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You've been interacting with billionaire men since you were a child. What does it take for a billionaire to choose you? Women who settle, who agree to any old nonsense, end up with no money, no decent gifts, no man, and even problems with orgasms. So from the age of 14, I started studying how to interact with men: how to talk, what scripts to use, and what tricks to employ. At some point, I realized that was it, enough, and I just decided to become a [ __ ]. Your beloved man will be the one gifting you those diamonds.

For girls who wonder: "Why is everyone so stingy with me?" "Why is it that every time I ask him for something, he looks at me in a way that makes me feel so ashamed I just want to disappear?" Well, because you allow it. Either you buy me a Birkin, or I'm leaving you. I practiced this every day for a month to create the relationship of my dreams.

As a result, 30 days later, I met my future husband. What exactly gives a woman away? That she lacks value? A man senses this subconsciously through his mirror neurons. We attract a man who will ultimately end up hurting us.

Wealthy men, as a rule, ditch such women. To get married, you need to be a safe woman. I've had over a thousand men. Dear friends, today I have as a guest a girl whose Reels you have 100% seen. A girl I wanted to see myself, but fate had it that she is sitting right across from me. And we have a unique opportunity to ask the questions we are interested in. Maria Makarenko, provocative psychologist and women's coach.

Masha, hi. Today, this podcast is not just for our audience, but for me too. Today I will let you analyze me and ask the questions that interest me personally.

Of course, it will be about men. Right, thanks for the opportunity to let me analyze you. Well, I am a provocative psychologist. When I see certain phrasing, I react to it immediately. A very, very interesting verbal construct.

Is that about your ego? What? Of course I'll let you analyze me. Thank you, Violeta.

Can I say thank you more? I could bow down on my knees. The cameraman just said I can't get up from the chair. So, we aren't cutting that out, by the way.

We are definitely keeping that in. So, Masha, okay, did you understand why I talk like that? Did you understand why I said that? Who are you? Do you read people? What do you do? Do you know men? Do you know women? Tell me about yourself.

I am a women’s psychologist, but as it happened, I never intended to become one. I started therapy simply because I was 22 years old. I was a billionaire’s mistress. I had everything one could possibly dream of at 20. Penthouse living, a Lamborghini, designer bags, and diamonds galore. Yet, I wasn't happy; I was in a semi-depressive phase, realizing that despite having everything, including a career, something was missing. I acted in quite a few films in China. I’ve been in show business since I was 18. I started as a model, then I learned Chinese. Jackie Chan’s agent found me and started casting me in various roles. I was making very good money. I wasn't just another foreign model, as they call them in China, but a real celebrity on reality shows. But even so, I wasn't happy because, well, I was a mistress, and my man was married. It was a somewhat unconventional relationship, since I was 22 and he was 52. And, of course, I saw my father in him, because my own father was killed when I was 3. It was as if I was unconsciously searching for a father in the men I chose. But at 22, you don’t think about that; you don’t know. I stumbled into therapy by accident because I was acting in films without having any formal training. I just fit the "blonde" archetype, purely on charisma. Basically, we relied on charisma rather than acting techniques.

So, I decided to study psychology through the lens of transactional analysis to better understand how to build a role, what a character's secondary gains might be, and the various layers involved. For example, Keira Knightley inspired me a great deal. She has a degree from Harvard. She is a doctor of psychology and also a very famous actress. I started studying psychology solely to create deeper roles. But somehow, psychology pulled me in, because you come for one thing, but end up with something else entirely. It often happens that people don't turn to psychology until they need to reach a new level of reality and awareness. Rarely does anyone come to therapy feeling resourceful, knowing that it’s simply time. Usually, people come after hitting rock bottom, or they come looking for quick fixes. For instance, many women come to me now for "tricks"—how to get gifts, how to build relationships—but in reality, they end up getting deep therapy. But if I say, "I'll give you therapy" that will change your life, it won't always work, because many just want, yes, to be like you, Masha, going to karate and hanging out at the luxury mall. And we learned to show that through provocation, through my content. You can wear diamonds and still be happy, and those diamonds will be gifted to you by the man you love. Because back then, when I started therapy, I mean, men were gifting me all these things, I was a mistress, but you're always in second place. I wasn't dealing with that specifically; I was just working through my own life script, wondering why everything was happening that way.

And thanks to therapy, I was able to identify my strengths, realizing that I’m actually an entrepreneur, not an actress. I wanted to be an actress to prove to my mother that I was worthy of her love, because since childhood she told me I wasn't pretty, that I wasn't her type, and that I didn't inherit anything good from her. So, I started working as a model at 14. And my boyfriend paid for my first modeling course. He was 16, not 14. And all my life, I wanted to show my mom: "Look at me." That's why I became an actress and did a lot of filming. Success came to me very quickly based on that trauma, but there wasn't that level of happiness. It was precisely in therapy, through transactional analysis, that I saw it—I just had this insight, the kind that makes your hair stand on end.

I realized that all my life, up until now, I’ve been proving myself, and that through the love of fans, I was trying to get the love I didn't receive from my mother. And somehow, we healed that story. I realized that, in truth, I hate all these film shoots and acting. I hate sitting around waiting while they adjust all these cameras. I love creating something myself. I have organizational skills, so I opened my own school for psychology and acting.

And I brought in very famous acting coaches from Russia, Ukraine, and America. We held workshops. And that’s where I felt that, in reality, I am an entrepreneur, an organizer. And then I started practicing therapy even more. I saw how my students, who came for acting but got, for example, a resolution to conflicts with their mom or dad, saw their careers take off. I decided to develop that further. And then I got my psychology degree because I was completely drawn in. I saw how with every level of personal growth my income changed, my circle of friends changed, and the men in my life changed. And in the end, I am now living my dream life. But nevertheless, I still consistently see my psychologist every two weeks, even a few of them, including those who work on my staff. What have you created now? I now have, perhaps, one of the largest training centers in the CIS—it’s psychology and psychotherapy for women, where we work with trauma from sexual assault, and trauma from physical and emotional abuse. We work using an integrative method that combines various schools and modalities of psychology. It includes transactional analysis, CBT, gestalt therapy, hypnotherapy, body-oriented therapy, and emotionally focused therapy. For those, for example, who are currently going through a divorce and want to save their marriage, this approach came from America. Essentially, I took the most eff

at 20. Penthouse living, a Lamborghini, designer bags, and diamonds galore. Yet , I wasn't happy; I was in a semi-depressive phase, realizing that despite having everything, including a career, something was missing. I acted in quite a few films in China. I’ve

been in show business since I was 18. I started as a model, then I learned Chinese. Jackie Chan’s agent found me and started casting me in various roles . I was making very good money. I wasn't just another foreign model, as

they call them in China, but a real celebrity on reality shows. But even so , I wasn't happy because, well, I was a mistress, and my man was married. It was a somewhat unconventional relationship, since I was 22 and he was

52. And, of course, I saw my father in him, because my own father was killed when I was 3. It was as if I was unconsciously searching for a father in the men I chose. But at 22, you don’t

think about that; you don’t know. I stumbled into therapy by accident because I was acting in films without having any formal training. I just fit the "blonde" archetype, purely on charisma. Basically, we relied on charisma rather than acting techniques.

