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Boy Abunda hosts a public speaking workshop at Far Eastern University, sharing tips on confidence, gestures, and overcoming fear.
Key Takeaways
- Confidence in public speaking comes from preparation and knowing your message.
- Personalized gestures and power poses help convey confidence and presence on stage.
- Fear and anxiety are natural but can be managed by changing mindset and focusing on positive memories.
- Listening to the audience and adapting in real-time enhances engagement and energy.
- There is no one correct way to deliver a speech; flexibility and authenticity matter.
What the video covers
- Boy Abunda conducts a public speaking workshop at Far Eastern University, engaging with students and guests.
- Discussion on the importance of confidence and personal gestures in public speaking.
- Explanation of the 'power pose' and movement classes to help speakers feel comfortable on stage.
- Confidence is defined as being prepared and knowing what you want to say, not the absence of doubt.
- Advice on listening to the audience and adapting to the moment during a speech.
- Fear of public speaking is described as expecting something to go wrong, with anxiety being repetitive fear.
- Strategies to overcome fear include changing mindset and focusing on positive past experiences.
- Encouragement to use cue cards or other aids to feel comfortable while speaking.
- Mention of the 'adobo style' concept, emphasizing there is no single way to deliver a speech.
- Importance of balancing confidence without becoming overconfident, which can alienate the audience.
Chapters
- 00:00Introduction and Workshop Overview
- 02:43Power Poses and Movement for Confidence
- 05:49Adapting to the Audience and Using Cue Cards
- 08:31Understanding Fear and Anxiety in Public Speaking
- 11:47The Adobo Style and Speech Flexibility
- 17:16Confidence vs Overconfidence
- 22:36Exercises to Overcome Fear and Build Confidence
- 31:01Closing Remarks and Final Thoughts
Full Transcript — Download SRT & Markdown
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proud i'm so happy to be here at the far eastern university and today we're going to talk about public speaking i'll be taking questions from bb business andre [Laughter] i'm very excited for it it's so nice to see yeah i'd like i'd love
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[Music] So, [Music] [Music] welcome to The Bottom Line, and I'm so proud. I'm so happy to be here at Far Eastern University. Today, we're going to talk about public speaking. I'll be taking questions from BB Business Andre. [Laughter] I'm very excited for it. It's so nice to see you. Yeah, I'd love to answer your questions, and we have students from Far Eastern University. Thank you for having us here on this very, very historic stage.
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speaking what are certain gestures that you can do during public speaking to show confidence to persuade confidence okay let's go to the gestures and gestures um and some people are bothered because they love to say uh you know and uh
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Okay, let's start, Andre. I'm sure we all know here confidence is very important in public speaking. What are certain gestures that you can do during public speaking to show confidence, to persuade confidence?
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to position certain things in my public speaking classes what we discover more than the gestures because uh the gestures should really be personal it's uh you know when it's a bit too much we'll say control it a bit
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Okay, let's go to the gestures. Some people are bothered because they love to say, you know, and uh. These are gestures that you're not even conscious of. My manga, there are people who would talk and would just put their hands here, the people who talk who would use this one, or the people who talk here. So, there are no hard rules about where to position certain things. In my public speaking classes, what we discover more than the gestures, because the gestures should really be personal. It's, you know, when it's a bit too much, we'll say control it a bit because it can be distracting. But what we work on is the power pose.
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this when you get on stage this is the reason why in my public speaking classes we have movement classes to uh help students discover discover you know movement then be there so every time you're called on stage ladies and gentlemen please welcome jays
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Okay, I'll explain to you what it is before I talk about confidence. What's your name? Jace? Jason here? Okay. When you stand, always remember this when you get on stage. This is the reason why in my public speaking classes, we have movement classes to help students discover, discover, you know, movement, then be there. So every time you're called on stage, ladies and gentlemen, please welcome Jays, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Go to that position. You cannot be confident if you're not comfortable. I'm saying you cannot be confident if you're not comfortable. So thank you, Chase. And power pose, we practice that. Come here, kind of our mic. What's your name? Jolan? What's your power pose? Kaliwa, kanan, asi? It's here. Merun grito. So each one of you discover that, and then that helps build the confidence.
