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A detailed analysis of a unique relationship story involving divorce, challenges, and personal reflections by Максим Дивертито.

Key Takeaways

Long-term relationships can face unexpected challenges, especially with major life changes like moving abroad.
Financial and emotional burdens often disproportionately affect one partner, leading to strain.
Publicly sharing breakup stories can influence social behavior and relationship expectations.
Trust and self-respect are fundamental but can be eroded by ongoing conflicts and misunderstandings.
Open communication and mutual support are crucial to sustaining healthy relationships.

What the video covers

The video analyzes a popular relationship story from Alex Lyusik's channel about why he got divorced.
Максим Dивертито shares his commentary and perspective on the story and its broader implications.
The story covers a 7-year relationship, marriage, and eventual divorce with detailed personal experiences.
Key challenges include moving to a new country, financial struggles, and emotional exhaustion.
The video discusses the trend of public airing of grievances post-breakup among influencers.
It highlights the emotional toll and complexities of long-term relationships and breakups.
The narrator emphasizes trust, self-respect, and the impact of external pressures on relationships.
The story is divided into chapters covering different phases and critical moments in the relationship.
The video encourages viewers to reflect on relationship dynamics and the consequences of public conflicts.
Максим invites audience engagement through comments, likes, and subscriptions.

Chapters

What is the main topic of the video?

The video analyzes a detailed relationship story about divorce, focusing on personal challenges, emotional struggles, and the impact of public airing of grievances.

Why did Максим Дивертито decide to comment on this story?

He was prompted by numerous viewer requests and felt the story crossed important lines, warranting his perspective and commentary.

What are some key challenges faced in the relationship discussed?

Key challenges include moving to a new country, financial difficulties, emotional exhaustion, and issues with trust and communication.

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Hello everyone. Two days ago, on the Alex Lyusik channel, the guy has 685,000 subscribers. And to my shame, I hadn't even heard of this channel until now. So, two days ago, he released a video on his channel titled "Why I Got Divorced." At the moment, it already has half a million views. And over these two days, I've received a huge number of messages in my DMs asking me to take a look at this episode. Because you're saying this is a relationship story unlike anything we've analyzed on the channel before. Some promise and guarantee that it will make it into the top three relationship stories in the history of this channel. Others say the top five. In short, I hope it will be both interesting and useful. Everything is as always. I hope that while watching, you'll subscribe to the channel if you haven't already, hit the like button, and leave your comments.

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Also, everything as always. We'll figure it out as we go. The episode is massive. In the original, the guy spends almost 2 hours and 10 minutes telling his relationship story. So, with my commentary, the episode could potentially last 4 hours. That's a lot.

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We most likely won't be able to handle it in one sitting. Anyway, I'll watch and comment on an hour or an hour and a half today, and then together with you, collectively, we'll decide whether to make a sequel or not. Let's go.

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Hello everyone. You don't often see videos of this format on my channel, but in my opinion, this is crossing all lines. That's why I decided to tell my version of events. I mean, I got divorced over a year and a half ago,

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and complaints and insinuations are still being thrown my way. And it's all in a vein that I absolutely don't like.

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It has reached the point where it's now affecting my current partner, meaning there are veiled insults directed at her. Veiled insults are insults, too.

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That's why I decided to tell my side of the story, why I got divorced, all the timing, and how it all happened. This video has no goal. To offend, insult, or portray anyone in a bad light. It's more just my way of defending myself

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because nobody has heard my version of the story, as I chose not to talk for a year and a half. I thought that if I just ignored it, it would be perceived as a good gesture, as me protecting the

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person. But instead, it was perceived either as weakness or something else. I don't understand. That is why today I will tell you, well, I will comment. I don't know what he means by "if we don't react to it."

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His former choice, his very own wife, may have been pouring buckets of filth on him. But in that case, reacting is likely the right decision. However, there is a current trend among influencers, bloggers, and celebrities where, as soon as they end a

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relationship, they immediately pour dirt—an enormous amount of dirt—on their partner. They immediately go to some interviewer. In general, if we even just take the Ukrainian-language YouTube space, I notice that practically every celebrity couple we have, as soon as they break up, the

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girl goes to some blogger who films interviews, pours out filth about her partner, and the guy goes to another blogger who does interviews or podcasts and also pours out filth on her. And what is the problem? People have always

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copied, and will always copy, popular figures. In the past, people watched how others dressed on TV and how they behaved. Now, they also copy the behavior and actions of bloggers from Instagram and YouTube. And so, unfortunately, the trend in the future

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will definitely be that as soon as a couple splits, instead of just starting to move on and shape their new life, they will pour buckets of filth on their partner to their loved ones, their circle, and even on their own—

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perhaps not very popular—social media pages; even if it's for 100, 500, or 1,000 people, they will still trash the partner they lived with for several years. Therefore, if a guy hasn't done anything like that for a long time,

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hats off to him. At the same time, I understand that if his partner had been pouring filth on him all this time, at some point, the last straw could break his patience, and he’d think: "No, no, I don't want to stay silent; silence

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isn't beneficial, it's not needed by anyone, and this silence only makes things worse for me." Why? Fair point.

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I will say in advance how my relationships went. The story is fictional, and any coincidences are accidental. These are not real people.

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These are not real names. All of this is just a product of my sick fantasies.

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And we will start from this point. All of this is quite difficult for me, so please don't judge me too harshly. But the whole story, of course, is up to your judgment. Write what you think about it. I have divided this story

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into chapters. And we will start with the introduction. I was in a relationship with my ex-wife for 7 years. We met around 2018, got married around 2020, and split up on February 14, 2025. These are the introductory facts. She and I met in Moscow and

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lived in Moscow for 4 years. And then 2022 arrives. Chapter one. Where did everything start to fall apart, in my opinion? It started in Georgia, when we moved there in 2022. And moving is already very difficult. I mean, it’s

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mentally challenging to move to another country with a different culture. Even if there are many Russian speakers, it doesn't mean it will be easy. At the same time, YouTube completely disabled monetization, and I had money problems.

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And so, against the backdrop of everything happening in the world, we move. And it just so happens that all the everyday difficulties fall on me.

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Meaning all issues with documents, all issues with cards, all issues with money, with housing, I’m the one solving all these questions. And I remember when we were moving, I subconsciously understood, apparently, that there would be some difficulties, because I said: "Listen, I understand

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it will be hard. I understand that we are going into conditions that are, well, most likely worse and less friendly. Please, don't get in my way.

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I'm not asking for help, just don't get in my way. That's all I'm asking for.

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The problem, well, sort of, well, that's already strange. It's clear that this is just the beginning, just the setup. At that moment, er, it turns out, again, if I haven't mixed up the timing, they have been together for 4 years. And if you

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tell a person you've lived with for 4 years, your wife, "Please, don't get in my way," it means you know she will get in your way. And I’m not even expecting help from her at that moment.

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Like, well, what's the point? Well, just, like, what do you even need her for then? I had a conversation with a long-time subscriber the other day. He met a girl, basically, they had a great date, everything. And he says: "Well,

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everything seems okay for now," but he saw these stories she had on Instagram, and I won't show them all, but I'll show one. And he says: "Well, that's all clear. It's just that when I read something like that, I think: 'What is

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she going to do? And why do I need someone like her?' "The guy is successful by all standards, cool. And he asks such a question, and he's right to do so. Because if he has spent a long time building himself, if he has

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spent a long time achieving things, why does he need a woman who is absolutely not ready to help him? Moreover, she could potentially even be a hindrance to him. Therefore, when he says it all started in Georgia—this happens often

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in consultations—he says: "The guy starts telling his story and there's that first episode." You say: "Wait, I'll never believe everything was great before that, because you seem to tell your story as if everything you saw and heard met your criteria." Her actions

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were those of, as we say on the internet, a "suitable woman." And then at some point she started acting up: "But if you say a phrase like that, how many other actions were there before it?" It's just understandable, like many

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people, including us in Ukraine before 2022, lived through both joy and...

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in consultations—he says:" The guy starts telling his story and there's that first episode. "You say:" Wait, I'll never believe everything was great before that, because you seem to tell your story as if everything you saw and heard met your criteria. "Her actions

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were those of, as we say on the internet, a" suitable woman. "And then at some point she started acting up:" But if you say a phrase like that, how many other actions were there before it ? "It's just understandable, like many

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people, including us in Ukraine before 2022, lived through both joy and sorrow . As long as there's plenty of joy, it doesn't really trigger you, but when there's sorrow, well, it's not that great anymore. In short, most likely,

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judging by the very fact that he tells her" don't bother me, "the relationship is such that no one, if they love and respect themselves, should have such a relationship. Watch my lectures where I say that I believe it is absolutely

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normal for a man to live solo if he can't build a relationship where the woman acts as his partner-in-arms, where the contribution to the relationship is 100 to 100%, where you are a team, where you are better off in

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the relationship than without it. When you tell your girlfriend:" Please, don't bother me. "You aren't hoping for help, it's you two as a team, it's 100 to 100. It's that you are better off in the relationship than without it. So,

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my standard of living dropped by about seven or eight times immediately. At the same time, we rented an expensive apartment because I thought:" Well, if everything is already screwed, I need at least not to be bothered, so the

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woman is satisfied with the apartment we live in. "And the apartment at that time cost 2,000 dollars. Again, I'm not a fan of flexing with money or talking about expenses, but the story seems to compel me to. We move, uh, I need to

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get us cards, I need to re-register the business, I need to figure out what to do next. I need to somehow restore the channel's statistics because while I was in such a, let's say, depressive state, nothing had been released for

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about a month. For YouTube, that's not a very good indicator. I am actively working. My ex-wife, well, she does something, but in reality, she’s just busy pestering me, saying that our standard of living isn't right, that I need to work more, when, honestly, I

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already work my ass off. Again, look, there’s also a separate episode about finances in relationships and so on. I’ve said many times there whether it’s possible for only the man to work in a relationship. I believe you absolutely cannot start a

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relationship that way. Do not do that under any circumstances. Well, at some point in your relationship, if money comes to you more or less easily, more or less sufficiently, yes, you can earn the money, and the woman will handle

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other matters so as not to distract you from that as much as possible. I mean, can’t a woman process documents, can’t she find out which documents to gather, where to take them, where to submit them, how to fill them out, and

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so on? Why can’t she? Well, either she’s stupid, and you shouldn’t build relationships with stupid people.

