'm not by it. It's nice to see him come home with a big grin on his face and he's like he's
Speaker A
happy cuz he's like I said, he's a giver and it's and he's got skills, you know, and I I I almost be like, "Yeah, go show off your skills. That's my man." Like skill, baby. Skill.
Speaker A
That's what most like about me. Oh, really? So, you're quite happy I think for now.
Speaker A
Yeah. Um, working on my house. Bought a house last year and there's so much to do.
Speaker A
So, yeah, just focusing on doing more stuff with that really at the moment. Can't really think about traveling. We just got a puppy, so we're not going to be traveling for a while. We're going to the Peak District next week, but
Speaker A
I want to go climb some more mountains. Yeah. This is so wholesome ending, isn't it?
Speaker A
It is. Yeah. Wholesome people. Even though we like getting by massive giant, like we're actually very damn sad.
Speaker A
Yeah. Oh, thank you so much for watching our chat. I really enjoy chatting with you.
Speaker A
I did. I could chat to you all night. I know. Honestly, just leave it rolling.
Speaker A
Yeah. My cheeks are sore from smiling so much and it's weird. I'm very excited for tomorrow.
Speaker A
Yeah. We've got some fun stuff planned. haven't we? Yeah. I can't wait. It's going to be awesome.
Speaker A
I do like this little like intro bit then we get to know each other and then when we get down to the business Yeah.
Speaker A
It's going to be so easy. Yeah. And it's nice as well sharing the differences in our relationship. I find it and the different dynamics. But that's the whole point in the lifestyle, isn't it? Oh my god. We're just going to carry
Speaker A
on talking now, aren't we? I know we are. Right. But there are different there's just a whole It's like life. There's a whole spectrum, isn't there?
Speaker A
Yeah. Constantly evolving. Yeah. Okay. Okay. Well, thank you for watching everybody. I hope you found it informative.
Speaker A
Yeah. Any questions, just ask. Yeah. And I will put Alice's links in the description so you can go and check her out. Um, thank you so much.
Speaker A
Yeah. Thank you. Thanks for coming. Anytime.
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