So, I decided to study psychology through the lens of transactional analysis to better understand how to build a role, what a character's secondary gains might be, and the various layers involved. For example, Keira Knightley inspired me a great

deal. She has a degree from Harvard. She is a doctor of psychology and also a very famous actress. I started studying psychology solely to create deeper roles. But somehow, psychology pulled me in, because you come for one thing, but end up with something else

entirely. It often happens that people don't turn to psychology until they need to reach a new level of reality and awareness. Rarely does anyone come to therapy feeling resourceful, knowing that it’s simply time. Usually, people come after hitting rock bottom,

or they come looking for quick fixes. For instance, many women come to me now for "tricks"—how to get gifts, how to build relationships—but in reality, they end up getting deep therapy. But if I say, "I'll give you therapy" that

will change your life, it won't always work, because many just want, yes, to be like you, Masha, going to karate and hanging out at the luxury mall. And we learned to show that through provocation, through my content. You

can wear diamonds and still be happy, and those diamonds will be gifted to you by the man you love. Because back then, when I started therapy, I mean, men were gifting me all these things, I was a mistress, but you're always in

second place. I wasn't dealing with that specifically; I was just working through my own life script, wondering why everything was happening that way.

And thanks to therapy, I was able to identify my strengths, realizing that I’m actually an entrepreneur, not an actress. I wanted to be an actress to prove to my mother that I was worthy of her love, because since childhood she

told me I wasn't pretty, that I wasn't her type, and that I didn't inherit anything good from her. So, I started working as a model at 14. And my boyfriend paid for my first modeling course. He was 16, not 14. And all my

life, I wanted to show my mom: "Look at me." That's why I became an actress and did a lot of filming. Success came to me very quickly based on that trauma, but there wasn't that level of happiness. It was precisely in therapy,

through transactional analysis, that I saw it—I just had this insight, the kind that makes your hair stand on end.

I realized that all my life, up until now, I’ve been proving myself, and that through the love of fans, I was trying to get the love I didn't receive from my mother. And somehow, we healed that story. I realized that, in truth,

I hate all these film shoots and acting . I hate sitting around waiting while they adjust all these cameras. I love creating something myself. I have organizational skills, so I opened my own school for psychology and acting.

And I brought in very famous acting coaches from Russia, Ukraine, and America. We held workshops. And that’s where I felt that, in reality, I am an entrepreneur, an organizer. And then I started practicing therapy even more. I saw how my students, who came

for acting but got, for example, a resolution to conflicts with their mom or dad, saw their careers take off. I decided to develop that further. And then I got my psychology degree because I was completely drawn in. I saw how

with every level of personal growth my income changed, my circle of friends changed, and the men in my life changed . And in the end, I am now living my dream life. But nevertheless, I still consistently see my psychologist every

two weeks, even a few of them, including those who work on my staff. What have you created now? I now have, perhaps, one of the largest training centers in the CIS—it’s psychology and psychotherapy for women, where we work with trauma from sexual assault,

and trauma from physical and emotional abuse. We work using an integrative method that combines various schools and modalities of psychology. It includes transactional analysis, CBT, gestalt therapy, hypnotherapy, body-oriented therapy, and emotionally focused therapy. For those, for example , who are currently going through a

divorce and want to save their marriage , this approach came from America. Essentially, I took the most effective areas and combined them into my own integrative method. And now I have opened an institute of integrative psychology, where I serve as the rector

. I am teaching this method because I believe the time has come to share it.

And, in general, we help women become happy without betraying themselves. While also being able to wear diamonds and silk, be with a loving man, and have everything you want. When I looked at your biography, who Maria Makarenko is, it said that you have been

associating with billionaire men since childhood, or at least since you were young, and that you always had wealthy suitors, that you were a kept woman, a mistress. Tell me, is that a myth or is it true?

Well, my first boyfriend wasn't a billionaire; he was from a very good family back in Vladivostok. And we had a good relationship. I first went to Thailand with him when I was 15. My parents let me go, they wrote a note

saying that I was allowed to cross the border with him. Then, when I had already moved to China, I had a very bad relationship with my mother, and I realized that I couldn't be financially dependent on her, but when you are 17

or 18, you don't have any education, so what kind of job can you get? Well, I couldn't get modeling or acting gigs back then because I didn't speak Chinese very well. I decided to look for a man who would rent me an

apartment, move me from Shenyang to Beijing, pay for my education, get me a visa, and pay for my apartment there for a year, not just a month, in order to solve my basic daily problems. And at 14, when I was reading the book

Memoirs of a Geisha, I realized that if you learn to communicate with a man correctly, then in general, you might not have any problems in life at all, because there is a man nearby who can simply solve them. And when I wanted to

go to modeling school, I asked my mom for money for this education; back then it cost 2,000 dollars. That was 20 years ago. Mom said I was stupid and that I should go do math. She didn't give me the money. I asked my boyfriend

for the money, and he won a billiards tournament and gave me the money for that education. And in the end, I became a model. I had a very good workbook. It was a photographer from Japan who did the photoshoot. I arrived

in China already knowing how to walk on the runway and how to work for the camera. And I had a very good portfolio . And if I hadn't had all that, I wouldn't have been able to earn money

in China, because the skill of just having the looks wasn't enough. You also need to know how to work in a certain way. And when my mom didn't give me the money at 14, just devalued me as usual, told me I was stupid and

to get out, a man gave me the money. And since I was reading that Memoirs of a Geisha book at the time, it was like a puzzle clicked into place for me: if your parents won't help you (my father

was killed when I was 3, so I only had my mom), then you can ask a man who will cover all your issues, which means you need to study this as a separate discipline. And from the age of 14, I

began to study communication with men in this vein: how to interact, what to say, what scripts to use, what tricks.

And then later, as a psychologist, I understood certain mechanisms of how the brain works in both women and men, how hormones work, and how to communicate in general. And I was lucky that my very first psychologist, who worked with me in transactional

analysis, explained to me why I shouldn't do that when I asked her to teach me how to manipulate.

Explain why. The thing is, when you manipulate someone, for example, a man, to get him to buy you something, you're holding him by the balls, so to speak, from a state of fear—like, you buy me things or I'm leaving you. That is

manipulation. He reads that. And he might react the way you want for a while, but his unconscious will remember it, and after some time he will take revenge on you, because his psyche will want to repay that psychological debt. That is precisely

why manipulation is a very destructive mechanism of communication. It doesn't matter who, man or woman, because the person will 100%take revenge on you.

They might not verbally or intellectually grasp that this was a specific level of manipulation or a certain approach. But their psyche will feel that you did something non-ecological, and it will unconsciously want to get back at you.

Either they will do something mean, or they will lash out, or they will take back everything they gifted you. I completely agree. So, you know the methods, tools, and keys for how to properly interact with men.

You first mentioned how to properly lure them in. How to properly lure them in. Freudian slip.

Yes, a Freudian slip. How to lure a man in? Actually, it’s all very simple.