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Or she’s lazy, and you shouldn’t build relationships with lazy people. And you can figure this out in the first, well, if not the first dates, then the first months of your history, even during the romance stage, what she’s like. Exactly. So, is she

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stupid, lazy, what is she, why isn’t she doing it? Once again, this already suggests that at that moment, it’s a terrible, terrible relationship. If you are in a relationship where you both earn the money and still have to carry

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the entire household burden on your own , well, like, why do you even need that ? I mean, why do you even need a relationship like that? Because there are countless examples where a guy is working, a guy is straining himself, a

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guy is stressed, and even if, I don't know, something breaks, nobody says she has to fix it herself. Can’t she call a repairman herself so he can come and fix it? You still have to do that yourself too. Well, it’s not

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difficult; it’s incredibly easy in the modern world. You can just use manipulation. No, that’s not a woman’s job. Seriously? Do you seriously think that? Anyway, and what if she also keeps picking your brain?

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And what if she essentially says:" Yeah , man, we have problems, but they’re more like your problems. Solve them however you want. You’re a man, there’s love there, there’s respect there. "There isn't any at that point.

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If that guy had come to me for a consultation back then, I would’ve said," Dude, these are bad relationships, and it’s only going to get worse. "What’s the catch, though?

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Such relationships always degrade. Absolutely always. I had a period like that in Georgia. I’d wake up in the morning, go exercise, come back, take a contrast shower, and start working. After working, I’d have lunch. In the afternoon, I didn't have enough energy

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left to do any online work. I mostly focused on learning, like watching stuff, listening to things, or reading books. Yeah. And in the evening, I’d play video games. So, those first 10 months in Georgia just went by like

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that, like a robot. I was grinding and grinding, non-stop. We’ll move a bit faster now. I just want to set the context for us. For example, in my first month in Georgia, I managed to earn something like 2,500 dollars, and

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the rent was two thousand. Obviously, there were major financial difficulties , and I really hate it when there are major financial difficulties. And at the same time, the person isn't trying to help you, even though they had their

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own money, for the record. I mean, in my view, it's logical that if one partner has problems, the other helps them out. Unless I’m a gambling addict or a thief, I can’t even explain it; it’s just so obvious to

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me that partners are partners because they support each other. Sure, you might have some kind of plan, right?

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Like how you behave in normal situations, but if the situation is extraordinary, no, no, I have to deal with it myself. I was reproached for not trying hard enough, for just not trying, for needing to try harder. And

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I thought, I’ll try, I’ll keep trying. And I really, I had this—that would still be justifiable if she were trying her hardest. Yeah. Well, yeah, it’s understandable that one might get pissed off if, for example, she sees that your life has changed

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drastically, you've moved to another country, and she, let's say, went to work as a shop clerk. Like, we need the money. Yes, I’m used to living the high life, but I’m taking every shift available, grinding away, and even

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though this isn't the job I hoped for or the lifestyle I aimed for, I’m still working my ass off while you’re just sitting there playing video games.

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And so then, yeah, she says:" Dude, maybe, you know, try to hustle, do something, let's say. "Well, if she does nothing, if she's just chilling all this time, but complains that you aren't trying hard enough, that you're not a team. If at the same time she has

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money and doesn't want to spend it, you are not a team. You are more like strangers to each other, or maybe even worse than strangers. where I just stopped drinking for half a year completely, which, well, I'm not really

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a drinker, but once every couple of weeks, once a week, just a little, yeah , actually I'm pretty good at it. At that moment, I stopped it completely so as not to lose efficiency. So. But at the same time, we needed a social

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circle. Naturally, being just the two of you in a new place is sad and scary.

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That's why we were looking for a social circle. Also, I should say that, gradually, the financial issue was returning to normal. I mean, at first it was 2,500, then 3, 3,500, 4,500, and somehow it was possible to break even.

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And somehow, little by little, things were working out. But I kept saying that we got an apartment we couldn't afford and that it was very hard for me . And the person would brush it off. I mean, she would laugh and be like:"

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Ha-ha-ha. "And this happened several times. And this went on for several months. I say:" Well, that's me. " And I say:" What about you? "" That's what I say in the story: 'What about you?' "" Well, just imagine, there's a

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serious conversation. "Like, it's hard for me to manage financially, we need to do something about it. She brushes it off, and we continue the relationship. I'll remind you, yes, the whole story of the relationship is 2 hours and 10 minutes. We've watched 6

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minutes so far and you're already like: " Dude, why do you need this? "" I'm watching, and even just the guy tells it well, looks good, you can see he's, uh, erudite, intelligent, he probably has some sense of humor, judging by

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what I saw on his channel, what he does . "Well, I'm already like:" Well, you deserve better. "Well, like, dude, you deserve better. Why don't you have these thoughts? Why do you tell her that we are spending money we don't

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have, she brushes it off, and you're like:" Oh well, let's keep living together. "Why? Why?

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You know, you brush it off, but I really need help. I really can't handle it anymore. I am, well, I'm super stressed and I'm just working and I need help. And we agreed that she would chip in a quarter, meaning 500 dollars

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from her, and 1,500 from me. And that was how the help with household expenses was supposed to be. And when we renegotiated, there shouldn't be a deal; she should offer it herself. In a good relationship, a person looks for ways

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to help on their own. And all of this is tested in the first few months of your history. A person either looks for a way to contribute or does it only when pushed. That's why she should be like," Oh, are you managing okay or not

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? How much did you make at work? How are we going to pay the rent? Look, I have some money. Let me help out. Let me, let me, let me, let me help you. " And this is simply not news. This

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didn't just happen to her in the fourth or maybe fifth year of the relationship . It’s been happening all along. She was like that in the first month, the second, the third, the fourth, and the fifth. As I often like to repeat that

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one Ukrainian saying." Ochi bachyli, shcho kupuvaly. "Your eyes saw what you were buying. The guy perfectly well saw who he was starting a history with.

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Perfectly. And at any moment in this story, he could have understood that she doesn't love him, she doesn't value him, and it's just convenient for her to be with him. It's just that asking yourself such questions is, of course,

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unpleasant. I understand, humanly, as a man, I understand. But if we're talking about the rightness or wrongness of actions, well, of course, staying in a relationship with her for that long, marrying her—it's not about continuing the relationship when you

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see things like that. This is when we talk about some sort of male rules, male personal boundaries, what is normal and what is not." The little one came to his father and asked, what is good and what is bad. "So, it's bad for

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a man to endure this, it's bad to have such a partner, like a burden of 1,500 a month, for the next year when we made the deal, that's it, I didn't ask for that money anymore. Moving on to

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society and the first real problems. This is the situation I find myself in. Roughly. It's clear that I'm probably twisting it in my own favor, and it's clear that there were ups and downs.

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And it's clear that both are to blame for building the relationship. But still, I think that usually, one person tries harder to save the relationship, and the other tries less. Anyway, let's party. Back then, a lot of stand-up

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comedians moved there, they rented a house, and everything in that house, everything was happening in Tbilisi.

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They had parties on Thursdays. Parties on Thursdays. I went to one or two, then kept working, because I don't know , I felt like I had to, like everything was falling apart. And I was trying to get out of it, because resources were

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melting, my savings were melting. At the same time, I’m being accused of being greedy, like how can we? Are we skimping on groceries? That phrase used to drive me absolutely crazy. Like, groceries can cost an infinite amount.

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So we’re skimping on groceries, apparently, right? If I’m not breaking even, if I’m spending more than I make, how can I be accused of greed? I mean, it’s just, it’s just some kind of oxymoron. Oxymoron. Should I burn through my savings? Let’s do

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it, damn it. Well, like, if a guy isn't doing anything, she gets stressed and says:" Look, we’re forced to save on groceries. "" Look, I'm working to the max, "she says, right?" And you, it seems to me, are somehow, you know,

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only giving half effort. "" Hustle a bit so we don't have to skimp on groceries. "That’s one conversation.

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Another one is, if I want to live beautifully, expensively, richly, but I don't do anything myself, and you’re working hard." Well, you’re working hard, but not enough. "I’ll just, it’s like having a wound and picking at it, just to make sure it hurts.

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And the savings ran out. And then what? I mean, it's just absurd. But she loved going to those Thursday parties. At the same time, she had constant sleep issues, and other things, like anxiety.

