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All right, these are some things to never say to a woman over text message or in person, really, you never want to say this.
Learn the 3 things men should never ask or text women to maintain desire and understand female nature and hypergamy.
Key Takeaways
- Avoid needy or overly attentive questions that focus on her daily activities or feelings.
- Create space and mystery by reducing texting and not seeking constant communication.
- Aim to have women pursue you rather than the other way around to satisfy hypergamy.
- Words and how you communicate directly affect a woman's desire and perceived status.
- Men should focus on having an interesting life rather than seeking validation through texts.
What the video covers
- Avoid asking women 'What are you doing today?' as it implies you focus on her world, lowering your perceived status.
- Never ask 'How's your day?' because it signals neediness and emotional reassurance, which decreases attraction.
- Men should stop excessive texting to create space, mystery, and maintain higher perceived value.
- The core idea is to get women to pursue men, satisfying female hypergamy and increasing desire.
- Players are described as lazy and indifferent, so men should not act needy or overly attentive.
- Words and communication create perceived status in a woman's eyes, influencing her desire.
- Constant communication kills mystery and ruins potential relationships.
- Women want men whose lives are more interesting than theirs.
- Men seeking emotional reassurance via texts appear scared and lower their value.
- Mastering the 'language of women' helps men understand masculine-feminine dynamics and attraction.
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The more I make these videos, it's pretty clear to me that a lot of guys have no clue when it comes to just overall masculine and feminine dynamics and how to carry things.
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So I'm going to help you with all this.
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Okay, I'm going to help you cover all this and this is going to be super simple, just stick with me.
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So first off, okay, these things only make sense once you learn, understand and master the language of women.
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I know that you guys hear me say that so often.
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But you have to actually understand why.
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Not only is this my process, but there's a reason for this.
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The reason is because the main idea when it comes to understanding the language of women is getting her to pursue you instead of you pursuing her.
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So I'm going to show you in just a little bit why you saying all of these things makes her not want to pursue you.
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Okay, so getting her to pursue you instead of you pursuing her is the base idea of understanding the language of women.
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Well, you might be wondering why.
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Okay, the reason is because at all times we are trying to satisfy hypergamy.
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So let me give you an example.
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This truly is a process that any guy can use.
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One of the guys in our community, we actually just crossed over 1300 members.
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He goes, number one program, at times I have checked out other influencers just to see what they have to say.
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At some point they all show a sign of try hard energy or their actions validate the woman, so I default back to language of women.
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That means something.
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This is what the guy said.
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Okay, so this is why I'm telling you, this is a process that any guy can use.
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You have to learn, understand and master the language of women because what we're doing is we're getting her to pursue you, which satisfies hypergamy.
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Well, why would that be?
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Because women want pre-selected men.
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This is why I keep telling you, you have to join us inside of this.
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It's some of the best material that I've ever created.
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Okay, when you understand these nuances, you'll see how all these things over here that guys say to women lowers her desire.
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It lowers her interest level.
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And it makes hypergamy not satisfied.
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So, now that we understand this, now that we understand why this is so important.
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And why words matter, and why words determine how she views you.
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Notice, this is why I call it the language of women.
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Words is what's going to create different levels of perceived status that she has in her eyes for you.
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Now we can actually address the things that men say that you can never say.
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When it comes to messaging a woman or text messaging her or any of this stuff.
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Never say these things.
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I'm going to show you why.
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So, number one, the first thing to never say or never ask a woman is what are you doing today?
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Never text message this, never ask this in person.
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First and foremost, you have to understand this, the player doesn't care.
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And it's not even like he doesn't care about her, it's like he actually doesn't care to open up his phone and even type it in the first place.
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Like overall, you got to understand this.
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The player is lazy.
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So lazy.
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Even if she's beautiful, she's gorgeous, there's a very high chance if she calls and he's not doing anything.
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He's going to just ignore the call simply because he doesn't feel like talking.
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See, this is what you have to understand.
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The player is lazy at the core level.
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The player doesn't care.
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Okay, so when you ask what are you doing today?
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You are now focused on her.
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By even asking it, you're focused on her.
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And it means you actually want to know.