Since I am against manipulation, I advocate for communicating with a man in a way that conveys your value, without playing games through competition, like telling fake stories about someone driving you to a date, then another picking you up, and a

third one doing something else. But isn't that what you're supposed to do? Well, there are coaches who teach exactly that. It's called a competition pattern, where you have to hint that he isn't the only one in the mix. That is

very bad because a normal man just sees it as very superficial female behavior. Because if you are a woman who is comfortable with herself, he already understands he is likely not the only one, and he will do anything for you.

So, I believe that for a man to do everything for you, first and foremost, you need to believe in your own worth.

It’s about your inner conviction that you are good enough on your own. And it really doesn't matter what your age, height, race, or background is, whether you have children or not, whether you're divorced or haven't been married and feel ashamed about it. It all comes

down to self-worth. When you work through that, a person’s mirror neurons start to perceive how you truly deserve to be treated. Because there are girls who wonder: "Why does everyone skimp on me?""Why is it that every time I ask for something, he

looks at me in a way that makes me feel ashamed and want to crawl into a hole?" Well, it's because you allow it.

Because with your mindset and your behavioral patterns, you signal to a person that, well, you can be devalued, you can be dismissed.

How do girls signal that? Well, just watch how girls signal that they can be treated that way. It’s all about the internal programming.

Let's say you and I are talking, and I understand that in your presence, well, it's better not to swear, because, firstly, I asked you, and you said it's , well, unacceptable for your channel, and I respect that. If you had a show

where I could act however I wanted, I would have ignored your request and behaved exactly as I pleased. But you don't have that kind of show, so I will respect your opinion, because you have this principle that you want to be

treated with respect. And there are girls who go to behavioral workshops where they’re told: "A man must pay up and buy things." But deep down, she doesn't actually feel that way. So she goes on a date and immediately orders,

I don't know, expensive champagne and black caviar because the workshop told her she needs to show right away that she's a luxury girl, even though at home she’s eating cheap stuff, pinching pennies, and riding the subway .

I know of a story where a girl once ordered black caviar and some expensive champagne, and the man just left, leaving her to pay the bill. So, that’s how it turned out.

Well, it’s certainly terrible on the man's part, too, that he decided to teach her a lesson like that. They were a match, of course, but honestly, I think it’s not a very pretty story when a girl comes to a date like that,

you know, just to show off what her standard of luxury is. Even though her actual standard is completely different . Scripts work when you have that internal state of knowing that you are worthy. Scripts are necessary when you

have trouble expressing your requests. For example, you have dyslexia. What is that? It's when you can't speak as beautifully as you think. Meaning your brain can't verbally articulate the brilliant thought that I just had. Most likely, that's dyslexia. And a huge

number of women have dyslexia. It just wasn't diagnosed when we were children. And we might feel like we're speaking as if we're from another planet and there's a communication gap. But in reality, you just can't express the full depth of your feelings. I created

scripts through which you can communicate in a certain way and say what you meant, for example, by memorizing them. But if you just speak using scripts, it won't work either, because if your internal programming is that it's okay to skimp on me, he’ll

know you're deceiving him. Let’s clarify for our viewers what scripts are, because I’m sure not everyone knows, and maybe give some examples of how girls can use them when communicating with a man, for instance, by roles. A script is a specific

arrangement of words in a phrase or a specific way of addressing a man to get what you want. In general, scripts originally came from sales. It’s when a salesperson communicates with a specific tone and specific phrases in order to close deals with clients.

Because you don’t actually have to invent anything; everything has already been invented. And when you communicate using a script, you can convey exactly what you wanted to say to a man, and he will understand it because there is a

certain algorithm involved. For example , if you want a man to give you flowers , here is what I did: from the very beginning, I always program my men by saying, "Well, it would be very nice if you bought me flowers." But if you just

say it like that, "It would be very nice if you bought me flowers," it sounds kind of boring; or you know, the "choice without a choice" method: "Will you pick me up by taxi, or will you send a driver for me?" But that only

works on suckers, of course, because people have seen all those reels. There is something more subtle, for example, you are sitting there, well, not on the first date, maybe on the second, because I think if you throw something

like that out on the first, it comes off as super needy. Unless that is the initial vibe of the communication, but I think that among your audience, there are few who maintain that tone of voice . You know, when girls communicate with

men, they go on dates initially just to earn money. No, well, I know, that turns into escorting.

Well, it's latent escorting. Uh-huh. I mean, wanting to be gifted an iPhone or given money on the first date. There are, and on the first date already.

On the first, yes. There are specific sites where women already communicate in a way that makes a man start investing from the first date. There are aggregators that help find such men . But these are specific commercial-type relationships. A man is

always looking for a woman there, rationalizing it by saying he supposedly has no time for normal relationships, that it’s just time management, and a woman just wants to, so to speak, weed out the broke guys.

But I believe that if you are looking to get married, that is not the right strategy. If you just want to solve some of your financial problems, then maybe, yes. As I usually did, to program a man for, say, generous

behavior, we start with the most basic thing: flowers. Actually, flowers aren't a gift, they're just a compliment to your beauty. I told a story saying, "You know, my mom's favorite flowers are lilies." I loved them for many years, but at some point,

I started getting headaches from them. I don't know why. Even though they were always in my house. Such a big, beautiful flower. It's such a pity. So, if you want to buy me flowers next time , please, don't buy lilies. My favorite

flower is a red rose. Do you say that after you've already been given flowers, or no? Before.

Girls, did you understand, right? So you come up with a story, like, my mom—well, it's actually true , lilies really are my mom's favorite flowers—but lately, for some reason, they give me a headache, such a strong scent. And I love red roses. I tell it

just like that, quite casually. There. And if a girl is manipulating someone, the only manipulation I allow is if a man cancels a date at the very last minute, and you've already done your makeup, spent two hours getting ready,

and he says, "I have a work dinner, sorry, I can't." Basically, you got dumped. And you can't just let that slide. In this case, you need to, let's say, show the man that he can't treat you like that. And in that case, I

recommend saying, "Okay, so how will you make it up to me? With a wish, or will you send me a bouquet of flowers?" Uh-huh. So that’s appropriate?

It's appropriate because he understands he canceled the date at the last minute . If he says, "Ugh, you're mercenary," then God save me, thank goodness I dodged a bullet. Yes, yes, yes.

Actually, if a man calls a woman mercenary, well, he’s having some real trouble with his own self-worth. A normal man who is secure in his self-worth could never have thoughts like that.