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She started taking sleeping pills back in Moscow and continued in Georgia. And those pills were prescription, and she ate them...

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How can you not make a joke, right? Like, if you bust your ass properly, you won't have sleep problems. Oh, man.

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Well, it's clear that for some people it’s physiological, sure, but very often, it really is just very often the case. See, by my—this isn't some scientific research, let's call it intuitive statistics—but in nine out of ten cases, those people who say" I

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can't sleep, "I just want to say:" Dammit, go do something! "—starting with physical exercise, seriously, and ending with, yes, truly, let your head ache a little bit over things related to work, earning money, yes, with solving some problems. You sleep like a

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baby. I mean, at some point I discovered, I don’t remember what kind of pills, that she had been taking pills for a year that shouldn't be taken for more than two weeks. I mean, it’s literally written in the

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instructions that it must be taken in cycles. Of course you have sleep problem Of course you will. You are doing everything to make it worse.

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Friends show up, and friends recommend, well, right, uh, in Georgia there's decriminalization of weed. Right. And they say," It's the [ __ ] for sleep. "I am listening to this right now. I I I can’t even believe my ears, as if

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it’s not real. If you want to fall asleep normally, you have to smoke. That works, damn it. The advice to take a psychoactive substance to sleep.

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Didn't bother anyone. It's fine. Honestly, I don't know. I lack knowledge in all of this. I was never a fan of, you know, weed; rather, as I’ve said many times, if you want an altered state, have a drink. That is my

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life rule. Purely theoretically, I admit that weed acts differently and there might be some that relaxes and could actually stabilize sleep. It is clear that if this concerned me, or my woman, I would have Googled everything, studied it, maybe asked for a doctor's

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consultation to see if it’s really true. Whether it helps or not, what kind of weed to smoke. But, well, let's say she starts taking this, getting high in the evenings, and these Thursday parties. We are at the climax.

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The first serious problem. Let’s assume the parties were every Thursday. They could have been every Monday, every Tuesday, every Wednesday, I don’t remember, let's say every Thursday. And so she would leave in the evening, come home at like 3:00 AM,

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4:00 AM. Screw whether he has sleep problems or not anymore. Your woman is off partying somewhere, where there’s a bunch of men without you. This is your wife. You are already in a relationship at that point, she goes somewhere to parties.

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This is what those relationships are like. These are just super cool relationships, yeah. And, well, if this didn't trigger the guy at all, meaning he didn't wind himself up even a little bit, he's like:" It's nothing, I'm living a normal life. "He's working his

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ass off here, and she's at parties. Well, like, no jealousy arises, no feeling that something is wrong arises, no feeling of injustice arises. Well, like, well, that's also his problem.

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Whatever she might be doing at those parties, if you don't feel even the slightest bit of inner resistance to it , that means you're a piece of [ __ ] yourself. That too, of course. And, like, the first time she went to a

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party like that, you should have already been making a plan, right? Like , how are you going to move out, end the relationship, and so on?

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Went to sleep. Honestly, I build my relationships on trust. I don't want to check phones, I don't want to check where a person is. That is, we simply trust, well, we believe we won't cheat on each other.

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You just can't trust absolutely everyone. And a person's actions are exactly what testify to whether they are worthy of trust or not. It's one thing if this girl is your true partner in crime, and another thing if this

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girl goes out at night to some clubs. Well, like, those are two very different things. It’s clear that if you have a really great relationship, it’s clear that if you have been proving your value to each other for

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not just a month, but even for years, through regular actions—well, everything I talked about in my lectures, right, if you need to, find them and watch—yes, you should trust, you don't need to snoop through a phone , you don't need to know the

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geolocation. Well, what, it's just that not only is she problematic, but you are also problematic. If she says:" I want to go out to a party. "And you're like:" I trust you, I build my relationships on trust. "Well, well,

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well, you're a fool then. It's just, like, these are some primitive things. It's the same as, I don't know, trusting gypsies who approach you on the street. A child to whom a pedophile gives some candy, they can trust him

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too, right. That's how it turns out. That’s the kind of relationship we had. And she went to one of the parties on a Thursday and wakes me up at like 5:00 AM. I wake up, I don't really understand. And she tells me, more or

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less, the story. She says:" We were hugging with a boy, "and I'm still half asleep. I, I don't understand what's happening and how I'm supposed to react to this. Honestly, I don't really understand either. And I say, I suppose

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that all of this is just, you see, my brain is doing a pretty good job trying to suppress all these memories. That's why, of course, there might be inaccuracies somewhere, but I, well, am I understanding correctly that these

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aren't friendly hugs we are talking about, and she says," No, it's friendly . "And that's it, he rolled over to the other side and went to sleep. Next time you go to a party, please don't hug your friends,

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he says. Yes, I start. raising my voice , yelling. I say," What the [ __ ] is this? Why? What? How is this even possible? Well, I told you. That's cool that you told me. How are we supposed

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to deal with this? Okay. So, like, she says, "Maybe?" Well, it's sort of a rhetorical question: "How are we supposed to deal with this? And you don't expect her to say anything." I mean, as for me, well, he's a grown man, I don't know how old

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he is. Well, probably over...yeah. He should understand how to behave in such a situation. That's it, the relationship is over. Well, let's say, as he puts it, he hadn't fully woken up , and how are we supposed to deal with

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this? Not in the sense that you're waiting for her to tell you how you should deal with it. But you're like, " I'll get my head straight and tell you exactly how we're going to handle this from now on," instead of sitting there

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with your ears flapping, waiting for her to tell you. Because if you structure your life so that someone else is constantly making decisions for you, in this case, yes, this woman, well, you shouldn't expect anything good.

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Let's try opening up the relationship. And at that moment we had already been together, well, like 4 years and some change, maybe, well, around that, maybe close to five. That's the end, damn, even I didn't expect that. I mean

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, not in the sense of, "Oh, I'm such a fool, it will never happen again."" Forgive me." By the way, you guys understand that most likely it wasn't just hugging, but there was something more. She said it was just hugging, but

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there was something more, or, well, in short, nobody just hugs like that at parties like those. That's clear. I mean, she's not even crawling at his feet, you know, with tears saying, " Forgive me, it won't happen again." But

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rather, "I want to [ __ ] this guy, and you, while I'm [ __ ] him." You can also, in principle, if it works out, find someone else, but keep grinding and making us money, because, well, I want to live normally, you know.

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Probably was that year. Again, I might be messing up the dates, but approximately. Yeah. And I'm in shock.

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I say, "Go on, leave, let me think about this." So I go for a walk. I don't really understand what I'm feeling or what to do. Back then I wasn't seeing a therapist yet, and I thought: " Damn, I just can't figure this out

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without a therapist." That's true. In general, I would have wanted that. At that moment, I don't know, I was just ultra-exhausted. That doesn't happen now, I'm working with a therapist, but it used to happen quite often. I work and work and work,

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seemingly, yeah, super-efficiency. Then I burn out so hard that I can't do anything at all. For about a few weeks, I downloaded Kenshi and just played Kenshi on my PC for 2-3 weeks, mining ore, opening those, practicing sword

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crafting. My psyche was just effectively checking out. I mean, I was crossing every single red line. Every single red boundary I was crossing within my own psyche, just to reach total exhaustion. Yeah. And then I'm like, yeah, I'm just so burnt out,

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procrastinating, it's a nightmare. Yeah . And by that moment I thought, "Okay, this might be a good idea." Well, I mean, how good? To say it's a really good idea? No, to say that I'd get some pros out of it. Yeah, I'm not sure,

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maybe I'm wrong about something, but I'm conveying my feelings. That's the feeling I was experiencing. I bear the responsibility. I was the one keeping her passport. One time I gave her the passport to open a bank account, she

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calls me, says she left it in a taxi. What a disaster. It felt like I was looking after a child who just doesn't understand this life yet. They don't understand the value of documents, they just don't get it.

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And then this child comes up and says, "I want to sleep with another guy." And you say, "Yeah, no problem, no problem.

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""And I'll just be here making you delicious breakfasts." That's how it turns out. The complexity of responsibility, of some kind. Everything is just so simple somehow, and I'm just here in this state. We are starting gradually, this is our sub-point, right, of the first

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chapter, we are starting to discuss opening up the relationship, that is, moving from monogamy to somehow transitioning to polygamy. And we discuss what it might look like, what are, well, like the entry-level chapters. Meaning, can we kiss other

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people or what can we do, how does it happen. And I remember perfectly, despite the fact that I was in some kind of madness, accordingly, I was a victim of a kind in my own way. We sit and discuss. I say: "In general, the

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idea has merit." Yes, we've been with each other for a long time. It seemed quite interesting to me. I don't know what to call it. Well, I’ve roughly conveyed it. That is, I saw some benefits in this. And we are discussing

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it. I say: "Do you see what the situation is? You liked a specific boy, you got hung up on him, and that's a problem." Meaning he triggered some kind of intense reaction in you. So nothing can be done with that. We need

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to skip him and then we can discuss it further. Damn, like I thought, like you understand, if you liked him, then I feel like you don't love and value me enough. Therefore, well, there's no point in being in an open relationship.

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That's it, you'll be with that dude, and we're breaking up. She says: "No, let's skip this specific one, but like, in general, to [ __ ] someone else, yeah?

