A heartfelt reflection on feeling lost in your 20s, embracing uncertainty, and finding self-discovery through growth and patience.
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Key Takeaways
- Feeling lost in your 20s is normal and part of self-discovery.
- Pressure and societal expectations can cause anxiety but should not dictate your path.
- Procrastination is common but starting and staying consistent is key to progress.
- Temporary relationships and isolation are natural during this phase of life.
- Everyone’s journey is unique; avoid unhealthy comparisons and focus on growth.
What the video covers
- The 20s are often seen as the best years but can be filled with confusion, anxiety, and uncertainty.
- Major life transitions like finishing university and starting a career bring new responsibilities and pressure.
- Finding a clear passion or career path early is rare; many feel overwhelmed by endless opportunities.
- Social media comparisons can worsen feelings of failure and inadequacy.
- Procrastination and fear of failure often prevent starting new projects or pursuing passions.
- Feelings of isolation arise as people move away from friends and family, leading to loneliness.
- Relationships in this decade are often temporary, with breakups and changing friendships.
- Accepting the temporary feeling of being lost is important for personal growth and self-discovery.
- Trying new experiences and being patient helps clarify purpose and build confidence.
- No one has everything figured out; each person follows their own timeline without need for comparison.
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Speaker A
I've heard a lot of people say that your 20s will be the best years of your life, that you should enjoy them while you can. This decade of life is often portrayed as a time of freedom, excitement, and exploration. However, it can also be a time of confusion, uncertainty, and anxiety. I'm almost 23 years old, and I've never felt a loss before. I don't know what to do with my life, and everything just seems overwhelming. There are many reasons why this may be happening. For one, this is the time of significant changes, such as finishing university, entering the workforce, and basically starting to establish oneself as an independent adult. We're getting more responsibilities than ever before, all while trying to understand ourselves as individuals—who we are, what our purpose in this world is, what our passions are, and what makes us happy. Societal expectations are high. Decisions made in this period can have long-lasting consequences, both positive and negative, so there is pressure to make the right choices. Some people are lucky enough to find their passionate goal early on, something that gets them excited and they can work towards. But for others, like myself, it doesn't come as easy. There are so many opportunities out there, so many things that I could be making a career out of, yet I haven't found that one thing I want to carry on with. Meanwhile, you scroll on Instagram and see people earning huge amounts of money, traveling the world, and enjoying life. It seems like they have it all figured out. You start comparing yourself to them, and it makes it even worse. You feel like a failure. I've noticed I also find it difficult to start doing something because it's just so much easier to avoid it and be comfortable. Even for this video, something I knew I would enjoy making, procrastination was my biggest enemy. It took me about three months to start writing the script, even though in the end it only took me about two hours to finish. In my head, I was making it seem like such a bigger deal than it actually was. I was intimidated by the work and scared of the outcome. Another contributing factor is the sense of isolation that many of us feel at this age. People often move away from their friends and family to pursue their careers or education. You might feel disconnected from your roots and struggle to find a sense of belonging in your new environment. Many people are coming in and out of our lives. There are a lot of temporary relationships and tough breakups. What seemed like your closest friends once become strangers. It's all just confusing, and it can definitely get lonely at times. I'm going through my first breakup as well, and it's just a roller coaster of emotions. One day you're finally living, the other you don't want to leave your room. But don't worry, it will get better, or at least I hope so. It's important to accept and embrace the temporary feeling of being lost. Your 20s is the time of self-discovery and growth. Give yourself time to explore different options until you find something that you're passionate enough to pursue. Seek out new experiences and opportunities, whether it's learning new skills, trying new hobbies, meeting people, or traveling. With each new experience, you will learn more about yourself, the world around you, and have a clearer sense of purpose. If you're a big procrastinator like myself, imagine the potential that lies in starting something and staying consistent with it. This is also the time you can take on the most risk. You can go all in on something with almost nothing to lose, as you're still very young. Speaking about relationships, yes, people will be going in and out of your life. That's because they have their own story to write, with their own problems and struggles, just like you. But I believe that everything happens for a reason. Each person that you lose touch with opens up space for someone else to come in. Lately, I've been taking it slow, and I'm starting to become hopeful. All of these experiences have helped me understand more about myself so I could make the right decisions for a better tomorrow. The truth is, no one really has everything figured out, no matter the age. We learn as we go. Each of us has a different timeline to follow, so there is no point for comparison. We're all just lost individuals wandering around, trying to make our daily lives as pleasant as we can. There will be heartbreaks. There will be losses. But that's just life. We can't avoid the hard times, but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. Let go of all the expert expectations that you have and just live life day by day.
