Speaker A
I've been told by the dentist you shouldn't get water in your mouth and rinse it out. The dirty, nasty—that's how you spit it out. Smell it. The things I loved about you then, I still love about you now. What if they
A 5-year international couple shares cultural differences, relationship insights, and future plans in a candid Q&A.
Key Takeaways
- Cultural differences impact daily habits but can be harmonized through understanding.
- Effective communication and shared responsibilities strengthen their relationship.
- They have aligned long-term goals including marriage and family planning.
- Mutual respect for personal quirks and habits is key to their compatibility.
- Flexibility and compromise help them navigate differences in lifestyle and preferences.
Summary
- Joy from Korea and Chan from England discuss their different toothbrushing habits and cultural perspectives on oral care.
- They reveal their relationship dynamics, including how they manage household chores and personal habits.
- The couple talks about their future plans such as marriage, living arrangements, and having children.
- They share first impressions and what they love about each other after years together.
- Differences and similarities in lifestyle, such as tidiness, coffee preferences, and gaming habits, are explored.
- They address common questions about morning breath and personal hygiene in a cross-cultural context.
- The video highlights their complementary personalities and how they handle disagreements.
- They discuss practical aspects of their relationship like charging devices and planning activities.
- The couple shares how they divide household responsibilities like laundry, cooking, and cleaning.
- Emotional openness is shown as they talk about moodiness and supporting each other.
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Speaker A
think I'm a really dirty person? I'm creative. You look so upset. I am upset. I am genuinely upset. Just say something, baby. Hello, how are you? Okay, let's start. I think hi everyone. Hi everyone. Hi there. Today we are gonna
Speaker A
do a second Q&A video. We haven't been able to film this since forever. We weren't able to meet about a year, so we are gonna run through the questions that we've received so far, and there's a lot. We only had so much time, so we just
Speaker A
brought a few. My name is Joy. I am 26 years old, and I live in Germany. I study media and communication as a master student there, and I'm Chan. I'm 25 from England, and I'm currently in the
Speaker A
British Army. So I'm born in 1994, and he's born in—yeah, in Korean age, we have to eat two years different stuff. I'm gonna start with this question for my sake: how does it feel to have a treasure of
Speaker A
Korea? And I'm so very lucky to have you, and it would always be my treasure. So second question: doesn't it smell when you guys kiss when you haven't brushed teeth? Apparently, you guys care so much about the smells. I have a smell question.
Speaker A
Spend all the time together. We're sleeping together. We wake up together. Yeah, it just smells normal, but they always ask about, like, the morning breath as well. At the beginning of this trip, you were eating a lot of shrimp.
Speaker A
It's a little shrimpy. A little shrimpy, but I got over it. No, but he smells really nice actually. One of the things I love about him is his smell. Actually, he doesn't even have, like, the morning breath. I don't know why.
Speaker A
We have very different—oh, this is really controversial. I think the way we—I was taught in Korea how to brush teeth, and the way you are taught in England is really different. I've been told by the dentist
Speaker A
that after you brush your teeth, you shouldn't get water in your mouth and rinse it out because that removes all of the fluoride and stuff that's going to protect your teeth. You have to let it stay, so you're just supposed to spit and
Speaker A
that's it. But every time she was like, "Oh, it's gross." The thing of the frosting is you got rid of the dirty, nasty—that's how you spit it out. But to be fair, you do have nicer teeth than me, so
Speaker A
maybe you're right. Yes. Yeah, but since I learned that, I started doing it that way, and you always say, like, "Oh, you have to proceed before eating food," but you like to go and eat and then come back and
Speaker A
brush. Of course, that's the whole point of brushing. No, the point of brushing is the brush that's protecting. No, brushing is the point that's cleaning. That's the point. No, that's night brush. My brush is cleaning. The point is I don't stop him.
Speaker A
Actually, because he uses floss a lot, and he uses mouthwash a lot, but I don't use them a lot. Anyway, when Chan kisses my hairline, doesn't it smell like especially here? They always question smell it. For your information,
Speaker A
some serious question here: what would we like to achieve together in life? Obviously, first of all, we have the YouTube channel together. We've already had this same life actually even before we started YouTube at all, and then obviously, of course, you know, we want to
Speaker A
find a nice place to live. Yeah, get a nice place, settle down, get married, have kids, everything, do everything together, and I want to help you achieve what you want to do. But if I plan out my life now, I don't like
Speaker A
planning like 10 years after now, but if I do it, he's always there. I think that's the biggest difference. Do you like it? Okay, so next: first impression of each other. Beautiful. Always been beautiful. Always will. Used to be kind of small,
Speaker A
cute, and shy. Now you're just cute. See, more cute and shy. Now you're just cute. The things I love about you then, I still love about you now. Oh, only more. Where would we like to live together? That is a great question
Speaker A
that we're still trying to figure out, to be honest. Yes, we go back and forth quite a lot on it, and we just—we can't just say right now because, like, what if we change our mind? We'll know when we
Speaker A
know. Yeah, and you will know when we know. This is going to be a really good question: things that really match on and things that are really not similar. Let's start with the similarities that we're trying. So nowadays, I think we both
Speaker A
like to take care of our fitness a lot. Yeah, I think we both like to stay in quite a lot. Yeah, so we go out and we see things, but we always make sure we have, like, days in, days in
Speaker A
because we also—we both like playing games, especially like video games, board games, video games. And the differences: so you are so messy, but I like to try and keep things tidy. I'm not like a major clean freak. You
Speaker A
I don't have oil put your stuff everywhere because we've got such a nice big place right now, and yourself is literally all around the place. I know that. No, no, no, no. You lose everything, and I have to find
Speaker A
it, and I always do because I know where you keep yourself. That's fair point. That's my weak point, and I've been trying to figure this out since I leave. Don't get me wrong, I'm not like a crazy messy person. What if they think I'm a
Speaker A
really dirty person? I'm creative. But there—the problem is he always helped me tidying up. I don't mind it. Oh, I just tidy it up for you. I think it's cute, but yeah, it's definitely something we're different on.