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come here uh kind of our mic um what what's your name jolan what's your power pose kaliwa kanan asi it's here merun grito so each one of you discover that and then that helps build the confidence okay thank you all right so confidence
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Okay, thank you. All right, so confidence, simply said, in my public speaking classes, it's defined as knowing that you can do what you want to do, is knowing that you can say what you want to say because, uh, is it the absence of doubt? That's a bit too much. That's absolute because you cannot have absolutely no doubt at all. It is good to have doubts once in a while. So confidence, confidence is knowing that you can deliver what you're supposed to deliver. You're supposed to talk about my life inside the PBB. So what do you do? Prepare. Prepare mo because you cannot narrate everything that happened inside PBB element. My first week, when I met Lou, blah, blah, blah, blah. You make the plan.
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absolute because you cannot have absolutely no uh doubt at all it is good to have doubts once in a while so confidence confidence is knowing that you can deliver what you're supposed to deliver you're supposed to talk about
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Okay, you have a structure. This is going ahead of the story in public speaking. Maintain a tawa. Okay, imagine my roof, my body of the house is the message. What do I want to say? What is my story? What is my message? Yumba, the pathway, as I would call it, the pathway because this adds to confidence. You cannot be confident when you don't know what you want to say. Are the various techniques? How do I begin a speech? How do I end the speech? Stories, the books that you read, and so having said that, confidence is being ready not just in terms of what you want to say but be ready to listen to the moment, and that's very difficult.
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plan okay uh you have a structure this is going ahead of the story in public speaking maintain a tawa okay imagine my roof my body of the house is the message what do i want to say what is my story what is my
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So you wanted to talk about your life inside the PB house. Nagodesh, blah, blah, blah. You had no intentions of talking about Lou, for example, and suddenly you hear a whisper and says no, a whisper from the audience. Now, don't disregard that. Okay, so you listen, Andre. You listen to the audience, and you listen to yourself, and you want to raise that level of energy. And by the way, I just wanted to share with you my story when I first saw Lou. My God, oh my God. And then I know and take away that I realized when I came out of the house of Kuya, a new life began. I'm saying, okay, so my structure, my mental structure. Let me instruct: do not be afraid to use cue cards if you have to. Whatever makes you comfortable, go ahead.
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uh stories uh the books that you read and uh so having said that confidence is being ready not just in terms of what you want to say but be ready to listen to the moment and that's very difficult
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[Music] It's always been my fear, public speaking. You know, being a model, they usually watch me because of the clothes, but now they watch me because of who I am, and I really want to use my voice properly. So basic question, Paul, what is usually the reason behind fear of public speaking? You have a wonderful voice. Whoever tells you that you don't have a wonderful voice is lying. Okay, fear, let's define this. Okay, and fear in public speaking is knowing that something is going to go wrong. That's how I define it. Anxiety is repeating it. Alibaba, I'm about to do a speech on, let's say, LGBT rights backstage. That's being afraid, just being fearful. When I keep on repeating it, and when you combine both, that's deadly.
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says no a whisper from the audience now don't disregard that okay so you you listen andre you listen to the audience and you listen to yourself and you want to uh raise that level of energy and by the way i just wanted to share
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Oh, because when you tell your mind, your mind is masonry. When you tell your mind that you're going to forget, you will forget. Um, plaza, because I totally forgot. This becomes a frame of reference. So every time you are called to speak before a public, you remember that. You remember that. Okay, anxiety. There are people who are born shy. There are people who are born shy. Now, being public speaking frame of reference, I graded recitation. When you speak before a public, just thinking that someone is watching them or some people are watching them. How do you solve that, Masipan? Stop remembering the time when you were embarrassed. Stop remembering the time when you failed in the graded recitation. Change your mindset. Change your memory so that when you enter a stage, you must have done something nice in your life. You were applauded. So change it.
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mental structure let me instruct do not be afraid to use cue cards if you have to whatever makes you comfortable go ahead [Music] it's always been my fear public speaking you know being a model they usually watch me because of the
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And public speakers do not practice in front of the mirror. Stop practicing because you are not your audience. Unlike acting, I don't know with actors, but here, stop practicing. Practice in front of a friend. Andre, can you stand there? I'm going to deliver a speech. Good evening, ladies and gentlemen. You're actually talking to someone. Don't practice in front of a mirror. Okay, just as a tip. Thank you. You're welcome.