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""Like, you're okay with that." No, you know? And it's just that the problem is, firstly, making a deal with such, well, how can you make a deal with a card shark, right? I mean, you can agree that it's only kissing, you'll only be

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kissing, if you're lucky, she'll already be giving head on the first date. That's number one. Secondly, well , it's clear that this isn't about a healthy relationship. Why do you need this? Why do you then still want to get

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into the same bed with a girl that someone else has [ __ ]? Why do you still need to provide full, total care for her? She'll be [ __ ] someone else , and you'll be working for two and

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burning out, among other things. You burn out, including the fact that you're working for two. There. Well, it's like, well, that means she doesn't love or value you. And you continue to be with...Break up. If you want to talk

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to other girls, talk to them. Everything, like a free dude. " I just need to close my gestalt with him, and I'll calm down." No, you'll get hung up on—like, guess what happened? And we think about how to do

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it. She says: "Let's do this, you can't , until I do." I say, "No." She says, " It’s just that it would really hurt me if you kissed or slept with someone.

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" I say, "That’s [ __ ] up." But I don't feel the same. How is my life passing by? Besides the fact that I'm working hard and trying to survive, she goes to a party every Thursday. I say,

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"You've really gotten into these parties, haven't you?" Right? She says, "Yes, it’s great, it’s cool." Yeah, she says it’s wild, yeah, it’s all unclear. She already mentioned she was with some guy, and naively thinks she only hugged him.

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Well, very naively thinks she only hugged him. Well, at the very least she made out, but that’s still just the minimum. And she keeps going to these parties, while you aren't even meeting anyone else. All this time, and

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you’re the one making money for the both of you. So. I mean, again, doesn't it click inside that I'm living my life wrong? I didn’t imagine my life like this when I met her and when I proposed . This isn't it, this isn't what I

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wanted. No, expectation and reality don’t line up. And on top of that, well, yeah. No matter how many of these stories I hear, it still triggers emotions, it still makes me furious because, for me, these are just the

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most obvious things. Just absolutely obvious. Dude, where is your self-respect? Where is the concept of what's normal or not? Why do you need that there? Well, that's great. I say, "Can you skip one?" She says, "Well, I could, but why?" I say, "Well, why not?

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""We could spend some time together."" Well, we can tomorrow, or we could have yesterday.""Why?" I say, "Because I don't want you to go, because you're getting hooked on it.""You literally don't miss a single gathering that you could potentially skip." No, it got to

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the point where I'd be crying, I'd be crying, and she would push me away every time. Ah, you see, getting into open relationships is a rather complex and difficult process. I mean, you have certain habits. And you're being asked

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to enter something completely unfamiliar. Clearly, everyone has a different understanding. How about just saying no? Well, what about that? I mean, if it's easy for you, if there—well, imagine—there are all kinds of people. Again, there are many different people; I know, I've

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had many different consultations, even with guys who truly have cuckold leanings, but they don't find it hard to get into because they have a clear desire, they clearly understand what they want. And there’s no internal resistance there, because, again,

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everyone has their own quirks, their own fetishes; as Roman Trakhtenberg used to say, everyone strokes it how they like, as long as you don't stroke it at your neighbor. So, okay, well, if this causes you internal resistance, maybe it’s a sign for you that you

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don't need this, that it’s not working for you. How about, I’ll repeat it, how about just saying no?

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How about telling her to go screw herself? How about having at least a minimum amount of aggression toward her ? Damn, I would have absolutely blown my top and torched half of Kyiv if someone had said something like that to

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me. And you’re just like, "Well, maybe you shouldn't go?""You're crying. " Crying and aggression are different emotions, for god's sake. There wasn't that, "damn, I just hate her.""Screw her." There wasn't. How many times does she have to go to those parties? How

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many dicks does she have to suck before you feel that kind of emotion? But that’s hard, in my view. So. And she keeps pushing. She’s all fired up, she’s got this guy here, and I just don't know what to do with it. I’m

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not ready to break up with the person, you know. We seem to be agreeing on some kind of mutual com-well, concessions.

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No, we’re in an open relationship. She goes to parties with the guy; most likely, she sees him on more than just those days. And, well, again, you’d have to be mega naive. To think they’re just discussing philosophical topics when she goes to those parties.

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And so, are you also, like, in an open relationship, sitting at home, working your ass off or playing computer games on your phone? She says, "Can we do it like, this?" I say, "Well, let’s hold off on that for now.""I’m not ready."

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"Well, why?""Come on." And I, well, I’ve been driven to tears. I don’t want it at all right now, Goddamn, you guys, this is seriously just trash. And, by the way, it’s what I often talk about. You look at a

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guy, he’s a great guy, he’s cool, everything’s fine with him. I mean, I look at him, and I have some empathy for him. And it happens in consultations too. Like, the guy is self-made, he built himself up. It’s

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interesting, but he tells these things. And you ask, "How? How, how, how are you? How, how can you, while being in this situation, not have it click that this is [ __ ] up, this isn't normal, it shouldn't be this way." She tells

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you, "Can I go suck him off?" Maybe, " And how about real sex?" You say, "No, please, let's, let's not for now." How are you not, goddamn, disgusted? Where is your sense of revulsion? How can you still be in the same room with her

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afterward? How is that? How is that? How the hell, how was I even in this? It is absolutely beyond me. Why I put up with it, I also don't understand. I'm [ __ ] shocked at myself, people.

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I’m in shock. Again, as a leitmotif regarding relationships. I take these snapshots. I see that I am always pushed to the limit, to the extreme. To the extreme, where I am not prepared to go any further at all. I mean, I’m

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just in some kind of fucked-up mess. And back then, that didn't work. So, this is my life now. I’m stuck with some kind of infantile child. I mean, in terms of behavior, I’m responsible for both of us. I’m fully responsible

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. No help at all. I somehow scraped together those 500 dollars to give myself some time, and the moment she tried to pay, I stopped it immediately.

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So to say I was somehow using the person is also complete absurdity. Dammit, I’m working, I’m scared, I’m anxious, and this all gets added to the pile. And I don't know what to do with it. I just take walks in the

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morning, exercise, work, play video games, and go to bed. That’s my life. Tears are just tears. Although it seems to me, again, I just don't understand how I was in this. I don't It’s like what I often say: "Yeah,

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cry as much as you want." I also had a consultation there, I don't know, half a year ago with a guy. He took a few consultations. Ah, So, to make a long story short, the point and the gist is

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that he started a relationship with a girl, and it’s all happening in one of the Eastern countries. She flew out there to him, and well, he catches her cheating on him. She went to a party and, well, it’s obvious she hooked up

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with someone there. He’s like, "How could you?" He says: "I started crying and told her: 'That’s it, you’re treating me so badly, and I was so good to you because of that. We need to break up.'" Can you imagine? He says: "

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Can you imagine, Max, I was crying," and, well, the guy looks pretty brutal, you know. I tell him: "Listen, the problem isn’t that you cried. The problem is that you cried and the story continued after that." And that’s

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exactly what happened; even before buying her a ticket to get her out of there, they hooked up a couple more times and made up. And, well, the point —since I'm using the word 'point' today—is that, well, she cheated on

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him maybe three, four, or five times. Those are just the times he knows about . And every time he cries and says, " Let's break up." And he forgives her and cries. Well, in the end, this story did eventually finish, but not after

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the first, second, third, fourth, or even fifth time. I tell him: "It’s not a problem that you're crying, man.

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Cry every day if you want, cry for an hour every day, honestly." Just take the right actions—dump her immediately after the very first time.

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Looking back now, I think: "Alexey, Lesh, you're a good guy, and you treat yourself well. Why did you let her treat you so poorly here?""I don't know . We're figuring out the mysteries with a psychologist." That’s it, because there wasn't a clear

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understanding of what to figure out with this psychologist, or how the psychologist would know how to enter open relationships, because there was no clear understanding of what’s allowed and what isn't. So, despite the fact that the guy was 25 or 30 at the

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time—I don't know, he looks young, who the hell knows. He just didn't have the understanding that when a woman does that, you kick her the hell out of your life. When she suggests something like that to you, get rid of her.

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It’s disgusting, it’s unpleasant, and it’s unacceptable. It’s the same as if she just walked up and stabbed you with a knife with all her might, or kicked you right in the balls . Well, pretty much anything. Although, usually, when you talk to someone, a

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man, and say: "Okay, look at the trash you're going through. What exactly needs to happen for you to realize that's it, the end, that red line has been crossed and I'm ending this relationship?" They say, cheating. But this is cheating. I mean, this is

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literally cheating. Even if we assume that you think she's just going to these meetings with that guy and only hugging, man, you are a complete idiot.

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Did you discuss this with a psychologist? But what is it really? Well, they most likely [ __ ] the very first day she went there. It wasn't just hugs, and on the second, third, fourth time...and when she saw your

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reaction, she definitely thought: "Oh well, it is cheating." So you're ready to forgive cheating. You simply lack any boundaries of what's acceptable.

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You have absolutely no understanding of what can be done to you and what can't.

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I can't call it anything else. It reaches a point of total insanity. This guy also has his own issues. He knows the whole situation, probably except for my tears. Yeah. And he's like: "I'm ashamed that I'm, like, interfering in

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your relationship." He's putting a stop to the idea of continuing. Well, I don't know for sure, I wasn't there for their conversations, but as far as I understand, he stalled with any actual contact, and she's upset about it.

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She's upset. No, maybe at some point she said: " We've already [ __ ], I don't even want any more problems with you." But he definitely didn't stall before the first time.