I agree. Before coming here, I asked my audience what they would like to ask a girl who is a coach, a female relationship mentor. And most of the questions were about what kind of women attract billionaires. What kind of

woman do you need to be to attract a successful, worthy man into your life who will choose you? Most importantly, you asked two different questions. The first question was: "What kind of woman do you need to be for a billionaire to

choose you?" You have to be a borderline personality type, because billionaires are usually psychopaths, and they absolutely love borderline women. It's a woman who lives life on a swing, one moment crying, the next laughing. He finds her very

entertaining. He is great at pushing her on that emotional swing. One moment he loves her, the next he punishes her, and then she goes and throws some kind of tantrum for him. A psychopath and a borderline woman is the best match ever

. Usually, these are women with a histrionic streak, already on the verge of being borderline. They are the favorite women of all billionaire psychopaths. Because if we are talking about billions of dollars, well, a person with a healthy, stable psyche

wouldn't make a billion. It always comes from some kind of hyper-compensation, or psychopathy, or sociopathy. And you really have to ask yourself: "Why do you even want this billionaire?" To answer your second question, what kind of woman you need

to be to attract a successful, wealthy, accomplished man—because, well, you can be rich without necessarily being a billionaire. I have known a lot of billionaires, from the CIS, as well as Chinese and English ones. They all have something strange about them. You sit

there and think: "Why do I even need all this?" When I was looking for a husband, I looked for someone who was already wealthy, young, with only a 2-3 year age gap, and had great potential so we could reach that billion together

. Because someone who has already made a billion has certain, well, psychological nuances. I have a lot of experience with them, and I know I don't want a husband like that.

Although I do have clients who married billionaires, even though they weren't from that social circle at all. Girls who had no career, no accomplishments, and no money, but by doing what I teach , they succeeded. So, it all depends on

what your goals are. And to be a woman who has a great man, love, a great relationship, and financial prosperity at the same time, you need to do the basics. That is, to heal your rejection trauma. I have a free three-day "Dream

Life" training where I break down what the rejection trauma is and why, because of it, we meet men who hurt us, manipulate us, play games, dump us, break promises, and eventually leave us with nothing. Because unconsciously, through our mirror neurons, we attract

a man who will eventually hurt us, and with him, we will reenact our rejection trauma. In general, this is a basic trauma according to Jung. It exists in absolutely everyone, men and women.

It’s just that everyone has their own layer and gradation. Some have a very strong rejection trauma. Mine was just incredible because my mother was very cruel and rejected me from childhood. I suppose that’s why I consider myself a guru on rejection trauma. I have

emerged from my own deep-seated programs. It took many years to finally say goodbye to all that. But now I have everything I dreamed of. A young man, money, self-realization, media presence , a good income, strong health, and importantly, psychological health,

because you can be with a wealthy man and just be depressed and drinking every day because you can't stand it. I know a huge number of such women, they come to us to sort all of this out.

Then you ask yourself the question: " Why do I need this money if there is no happiness or psychological comfort?" So the base is overcoming rejection trauma , which is what we do in the free " Dream Life" training. You can find it

via the link below this video. Also, this... I will come. I am very interested in this because I worked through it myself , this trauma. And I have an abandonment trauma. Ah...

Why abandonment? Did someone die? No, I just didn't get enough love from my parents since childhood. My mom lived her own life, my dad lived his, and I lived with my grandmother. When my grandmother died, I was such an

abandoned, lonely child. And how old were you when your grandmother died? I was 9 years old.

Uh-huh. There you go. And this also gave me the impulse to go into psychology, first as a client, then I got into transactional analysis myself. So, our stories are somewhat similar.

And this is the base, for me it is the base that a woman must work with. I am interested in how you came to this, how you arrived at the fact that this is the foundation of a woman's feeling of

inadequacy and what she pushes away. As usual, one, from which I had to push off. I was dumped by a man I loved very much. I wanted children with him so badly. Since I was still dealing with my abandonment trauma back then, I

attracted a man with whom I played that out very harshly. What's more, it turned out to be a complete betrayal, because he had been preparing to leave for about four months. We were living together, and he told me he loved me

every single day. And one day, when his dream car finally arrived—the one we ordered together—he left me. Meaning he had been planning it, waiting for the car to arrive so he could use it as a distraction. And when I asked him, "

Why did you do this?" He said, " Actually, four months ago I decided to make a conscious effort to stop loving you. And every day, I told myself that I didn't love you." We were living together. For me, it was a betrayal

because we were together until the very end, and it was just incredible. I fell into a very severe depression back then . I lost a lot of weight. I went to see every experienced psychologist I could find. I cried a lot. And at some point,

I realized that was enough. And something in my life, something in my head, just clicked into place. I just decided to become a [ __ ], because I had been a "good girl" with him. I did everything for him so that he would

value me. I tried to be the perfect wife for an entrepreneur like him, so everyone would see that I was this ideal, suitable spouse. I mean, I even got really into some Vedic culture. And I was so unlucky. I had a psychologist

at the time who turned out not to be one; she had just taken some courses but called herself a psychologist. And when I came to her saying we had an argument, do you know what she told me?

"And what did you do, as a woman, to make him act that way around you?" I was like, "Well, I guess..." And when he’d come back after a fight, instead of putting him in his place—like I teach now—when a man messes up, you

have to put him in his place. Is that about setting boundaries? Of course, it depends on the screw-up.

If the mistake is really serious, and he did something you discussed not doing—for example, in our case, we had an agreement that if he leaves the house and doesn't pick up the phone, that's not okay, because I start having

panic attacks and I get worried. He did it the first time, then he did it the second time, and the second time I said : "The third time will be the last." Then he did it a third time. That’s

when I finally had the willpower and self-respect to say: "That’s it." And that was important, because in that relationship I was such a "good girl." I’m wearing this Van Cleef bracelet, I also had the earrings, my God, Violetta. And I spent three months

programming him to buy me that miserable set. Even though the man was very wealthy. Those were simply the most agonizingly earned gifts of my life.

Don't you want to keep them? Sell them? Give them away. No, it’s a reminder that things like that happen too. No, I don't believe in any of that. The stuff about energy— well, sure, I kept them in the freezer,

that is, I kept them just in case. Yes, yes, yes. No, I treat it all very calmly now. In fact, I feel a great deal of gratitude toward him. Thank you for not making me give birth to you. That. And thank you for

highlighting my inner program of rejection, because he dumped me very harshly. And you know, I was in such a state of female arrogance back then, because he left me exactly the same way he left his ex-wife—point for point.

As it turned out, six months before the breakup, he had decided to leave her, and every day he told himself, "I don't love her," while telling her, "I love you." And one day, he simply packed his things and left.

My story is exactly the same. I said how I almost died. He’s that type of player, the man who did the exact same thing to me. He lived with me, and one day he packed his things and left. By

that time, he had given himself the task of falling out of love. Total psychopaths, just mentally deranged.

Teachers, teachers. We thank them. No, no, let’s be real. Look, you can only feel gratitude when that state actually arrives. When you’re angry, then, yes.

And you are angry. I can see by how your eyes narrowed—like: "Teachers, burn in hell,""burn in hell." That’s it, it’s easier, "drop dead.

" Yes, because you know, this whole story of radical forgiveness, it’s such a scam.

You will arrive at that forgiveness on your own once you extract all that suppressed anger from being betrayed.

Can you say now why it’s important to show those emotions? Because many teachers and coaches really do lead people toward just accepting them as " teachers." Why is it important first, as a regression therapist—I feel like you could really break this down well

—to let that go. Well, let’s put it this way. Those teachers who say, "Accept it, God endured and told us to as well." They are actually suppressing their own shadow, and then we hear in the news how people from certain organizations

were molesting minors, because what gets suppressed will eventually come out. And as a psychologist, I am, on the contrary, in favor of legalizing your shadow, allowing yourself to be angry, because a "good girl" is just a pushover; she agrees with everything,

she forgives everyone because it’s spiritual, it’s high vibrations. She reads the book "Radical Forgiveness" and plays the "Radical Forgiveness" transformation game. We just played it after that situation. You don't need to , you don't need to. It will come on its

own once you get that anger out at that jerk. And why is it important to do that? It is important to do because if anger sits inside, suppressed anger, it poisons the body. For example, bruxism.

