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In today’s reality, banging some chick in a club bathroom is absolutely no reason to get to know each other.
Explores modern relationship dynamics, focusing on differing male and female perspectives on intimacy and commitment, with insights from American and Russian data.
Key Takeaways
- Sex is no longer a reliable indicator of relationship seriousness for women.
- Men and women have fundamentally different timelines and criteria for commitment.
- High divorce rates coexist with many new marriages, often involving repeated cycles.
- Emotional and financial investments by men often precede women's final decision on commitment.
- Understanding these dynamics can help men avoid emotional and financial pitfalls.
What the video covers
- Modern relationships have shifted, with sex no longer signaling commitment for women as it traditionally did for men.
- In Russia, despite high divorce rates, around 850,000 new families form annually, many involving repeat marriages.
- American dating culture is declining, with inflated expectations causing dissatisfaction and platform failures.
- Women and men have different 'checkpoints' for labeling relationship seriousness, leading to mismatched expectations.
- American studies show women decide on relationship seriousness around the ninth date, while sex typically occurs by the third or fourth date.
- Men tend to view sex as a sign of commitment, but women often see it as casual, leading to men investing emotionally and financially prematurely.
- This mismatch creates a dynamic where women can benefit materially while men develop emotional attachment, often resulting in heartbreak.
- The 'Concord effect' explains why men want to 'lock in' their investments after intimacy, despite women still evaluating the relationship.
- New dating schemes have emerged as men become more aware, but women adapt to maintain benefits from men.
- The video calls for awareness of these dynamics to avoid emotional and financial harm in relationships.
Chapters
- 00:00Introduction to modern relationship realities
- 00:48Statistics on family breakups and new marriages in Russia
- 01:42Modern women and relationship algorithms
- 02:47Decline of dating platforms in America and Russia
- 03:52American study: women's decision timeline in relationships
- 04:51Differences in male and female perceptions of sex and commitment
- 05:44The investment and Concord effect in relationships
- 07:13New dating schemes and female strategies
- 08:13Call to action and channel engagement
- 09:05Cultural reflections and concluding thoughts
Full Transcript — Download SRT & Markdown
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Well, for her, it’s not a reason. Today we’re going to talk about changes in relationships between men and women and what awaits us in the near future. And I’d like to ask those of you who have faced the
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situations we’ll be discussing today to leave a like and write a comment. Every year, we get some nice statistics. Although, this year it won’t be so nice, because it’s been classified.
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Well, like everything else that doesn't fit the party line, in principle. There you have it—the first signs of an authoritarian state. Anyway, here’s the statistic. It says that about eight out of ten families, on average, don't make it to their 10-year anniversary.
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And every year, about 600,000 to 620,000 families break up. Despite this, there’s another statistic showing that between 820,000 and 850,000 new families are formed in Russia annually.
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And this is despite the fact that bloggers keep talking about the legal risks, mental risks, the risk of losing your children, saddling yourself with alimony for 20 years, and so on. By the way, 10–12 percent of these 850,000
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are repeat marriages—second or third times—for those who don't mind heading to the registry office with a single mom. So how does that happen?
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It’s really worth asking yourself that question. Despite the existence of a rather large pool of bloggers—powerful ones, smaller young ones, older ones—who talk about this daily on YouTube, almost a million men still head to the registry office. Now I’ll
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tell you why. You know, I adore modern women. They are like phone scammers. That is, as soon as something new appears—some level of protection—they invent a new algorithm to bypass that protection. And this entire algorithm boils down to one simple and
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banal thing. It’s that men and women have different checkpoints for relationships. Meaning they label their relationships by level of seriousness at different times. Today, I’m going to rely on American statistics because, as experience shows, what happens in America starts happening here in 3–5
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years. I’m talking specifically about gender relations, well, between men and women. And look, here is an interesting point. I’ve already talked in my videos about how American dating has died an epic death, and its corpse now reeks, stinking up the whole world,
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because in America, everyone has left the dating scene. Well, men there truly can't find even a single woman on these dating platforms. Women can't seem to find themselves at least some kind of oligarch there. Everyone has inflated expectations. Nobody gets what they
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want. Basically, everyone has scattered, and these platforms are now starting to go bankrupt in a major way. In Russia, this, uh, flawed tool for meeting women is also dying out, but nevertheless, it’s still hanging on somehow. Why do we still have 850,000
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weddings? These are all old, well-tested techniques, manipulations like push-pull, and so on. But today we are going to talk about America. And these trends are already slowly starting to be adopted by our beloved, strong, and independent, skinny and
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slender, fat and divorced broads with zucchini—it doesn't matter who—in short, women are slowly starting to grasp what is happening and change their behavior. And they are changing their behavior in order to keep receiving the same benefits they used
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to get from men, despite the fact that bloggers talk about it every day. In America, scientists and sociologists there do anything just to avoid working, as the saying goes. They calculated that the average American woman makes a
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decision regarding the seriousness of a relationship. I mean, whether or not she will build a long-term relationship with a man, somewhere around the ninth date, and by nine dates, more or less, a man spends 700 dollars. That is a
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hell of a lot of money even for America. In Russia, these are completely unaffordable figures, even though our women want more. The checkpoints that people use to mark their relationships have shifted. Shifted completely. Look, let's take American studies again. And
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if you believe American sociologists, a woman makes a decision about a man by the ninth date, meaning the projection of the relationship. Meaning she either stops communicating with him, or she continues to build something serious with him. In other words, preparing the
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ground for the registry office. The most interesting thing is that sex happens on the third or fourth date. I mean, if it's, I think, that banned Tinder, sometimes they even skip to the second date, and that's how sex happens
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on average for them. And again, we see a difference in labeling and a difference in upbringing. A man thinks that when he has gone through—actually, a man perceives everything quite simply, easily, and linearly.