Speaker A
exploration, however, it, can, also, be, a time, of, confusion, uncertainty, and anxiety I'm, almost, 23, years, old, and, I've, never felt, a, loss, before, I, don't, know, what, to do, with, my, life, and, everything, just seems, overwhelming, there, are, many
Speaker A
reasons, to, why, this, may, be, happening, for one, this, is, the, time, of, significant changes, such, as, finishing, University entering, the, workforce, and, basically starting, to, establish, oneself, as, an independent, adult we're, getting, more, responsibilities, than ever, before, all, while, trying, to
Speaker A
understand, ourselves, as, individuals, who we, are, and, what, is, our, purpose, in, this world, what, are, our, passions, and, what makes, us, happy, societal, expectations, are high, decisions, made, in, this, period, can have, long, lasting, consequences, both positive, and, negative, so, there, is
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pressure, to, make, the, right, choices, some people, are, lucky, enough, to, find, their passionate, goal, early, on, something, that gets, them, excited, and, they, can, work towards, but, for, others, like, myself, it doesn't, come, as, easy there, are, so, many, opportunities, out
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there, so, many, things, that, I, could, be making, a, career, out, of, yet, I, haven't found, that, one, thing, I, want, to, carry, on with, meanwhile, you, scroll, on, Instagram and, see, people, earning, huge, amounts, of money, traveling, the, world, and, enjoying
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life, it, seems, like, they, have, it, all figured, out, you, start, comparing, yourself to, them, and, it, makes, it, even, worse, you feel, like, a, failure, I've, noticed, I, also find, it, difficult, to, start, doing something, because, it's, just, so, much
Speaker A
easier, to, avoid, it, and, be, comfortable even, for, this, video, something, I, knew, I would, enjoy, making, procrastination, was my, biggest, anime, it, took, me, about, three months, to, start, writing, the, script, even though, in, the, end, it, only, took, me, about
Speaker A
two, hours, to, finish in, my, head, I, was, making, it, seem, like such, a, bigger, deal, than, it, actually, was intimidated, by, the, work, and, scared, of the, outcome another, contributing, factor, is, the, sense of, isolation, that, many, of, us, feel, at
Speaker A
this, age, people, often, move, away, from their, friends, and, family, to, pursue, their careers, or, education you, might, feel, disconnected, from, your roots, and, struggle, to, find, a, sense, of belonging, in, your, new, environment, many people, are, coming, in, and, out, of, our
Speaker A
lives, there, are, a, lot, of, temporary relationships, and, tough, breakups what, seemed, like, your, closest, friends once, become, strangers it's, all, just, confusing, and, it, can definitely, get, lonely, at, times I'm, going, through, my, first, breakup, as well, and, it's, just, a, roller, coaster, of
Speaker A
emotions, one, day, you're, finally, living the, other, you, don't, want, to, leave, your room but, don't, worry, it, will, get, better, or, at least, I, hope, so, it's, important, to, accept and, embrace, the, temporary, feeling, of being, lost, your, 20s, is, the, time, of
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self-discovery, and, growth, give, yourself time, to, explore, different, options, until you, find, something, that, you're passionate, enough, to, pursue seek, out, new, experiences, and opportunities, whether, it's, learning, new skills, trying, new, hobbies, meeting, people or, traveling, with, each, new, experience
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you, will, learn, more, about, yourself, the world, around, you, and, have, a, clearer sense, of, purpose if, you're, a, big, procrastinator, like myself, imagine, the, potential, that, lies in, starting, something, and, staying consistent, with, it, this, is, also, the, time
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you, can, take, on, the, most, risk, you, can, go all, in, on, something, with, almost, nothing to, lose, as, you're, still, very, young speaking, about, relationships, yes, people will, be, going, in, and, out, of, your, life that's, because, they, have, their, own, story
Speaker A
to, write, with, their, own, problems, and struggles, just, like, you, but, I, believe that, everything, happens, for, a, reason each, person, that, you, lose, touch, with opens, up, space, for, someone, else, to, come in, lately, I've, been, taking, it, slow, and
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I'm, starting, to, become, hopeful, all, of these, experiences, have, helped, me understand, more, about, myself, so, I, could make, the, right, decisions, for, a, better tomorrow, the, truth, is, no, one, really, has everything, figured, out, no, matter, the, age
Speaker A
we, learn, as, we, go, each, of, us, has, a different, timeline, to, follow, so, there, is no, point, for, comparison, we're, all, just lost, individuals, wandering, around, trying to, make, our, daily, lives, as, pleasant, as we, can, there, will, be, heartbreaks, there
Speaker A
will, be, losses, but, that's, just, life, we can't, avoid, the, hard, times, but, there, is always, a, light, at, the, end, of, the, tunnel let, go, of, all, the, expert, expectations that, you, have, and, just, live, life, day, by
Speaker A
day
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