Speaker A
Ah, and I drink coffee, but he doesn't drink coffee at all. She loves coffee. Yeah, I just don't drink it. Yeah, I need coffee. That's one of essential healthy addict, but I always take you to the cafe
Speaker A
to get coffee every day. I think he learned how to, like, enjoy killing time in cafe, right? Yeah. Okay, that is a big one. She never charges anything. The only thing you—you're good at charging is the camera batteries. Camera every time
Speaker A
we call on the phone, your phone dies. I have my power banks charged, my wireless headphones charged, my phone charged, everything charged. That doesn't bother me at all. I know, but it's—I cannot. Maybe it's okay for, like, Apple
Speaker A
stuff, I don't know, but other stuff it's really bad to let it, like, die. Like, you lose stuff. I don't remember the last time I let, like, anything die. Wow, really? Yeah. Anything else want my hair? But to be fair, you're also like way
Speaker A
better at, like, planning everything. You go on the Google Maps, and you make all the things, and you save everything. You're really good at that, so I like to make plans. It's like a little contrary to my
Speaker A
RMBTI. I'd say I'm pretty much like flexible. Okay, you change your mind a lot, but he doesn't mind, so we—it's not a bad match. Oh yeah, I'm just happy to go wherever because I know you're gonna find us something good.
Speaker A
So one of the things I don't like about him: he doesn't know how to use dry bathroom, and you know it's normal for him to just walk around. He looks so upset. I am upset. I am genuinely upset. Do you remember
Speaker A
when you came to my place? Comply with me, please. Yes. Okay, since we've been dating for a long time, what has changed and what limitations have you found? I don't really want you to change. I just want you to be you. If I ever make more
Speaker A
mess, I'll clean it up for you. Guys, should we bear? We already divided our, like, house drawers. Yes, like I do the laundry, she does the folding. Yeah, I like folding, but he likes laundry. Share the cooking, but she probably cooks
Speaker A
more because she's better than me, but I do the dishes. I'm really good at cook. I sort out the bed. Oh, this is another throwing topic: how many times do you guys clean your bedding? I clean my beddings like
Speaker A
once in a few months, but he washes his bedding usually two weeks. Sometimes I might chuck, like, the bed sheet or, like, the pillowcases in in a week. Oh, I want to say this, and I can be very
Speaker A
moody sometimes, and I'm very sensitive sometimes, and he's always the one who's, like, the most closest to me. Sometimes I might take out everything on him, but he's not moody, and I talk to him. I get to be like
Speaker A
more settled down. I take care of you. No, like, you don't talk much. Yeah, I think that's one thing that's things t
Speaker A
yeah when i've got problems and stuff i i don't like to talk about it a lot she always tries to help me as much as i can and you always do but i i don't like to talk about it i just
Speaker A
like to have you but i talk every single thing what have happened to me okay what is the most charming point of each other it's definitely your happy face when you smile at me bono bongo cutest i cannot deny that
Speaker A
can i say that you're a very understanding person with every other reasons right ah has chan been studying korean uh still trying to do a lot but uh we're in a new position lately i haven't had a lot of free time he has been paid a lot
Speaker A
of online courses yeah we haven't found like the best one though like so far i've seen something that fits now you can say something in sentence the words that he like somehow learned from somewhere out of blue is
Speaker A
sometimes very funny it's just funny how are you guys going to get married when where okay so when we know we'll let you know because we don't know of course we want to do it we're both busy doing our own things in different
Speaker A
countries yeah we want we want to do it properly i was like one day when i had a really like bad day i told you one day yeah because we couldn't meet because of the corona it was really bad at the time
Speaker A
[Applause] i told him that i i regretted that i wasn't very sure about our relationship so like what if we had married more earlier we'll find our own past baby i always wanted to go for my own career as well and he's
Speaker A
following his career as well at the moment and came to a conclusion like that okay how many kids are you going to have it's up to her it's her body i think so too i've got a brother and a sister
Speaker A
you've got a sister yeah really i'd be happy with like one what if i don't want to have at all we'll work it out i need to be happy we're gonna have a kitty yeah so how the people around you
Speaker A
reacted when you first told them about each other you cannot come back to korean men once you are meeting like foreigners you must be treating at the moment men's planning me how do you do better than me
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