BLIND SPOTS WHEN MANIFESTING A SPECIFIC PERSON

Dante Ryan discusses blind spots in manifesting a specific person, emphasizing identity, self-concept, and the power of internal belief over techniques.

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Key Takeaways

Manifestation is about embodying the identity of what you want, not just using techniques.
Self-worth and self-concept directly influence relationship dynamics and the presence of a third party.
Visualization and affirmations should be done to experience joy, not out of need or desperation.
Avoid external validation and social media comparisons to prevent blind spots in manifestation.
The ego creates resistance by reinforcing fears, so awareness and mindset shifts are essential.

What the video covers

Manifestation is identity-based: you must become the version of yourself who already experiences what you desire.
The story you tell yourself is more important than the techniques or affirmations you use.
A third party (3P) in relationships often reflects your self-worth and belief that someone is better than you.
Affirmations are moments of congruency with a version of yourself that already exists in another reality.
Visualization should be done to experience the feeling, not as a means to force or get something externally.
Living as if you already have what you want is crucial; focusing on the middle or absence creates new endings.
Checking social media or external evidence can trigger doubt and is a common blind spot.
The ego’s role is to keep you comfortable and prevent change by feeding fears and doubts.
Focus on self-love and self-concept to reflect the qualities you want others to see in you.
Manifestation requires a new way of thinking and being, not just doing techniques or rituals.

Chapters

What is the main blind spot when manifesting a specific person?

The main blind spot is focusing on external circumstances or techniques rather than embodying the identity of the person who already has what they desire.

How does self-worth affect the presence of a third party in relationships?

A third party often exists because of a low self-worth or belief that someone else is better, which manifests as competition in the relationship.

Should visualization be used to force outcomes in manifestation?

No, visualization should be used to experience the feeling of having what you want, not as a desperate attempt to force something external to happen.

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Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the favorite show of the Orion Hotline with me, of course, Dante Ryan, here to answer any and all your manifesting questions and needs. Today's topic is going to be "A wise man is the same both in pleasure and in pain."

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So, this email that I got, it's going to be a bit of a longer one, but it's going to cover how the story that you tell is just as important, if not more important, than the techniques or how long you've been doing something or the direct affirmations you should use, right? Because as we know, when you make a decision based on who you are as an identity, it's unfolding to you the second you decide. There is no

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separation between when you've decided it and when it's unfolding, right? Because it's done the second that you decide.

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You put in the Amazon order, you order the food, and now that food or Amazon order is going to be delivered to you when you least expect it because you're already being, right? This is being it before having it directly in front of

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your face, because you know it to be the truth. You know it to already be that way.

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Now, there's no waiting. There's no separation. When you decide it, it is that way.

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And it has to be tied back to who you are as an identity, because you don't get what you want, you get who you are.

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So, if you want to get the things that you want to experience, you have to be the identity that would experience it first, okay?

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This is an identity-based game. It's not techniques, it's not special things you should be doing, it's who you are intrinsically that materializes in experience for you, okay? So, let's get into the email.

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Hey Dante, I hope you're well and having a lovely day. I am. I would love to hear your advice and gain some guidance on my situation as I feel I potentially have a blind spot somewhere here, and so you do. Remember,

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guys, everything that you say is an affirmation. From "I can't seem to fall asleep" to "I always wake up at this time" to "I must have a blind spot" or "I don't understand something" or "something is difficult" or "this is super easy."

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Everything you say is an affirmation. It's about the implication of what you're saying because an affirmation is a moment of congruency to a version of yourself that already exists, right?

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There's no—there's not one 3D. There's not one specific reality. There's a multitude of realities. When you have a thought, when you have a desire, that means that there's a reality out there for you to experience as long as you align yourself to that

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version of you who already is that way. That's the game. Long story short, this is about getting an SP back, everyone's favorite, and getting rid of a 3P.

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My own experience and from working with others, a 3P exists because of you. It's your self-worth in thinking that someone is better than you. That's why I emphasize self-concept, concepts of self, how loving relationships work for you, how you—no one is better than you,

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how people that you date view you as the best option, view you as their home, their safe space, the best thing that's ever happened to them, their [expletive] fantasy, right? That's why I emphasize that in the songs, especially with the

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[expletive] seduction songs. You focus on you because when you focus on you, when you give the reason why they would view you this way, they're going to be reflecting that.