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wonderful voice it's lying okay uh fear let's define this okay and fear in public speaking is knowing that something is going to go wrong that's how i define it anxiety is repeating it alibaba i'm i'm about to do a speech on let's
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Uh, I have a question. So, for example, like especially when we do talks, for example, the topic is really long. Okay, so it tends to go maybe 30, 40, 50 minutes in, and then you kind of see the audience kind of dozing off. So what are the curveballs that you throw to the audience so that babalic attention? Shorten it? Yeah, cut it. Yeah. Also, make sure that when you structure a speech, you know it's flexible.
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going to forget you will forget um plaza because i totally forgot this becomes a frame of reference so every time you are called to speak before a public you remember that you remember that okay anxiety there are people who are born
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Okay, is, um, who had so much insecurities, and then the short of the long story is that he, she came to me and said, you know, are you Guns, uh, Son, or Chris, or whatever? Yes, I am. I'd like to say thank you to you because ever since I started to wear your clothes, I feel so good. That’s your pathway. Okay, so here to say thank you because I'd like to assure you that you, we put in so much hard work into every piece. Blah, blah, blah. Anecdotes to support your message, to explain your message. By the third notice, you've delivered your message. Okay, and go to your end, and the best way to end is to go to your beginning and tie it up. You know, when you conclude, don't forget your message, etc., etc.
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stop remembering the time when you were embarrassed stop remembering the time when you failed in the graded recitation change your mindset change your memory so that when you enter a stage you must have done something nice in your life
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So, I like the question because it's audience-driven. Remember, when you do public speaking, you're speaking before a public. At one point in history, I just wanted to mention this, it was called oratory. It was the highest form of art, and it was best delivered during times of chaos, of war. Mapuso, that's a very good question. So don't leave your baha'i kubo.
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can you stand there uh i'm going to deliver a speech good evening ladies and gentlemen you're actually talking to someone don't practice in front of a mirror okay just as a tip thank you you're welcome uh i have a
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And can I just introduce you to the concept very briefly about the adobo style? Ilan, there is no one way to do a speech. So if you have a message and you have the pathway and you have the takeaway, you can even be...
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kind of dozing off so what are the curve balls that you throw to the audience so that babalic attention shorten it yeah cut it yeah also make sure that when you structure a speech you know it's flexible okay
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is um uh who had so much insecurities and then the short of the long story is that he she came to me and said you know are you guns uh son or chris or whatever yes i am i'd like
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to say thank you to you because ever since i started to wear your clothes i feel so good that that's your pathway okay so here to say thank you because i'd like to assure you that you we put in so much
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hard work into every piece blah blah blah anecdotes to support your message to explain your message by the third notice you've delivered your message okay and go to your end and the best way to end is to go to your
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beginning and tie it up you know uh when you conclude don't forget your your message etc etc so um i like the question because it's audience driven remember when you do public speaking you're speaking before a public at one point in history
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i just wanted to mention this it was called oratory it was the highest form of art and it was best delivered during times of chaos of war mapuso that's a very good question so don't don't leave your baha'i kubo
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and can i just introduce you the concept very briefly about the adobo style ilan there is no one way to do a speech so if you have a message and you have the pathway and you have the takeaway
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you can even begin at the end so there's so much freedom on how you structure a speech depends on how you want to do it your question good evening so my question is aside from making the baha'i kubo and
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making a structure of your speech how do you prepare um for a speaking engagement for like saying like artists you have to be hydrated because i talk every day and you really have my life is water water is life
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let me tell you a story in 2017 aiki noted the asia professional speakers conference in singapore they invited me to keynote this is an organization of some of the most expensive speakers in asia because how do you deliver a speech
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before some of the best speakers in asia story of the ritual i was not nervous i was jittery because i wasn't sure hindi to speak before speakers i was unsure don't realize don't be afraid to go into spaces in
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your life that you're afraid because in those spaces magic happens and sometimes i would say du un salud where you are uncertain where you are doubtful god resides he'll save you the night before that i went on stage
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but that was a ballroom because that's a ritual when i am not sure i wanted to i wanted to know the space i wanted to know san anton mesa pudito i wanted to walk i wanted to see where my lights were i
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wanted to see kung sang slides so i kept on walking so staged creating good vibes you know that post that positive vibes and then in the middle of my walk through i was walking my boss isn't examining excuse me we don't allow anybody in the