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The guy she fell in love with in front of me, damn, who is her husband? It's just complete [ __ ]. Well, I don't know, but this, well, if you don't respect yourself, no one else will respect you. But again,

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this is just absolute insanity. And then what? And then you say: "This is terrible." And then what? You realized there's a problem, but where are your actions?

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It's a disaster. And then he just goes off somewhere. She says, "You two would be friends, I’d like to introduce you ." I say, "You, well, this is just madness." I say, "Do you even hear yourself? What are you even talking

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about? What are you talking about?""We literally had a first rule. We had a few rules. In our open relationship, not to mess, dammit, with mutual friends. I mean, if we have mutual friends, some common social circle, that’s off-limits. Rule two:

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protection. Rule three: no sleepovers with anyone. Rule four: we keep this as far from the media sphere as we can.

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Meaning, no one knows about any partners, any outings, nothing." And then, once again, she wants to go somewhere with him or something like that. Some kind of thing. But I can't.

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I’m feeling so [ __ ] up that note, right, an open relationship, and the guy doesn't have anything even close to that. Well, kind of relatable.

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I also remember the armchair in interesting flashes. I remember the chair, I’m sitting in it, I’m crying, she’s telling me something there. I say, "You know what? I’d like you to leave. I want us to live apart for a while. I can't take this

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anymore." I apparently couldn't let the person go at that moment, either. But being with her was unbearable for me.

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And she just flipped like that. She flipped just like that. I mean, when she realized that the line had been touched, where he’s [ __ ], where you’re about to lose what you have.

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That’s when she, well, damn, it doesn’t sound like a line and it doesn’t sound like you’re ready to lose her. No, well, yeah, a little bit of nerves, but still , at that moment she was like: " Everything will be under control, we

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just need to rebalance a little." It was like she’d been switched. "How could I not notice? How could I not know that this was causing you pain?

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After all, you were just crying constantly and asking me not to do it. How could I?" Horror, horror. I didn't get that at all, either, dammit. For me , it’s all some kind of shock. She was posting some stories. God willing,

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we won’t get divorced this year. I’m such a bad person, and he’s such a great guy. He forgave me for all the fucked-up [ __ ]. Why is this being done? At least keep that on the inside.

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No, it has to be put out here, too. And people ask. I can’t say, maybe later, but like, damn, of course, you’re just baiting. Of course, people are interested. At the same time, here is what happens next. The guy goes off

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somewhere, I don't know. A part of my memories is screwed up. She just went to a couple of parties for fun, and it turned out the parties weren't that cool. And she stopped going to them. Oh , how interesting. Who would have

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thought, right? At the same time, I’ll remind you that the smoking continues. For now, it’s still just smoking, not a permanent process, but only for now. Then an incredible player enters into all these events, who played a significant role. And that is

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Rick Sanchez. Let's call him, okay, let’s call him Sanchez. We’ll call him Sanchez. We have Spain. A couple more of those Thursday parties were attended. So. And she meets Sanchez.

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They smoke up together. Find common ground. Wow, cool, we talked so great. She comes home and says: "I met a guy," and I'm like, "[ __ ]." I mean, I don't know, I'm glad Alexey went through all this in the past. Right now I'm in

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shock. I don't know how he endured it all. Well, since he went through it, I mean it's behind him. She says: "No, no sexual vibes. Really, a very great friend. I want you to meet. Nothing at all. This is Sanchez." He is from Spain

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. Let me introduce you. I say: "Go ahead." Sanchez comes to our house, we talk. At first glance, a really decent guy. But here is a spoiler for you.

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Here is a spoiler for you. After some time, Sanchez gets a nickname. We will get to that, but spoiler. Crazy Sanchez . Sounds interesting. And Sanchez starts hanging out at our place quite often. Some dude, he really wasn't

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aggressive, actually a bit feminine, thin. No, then again, the guy is so oblivious. Why the hell do you need some random guy at your house, especially here all the time with his friends—it's not like I'm ready to see people several

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times a week, and certainly not always on my own turf. But here are some random people in your apartment. In your apartment, I have repeatedly said that we grow and develop. In school, we can't choose who we talk to or where we

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have to be. There's school, there's your class, so get going. Whether you like it or not, move it. University is more or less the same story, but later on, you're supposed to avoid the people you don't want to talk to. Friendship

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between a man and a woman, that is [ __ ] up. It's super naive of you to believe that a girl who already says she’s cheated on you and will cheat again in the future is just hanging out

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with another man. You believe there can be just friendship there, but let’s set even that aside. You just say: " Don't bring him here. I don't need your damn Sanchez here, for [ __ ] sake. I don't need your man here at all." And

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even if it’s her girlfriend, if she’s constantly hanging out, why the hell does she need to be at your place?

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You don't need a girl who is constantly , regularly, super-frequently talking to a friend, because that is a very alarming red flag. How dull and empty she is. Meaning, especially if someone is constantly hanging out at your house

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. What the hell do you need that for? And where are your balls to at least say: "I don't want to see him here, goddamn it. Screw him." I have no danger, no difficulties, no suspicions.

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And she, my ex, actually, was constantly at home. And that was convenient, because I didn't need to look for her, I didn't need to wonder where she was or what she was doing.

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And it's very convenient, as opposed to having to look for her. A wife, I have to constantly look for her. I don't know where she is. But here she’s at home, even if it's with another man, and she brought him to us constantly

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and keeps bringing him, but at least it's so convenient. What do you know about convenience?

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To tell her once before he even appeared this isn't just a story where I'm breaking down a text and you go, "Oh come on, that can't be real." This is a real person, a well-known person, sharing honestly. That’s a plus for

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him, and it's all fixable. But the main problem is that at this moment there is a complete lack of understanding of boundaries, a lack of that minimal ego that one should have. There. Well, there’s not enough selfishness. It's

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just insane. Another telling case, in my opinion, that just freezes me. I don't understand what I was doing there or how this all happens. When she had problems with her love life, she met some girlfriends. One evening she went

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out with her friends, and I was just, well, so exhausted, I had so little moral strength left, whatever she said.

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I said: "Okay, I have to get up early, I have a workout and work, I need to work." I wake up, it's 8:00 AM, she's not there. And I'm so resigned that I think, well, she spent the night

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somewhere, whatever, I just wanted to live. I go for a walk, and at that moment she calls me. Incredibly energized at 8:00 a.m. because she and her friends were at some flat, some boys pulled up, and those boys brought

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something—they sped things up a bit, I'd call it that. You understand, my, well, it's just mind-blowing. I wake up for a morning walk. On my morning walk, we have incredible problems in our relationship. I’m drifting away from this person; I’m miserable. She’s

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at some flat, screw them. Getting wasted. And she says, "I just..." And I honestly feel like he thinks they were just getting high and, I don’t know, laughing, blowing up balloons, playing bingo or Mortal Kombat, singing songs—yeah, is that how they spent

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their time, or what? It’s just a total disaster. I will. "I talked to this guy, like, we had such a cool chat, we just sat on the balcony talking for 5 hours," and like, never do any illegal substances.

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And she says, "I was telling him about our situation.""And he said everything will be great, the main thing is that we..." and I’m thinking, this is insane, this is completely surreal.

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I’m on my morning walk, listening to my wife discuss our total nightmare with some guy, and she's enjoying it.

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Like, saying that everything is great. I’m thinking, I say, "When will you be back?" She says, "Yeah, at 10:00 a.m., we're just—I'm coming back from my walk, taking a cold shower, and starting to work." 9, 10, 11, 12, 1, 2,

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3, 4, 5, 6 in the evening. She arrives in a shocking state. A person in an incoherent state fills me with fear, anxiety, and anger all at once, because I’ve been working this whole time, and we have problems because of her.

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She fell in love with the guy, she’s pining over the guy. I am feeling very bad. She’s been doing god knows what all night with who knows who.

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On one hand, I sort of feel sorry for him, but on the other hand, it’s reaching a point where even the empathy and pity are fading away. Like, dude, seriously, do I really have to just take a dump on you? And even then,

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I’m not sure you’re actually ready to end this story after that. Well, uh, how? What else is there? Surely there’s, like, at least some understanding of what’s acceptable and what isn’t. Well, at least some understanding that you've reached the

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point of no return for me, it’s just too much. Well, it’s like...again, this is 22-and-a-half minutes of video, as I often say during my breakdowns.

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And this isn't even half the story. And the story doesn't even end there. How could this be?

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She comes here to me while out of it, and she starts feeling really sick.

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Three days of withdrawals, and I'm angry at her. I feel sorry for her, but I’m angry at her because she’s in pain and feels sick. I understand, but she’s the one who did this, damn it.

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I mean, I’m saying, "How is this even possible?" She says, "Why are you yelling?""Why are you yelling at me?"" I'm feeling so sick." I say, "Right, and whose fault is it that you're sick?

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""Did I do something?" In the end, she asks her friend for a doctor, he arrives, and puts her on an IV. I have no idea...I swear, I’ve never, well, been in a situation like this. It sounds like I’m some kind of low-life

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piece of [ __ ], but I’m not a low-life . I think, I think I’m a pretty nice guy. I think I’m quite educated. I have, well, a certain image of myself.

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And that image of myself in there is just not me, it’s like it’s not me at all. I’m still on the first chapter. Oh, for goodness sake. We'll move faster from here on. I thanked the doctor for putting her on the IV.