Those who have bruxism, who grind their teeth in their sleep, when their teeth are literally being filed down—in reality, when you sleep, your rational part, the one responsible for spirituality and vibrations, shuts off, and the animal part of the reptilian

brain comes out, which wants to strike back for the pain caused. And with that anger, you clench your masticatory muscles, you grind down your teeth, and then you are plagued by migraines. And a migraine, as a rule, the cause is the

temporal muscle here and the masseter muscle here. And when you come, for example, to treat bruxism, they will inject you both here and here; they inject both muscles. Not just here, if it’s a good cosmetologist or doctor who works specifically with the problem

of bruxism. And a migraine is auto-aggression. So whoever constantly says "I have migraines." Good evening. Migraines are auto-aggression. I am punishing myself by banging my head against the wall, because I allowed this to happen in my life.

So what should you do? Get the anger out? Just give yourself permission. Obviously not at a living person, but at an image, like in Gestalt, a projection, a pillow, at the very least, a knife, a bat, go to the woods, break some sticks, scream

. But in general, my method includes an "aggression day." And that is the therapy that changes life into "before" and "after," where we allow ourselves aggression through the body. Because if you have been enduring your whole life, being this "good" person, there is a

massive amount of suppressed anger there. And the "good girl" archetype is a trauma of rejection, where you suppress the urge to say "no," where you suppress the reaction to tell your friend: "Shut up," when she says something biting to you. She belittled

you, you know, those kind of "spiritual " friends. Oh, you're reading a book like that, ha-ha-ha. It’s all clear what level you’re at. This is about arrogance.

Thank God I don't have any of those. I had one like that. And I somehow kept forgiving it all. But later, when I worked through my aggression, well, in short, there are certainly no such friends in my life now. And many of us

settle for such treatment because it seems to us, well, everyone is different, everyone has their own character, their own nuances. We should be more tolerant. Not at all. Women who endure and settle for nonsense have no money, no decent gifts, no men, and

have problems with orgasms, because sexual energy is the energy of aggression—when you allow yourself to live out your animal side. And regarding radical forgiveness, you can get very bogged down in the idea that if I don't bridge this pain between us

with my endless love right now, we will reincarnate together in the next life and go through this stage again. No, this life is exactly where you need to make sure no one hurts you ever again.

I am incredibly grateful to that ex who treated me that way. Yes, it was incredibly painful. I just lost myself.

It was the first time in my life I had depression. I couldn't eat for two months. And I understand people who are in that borderline state. But the most interesting thing is, when I trained as a clinical psychologist, I learned that

depression is the result of suppressed anger. Uh-huh. If you're in a state of depression, that state where you don't want anything—depression has many different phases. In general, it is long-term suppressed anger and aggression. And in general, if you feel

that state—a loss of energy, for example, you talked to someone at work or something happened in your personal life, and the next day you feel like a wet rag, you have no energy: either you didn't sleep well, or it’s Mercury

retrograde, or it’s the pressure. You just need to look at where you suppressed your anger and go do a specific interesting exercise. Actually , bodywork works best. Oh, Masha, you know, there really are a lot of women —this includes my circle, yes, not

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field, to form this sense of value and the absence of trauma, because men, they really do sense trauma. And when you feel undervalued or abandoned, one really wants to leave you, wants to push you away, even if they didn’t

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when you step out of those programmed conflicts, everything falls into place in the best way, and you no longer have to prove anything to anyone. You just receive everything, as a woman.

What exactly gives away to a man, visually or perhaps on some unconscious level, that a woman is "low value"? Men sense this—what actions do women take when a man feels that? A woman who whines, plays the victim, speaks poorly

of her exes, or comes to a restaurant and is unhappy with everything—she radiates this deep internal dissatisfaction. And that is a huge red flag for men, because a woman like that will constantly need to be impressed.

She will always look at you like you’re just a piece of something. And wealthy men usually drop these women because she doesn’t have the right level of energy; she lacks that sense of sufficiency, that internal dignity.

Because what we say about ourselves, about other people, and how we talk about the places we visit, actually reveals our values. And high-caliber men look for a woman based on specific values. If she is ungrateful, biased, or arrogant, that is a super red flag.

But the problem is, when a woman is in her narcissistic trauma, she doesn't admit it to herself.

Uh-huh. Okay. So, let’s take an example right now. The woman whom billionaires and successful men choose versus the woman whom they don’t— here are their behavioral patterns.

The woman a successful man chooses is very grateful. She knows how to give beautiful compliments, and she isn’t stingy with expressing her emotions.

She doesn’t have that mindset of, "I won't praise him too much, or I might spoil him." On the contrary, she wants to give him so much love simply because she feels great in the moment. The woman who isn't chosen sits there

waiting, thinking, "Surprise me, you dog, do something now to make me choose you." In other words, she has this narcissistic crown, yes, waiting for you to amaze her. And you know, men tell me in those moments: "You go on a date and feel like a clown

, because she’s looking at you, wanting you to entertain her." Meanwhile, he might have had a hard day , worked all day, and was looking forward to this date, but he arrives and she just sits there, silent, watching to see how he’ll amuse her.

The other extreme is when, conversely, the woman entertains the man, her mouth never shuts, she thinks every word out of her mouth is something highly sophisticated and intellectual. As a rule, women do this due to their hysterical neurosis. They talk

constantly, thinking it's all very interesting. They speak in monologues. Even if a man speaks in a monologue for , you know, 15-20 minutes, you sit there thinking, "When will you let me get a word in, or when will you

actually take an interest in me?" It's like you're watching YouTube, just one person broadcasting at you, and you're their only viewer. This shows that the person is deep in their neurosis. The same thing scares men away in women—

when she’s told him everything about her life and shows zero interest in his . In reality, it's the person who asks questions, who shows interest in the other, who asks, "What do you think?" that makes people fall in love. "And

what is your favorite place?""And that is genuine interest. For example, when I met my billionaire ex, a friend set us up; I arrived for dinner expecting her, but a man was sitting there, and that was it, I realized it was a setup.

Well, I just switched it on and started asking," What are your hobbies? "He says," Oh, skiing. "I ask," Where have you been skiing? "" What was your favorite place? "" Where would you like to go back to? "" And that's it. I’m

taking the person into regression. I’m leading him back to a place where he once felt happy. He starts recalling how he first skied in Austria, how great he felt, why he loves sports, because sports are all about motivation

. And he immediately voices his values. You hear them, and you calibrate. Do those values resonate with you or not.

And do you want to keep the conversation going, or are you not interested. If you realize that this person interests you, you start opening them up like a journalist.