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ballroom i'm sorry i'm speaking tomorrow i just wanted to familiarize myself with the space boy give me the words i always pray even to this very day before i open tonight boy abunda the bottom line i always say lord give me the words but
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not too much just give me the words so i did my speech i did my so how dare this guy break the rules so i delivered my speech i got a standing ovation okay so angry [Music] i do that i do breathing which
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is very effective for public speakers you do this exercise when you breathe breathe in remember the best memories something that makes you smile something remember something that makes you smile is it nanai is it my girlfriend my boyfriend
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remember something is it andre is it lu remember pugna breathe in breathe it out and smile and breathe it out and smile and then walk to your space walk to your stage and when you walk to the stage
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you have your intent it's a declaration we call that a declaration on stage i will make them buy my clothes i will make them fall in love with me i will make them clap i will make them stand after the speech
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as you're walking on stage that is your declaration you'll do it yeah okay questions hi i am hansen menu bug bo from uh institute of accounts and business and finance i just want to ask you to avoid regarding
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confidence in confidence it's a key but is overconfidence a bad thing it is it is because your audience notices that when you are overconfident you deliver the message to your audience that you are above them i like the
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buddhist principle of nobody's above you and nobody is lower than you you got a point so overconfidence can be bothersome and it can be condescending it can distract so young as a speaker um i also have the time of
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so what do you think is the best way to eliminate those um you would know that yes i love it that you raised the idea of overconfidence because it can be it can be negative it can be a
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bang perception it and it can be in the voice it can be in uh you know in the way you move etc it's nice to be cool heidi the boy i'm john christian yes from the institute of tourism and
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hotel management i just want to ask how do we deal with create expo for example when we are in a pageant for example and you're faced with audience aside from the audience you are faced with very keen judges
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how do you deal with critics prepare for them jolie in my last interview with aunt janila jolie um two seconds oh will you go to heaven i'm not thinking about it my mega you have to be quick but there are
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techniques uh the verbal clues the context clues seizing the noun okay problem as speaking are us we get in the way why because i'm not good enough i'm not pretty enough nobody is listening i was not born a
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speaker blah blah blah etc we get in the way we get in the way that's why we do uh an exercise called the freedom exercise because we always want to be correct we always want to be brilliant you don't have to there are things that
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you don't know you can commit mistakes you can mispronounce words that's okay perfection is boring okay perfection is boring the exercise is okay uh can i have this please what is this and this is a freedom exercise this is
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what a pen is stop you know being perfect uh the freedom exercise is simply call this anything except for what it is and shout it yawn go um okay i'll go go a lot go go you know you know what i'm saying one
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time you have to relax you know call this any other name go andre adobo tomato until you laugh at yourself relax until you laugh you know it's the way to do it um you you don't have to be right
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because you know we have this sense that we always have to be right you don't have to be always right thank you based on my personal experience also how do you overcome a tendency of saying um or uh that's not a problem
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just minimize it because everybody does um but when you overdo it it becomes bothersome it becomes you know um but be conscious about it by being conscious about it you're recognizing and you're acknowledging that you can control it
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okay another one is learn how to pause normally um [Music] take your time you're not going to be brought to court simply because you're paused again it's it's that pleasure of oh my god what do they think of me
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again that validation that a fear of criticism change that frame of reference change that frame of reference are you getting it okay my name is neha orkuray and i'm actually an international student so what i wanted to ask was do you
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consider public speaking a talent or a skill that can be developed by anyone i'd like to think as a teacher that it's a skill that can be developed but some are better some are not you know do you call that talent maybe
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but it is not a talent that is not accessible why because public speaking is about storytelling it's about storytelling but if you can combine talent talent uh for lack of a better word and skill that's the best okay in conclusion
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this is the most powerful technique in public speaking you go to your instinct and you go to your rationale instinct is in our verbal uh exercises the instinct exercise is your uh raw response to a verbal uh trigger to a verbal uh
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stimulus you know like for example and i say uh lou when i say red what comes to mind don't think huh don't think when i say black chicken okay uh it's it's something that you don't have to be intelligent it's it's