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That’s it. Then, a change. And understand just how much better this is than before. I thought, she’s sitting at home, getting high, eating food, they’re watching something. Okay, you have to agree, it’s much better than everything that was before, right? Yeah

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. Some kind of stabilization. But the problem starts up again. First of all, daily or almost daily use. I mean, I begged the person, I...for a while I fought with it, because for me this is just a total disaster. If you start

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doing anything, whatever it may be, whether it’s alcohol or any other substance, every day, it’s a problem.

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Psychoactive stuff is a problem. I say, "You understand that it shouldn't be like this, right?" I say, "Do you understand that I’m constantly doing this, this, this, this, this, and you’re doing that?""And it’s pulling us apart." It’s like we’re

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heading in different directions. It’s 2023, and we agreed on a maximum of three times a week. It reached an average of six or seven times. I mean, she starts persuading me using various tricks, and it's not like I can really

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resist or am ready to resist. Add that to the list. At the same time, the first problem with Sanchez appears.

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Sanchez, it turns out, isn't the most stable person either. And he starts suppressing her. He gets offended at her, he hangs up the phone, and she cries because of him. So I start noticing some very strange, unhealthy vibes, not just some emotional turmoil.

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I say, "What's going on?" It seems like a small thing, but something is already happening, something unhealthy. Along with that, there’s this constant substance use and drama.

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Small stuff, just small stuff. Hanging out with this dude. It’s just small stuff. A very deadbeat type of guy. He had no job, his parents sent him money, and that's it—a situation I didn't need.

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And think about it, why is someone close to you hanging out with a person like that? It’s not just about the wife. If your friends hang out with people like that, you should wonder if something is wrong. What kind of values

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do they have? What do they even have in common? I'm working like a horse, and, well, my wife is sponsoring this guy. All these purchases of junk are on her, and they’re ordering food every day— he’s mooching off her pretty hard. I

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mean, literally, I'm providing for us, and she's providing for him. What kind of mess is that? Even though I needed help. I needed help. At that point, maybe less so, but I still think partners should help each other. And to

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conclude the first chapter. We decide that we've had enough of Georgia, and we decide to go to Thailand to rest, travel around Asia, maybe stay longer if we like it, or go back to Georgia if we don't. And, well, overall, it turns

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out to be a vacation of sorts. Yeah. And another friend and another couple we know join us. Actually, my ex wants to take this Sanchez along. Spain wasn't enough for him. I say, he has no money. He can't fly because he doesn't

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have any money. He had problems with that in Georgia. He lived in our house.

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And you were buying him some food and groceries. I mean, it was pure madness.

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So, I'm the parent to her, she's the parent to him, and yet he's somehow in charge. Meaning, he’s already suppressing her mentally. I just don't get it at all.

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Moreover, when he says he's on top, he doesn't realize it's both literally and figuratively.

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What is that? And what to do with it, to be honest, was also unclear to me. A colorful character will still come in handy. This was discussed several times and taken note of. And at some point, just by chance, I’m saying something

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here and there. Right. I ask: "What about Sanchez?" She says: "Well, he's coming with us." I say: "How is he coming with us?""I bought him a ticket.

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" And I explode, I say: "Damn it, don't you realize this is complete nonsense?" I mean, he literally can't live there, even if we buy him a ticket, he still needs to rent a place and buy food.

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That's it, we rented out the apartment. And as a whole cohort, at the beginning of twenty-four, we head off to Thailand . Guess how the chapter begins? Sanchez spirals out of control. So, in Thailand , Sanchez gets the nickname Crazy

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Sanchez. Because, I assume, well, we already see how many people report that it causes schizophrenia. It seems to me , well, my subjective opinion, perhaps the weed itself has become much stronger. Because of that, the consequences come much faster. Right.

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Because people have only been talking about this in recent years, even though it's been around forever. But there, Sanchez becomes, well, Crazy Sanchez.

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He arrives, well, together with everyone else. I understand he has nowhere to go, but besides worrying about the safety of myself and my family, and making sure everyone is okay, I realize that, well, the guy literally has nowhere to go. At the

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same time, he keeps leaning more and more on my then-wife's neck. She is basically sponsoring everything for him , and she stoops down to a "super-child " level. He's some kind of super-child now. I can't explain it. For example.

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Well, I got food poisoning, I felt terrible, I stayed home, they went out for a walk, and I was feeling really bad. And in Thailand, you can't drink from the tap, and there was no water.

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And I couldn't leave, let's just say, because danger was lurking every second . And I was breaking out in a cold sweat. I was tossing and turning on the toilet as best I could. Trying to lie down, trying to sit, trying absolutely

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anything. She comes in, I ask her to go get me some water, and she says: "Well, Sanchez walked me here, I'm afraid I'll get lost." Ah, so you understand, here's the hotel exit, you walk a bit forward and to the left. I mean, the

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shop is about seventy meters away, and I'm all twisted up, feeling sick. I don't think I need the extra trouble of her going out and getting lost. Seems like it. But what if? I think it's better if I just wait it out.

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You don't need to. I know. If you're watching this video, and you're the author, and Alexey, right? Or even just one of the viewers, you don't need a girl that stupid, you don't need a girl that helpless, why

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the hell would you want that? And you know, with food poisoning, I'll tell you, you lose fluids really fast, and you need fluids. Yeah. So I think I'd better wait it out so I don't have to deal with this problem on top of the

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poisoning, so I'm not running around Bangkok with diarrhea, trying to find my ex-wife. Well, this is more of an example of that kind of infantile behavior, which, honestly, I don't understand at all. Anyway, crazy Sanchez continues to go crazy. I notice

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that he's constantly taking money from, well, her. So I say, "What's she doing? ""Yeah, it's just weed.""We just, I made a deal with this guy, he does this , this, and then she'll give a discount , this and that," and he's telling some

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story that, well, it smells like total [ __ ]. I realize she keeps giving him money, giving it away, and she complains that she has less and less cash. So I start to gradually keep an eye on it. And like, when they come

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over, I say, "How much?""I don't know how much this is.""He took like 2,000 baht from me." I say, "Right, and this?

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""Well, like 70 dollars." And the weed? Well, none? I don't want to get involved in this. I didn't want to deal with any of this. I don't like weed at all, damn it. Yeah. But in trying to protect someone from a friend who

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suppresses her, saying like, "Give me this, put this here." And if she doesn't want to do something, he drives her to tears. And here I am, caught in it all over again. Here we are in Thailand, and Sanchez, goddammit,

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became crazy Sanchez without money. Constantly high. It's clear this story should have ended much sooner, but, well, anyway, if you find yourself somehow, magically, right at this point, you just tell her: "Look , screw him, I don't even want to see

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him anywhere near here." And you will not talk to him anymore. If you want to keep talking to him, if you want to keep smoking weed with him, then our story ends right here. We are breaking up. Again, this is if you found

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yourself in that second. It's clear that if a person acts like this, they won't change, and you won't make them different with an ultimatum; she'll still start doing this wild stuff, or even crazier stuff, in a week or two.

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Let's even forget about her cheating on you. Let's just say your girlfriend is hanging out with someone. Let's also imagine it's not even a guy, but some female friend. Let's imagine it's just a girl and they don't have any lesbian

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vibes. And you say: "Okay, that's it, this friend doesn't work, she's a bad influence on you, I don't want to see her at our place, I don't want you talking to her." At the same time, the decision is yours. Either she's gone

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for good, or we're finished. That’s a sign of caring, man. It's not just about using the carrot, trying to persuade someone, cuddling, babying, or [ __ ] on the toilet. Sometimes, when you are firm, well, a person either

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accepts it and stays with you. Or let them, damn it, screw themselves however they want, again, and do whatever they want. That’s it, this person becomes an absolute stranger to you. Let them figure their own life out. Because

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adults, one way or another, are still responsible for their own lives. Adults are responsible for every single action they take.

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I also act like this. From now on, let Sanchez resolve all issues through me.

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The next day comes. They aren't there. And again, like, how is this? Well, what kind of "all issues "? Just screw him. Yes, it's scary that she might choose him over you. Yes, it's tough. Yes, it's a scandal. How

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else could it be? How else could it be in such a situation? What issues could there be to solve with him?

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Something like that. Back to my ex. Less money and some weed. I say: "What just happened?""Sanchez asked me to give him this and that." I say: "We already discussed this." I mean, And, by the way, let’s get back to

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addictions and so on, to bad habits. If bad habits really start to negatively affect a person’s life, if the person can no longer control these bad habits, something needs to be done about it.

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And again, since you don't share all of this, since you don't have it, you say: "Look, let’s think about how we can get all this under control. Can you handle it on your own? If you can’t handle it, let’s put you in a clinic

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somewhere again, and so on. If you can handle it yourself, okay. If you don't want to deal with it, aren't ready to put in the effort, or it’s just not working, then that’s it, we’re breaking up. That’s enough, because

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it’s a question of willpower, it’s a question of desire. And again, in a relationship, you need to be a person who has the strength, the willpower, and the desire to fix things if they realize that some kind of total mess is

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going on. There’s a phrase that just, well, destroys me. She goes:" Well, sort it out yourselves. "I mean, damn, I can't even tell my own wife not to give money to Koresh. She can’t handle it. I talk to Sanchez. Sanchez

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says:" Yes, okay, Lyokha, I heard you. "A day passes, the same scene repeats, less money. I say:" What’s going on?