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So now you are in her frame or you're operating in her world because she gets to tell you.
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And I'm here to tell you that it doesn't really matter what she thinks she's doing today.
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Because if her feelings change, she's doing something different at any time.
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She's going to choose what she wants to do in that exact moment.
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So now you're focused on her world and not yours.
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This is very bad.
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So I'm here to tell you this, in general, just stop texting women in general.
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If there is no need to.
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For most of you guys, you got to understand, majority of the text messages or the things that you're saying.
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There's probably no need to say any of it.
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Just stop texting completely.
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Just quit.
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Just quit all of the texting.
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Okay.
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Majority of men that I see ruin perfect dates and perfect potential relationships that they could have with women simply by texting.
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Well, the reason being is because he refuses to create space.
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The guy refuses to create space, he refuses to allow space, mystery, and not needing constant communication with her.
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He refuses to do those things.
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Because of that, he ruins what would have been a perfect relationship.
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Because he doesn't let these three things work in his favor, right, that time apart, that space, that mystery.
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All of that has to work in your favor.
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So this is the biggest problem right now that I'm constantly seeing when it comes to guys who are text messaging women.
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Is you don't understand this one thing.
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Okay, you cannot have a relationship through a phone.
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Okay, and she's not going to forget about you.
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Even if multiple days go by, right, she's not going to forget about you.
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Just because you didn't message her.
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But see, this is the problem is guys are seeking emotional reassurance through a cell phone.
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Just stop texting all together.
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Just quit.
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All these things you're saying, all these things you're doing, these exclamation marks, these emojis, all this, just stop all of it.
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Just quit.
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Pointless.
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Think how many days or not even days probably, but just think how many like hours in general you've spent staring at your phone.
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Right, with text messages that go nowhere.
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So just quit.
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Okay.
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She wants a man whose life is more interesting than hers.
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You have to understand this.
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So when you say what are you doing today?
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This implies interest.
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This is why I'm telling you the player doesn't care.
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When you say what are you doing today, the player doesn't care.
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So if you even ask, it implies some sort of care.
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She wants a man whose life is more interesting than hers.
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By you asking, she will naturally start to assume that it's not.
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She will naturally start to assume that it's not more interesting than hers.
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So this is the first thing.
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Just quit asking what are you doing today.
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Okay, the second thing to never text a woman or to never say to a woman.
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Never ask this question, how's your day?
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Never say, how's your day going?
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Okay, once again, we have to address this.
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The player doesn't care.
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It doesn't matter.
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It doesn't matter if she's having a good day or a bad day.
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Why do you care?
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Why aren't you doing what you want to do?
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Okay, the player doesn't care.
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And the reason why this one is even worse than saying what are you doing today.
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Because when you say what are you doing today, there is a slight chance if she has interest in you, it might lead to plans and she knows that.
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But when you say how's your day?
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This is very bad and here's why.
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What this is doing, okay, this is you trying to check in with her just to see if she still likes you.
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To see if you get a text message back.
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Okay, what you're doing here is you're actually subconsciously looking for reassurance or you're like fishing for some kind of emotional reassurance that she still likes you.
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You're looking for reassurance that she's still right there and will still communicate with you.
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This makes you look scared.
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Okay, this is very bad.
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This signals that you need to keep a relationship alive and active simply by checking in.
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This is not good.
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This is not how you keep a constant relationship going by checking in.
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Okay, most guys think that more communication is going to lead to higher desire.
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This is not true.
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Okay, signaling that you need to keep the relationship alive simply by checking in as if she'll forget about you is bad.
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That is what you're probably thinking.
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Now, here's what you have to know.
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If you are truly her number one choice.
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If you are truly her number one choice that she has for an option, she'll never forget about you.
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The secret here is becoming her number one choice.
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This is why I keep telling you, how do you do that?
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You have to learn, understand and master the language of women.
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Very important.
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If you have not yet joined us, I don't know why.
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I'm watching this constantly help guys in their dating life.
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Number three, the third thing to never ask.
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Never ask what are your plans this weekend?
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Okay, back to my original statement.
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Once again, the player doesn't care.
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Like if you really want to know why you should never say these things, you should really never say these things just because the player doesn't care.