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They're going to view you as their safe space, as the best thing since [expletive] sliced bread, as Aphrodite made manifest, as a [expletive] Adonis, right? As the hottest [expletive] thing they've ever seen. Because you're giving that to

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yourself. You're giving yourself the characteristics first. And I've had this [expletive] reflected to me by people like in [expletive] bizarre ways. Like it just comes up in conversation, right?

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As I'm sure the people who have practiced this, who have done this, can also say the same, right? Because it's always a reflection of who you are being on a moment-to-moment basis.

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Sir, it's been four years since the breakup, and so it has. Remember, guys, time doesn't exist. And no contact, and last September I found out about a 3P.

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I'm shocked. You're probably worried about it. It changed the game for me as I saw how I created it, and went ham in affirming and self-concept, etc. Okay, so you're aware of it. You're aware that you created it or selected it, I should say.

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I was adamant that within six weeks I got rid of her. I dropped my awareness of 3P entirely in January and found yourself and Eric. I ditched every other coach from all these years and will only watch you two.

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I thought I'd been going all in on identity being new self and visualizing me and SP together in my new life and with all the other areas as I want them to be, too.

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So, remember, it's not the technique that you're doing. It's you who supplements the power to set technique. You are the technique. So, when you're visualizing, are you viewing it as a means to get or are you doing it as a means to

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experience something because you want to? That's how a technique should be viewed. It should be viewed as like, "Ah, I'm craving this, so I'm going to do this to experience it," not to give it to yourself, to give yourself the experience to

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validate me, to make sure, like, not really to get rid of the need, but for me to just experience it because it's something that I would like to experience.

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So, you give it to yourself because you're not craving it and needing it outside of you. You give it to yourself and then you're chill. And then you remind yourself how it really is. It's not a means to force something to happen or to

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get something outside of you. That's super important because that's a blind spot a lot of people have. They view the visualization aspect of it like, "I have to affirm or I have to do something." No, you don't. It's the decision of how

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something is. For me personally, I don't like to do a lot of visualizations. If I want to, if I want to experience something, then I can do it for like five minutes, ten minutes,

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just like view it in my head, view it in my imagination, and then go on throughout my day, right?

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Personally, I just make a decision of how something is and then it comes into my mind and I give the what and then I give the why because that's what a good affirmation is because you tie back to self.

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Right? So, you do that and then you go on throughout your day. It's not a thing of doing something to get. It's a new way of being and a new way of thinking.

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That's how you should view it. It shouldn't be like, "I got to set my schedule so that I can make time to affirm or to make time to visualize." No, it's just a new way of thinking, a new

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way of being. You're doing it throughout the day. I 110% thought that they were over and lived as if they are.

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You should live it as if you guys are already together. Not that the SP and the [expletive] third party are gone. You go to the direct end. You're not going to a middle.

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Otherwise, the middle is the new end. But today, I had a weak moment and saw on socials they've been together for over a year now. Well, why did you check? Okay.

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Progressing, etc., looking perfect. How do you know they're perfect, right? You're assuming that. You're the one supplying the meaning and power to that.

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Important. You could look at the [expletive] pictures and be like, "Oh, he looks [expletive] sick of her." Or she looks sick of him.

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3P even took him to a country for his birthday, where I have been visualizing for the last three years that I would take him there for his birthday. What the [expletive]? Yep. That's how the game works. You got

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to be aware. It's like it's going to reflect back to you your [expletive] fears, your worries, your doubts, the things that you've been stewing on.

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And like it's going to go, "Ha, got you." And it's going to force you to try and go, "Oh, no, it's not working." Or "I don't have this," because that's what the point of the ego is. It's to keep you

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where you are, where you're comfortable. It doesn't like change because as you shifted internally, you're now aware th

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where you are, where you're comfortable. It doesn't like change because as you shifted internally, you're now aware that this isn't what you selected. And now you have to continue to go back to the decision that you just made. And

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then you have to self-validate yourself because when you look outside of you, you're looking at the land of the dead that will never [ __ ] validate you.