Uh-huh. So, you show genuine interest in the man, and he latches onto that feeling. Yes, because maybe no one has ever asked him how he made his first million, or how he deals with stress, or how he managed to build such a

company, or another good question: how to make a rich man fall in love with you—what situation in your life changed you and made you who you are today. He will immediately dive into his memories and reflect on what truly

changed his life path. And he will be grateful to you for paying attention to that experience, and it’s as if he’s reliving it together with you.

So, he will energetically value you very highly, because you allowed him to relive that stage of transformation he went through before.

That’s wow. Yes, I know what that’s like. This is very interesting. Moreover, I’m not a man. But when people ask me, I realize that by opening up to a person, whether a woman or a man, I feel closer and warmer

toward that person. It means this person has already found a way into my heart. And this is very interesting.

About scripts, you know, what should you never, for example, say to a man on a first date, or not just on a first date, perhaps you have some scripts, what would you definitely advise girls against saying?

On first dates, you should never say that your exes treated you poorly, because the man will pin a label on you that something is wrong with you if an ex hit you or left you without money.

Even if it’s true, you can talk about it once there is rapport, when there is already a connection between you, you have a good relationship, and you trust each other. And then you just, as if opening your heart, talk about that

experience of yours, that it happened to you and that, perhaps, it’s hard for you to trust men right now, but you are grateful that he is with you at this moment in time. And through such a dialogue—this is the method of

emotionally focused therapy—you can grow closer, and you will make him fall in love even more, because you will show him your vulnerability.

Give me a clear answer in practice. Here I am, a man, asking you: "Why did you break up with your previous husband ? Why did you break up with your boyfriend? And your relationship with that past person wasn't the best."

How would you say it, being in that situation? You know, we broke up because it was time. I am very grateful for that experience. That person highlighted a lot of things for me. And most importantly, right now I am sitting in

this beautiful restaurant with you, and we are talking about the here and now. What is your favorite dish?

Very feminine. Very cool. So you answer the question, you show that, well, you are actually grateful, and there isn't any aggression there; even if there is, you don't need to say it, you don't need to voice it. And you

shift the focus of attention. I learned that from my mom. My mom is just legendary at shifting your focus of attention. Does she shift it to something else? You ask her a question, and she's like: "Did you see, over

there, that thing lying there?" And all , of course, this already looks very funny because I see it. I didn't notice it before, but it works very coolly in communication. Let's say you were asked a question, you answered it somehow,

and you ask a follow-up question, an open one to the other person, and you shift their focus of attention to a different situation.

Uh-huh. That’s the first thing. So, girls, on dates, we never speak ill of our former men. What other question should be avoided or answered very correctly? Or maybe there is something that shouldn't be said?

Sometimes a man asks a very silly question: "Do you have someone? Are you talking to anyone else?" Even if a man asks this, well, out of some of his own inner insecurity. And here I don't recommend reporting that no, I don't

have anyone. Or: "And who are you to me ?" for me to answer that question. I would recommend joking it off here. Say : "Mmm, you're so curious about all this?" Or answer: "Would you actually want me to tell you if I did have

someone? Like, 'Yes, you're a cuckold'. " You can somehow turn it into a joke like that, so, well, he gets embarrassed and realizes that, well, the question is truly strange. In general, if a man asks a question that

makes you uncomfortable, and you realize that telling him to get lost isn't quite appropriate right now, you should use humor. You need to brush it off, say something feminine, and shift his attention to a different topic or a

different situation, so that, for instance, he ends up answering a question that actually interests you.

Because when we lecture, when we react aggressively, when we say, "Why are you talking to me like that? How could you allow yourself to do that? Well, that's such a low level.

Someone didn't value you at some point, and this isn't the first time in your life. And it's palpable when a woman displays that aggression:" You can't treat me like that. "That's it, you realize it's happened to her often.

Yes, exactly. Or you know, when a man does something, and you lecture him like a mommy. Ah, well, for example, if a man—here's a red flag—if a man on a date, especially the first one, starts talking about sex." How do you

like it? "" What's your favorite position? "" What kind of sex do you enjoy? "Or you know, some jokes about, like, anal spooning, all sorts of things have happened.

What was that, sorry? Well, it's when you lie on your side like spoons, and he's saying it's the most comfortable thing for a woman, when you lie like that, like spoons, and that it's the most comfortable position for a woman to have anal sex.

Why am I talking about this? I had a date in Monaco. The man picked me up in a red Ferrari Spider. We went to a yacht club, first date, and he was cracking jokes about spooning. And so there you go.

And how did you handle yourself? Well, I pretended I didn't hear it. I didn't even bother to pursue that topic . I shifted his attention to what kind of business he's in, how many years he's lived in Monaco, what his favorite

country is. I moved on to other values. Meaning, he was trying to throw crude jokes at me, but I understood that I was at a yacht club in Monaco, and I wouldn't be able to leave on my own. We

arrived by car, and it was quite far away. And it wasn't even in Monaco itself; it was further away in the French countryside. And I needed him to drive me home, and for nothing to happen to me along the way. I was just

a pleasant conversationalist, and I redirected his focus from crude jokes to something else. We didn't have a second date, of course, but he didn't understand why. I thanked him and said, " My God, what a wonderful restaurant.

"It was the African Queen. Ah, good food. I said:" You have such exquisite taste. "Meaning he didn't even realize that I understood he was saying some pretty abnormal things on a date. And it happens that a man, as if...why do

they even do this? They are trying to push your boundaries. If you're like:" Haha, actually, I took a course on sexology, let me tell you a thing or two. "If you start reacting to his dirty jokes:" Yeah, I love doing it

this way, or I love it like that, "or" No, I've never tried that. "He understands that he can keep developing this topic with you. Actually, there’s a pickup technique for this.

Men intentionally start telling dirty jokes to use metaphors to bring the topic of potential sex closer. So, on the first date, he’s already dropping hints so that later, *hop*, he casually puts his hand on your knee, then*hop*, higher and higher, and then that’s it

. It means you went home with him after the first date. That’s how they break down your boundaries. And a woman who knows how to carry herself elegantly, she responds to such flirting, seduction, whatever, with high vibrations. She changes the subject,

she pretends she didn’t hear it, she doesn't give a sign, or she knows what to do if a man says something nasty or tells a dirty joke; you feel terribly uncomfortable, but you understand: if you scold him like a mother right now,

you’ll actually lower your own authority. Here, you need to put on a" Slavic [ __ ] face. " Wow, you just sit there, scary, right? You just sit, you stare, without blinking, with your face as relaxed as possible.

Uh-huh. And that’s it, you don't smile, you just look, and the person will feel uncomfortable. This is a very mature stance, because most girls who are in Monaco, Dubai, or Moscow wanting to, so to speak, hook a billionaire or some

rich guy—well, their goal isn't to get into a relationship based on love and build a family, but rather it's money, a man, resources. I've noticed they just play along with" haha "and" hee-hee. "Those girls who end up next

to a" daddy, "they're like:" Yes. "Then , when he leaves, she's like:" Well, damn, what a jerk, give me a cigarette.