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Meaning meeting, talking, interest, attraction, sex, relationship. For a modern American woman, putting out is, in a sense, as easy as going to the bathroom twice, or maybe even easier.
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So for them, sex really isn't a reason to get to know a person. Here she gets a double benefit for herself; she gets the physical intimacy, the immediate gap, and she gets these little bonuses in the form of money, investments,
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being taken out, courtship, and so on. And if sex happens on the fourth date, and she makes her decision on average by the ninth, then for five dates she is getting absolute profit. That is, the man is already starting to invest
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here because he thinks they are in a relationship, but she doesn't think so. So, this physiological marker, which movies, songs, poems, books, and TV shows demonstrate to us, this marker has been passed, but in essence, it means nothing. It means everything to
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the man, but not to the woman. And he starts to invest. And, naturally, the more he has invested, the stronger the Concord effect, or the "Jamshut" effect, will eventually trigger. This effect kicks in, and the man wants to lock in
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his investments. From the standpoint of quick stock market-style trading, it is a perfectly logical move. But in the long run, things turn out the way they turn out. It leads to alimony, divorce, infidelity, and psychological or physical trauma. So, what happens is
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that once this physiological marker is reached—when they, well, maybe he's using her every which way, maybe she’s putting on a great performance for him, like oral sex or other tricks—it doesn't really matter. In short, the marker is passed, and the man
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starts to perceive her as his woman and begins paying for her as his woman. But she still has five more dates to go.
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And those five dates, on average, last from two to four weeks. She continues to have sex with him, continues to receive gifts, and mulls things over.
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Meaning, whether to keep him in the picture forever or not—well, maybe not forever, but for a long time.
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Basically, she keeps choosing. And if he’s unlucky, she will choose him. If he’s lucky, she will dump him, he will be upset, he’ll count up his money, sit and think, and be wiser for it. That is exactly how this process
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happens. And because of this, this is actually a fairly new scheme. It is written about down there in the description. You can find the links and read about it. It is a fairly new scheme that appeared precisely because
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men started to wake up. But as soon as men started waking up, women also started coming up with something in response. Basically, the female casting she conducts—she has a marker that triggers, yes, she marks the ninth or sometimes the tenth date. And that is a
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decent amount of time. I mean, if sex happens on the third or second date, and she needs 10 dates to decide, she gets eight times as much time to reap maximum perks from a man who naively believes they're in a relationship. And
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here, if she actually chooses him and they go to the registry office, he doesn't even suspect that some total nonsense has gone down. Just a minute of your time. Please leave a like.
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channel. Because for YouTube, this is truly important, and not just for YouTube, but for all of us. If you want the voice of male truth to be heard on the internet much more often and much louder, like, comment, and subscribe to
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the channel. And if you want to actively support the channel, there is a Boosty link under the video. You can go there, get a subscription, there are many different levels and different access to truly interesting content.
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There are a lot of podcasts there, and my book is there for free, narrated by me. In general, stop by, take a look, and support us. And once again, dear friends, like, comment, and subscribe to the channel. It is really necessary,
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it is really important, because the male truth must be heard. That, by the way, is where those American 700 dollars come from, which pile up because of this difference in expectations or because of differently marked checkpoints. I recently met with
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a friend, and he says: "You won't believe it, three families our age in our neighborhood left, two stayed, and the rest got divorced—they divorced in such a way that everything was shaking." It even got to the point of
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fistfights; some are living with others , and they’re all just swapping partners. "It's like a neighborhood dog wedding in the best traditions." And that’s how they live in a city that, in principle, isn't the poorest or the most backward. I'm filming this in
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Novokuznetsk right now, and for a second, there are 550,000 people officially living here. With the agglomeration, it's a million. And everyone is living like this. I mean, okay, sure, let's say, but what are we going to do when men finally open their
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eyes? Because they talk to each other on the street, they talk to each other at work, on the bus, in the car together, while driving somewhere, or just standing by the entrance, smoking and talking. I mean, despite all this,
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there are still men who go to the registry office with women. There you go, a new scheme for exploitation.