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Because when you do that, you're going to keep it there. And you're going to get more of what you previously materialized for yourself. You have to understand this. When you look outside of you, you're going to see the old

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[ __ ] It's not going to change in front of your face. It's going to show up in front of your face when you're not expecting it. As you're being it. And being it just means you aren't contradicting yourself.

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So, in that moment you contradicted yourself, you looked outside of you, and you went, "Uh, it's exactly the same.

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Nothing changed." I feel blindsided because I thought 3P was fully out of the picture for the last 6 months, and I've been the person who has my SP in No, you haven't.

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How do In a moment of weakness, you go out, and then you go see, and then you freak out.

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So, you don't you weren't being it. You're trying to be it to get something to happen. You're trying to force an outcome in a land where there's no forcing. It's a decision. It's a moment of it is this

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way, and then anytime it comes to your mind, it is this way. You There shouldn't be a whole lot of emotional attachment to something. It should be like It should be like you order your your favorite [ __ ] pair of

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socks on Amazon. That's the amount of indifference you should have. And if you don't have a lot of indifference, and you have you have a lot of emotion, you have to decide over that emotion, but tie it back to who you are.

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It's you. It's You're the identity that is materializing an outcome for you. When you're focusing on a thing so much, when you're fixated, that's when you have that super high emotional attachment to it has to be this way. It has to work

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out this way, and you hyperfixate on it. And when you hyperfixate on something, that means intrinsically you don't have it.

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If you have a lot of emotional attachment to something, it means you don't have it, or you're worried, or you're doubtful because emotional attachment means that something is going to go wrong, or you're going to lose it, right?

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So, you tie it back to who you are first. You are the reason why this Like, stop looking at this SP as like, "I need him." He needs you. Or she needs you.

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It's not the other way around. You think God acts this way? You think God is like, "This [ __ ] this antelope, he's not looking at me." No.

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You You are the source of it. These experiences, these people, they all come from your awareness, your conscious selections. You've seen it work against yourself. Now you have to see it working for you. You have to decide for yourself

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how this person views you. How you are in this relationship. How this relationship is. You go to the direct end and you don't focus on it getting rid of someone. Because who's to say that this person gets rid of that

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person and then all of a sudden they have a new person. Right? It's you.

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Your direct end. At least I thought that was my identity, but now I'm heartbroken and feel like a clown for believing in this. So, also, you have to decide how this is. Cuz you see maybe like let's see you see your SP

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and then a 3P and all of a sudden you can decide the meaning behind that. You could be wow, he's he's dating this person, but like he's not even into her.

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He's thinking about me the whole [ __ ] time. Like he's like I should really call her. This is person is so [ __ ] boring. They don't they don't scratch the itch that you you scratch, right?

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Again, who's to say that their relationship is perfect or that he's so in love with her. You're the one deciding this. You're just deciding it against yourself.

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I picked up I picked my buh I picked myself up so many times over the years as I haven't wanted to give up. My heart wants it so bad and we are each other's first love. Have I misunderstood the application and

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identity aspect of this? It seems like that, but only you decide that. I've been trying to gain the consciousness of me who has him back in my dream life feeling magical, giddy, loved, etc. It seems like everyone gets

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results and reflected, but gets results and have has things reflected, but me. You decided that.

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I followed every 3P 3P instruction, done every technique under the sun, been telling myself my outer world will will will will reflect my inner world, but it never does cuz you're looking. Is my identity some someone that doesn't work

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for? Despite my adamant 3P despite being adamant 3P wasn't a deep thing and believing they were over months ago.

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Well, I've been thinking I'm identifying as having him. Do I need to go into villain mode that [ __ ] this 3P he's using me wanting me again despite uh despite time and circumstances. I'm genuinely confused. Okay, so

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as someone who's also experienced something similar to this, time and circumstances don't [ __ ] matter. It's your decision and it how steadfast you can be in it. I've had people travel across the country to show up after [ __ ] years of no contact,

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okay? Like you're not special. This isn't a [ __ ] special circumstance. It's you. It's your identity behind said thing. It's your It's your decision and oh no, they're perfect. It isn't working out for me. Oh no. Like what benefit

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does it have when you decide that? Right? So what I would suggest for you is to focus entirely on you for like the next 2 weeks. Don't even [ __ ] think about this guy because like nothing's changed

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in the past however nothing's changed. So what do you have to lose on just focusing only on yourself, right? The 3P goes I mean the [ __ ] SP still going to be there. What you want is still

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going to be there for you to select after you focus entirely on yourself. You need to get to a place where you're [ __ ] fine. You're relaxed. You're elevated and you're enjoying your life genuinely by just being yourself, by

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just enjoying who you are. I'd honestly focus on other things in my life because if you already had this guy or this girl, I don't judge.