"Yeah, that’s really how it is. And in the end, all they catch is genital herpes. Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Actually, if a girl is a bit" trashy " —I’m from Vladivostok—even though I’m wearing diamonds, I have, I don’t know, a large capital, and I’ve been flying on private jets since I was 18. But I have legalized the inner" gopnik "in myself. When I

was on dates with men, I had a period where I was like:" Ha-ha-ha, I’m so lighthearted, a geisha. "But then, when I simply legalized that in myself, I generally talk to men, friends, and my own people just like I do with you. I

can use a colorful word, I can laugh like a horse. Sometimes a man will make a comment, for example, like it’s so embarrassing when you laugh like that.

I say, you can leave. Just because who is someone to make a comment to me. I laugh however I want. But now there are no men in my circle who can make such comments to me, or make me conform, or

make me bend or fold. I was a model and an actress for many years. That is such a super codependent profession. And when you are a mistress, you are also codependent. You depend on his mood, on his problems at work. And you are

constantly, like on a minefield, you are adjusting. At some point, I legalized my anger in myself. I don’t know, I’m an Aries, I’m very fiery, my mom is very hysterical, my grandmother is the same, we are definitely not geishas in our entire

lineage. I just tried to be such a good girl. In the end, when I worked through all this within myself, my voice became even louder. It stopped being high-pitched. I used to speak in this kind of voice, now I have a more chesty

voice, because, well, that’s who I am , I just legalized the" gopnik "in myself. I am that" gopnik "who, I don’t know, sits there with gold watches. I was gifted a Bentley, a G-Wagon. I can buy myself any real

estate I want. And I am just like this. You received a reward for becoming yourself. Essentially, it’s, for example, this" gopnik "inside me.

Like you’re saying now:" Well, I really don't have one. "Well, no, I can yell something, you know? I can put someone on my team in their place and say," Listen, don't do that. "But that kind of aggression just doesn't arise

in me as such. Ah, but at the same time , I started trying on, yes, for myself, what you are saying now. My boundaries are very well-defined right now.

Meaning, I let people know right away that I won't even respond. I mean, like you said, yes, but I can't show my aggression because I don't have any.

I'm probably more of a geisha type. I have more of that gentleness. Ah, but at the same time, I feel what you're saying about being yourself. For those who have that, yes, who have the desire to say:" Listen, I like it this way,

and this is what I want. "They don't play roles they aren't, and people can read their original, non-fake energy.

And people come and want to give you something, reward you, and enter into a relationship with you. They genuinely start to like you. Ksenia Sobchak is like that, but she's not a geisha at all, like you say. She's more of a

tough girl. I mean, most of these super-attractive girls are just being themselves. But now on Instagram, in social media, everywhere, there are standards for how you should be to be loved. How do you work with that?

Listen, I recently made a clip from my live stream just for a trigger, where I say:" I’ve had over eighty men. "And then I used profanity, as I do, it hit a few million views and spread across all the platforms. Thousands of people

unfollowed me that day—oh, we're so sensitive. And new ones followed. And I said that specifically to trigger them.

I had 80 men. I don't know, I didn't count, I didn't work in a profession where that volume was expected. And my goal wasn't to count men. I mean, I say that specifically to trigger people. I am a provocative psychologist, and

everything I do is a provocation. But my mom writes to me today, right before I drove to your podcast:" Mash, the 80 men thing is a bit much, or are you just doing a provocation? "I say:" Mom, I'm a provocative psychologist, I'm

saying it specifically for the shock value. "So, I’ve gotten used to it. And I love hate. For me, hate means I’m doing everything right as a provocative psychologist. Sometimes there are comments like," Maria, you're so beautiful, but when you open your

mouth, how can you talk like that? " Well, I can. I just do whatever I want.

Exactly. You gave yourself permission. Yes, and I speak exactly the same way in Chinese, and I speak exactly the same way in English. I have this tone of voice, this kind of vibe, it stays with me no matter what.

Tone of voice, and that’s it. So, our microphone didn't hold up. It broke. Damn. Just like that, out of nowhere. We have some minor changes.

Yeah, our microphone couldn't handle our feminine energy and it broke, so I'm holding it in my hands.

I actually like it when things change. So, we were talking about what things lower a woman's value in a man's eyes.

Based on your experience, what kind of women do successful billionaires need? A woman who is a safe space for a man will capture his heart, especially for a successful man. What does that mean?

If he has a lot of stress in his life —and men generally have stressful lives because they have to provide for everyone—If his woman can make him feel relaxed with her, he will do anything for her. Let me share a case

study. I have a student who has gone through several of my programs. She was in the VIP group, had therapy, and she used to be such a" good girl. "And the thing is, when you're" good "for too long, you eventually turn" bad "

suddenly. She swung to being that" [ __ ], "and she allowed herself to say all her mean jokes out loud. I mean, she used to laugh at them to herself, but now she says them out loud. And she

has several men in her rotation now. There’s one really great guy she likes, but he has a certain trait that triggers her like crazy. Which, of course, is primarily about her. So, she allows herself to make jokes at his

expense. For example, she told him," When you do this, it makes me dry. " Meaning:" When you do that, I'm dry, as in, I don't want you. "That’s pretty humiliating. And she said that after that phrase, he stopped the date and

said," Like, it's way too much, let's stop it. "And it’s as if they put their relationship on pause. What was she doing? She was acting like an unsafe woman. Even though he told her," You know, you’re a walking red flag.

"" I feel like if I relax around you, you’ll eat me alive. "And he tells her," There's this song, 'She's a man-eater'. "" I listen to it every time after I go on a date with you. " And she tells me, laughing, about how

sassy and sharp she is. I say:" Are you serious? Are you dumping such a great guy? "" He just got divorced, he did so many good things for his wife. "" He wants kids, he looks the way you want.

"" Why are you doing this? "She says:" Well, it just irritates me. "" I, basically, just say it all. "I say:" No , if you want to get married, and her goal is to marry a rich man. "She lives

here in Dubai, a very beautiful, smart girl. If you act like that, you're driving the man away because you're an unsafe woman to him. He feels tense when he is around you. He desires you, he likes you, he has fun with you, but

this behavior of yours creates a lot of tension for him. He always needs to keep his armor on. A man who cannot relax next to his woman will not marry her, because he wants to come home to a

place that is calm and relaxed. And if he always has to keep up the" good guy "mask, he just can't be himself. And this is important for men, too. That is why it is important to watch which jokes you make about a man, and what

things you say. And for someone to marry you, you need to be a" safe " woman, because he is also thinking:" I have to live with her for the rest of my life. "" She will be the mother of

our children. "Let's wrap it up then. How" safe "women behave versus how" unsafe "women behave.

A safe woman for a man is one who knows how to give compliments. If she sees him doing something, she doesn't give him harsh remarks. She doesn't try to lecture him on life, saying:" Why are you doing that? "" Don't argue with the

waiter. "" No need, don't. "" That's it , enough. "She doesn't try to meddle where she shouldn't. She takes that trigger, she carries it into therapy, and explores it with her therapist.