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visceral it's visceral so when i say maganda comes mind yeah when i say love what comes to mind family okay so guys when you do your instant exercises fun on your own do that exercise develop your instinct you the first reaction the first
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reaction as opposed to the rationality exercise that goes uh when i say uh the philippines what comes to mind and why powerful because because they're open-minded okay so what what andre is doing now is he is reasoning because rationality is a
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state of being logical and ris and reasonable so these are two very powerful exercises uh you have the instinct and you have the rationality exercises keep on doing them keep on doing them plus when you add the element of listening
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which is a very very powerful gadget tool in public speaking you've got it made last give me a word um power power um pinaka powerful natasha always be composed uh especially in situations the pyramid for example it's a very embarrassing
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moment or parang your most embarrassing moment ever because we're closing the show okay uh during during my grade 8 speech because i was i was chosen to do a speech in front of everybody and i decided not to bring cue
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cards because i wanted to be different and then midway through my my speech all of a sudden i just had this mental breakdown i didn't know what to do so in front of like 700 people i was like maybe 13 14 at the time
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i was just silent and then everybody was just staring at me and then everybody just started clapping and i didn't know what to do and that was the most embarrassing moment but for some reason somehow some way i was able to recover
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and finish the whole thing take me to your house to your home after that speech what happened who was talking to you um my my parents are my sisters what do you remember your sisters for example telling you
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um they were like wow you did a good job obviously you messed up and i was like how are you as a brother i'm very protective in in what way um something like that something like that and then for example they they oh
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yeah this guy who talked to me and i was like whoo then i'll see the pictures have you have you gotten into trouble because you've been a very you know overprotective brother um uh yes up to what point do they like
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i mean let's let's be very honest do your sisters like uh um well they they've met her like two or three times no you're not answering my question do you gusto my sister's music oh yeah okay how how did they express
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that uh well they the first they they they told me like they they watch the whole thing obviously of course and then they were like oh my gosh so this is what happened to you this this like oh my gosh
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she she did this and you did this and i was like oh and then it's like oh you guys drive and i was like okay no what about mom um what what does she say about kiara ah she
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she was just like oh who is this girl and stuff like that oh how is she different from from the other girls that you've dated or whatever so i would how many girlfriends have you had one just one
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guys the exercise that we're doing is we started with what word power now just by listening of course uh he's the passive and i'm the dominant uh uh figure in the conversation prediane by becoming passive dominant dominant dominant dominant passive you know
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in advanced classes we we can't do this but what i'm trying to say is you started one word and you can do conversations you can do conversations because we're both interested and he has a story and he's not telling the story of anyone
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he's not telling the story of anyone he's telling his story and that's powerful okay i wish i had more time with you and i wish to be able to come back to the far eastern university to be able to
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share uh public speaking techniques and uh the joy of public speaking with you last question what did you learn today perspective perspective can you explain that you shed the light on a different term that you you oftentimes look down or sometimes
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that you fear so uh like what you said there are certain um aspects that we look in a negative way so when we give that or show that in a different perspective we use that as a tool or um
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something that we could use for ourselves so like uh what he said uh composure so uh other people would say that composure or talent or overconfidence is something that is bad but uh for others they could use it as their
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own strengths thank you for their for themselves [Music] thank you for saying that because in summary um i always say that public speaking is about your core it's about your truth it's about your story remember that line of cat
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in the miss universe i it came for me the line of maya angelou i come as one i stand as 10 000. she said 104 million filipinos because when you stand before an audience you're not alone you're the
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story of your parents or the story of your experiences you're the story of your ancestors so in one line when i teach public speaking i always say i will help you discover your power to tell your story and that's the bottom line filipinas
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good night [Music] hi people of the philippines and people of the world hit the button below and you will be subscribing to the boy abunda talk channel on youtube let's keep talking
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