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You would be living your life, right? You'd be enjoying yourself. You wouldn't be [ __ ] thinking, I wonder what he's doing. I wonder what like like is this SP uh 3P gone? Like no, you wouldn't be thinking things. You'd be Oh, I can't

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wait to see him for dinner tonight. Oh, that's cool. He just texted me or or she texted me or whatever, right?

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So you have to take the fixation off of the said thing. And this is why so many people have [ __ ] problems with SPs.

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It's not the fact that like they like they can't manifest things. It's because they have such an emotional attachment and fixation to a said person and they can't detach from it and they can't allow themselves to be the prize,

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the priority, the only choice, the only option that no one is better than no one can [ __ ] compare to.

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And you have to give that to yourself. You have to give yourself the why because you're supplementing the what over and over and over and over and over again.

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And you're not giving yourself the why. You're not tying it back to self from how I'm seeing it. Because you're focusing on techniques, you're fixating on getting something, on waiting for something to change. And there is no waiting. You already are or you aren't.

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And if you're focusing on doing doing doing to get something, that means intrinsically you aren't. Because the person doing to get something isn't the one who has it.

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That's it. How it intrinsically is. So, when you decide how this person views you, that you guys are together.

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You're in the most perfect and loving committed relationship ever. The [ __ ] sex is fantastic. The communication is amazing. That he just can't get enough of you or she can't get enough of you and everything is so amazing. You decide

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that now. You decide how they view you as their safe space, their home, their [ __ ] fantasy made flesh, right? Their deepest desires.

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That like they can't get aroused by anyone else. You make those decisions. And they're yours now. And then any time that comes to mind, it's already that way. If you're focused on trying to get rid of something or trying to meddle in

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the middle and trying to like force something to happen, because you're not going to force anything to happen because reality is that way in front of you until you shift internally and then you aren't relying on seeing it outside of you.

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That's how this game works. And then it shows up when you least expect it because you're already being it and you're not [ __ ] looking.

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Because when you look, you aren't. They continue by saying, "My only thought is that is am I being the person in imagination and seeing it as imagination only?

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Could be. But it's told to have it internally then the outer world has to catch up. See, there's the problem. You're waiting.

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You're waiting to get something when you already should have it, right? It isn't your doing to like you're not setting a timer. You're not I'm going to visualize or do a meditation or firm and then I'm going to wait 15 minutes and

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then I'm going to have it. It's already done that way. When you view it in imagination or you say a word or you make a decision, it is that way now.

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You have to view it as it's done now. You experienced it internally, that just happened. And it is that way right now.

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And then anytime like you see the outer world reflecting back to you like your previous state of awareness, you have to go back to what you just decided and it continues to be that way.

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Okay? Um I guess I have to a perfect version in imagination but not in the 3D. So you're creating separation and so you're going to continue to experience separation.

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I want to crack this identity stuff as I generally believe yourself and Eric but the situation has shook my belief and dare I say it, I don't know how to trust anymore bro.

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Okay. So focus on other areas of your life, too. Like don't just hyperfixate on this SP or this person.

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Give yourself the experience with everything in your life. Speak it as it already is, your perfect life now, okay?

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Cuz then you're going to start seeing the reflections to things that you aren't super emotionally attached to and then that's going to build your faith in it. You can also look back at how you saw you [ __ ] materialize a man if I

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said perfectly against yourself. That'll also build your faith in this and learn how to trust.

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An identity is just who you are on a moment-to-moment basis. So how I break it down in the rulebook and if you haven't read the rulebook, read the rulebook because it has everything that you need to know.

