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Wouldn't it be nice to live a simpler life, to reclaim time and energy to do the things that really matter to us? I think this is a thought that many of us share because there's been a marked rise
Learn minimalist habits to live a simpler, intentional life by focusing on essentials and saying no to non-essentials.
Key Takeaways
- Simplifying life is about focusing on what truly matters and eliminating the rest.
- An essentialist mindset is key to distinguishing important tasks and possessions.
- Saying no is a powerful habit to protect your time and energy.
- Creating space—physical, digital, and mental—is vital for simplicity and mindfulness.
- Intentional living can be practiced anywhere without drastic lifestyle changes.
What the video covers
- Many desire a simpler life to reclaim time and energy for what truly matters.
- The rise of cottagecore content reflects this longing for unadorned, nature-harmonized living.
- Living simply doesn't require escaping to a cabin; key habits can create similar effects.
- Adopting an essentialist mindset helps prioritize vital few over trivial many.
- Challenging the endowment effect aids in letting go of possessions and commitments that aren't essential.
- Saying no to non-essential requests is crucial to regain time and mental space.
- Creating physical, digital, and mental breathing space helps reduce stress and distractions.
- Welcoming moments of idleness allows the mind to relax and focus on the present.
- The video is inspired by Greg McKeown's audiobook Essentialism, which offers practical tips on intentional living.
- Audible sponsorship offers free trials and audiobooks to support learning and growth.
Chapters
- 00:00Introduction to living a simpler life
- 00:29The appeal of cottagecore and simple living
- 00:54Identifying what truly matters
- 01:19Adopting an essentialist mindset
- 02:20Overcoming attachment to possessions
- 02:43Applying essentialism to commitments
- 03:12The power of saying no
- 03:39How to say no effectively
- 04:36Creating mental and physical space
- 05:05Welcoming idleness and mindfulness
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in the popularity of cottagecore content. This content portrays living the simple life, unadorned country living, harmonized with nature, with plenty of free time for things like hobbies, gardening, and wilderness expeditions. This content is a dreamy escape from our
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fast-paced urban lifestyles. But unfortunately, most of us can't just get up and leave to live in a cabin in the woods. What if I told you that we could achieve the effect of such a life just by implementing a few key habits? That's
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what we're going to explore in today's video. And a brief thanks as well to our friends at Audible for sponsoring today's video. We're going to chat more about them later on. The key to a simple life is to find out
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what really matters to us and then to strip away all the rest. Most of us feel too busy and overloaded, and we say yes too much. We end up overflowing our schedules, and we buy all of these things,
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maybe because we feel it's expected of us or we see other people doing it and we feel that we should be too. We passionately want it all, and this pursuit of more drowns out what matters the most to us. To live a simpler life, we
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need to move beyond the belief that everything is important. We need to get into the habit of thinking like an essentialist. As Greg McKeown puts it in his audiobook Essentialism, a non-essentialist is someone who thinks that pretty much everything is important,
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and they want to do it all. This non-essentialist thinks that in order for something to be made better, something needs to be added. An essentialist, on the other hand, thinks that very few things are important, and they only make time for the vital few
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rather than the trivial many. In order for something to be made better, this essentialist thinks that something needs to be taken away. Thinking like an essentialist helps us distinguish what's merely okay from what's truly great.
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To create a simpler life, we want, wherever possible, to eliminate the non-essentials in order to create space for what matters the most to us. The problem is we get so attached to the things that we own. In psychology and behavioral economics, the endowment effect is the idea that we value objects
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and opportunities higher if we already own them versus if we didn't. And because of this, we have a hard time letting go of our stuff. So one way to live more intentionally is to get into the habit of challenging this endowment effect by
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acting as if we didn't already own that thing. So, for example, in deciding what to do with that blue pair of jeans that's at the back of our closet, we could ask ourselves the question: What if I did not
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already own these jeans? Would I put in an effort to obtain them right now? And this applies not just to possessions but to our commitments as well. If I didn't have the opportunity to attend this event, would I put in an effort to create
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the opportunity myself? If the answer is no, it's safe to say that these things aren't essential to us. So we can make more space for the things that are essential by letting these things go or by learning to say no.
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Getting into the habit of saying no is the most powerful tool in our arsenal to regaining time and creating a simpler life. When we don't say no, our time bleeds through a million paper cuts through things like an internet
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distraction, or tidying items we didn't even need in the first place, and social obligations we don't even really want to go to. So when should we say no? I've been using something that I learned from Greg as well. He says, if it isn't a hell yes,
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it's a no. And there's no doubt that saying no is hard, especially when we're saying no to people. We have a deep-rooted desire to be liked, and we don't want to let people down, and we feel guilty when we decline someone's request.
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But we do forget that denying the request is not the same thing as denying the person. We can still kindly and compassionately thank them for the thought, for the invitation, and also firmly say it just isn't possible this
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time. And this isn't to say that we're saying no relentlessly or just for the sake of saying it. We're just saying no to the non-essentials to free up time and space so that we can say a big wholehearted yes to the essential few.
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Creating space is another key step towards living a simpler life. An off-the-grid cabin in the woods, I feel, is alluring because it provides digital and physical and mental breathing space that distances us from the stresses of life. So why not create this kind of
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space in our everyday lives as well? It can be a bit challenging since we now live in a world where our phones are always at our fingertips. Something is always competing for our attention, and the non-stop stream of news and fresh
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content is great, frankly, for whenever there's a dull moment. But this elimination of boredom has also come at a cost. It's taken away precious moments of quiet, moments of mental breathing space. So instead of habitually reaching for our devices, we might want to nurture
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the habit of openly welcoming moments of idleness, giving our minds the space to freely wander and to give ourselves permission to simply be. Instead of looking for an immediate distraction, we can try to experience what's happening around us. How is the light pouring in
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through the window? Can we see any steam whisping up and out of our coffee or tea? Is there any tension in our shoulders, neck, or jaw, and can we relax them? When we create mental breathing space and learn to say no, when we eliminate the
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non-essentials so that we can better focus on the things that are essential and important to us, then we're very much on track to living a simpler life. And would you look at that, we didn't even have to escape to a cabin in the woods. I
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again wanted to also thank our friends at Audible for sponsoring today's video. Today's video was largely inspired by Greg McKeown's audiobook Essentialism. I learned so much from this one. Greg shares a bunch of tips on how to live a
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more intentional life, and if you, like me, struggle with saying no, he's got a bunch of tips in there as well on how to say no very gracefully and compassionately. It's easily become one of my new favorite audiobooks. I highly recommend
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