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What is this? "How is this even possible? I go to Sanchez again. It’s already, well, you know, it’s boiling over. I say:" We discussed this, didn't we? "He says:" Yes, overall, well, in this situation, I believe that the wife should be the one

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to solve this issue first and foremost. Meaning you tell her: 'You brought him here, you get rid of him.' "Any woman can find a million ways to tell this guy to get lost so that he’ll avoid your house like the plague. And only in

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that one-in-a-million case where she’s truly shown him as aggressively and as harshly as possible that he’s not wanted, and he still doesn't get it , only then can you step in. Right.

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Well, once again, that’s probably one in a million cases. Otherwise, it’s her acquaintance, it’s her guy that she brought in, she should be the one solving it, not you. But what if she isn't doing anything about it? What if

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she’s sabotaging the process, hell, why? She’s in your life. You’re not close, you don’t have feelings.

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She’s just using you. She’s just comfortable with you. You're just her insurance policy. I forgot, I say, you're lying to me.

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Date, what, how is it, what happens next? I called this part: caught. Caught stealing. At some point, a certain amount of cash went missing, and a certain amount of weed didn't show up. I don't want to deal with this

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at all. Again, I don't want to. I don't want to. But in an attempt to protect her ex, I had to deal with it constantly. I was arguing with Sanya about something. I was defending her interests to him when she couldn't

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answer him herself. Well, it's just some kind of surreal nonsense. And then at some point, another 70 dollars or so just vanishes. Well," vanishes, "like he took some, and some went there. I say:" Where's the money? "He says:"

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Well, we bought this here, and that there. "I say:" Well, where's the [ __ ] then? "And he tried to tell me he found some special, top-shelf strain. The best of something or other. So I say:" Dude, come on, just cut it out. "He's

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mad at me, but he can't do anything because I'm me, and because among all of them, I'm kind of the adult here.

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And that's where I, obviously, catch him lying and stealing. I say:" Explain this then. "And he starts weaving a web again, making up stories. I say:" No, no, let’s skip the web, let’s not spin webs. "Tell me, like, what’s up.

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Well, to that extent, damn, how much his ass is on fire now. I mean, in a situation like that, if I’m sure he stole, why even talk to him? Why? Look, this isn't a court, man . Presumption of innocence doesn't work

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here. Here, it's presumption of guilt. You say:" Dude, I consider you a thief. I think you're an idiot. That's it, honestly, I don't want to see you around here again. "Yes, theoretically, in the moment when you tell him

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something that unpleasant, a fight could break out. Theoretically, most likely, no. If he’s a stoner and so on, nothing like that will happen. Well , theoretically, you need to be ready for it. And that's it. You use aggression, you use understanding, and

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you make him understand that he’s screwed, that he’s finished, that’s how you handle it. Not by listening to him, letting him break things down point by point, no, that’s not it.

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What is this? And another thing. Like, what else? Okay, so you didn't have any aggression toward your wife at that time. And you didn't have any aggression toward him either. Like, you were just kind of...You didn't feel like punching him in the face. There

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should be this much weed, not one or the other. So he gets angry and says," That's it, I'm done with this, I'm not doing this at all. "I say," Is that a threat? That you won't buy my wife, you

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know, weed? "" Right. "Yeah. This is supposed to be for her sleep, but then what happens on a normal day, what is even going on? I honestly have no [ __ ] clue. It's just nonsense. I'm listening to myself now, and it's all

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just madness. And this is all happening two days before my ex's birthday. I mean, I'm even preparing a gift. I'm trying to make it happen, she wants to rent a yacht. Okay. And two days before that, we have this showdown with

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Sanchez. He's, uh, going on about how he's not going to do anything anymore. Fine, I'll do it myself then. Do you think I want this? I don't give a [ __ ] about this. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah, right. That's why there was so much of

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it. So I say," Okay. "But they were already smoking every single day by then. It was like a necessary part of things. Without it, she, goddammit, can't fall asleep. Oh, what a surprise.

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Taking strong, over-the-counter sleeping pills for over a year and you have sleep problems. Instead of working on that, just get high as [ __ ]. Great.

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I mean, what could go wrong? And all of this, naturally, affects me. She doesn't sleep, it affects me. She does this or that, it affects me. I mean, every single, every single action. I'm constantly in some sort of struggle and

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taking care of the kids. Here is what happens next. I roll these joints myself, one or two YouTube videos, and it turns out it's not that big of a task. So I kind of solved the problem.

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I solved the problem. There was crazy Sanchez, who was obviously stealing money and messing with my ex. I solved that problem by spending my own time on this [ __ ] so he couldn't use it to manipulate things. What happens next?

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Next is the birthday. My ex, our friend , and I are driving to a specific local spot in Phuket because a boat is picking us up there. We are driving, and a message from crazy Sanchez pops up in the group chat. Naturally, he

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writes:" You selfish [ __ ] didn't think about how I'm going to get there.

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"I mean, we were supposed to think about this star. Oh, how will Sanchez, our beloved little Sanchez, ever get to ...

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A standard trope, by the way, when in some story, a guy doesn't realize how much he's at rock bottom. He’s highlighting the flaws of some other guy, saying:" Well, look at him, he’s like a piece of [ __ ]. "But, damn, in

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reality, the guy has set himself up quite well. It’s actually beneficial for him to be in this story. He’s most likely banging this chick. He gets financial profit from this whole situation, he gets socialization. So, in this whole story, well, he has perks

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—yes, he's a piece of [ __ ] as a person, but he gets benefits. Whereas here, it's nothing but negatives and he's still a piece of [ __ ] as a person.

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That's why this is, again, like in Verdict's videos. They really love talking about, I’ve already forgotten , Vasyanchay or something like that.

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Like, my wife left me for some guy. Man , what a loser he is. He doesn't realize yet that she'll be with him for a couple of months and then return to me. He's a sucker. She loves me and

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will come back to me. And the fact that he’ll take her back after that, and that he's waiting for her to return after she's been with that guy—he doesn't understand that he is the one in that situation. He is that very"

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Vasyan. " We didn't think that we needed to give him money, that we needed to feed him, damn, or baby him. We didn't think that a grown man wouldn't need help. Or rather, that he would. That's what he

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writes in the group chat. And at that point, he was already descending into madness. I mean, I'm just telling you small threads, but believe me, it was total insanity. He started sending messages, deleting them, setting messages to" view once, "then pulling

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one of us aside, spinning some story, saying he screwed us over, then going to the next person and saying he tricked the other one. I mean...

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if you yourself don't influence the circle of people you hang out with, well, you're a piece of [ __ ] too. Well, once again. But that is also a part of adult life, when you realize that I will never sit at the same table with

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this person, or even share a field with them to take a dump. That's it, I’m removing him from my circle. I just, like, tell him directly:" We won't be talking. "Or, if it’s a mutual group of friends, I just give them an

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ultimatum, too. Either me or him. Well, I mean, that is what adult life is. But here you say how terrible he is, yet he is still part of your life, part of your life. And he affects it negatively

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at that. This isn't just some guy you don't like because of his quirks or his worldview. Like, you know, you show up at a party, and he’s hanging out somewhere at the other end of the table . I also think that’s not ideal, but

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here this guy is really, seriously affecting your life. It’s just some kind of fatal madness. We are in the car at this time. My ex hadn't slept, meaning she was nervous and only slept 3 hours with pills and weed, nothing.

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Wow, imagine that. If you do all that, it makes the situation worse, not better. Who would have thought. Well, okay. So. And he writes to her, well, he's showing off. And what happens next? Well, he’s probably like," I'm smart, I'm solving the

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problem. "He says:" I'm an adult, not a child. "An awesome adult. No, I mean, just a great adult guy who says:" It will only get worse for you. You shouldn't be taking pills or weed. "" But I’ll just watch you do it, roll

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joints for you, and buy it for you. " And he says it won't end well. You're just as much of an infant as they are.

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You're just as much of a child as they are. I can literally see the crazy messages coming in, one after another. You know that kind, when you're just firing them off like that." It's because your husband, the [ __ ], gave you the wrong

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weed, that's why. "" And you are such-and-such. "I look at it, and I feel, well, I have this incredible, like, blind rage. I grab my phone and write:" Salute, Sanchez, it's me. We'll be there soon, let's talk. "He says:"

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Bring it on. "So we arrive, and let me remind you, he weighs, damn, like 55 kilos or something. And is always stoned. By the way, I’m getting out of the car, I’m already, well, aggressive, I had to go buy some

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groceries, it is said. Finally, some aggression. Finally, it’s like, even if it’s" beta-cuck combat. "And, by the way, become a channel sponsor. There are already 68 exclusive episodes there.

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And if I’m not mistaken, in the sixty-fourth one we also analyzed the relationship history of one, well, fairly popular blogger in my niche. Top five in views among my subscribers.

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Become a sponsor, the links are in the description. A huge thank you to all the sponsors. So, I was definitely trashing him constantly for his super urge to jump into a fight for a woman at the slightest provocation, he really

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is a 100%" beta-cuck warrior. "Here, I’m actually glad for this aggression . Not in the sense that you should waste your life on it. Well, like, there should be at least a little bit.

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This is probably something manly, something about self-respect, something about not everything being lost, that you have aggression toward this dude.