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Moreover, a man falls, again, into such a hard, first of all, dopamine trap. Yes, I have already explained, and I will explain again, that when the process of coitus occurs—let's just call it sex—when a man and a woman
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have intercourse, and when this process is completed logically, meaning a normal ending, or in other words, an orgasm is achieved, at that moment, a large dose of oxytocin is released in the body. And oxytocin is the hormone responsible for attachment specifically
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to the object with whom you received this oxytocin. It's biology that is necessary for our species to continue to develop as a living biological entity, because, well, a calf stands on its feet half an hour after birth, while a human learns to walk normally,
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more or less, by the age of two or three, if they're lucky. And they only stand on their own two feet by age eighteen. Well, figuratively speaking, when they can protect themselves. This is exactly why we need oxytocin—so
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that couples are stronger and more connected. Anyway, what am I driving at ? A man who realizes that a woman— well, of course, not all of them are like this. I am obligated to say that now because there are already dozens of
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complaints being filed against me. Not all women are like that. But there are women who are mercenary. And despite the fact that he understands these women are mercenary, they have learned how to bypass this system. They meet and merge in ecstasy. For her, it means
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absolutely nothing, but for him, it’s logical, because he’s seen it in movies and read it in books, right. And she, to be honest, if we lay our hand on our heart, is already acting as if she is in a couple, but she still keeps
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him in a state of limbo. In reality, this is a beastly and bastardly approach. Not clearly defining this part of the relationship right from the start leads to inflated expectations, which then result in very big disappointments later on. And if a
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modern woman is used to male attention, used to having a lot of it, and used to the fact that from the massive traffic of this "simp," pathetic, low-value attention, something occasionally hits and comes along, then a modern man
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doesn't have that much female attention . And for him, this attention is much more valuable. But when she puts him through this trap, well, my jurisdiction ends there; I warned you guys. In short, in America, men have made a completely logical decision. Now
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, men don't agree to a date unless it's a 50/50 date. Well, that is, not 50/50, but each person pays for themselves and their own entertainment. They even chip in for condoms, by the way. In Russia, everything is a bit different. We have
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an entirely different cultural code here. We have our own, so to speak, spiritual bonds. And if someone asks me now if it's possible to protect oneself from such an approach—well, some people still believe in "the one," in love, in dragons, unicorns, and so on.
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When they ask me how to resolve this boorish, pathetic, and rather unpleasant issue in relations between men and women, I answer easily and simply. I always answer like this: screw 50/50. Forget about it altogether . You are men, you must respect
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yourselves, and you must respect your woman. Therefore, damn it, if she wants to meet with you, she damn well better pay. She’s not the one paying child support for 18 years, or until 23 if the kid decides to study. She’s not
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the one paying housing alimony if you don’t deign to leave your own apartment with a patriarch's kit. So, if she really wants a man—not some loser, not some marginal, some ex-con, some god-knows-what, some tuberculous, syphilitic, pedo-adjacent, half-rooster , half-human creature. Let her pay. Let
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her pay. Young men, I know perfectly well who is watching me. The average age of those who are subscribed to my channel and actively watch me is men 35-45 years old. For a second, I’m turning 40 in literally a few days.
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Actually, I haven't even figured out what that means yet. But I can clearly see who watches me and how I live myself. I have an apartment, a car.
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Everyone who watches me has apartments, cars, the ability to earn money, and some hobbies. The majority don't drink.
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And she wants us, the best men, the salt of the Russian earth, to also show weakness and court her. Hell no. You can court the disabled, as they truly need someone to watch over them. That is exactly why if she wants a normal
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man, she should pay for it. I won't even joke about deposits of 40 million, but you can definitely invite me on a date, dammit, and pay for that date.
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Don't want to invite me? Well, there you go, at your service. Junkies, alcoholics, marginals, syphilitic ex-cons, people with AIDS, some shady criminal or near-criminal types, all sorts of weird homosexuals. In short, go ahead, please, date and screw them.
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If you want a decent man, get ready, well, get your pockets ready, open up that wallet, otherwise it just won't work. Once again, young people, like the video, leave comments, and subscribe to the channel. It’s only going to get worse from here. Well, I
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mean, more interesting.
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