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He don't care what you're doing today, he don't care how's your day, and he don't care what your plans are this weekend.
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There is sometimes I will get a text message from a woman and I won't open it sometimes for three, four, five days in a row.
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Simply because I'm too tired and I don't feel like it.
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This is how it goes.
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Now, when you say what are your plans this weekend, here's the secret, the player knows that she will exit her plans, even if she has them already.
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In order to be with him if she wants to.
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Doesn't matter what she has going on.
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Birthday party, friends getting together, whatever, if she wants to see you bad enough, she will just skip all of it.
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And she'll just go see you.
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Because her desire level is there.
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So, here's what you have to know as well.
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Planning anything is anti-seductive.
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I have had to learn this as well over the years.
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Because I would be busy with work.
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Okay, so if it's a Tuesday and I try to set plans for Friday, right, I would do this because of my schedule.
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So I'd be like, okay, I need to kind of plan things out because I'm busy.
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So here's what you have to remember, if you are planning something and let's say it's Tuesday and you try to set plans for Friday.
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Okay, even if you are a man that she views as attractive.
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The problem is you are now planning something with her.
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And this is validation.
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What this also signals is, hey, look, it's Tuesday and look, he's thinking about me already on a Tuesday for three days later.
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So even if she had high initial interest, this might actually lower her interest because you tried to plan.
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The true player only plans his day around him.
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He's only going to plan his whole day around what he wants to do right there in that moment.
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So why is this?
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Why is planning anything not seductive?
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Well, it's because women operate off of feelings.
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So, this is what I mean.
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The perfect date idea in one moment in time is her flaking the next time or the next day when the plans were supposed to happen.
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Simply because she doesn't feel like it.
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So you could have the perfect date.
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And she might even agree to it, and then she wakes up that morning of the date and she just doesn't feel like doing it.
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Maybe she's too tired.
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Maybe she wants to do this instead.
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Maybe you lowered your value simply by planning in the first place.
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Stop planning anything.
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We have so many men pursuing dates and pursuing women in general.
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When this is very bad.
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Hypergamy is satisfied when she's doing the pursuing and she's winning you over.
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You can't win this.
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You have to totally think of it from a different perspective.
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Okay.
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Now, to conclude all of this.
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They will only tend to answer these questions, like these questions you're text messaging a woman, hey, what are you doing today, hey, how's your day going, hey, what are your plans this weekend?
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They will only tend to answer these questions when they are past the age of 30 because they become more overt in their communication.
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They are now more direct with their communication.
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As she ages, you will typically see her be more direct in her communication.
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And now she's going to answer these things logically.
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Now, the reason why is because she wants to waste no time.
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She's looking to waste no time.
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She wants to move this relationship at the proper pace for her and make sure that a relationship unfolds typically at a pace where it seems probably faster than you are used to.
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Okay, or maybe even faster than she would have moved things a few years ago.
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Okay, so keep that in mind.
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Now, to conclude this.
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Okay, always do these things.
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Number one.
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Never text to make plans in the future.
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Never do that.
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If you happen to be doing something that day.
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You can see if she's free.
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And it can be as simple as, hey, come with me, let's go do this.
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Okay.
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Number two.
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Everything is in the moment and needs to be in the moment.
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That right there is how you create vibe and chemistry.
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It's in the moment.
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Planning something ruins the moment.
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Last but not least.
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The player she wants, she will see.
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No matter what.
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He doesn't need the proper text messages or any of that.
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He's definitely not going to send paragraphs.
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If your text messages or your communication is more than one or two lines maximum.
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Okay.
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Not good.
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Over investment.
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So, once again, to tie this all together, I know that this is so hard to understand logically.
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Because you're like, this just doesn't make sense, I should be able to ask these things and the communication should be good.
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But you have to understand this.
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Okay, the whole premise of every single text message, every phone call, every time you guys see each other, every date you go on.
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It is to do one thing.
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It is to satisfy hypergamy.
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And that is why we must learn, understand and master the language of women.
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That right there is why we must do these things.
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If you like this video, hit the like button, comment and subscribe.
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Be sure to join us inside of that and we will see you in the next one.
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