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Something, somehow, so the party would go on. Nobody thought about that. And I was in the middle of a confrontation, so I didn't think about it. But if I didn't think about it, nobody thought about it, since I’m the main adult,

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and we had jack [ __ ] on that boat. Just like, two bottles of champagne. Those incredible fruits from the islands.

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I’m looking, Sanch is there warming up or something. I think he he’s planning to fight me. This is this is complete nonsense. Not because I’m some incredible fighter, but because I weigh like 18 or 20 kilograms more than

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him. Because I don’t know, I’m just bigger, I’m stronger, I did Thai boxing, and that’s enough for me to damn, the guy even knows how to fight, that he went to boxing, well at least some knowledge, well at least he

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understands something about his strength. Well, I believe that one way or another, this fear of physical altercation should be removed. You should accordingly allow yourself more; if someone is crossing the line, you should be less afraid of that same

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physical conflict. As he was warming up , during the warm-up, I would have punched him.

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Well, a winner, I don't know. I walk up , thinking, well, it's interesting how this dialogue will go. I reach out to shake his hand, and he's like:" I walk up, and I was just glad there was aggression. When you have

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aggression inside, you won't reach out your hand, you won't. "He just called you a [ __ ] prick or an [ __ ] in the messages, and you're reaching out to shake his hand. I mean, honestly, what has to happen for you to say,"

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Damn, he's reaching out to shake my hand, I'll never shake it. "If he were dying right there on the side of the road. I’d step over him, keep walking , and he should be glad I didn't piss on him. They don't shake hands. I think

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, what is this about? Well, I understand what it's about. I say," So what do you want? "Yeah. And he’s just like, you did this, and then you did that. And when you did it, I was worried for her, that she didn't sleep,

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and it's because of this. And I say, you're talking in circles again. I mean , let's get to the facts at some point.

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He says something about how he didn't hit her. He says," Then where's the money? "He says," Well, the money is...

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"I say," Then where's the weed? "I say, " You see, he’s trying to shake my hand again. "I say," You don't shake hands with thieves. "Yeah. And he pulls his hand away. And then something strange happens. I'm wary of his

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behavior. Why? I'm already worried in the car because he's acting very erratically. This is Crazy Sanchez. And we have a house there. And he was there often, and the back door doesn't lock.

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These Thai houses, well, their design isn't exactly impossible to break into, right. So I think Crazy Sanchez might do something. He probably already knows , or I don't remember, he probably knew it didn't lock and someone was supposed

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to come fix it in a couple of days, but it wasn't fixed. And I knew he could get in, and I have my equipment there, I have, well, my documents. The idea that I would be stuck on a boat, and

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Crazy Sanchez would have access to the house, didn't thrill me either. In the end, they're walking around, gossiping, whispering with my ex. I say," Well, I said, he's not going to be with us. " What is even this? And then they start

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this, this thing, like, please, it's my birthday, what a disaster. I think," Okay, better he's stuck on the boat with me than I come home to, I don't know, a robbed apartment, a torn passport, something like that. "I mean,

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this is just total there is some logic here, let's say. Well, but again, this should have been decided much earlier than that.

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Moreover, uh, if we are talking about a normal relationship, a normal one, nothing even close to this would happen , of course. But you shouldn't be afraid to tell her:" Listen, the guy is nuts, I'm afraid he'll rob our place,

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let's go on that boat another day, screw it. "Let's go back to the house, celebrate at home, because I can see he might loot the place, so once we lock everything up properly, then we can relax. And I think, especially knowing

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he called you an idiot, and especially, by the way, when you guys almost had a fight, what was your wife doing, just watching like" oh, the boys are going to fight over me now "? This is all, in

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short, incredibly, incredibly strange. And I believe that if we're talking about a relationship, this is a perfectly valid option. You say:" I can't relax like this, and I don't want to do it this way. "I don't want to go

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with him, and I don't want to leave him behind. I'm afraid he'll rob the house.

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That's it. She should say:" Damn, that sucks, this isn't the birthday I expected. "Well, there is some logic in your story. But again, the point is that when you make a decision in time, there are fewer problems. This

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accumulation of problems happens because there's no response, there's no reaction. Oh, it's bad, oh, it's terrible, oh, what a mess. And the story just continues. And, of course, then there will be more problems. And then, yeah, sooner or later you'll get

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robbed, sooner or later you'll get your ass kicked, because you're like," He's 18 kg lighter than me. "But someone will come along who might even weigh less but will beat the hell out of you, or be your weight or heavier, or call

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his friends, or pull a knife. from him. I saw this instability, and I didn't want to test it. We are going to the boat. It's a crazy, crappy, disgusting day. So here's the group: me , my ex, Sanchez, our mutual friend, a

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friend of his, and a photographer. All of us in this group are completely shocked. And Sanchez and I aren't talking at all. I had changed my phone password a couple of days before because once I got out, we were

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swimming or something. I got out of the water, picked up my phone, and the screen was lit up. And you know, iPhone screens don't just light up like that if you're just opening bags. I say," So , we're not touching the phone? "He

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says," No, even though I'm crazy, Sanchez has done plenty of things. " Anyway, I changed the password, and well, my ex and I go into the cabin. In my opinion, it's all incredibly obvious here. I mean, we have a friend who

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called us selfish [ __ ], and me a [ __ ]. And all of this aggression. And it's clear we can't keep hanging out with him. Obviously, if it's a joke, if it's for fun, no questions asked. But

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if this is a direct confrontation like this, letting it slide...In my view, such a person cannot be in our social circle. And I think it's super obvious, because if one of our friends insulted my wife like that, I wouldn't talk to

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that person anymore, because that is a total disaster. So I tell her:" You understand, we, well, we won't be talking to him anymore. It's just impossible. "And a tantrum begins. And the tantrum continues. And it's just like remember on the channel we went over

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that story where, as far as I recall, there was some issue with a car. I mean , the guy's wife's friend sold a car, and she scammed him for that exact amount. I mean, he lost something like 20 or 25,000 dollars there. In short,

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he lost a significant amount of money on that. And the wife just kept being friends with her anyway. She says:" Well, she cheated you, not me. "I’ll say it again, this isn't about being a team, it’s not about a close person,

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it’s not about respect, feelings, or love. The whole day. And if you have to explain, then you don't need to explain. I mean, if she doesn't tell you that herself, you don't need to explain it to her, you

Speaker A

don't need to try to impart some knowledge to her. We're on the boat discussing the whole situation because it's a shock to everyone. Sanchez is off by himself.

Speaker A

And she keeps going over to Sanchez, whispering with him, coming back to me, back to Sanchez. What a day. And every time I jump into the boat, then I swim for a while, climb out, I grab my bag,

Speaker A

check my phone, and the screen is lit up. But the password has already been changed. So, I was prepared for that.

Speaker A

In short, this whole thing is happening . Well, honestly, I'm in a total tilt again because, uh, my wife is crying because she can't hang out with a person who despises me, who insults me, and that upsets her a lot. I absolutely

Speaker A

, critically do not understand this. Let me remind you that he is a thief, a freeloader, a druggie, he mentally abused her and brought her to tears. So , all this stuff with crazy Sanchez, that's what he did. And she is very

Speaker A

upset that she can't hang out with him anymore. I, well, I don't understand at all how this adds up. It just makes me feel sick. So what am I supposed to do?

Speaker A

What the hell am I supposed to do? I'm on a boat, and I'm stunned. And she’s throwing a fit. So, well, there’s the situation. Then we get back from this boat. Finally, it’s over. A terrible day. She says," Let's at least give

Speaker A

Sanchez a ride so it's easier for him to get there. "And we hadn't talked to them all day. I say," Sanchez, do you want a ride with us? "He says," I'm not talking to you at all. "I say," And why

Speaker A

aren't you talking to me? "Well, I don't know, this situation is just so absurd that it actually amuses me. He says," Because you took my best friend away. "I took his best friend away.

Speaker A

Just, what a way to put it. At the same time, he gets into the car with us.

Speaker A

Taking a best friend is one thing, of course, but getting a free ride to the right part of the island is another. We get home, and she, my ex, is hysterical , she says," Sanchez wants to come over

Speaker A

now and talk. "I say," I don't want to see any Sanchez. "" Oh, please, Sanchez , and all that stuff. "I say," Okay, well, I just can't. " Well, I just can't take it anymore either. Let’s end today's part here,

Speaker A

and you let me know if I should continue or not, because, again, what I was saying: she starts telling me she’s getting in a boat with him because she’s worried he’ll rob the apartment, but then she’s still ready

Speaker A

to let him into the apartment again and talk to him again. Well, look, there are just some people who are unteachable, people who have absolutely no sense of what's okay and what isn't, because it's not even about relationships anymore, it's just about

Speaker A

basic human interaction. Take this guy you think is going to rob your house; at that point, it’s beside the point whether or not he’s sleeping with your wife, or if there's anything going on between them. You’ve practically been in a fistfight with him, yet

Speaker A

you’re still ready to keep on talking to him. You are you, that’s your action, that’s your decision. How does that even happen? Anyway, I'm waiting for your comments. Should we continue or not? That's it for today.

Speaker A

Take care of yourselves. Bye. Ah.

Topics:relationship storydivorcerelationship challengeslong-term relationshipemotional exhaustionfinancial strugglestrust in relationshipspublic breakupsinfluencer relationshipsМаксим Дивертито

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