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Four pillars, okay? First pillar is under understanding yourself as all that is, one with God, the source selector of your reality. Meaning that there isn't just one reality, there's a multitude of realities and whenever you have a thought or you have a desire, that means

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that there's a version of you who's already experiencing it that way. So that just means you have to align yourself to it and view it as already being that way. The second is this concept of self, this self-concept.

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How areas of your life work for you both in macro and micro areas. So it could be as broad as how loving relationships work versus like how every guy that you date after like three weeks weeks treat you, right? So it could be like really

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amazing for the first three weeks and then all of a sudden he doesn't want anything to do with you or [ __ ] blows you off or is like I don't want anything serious.

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That's always tied back to who you are, right? So you have to decide how things work out for you. If you notice a pattern, you have to decide a new pattern. Decide who you are now, right?

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Sort of the head of the snake, or you can decide like if it's a reoccurring thing, how things are now. The third is now your direct end. You have to make sure that it is in alignment, meaning it

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isn't contradicting and conflicting with the second pillar. So, if you decided that you guys are in the perfect most loving relationship ever, but every ex that you've ever had [ __ ] cheated on you and hated your guts, this is going

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to [ __ ] mess with, right? So, you have to go back and say, "No, I always experience the best that love has to offer. I only ever experience guys [ __ ] worshipping me or girls worshipping me and like [ __ ] catering

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to me, the sex being amazing, the relations being amazing, the communication being [ __ ] amazing, everything being amazing, right?" Cuz then that makes sense for number three.

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And number four now is now viewing the world as that way now. There's no waiting. There's no [ __ ] I'm going to set my timer and then all of a sudden like by noon my SP will be

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back. No, it is that way now. There's no waiting. It already is that way. When you have that frame internally and nothing can [ __ ] with you because you know how this game works and you've seen it work against yourself and work for

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you in other areas of your life, you don't care. You relax. And that's where you get the no [ __ ] given attitude. And that's when you can just focus entirely on you. And that's what I personally do.

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Focus like [ __ ] 95 to 100% on myself, on who I am. When you view yourself as the prize, as the priority, everyone reflects that. It's not just [ __ ] limited to one person, right?

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Uh would love and appreciate any guidance you have on this to get me in the direction I need to be and how to believe this can and will change fast.

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But there's no fast. It's now. If I get this right as I feel uh feel defeated. Well, you're going to experience defeat then.

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Thanks so much in advance for your answer. So, I just broke it down for you, okay? So, you focus on yourself, you give yourself the why behind these things because it seems like from your email that you're so focused on the

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what. You're hyper-fixated on this person. You need to be the fixation for yourself. You need to give the reason why this person would feel that way. And I personally would stop at the [ __ ] visualizations and meditations and

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techniques and everything like that. It's not like This isn't This shouldn't be a hobby. This shouldn't be a thing to do to get. This is just who you are being now. This is just a means of a new

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way of thinking, a new way of acting within your reality. And when you normalize the experience for you of Of course it's this way, it's said and done, boom done. And then you don't really think about it. That's you

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being it. Because when you're being it, it should feel [ __ ] easy and effortless. Like it doesn't really pop in your head and then anytime it does or you have a [ __ ] like intrusive thought from your old awareness of like,

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what about 3P? You go, "No, we're [ __ ] together now. We're so in love.

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He can't get enough of me. He's [ __ ] blowing up my phone all the time." And when you don't look and require the validation from outside of you, that's when it [ __ ] flows to you because you

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don't care. Because you know it can't [ __ ] validate you if you're looking or if you're [ __ ] searching for it.

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It just is or it isn't. And you have to be the decision decider of it is or it isn't. Cuz if you're questioning reality is questioning, it's going to [ __ ] flip-flop back and forth. And that's where you get these hot and cold moments

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or you get these moments of like, "Wow, I'm super relaxed and I'm congruent with this identity." versus like, "I'm searching. Is it done yet?" It already is. Okay.

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So, I know that helps. If you guys have your own questions and that Woah, sorry. If you guys also have questions that you want answered on the Orion Hotline, send them over to Dante [email protected].

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Members, of course, get first priority. And I will see you guys in the next Orion Hotline. Bye-bye.

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