What exactly is triggering her in him that is actually about herself? Meaning , she is not a" mommy "to this man. A safe woman is one who knows how to accept a man's shadows. Take, for example, a man who is a despot, who has

achieved a lot at work, he comes home in a foul mood and starts, for instance , picking on her. Instead of making a scene and saying:" You can't talk to me like that, stop yelling at me "and yelling back, you need to put on that"

Slavic poker face "and silently leave the room. Because usually, women start acting out in return:" You can't do that to me. "As you said, if you're yelling that you won't be treated that way, it means it’s already happened

to you many times before. Why does this happen? Because when you scream, there is no strength in it, but when you are silent and watch calmly, you just make it clear with your whole demeanor that you won't be treated that way. You can

add that such a tone is unacceptable, and say it quietly, with composure. You can lower your voice to a chest tone and say," Don't talk to me like that. " " You can't talk to me like that. "

That’s if he has done something like that. If he falls into his shadow of a despot, instead of being a victim and bringing him slippers, because if you do that, next time he will lash out at you in a way that you really won't like

. And you shouldn't throw a tantrum in response. You need to react coldly and calmly, saying," Let’s talk when you’ve calmed down. " Just like that. I mean, a man can also open up. And it is a feminine skill to

know how to deal with the male shadow, because, well, they also have their quirks and their eccentricities. Not to tolerate it, but to be in such acceptance that, well, yes, he is that kind of person, and give it space, but

without engaging with it or trying to fix him. Or you can program him, well, if it’s really getting on your nerves , to see a therapist, program him to go to a psychologist so he can work it out

. I did that with my husband. I programmed him for 3 months to go to my psychologist. A year later, he came to my second psychologist, who works specifically with the integrative method along with bodywork. And now he

thinks he took too long to get to the integrative method, because many transformations and metamorphoses in his life could have happened sooner if not for his arrogance.

Do you advise this to women as well? Yes. Is that at your institute somewhere?

I have it in my" Hypno-Relationships " program if we are working on relationship topics, or" Hypno-Money " if we are working on money; we go through integrative therapy, group therapy, and bodywork there. You can also sign up for individual therapy

with a specialist from our team if you have taken any of our courses, and you can also sign your men up.

What does that give you? It gives you the understanding that everything happening in your life is the result of choices and actions from the past. But the good news is that it can be rewritten, because, as a rule,

all the trash that plays out in our lives is the result of some programming conflict that happened before the age of 7. So, you’re living out a template of unpleasant feelings and emotions based on a childhood decision you made before age 7, when your

neocortex wasn't fully mature and you just made something up. And ultimately, this shapes your adult behavioral pattern. We ask," Why do I keep stepping on the same rake? "So we remove the root cause; women who have trauma from being abandoned, unchosen,

or rejected might come to you and experience some form of re-traumatization. Well, re-traumatization is, of course, best avoided. You can get re-traumatized by a psychologist who lacks the right skills, and they might re-traumatize you so badly that you just shut down.

We use a very safe method where you re-experience those feelings and emotions; instead of bringing them into your next relationship where you get hurt, you re-experience them in therapy and learn to fight back. This goes back to what we said about aggression, where

you defend your inner child by fighting back, and no one will ever hurt you again because you’ve learned to stand up for yourself. To become a woman of value in a relationship, you need to find the root cause: who took that

value away, who rejected you, and who convinced you that something was wrong with you? Because if you meet a man who gaslights you, you’ve actually met a projection of someone important from your past who is mirroring your own

opinion of yourself—the one you were told: that you’re not very smart, you’re difficult to be with, or you have a rotten personality. Ever since I was a child, my mom used to tell me that I had a disgusting personality.

She said I’d have at least two husbands because no one could ever put up with me. I was truly convinced that I had a horrible character. In the end, I found a man who, on the contrary, loves this" horrible "character of mine

. Yes, it’s not exactly easy. Yes, I can stir up some trouble, but I’m still in therapy myself at the same time. I know my psychotype well and I understand my own specific quirks.

That’s how my man and I hit it off. The most important thing is not to let anyone take away your sense of worth or convince you that there’s something wrong with you. It’s one thing if you’ve been given a psychiatric

diagnosis, like borderline personality disorder or a depressive state that requires medication—that’s when you need to be very careful and not be afraid to see a psychiatrist.

Statistically, out of ten girls, we strongly urge at least one to see a psychiatrist from our team. And the person leaves with a precise diagnosis and prescribed medication, because you can't solve issues with therapy alone when deep-seated changes have already

occurred, like neurotransmitter imbalances, where a person isn't failing to sleep because they drank coffee, but simply because it’s a stage of depression where sleep is gone . And the next phase is just jumping out a window. And that must not be

allowed to happen. How many very famous , talented, seemingly cheerful people have committed suicide? It was just unbearable. They felt that no one understood them. In reality, it was just moderate depression.

M. So they didn't see a specialist in time to resolve it. Can you solve this at your institute?

Yes. At my Hypno-Relationships institute, we have a psychiatrist and psychotherapist on staff who you can book an individual appointment with to get feedback from a professional on what is happening to you. Because so many young, beautiful women, with

apartments and cars, come in, and a lot of them have moderate depression. Yes, unfortunately. What would you advise girls who didn't have a father, or who grew up completely without a dad? And this trauma of being abandoned, rejected, or left behind. They end up

finding men who come along, ghost them, and leave. That is, they are either unavailable, avoidant, cold men, or just illusory. They fall in love with men who are, well, impossible to be with. Or, by the way, men with families

, so that they can just come and go. What would you advise them or give them ? Long-distance relationships also fall into this category, when you build a relationship where you don't live together for a long time, but you see

each other periodically. Actually, this is just a fear of intimacy, that it’s unbearable for me to be with a person all the time. And that's why we have this resort romance, a resort marriage, a guest marriage. In reality, it's

about the fear of intimacy. Uh this is my fear. Yes. Yes. We promised, by the way, to analyze me. I am now leading up, yes, to the conclusion that this is my fear.

What fear of intimacy? How do you know you have this fear? Well, because I’m a psychologist myself and I've had a lot of therapy.

It’s very convenient for me when people are scheduled in my time slots. So that I can be alone afterwards.

Mm-hmm. And my relationships always... when I enter a relationship, I end up not working, I don't have that energy.

All I want is to enter into some kind of, mm, relationship with a man where we are together. And at the same time, mm, there was always this mask before; that is, the man didn't really know who he was with. So, this break always

happened, and it was exactly the same as in my own family. And then, the loop . Exactly the same story. Meaning, I start becoming friends with this man, like with a father. So, dad left, and then dad and mom are all in their

places. So, I can reach him, I can say hello to him. But inside, the feelings are like for a father.

Did you lack fatherly love in childhood ? Yes. Recognition? You know, I have a very good dad. Very good. Very kind, very bright. An artist . Everyone loved him, but there wasn't enough of him. Very little.

Uh-huh. Hug your shoulders. Uh-huh. Close your eyes. Say it out loud. To be a daughter.

To be a daughter. To be daddy's girl. To be daddy's girl. Daddy's love. Daddy's love.

To be under his wing. To be under his wing. To be protected. To be protected.

To be part of something bigger. To be part of something bigger, strong, powerful. strong, powerful.

To feel a foundation. To feel a foundation. To feel support. To feel support. To be the younger one.

To be the younger one. To be a daughter. To be a daughter. To be in my place.

To be in my place. A deep breath in. A slow breath out. What did your father not give you enough of?

A great deal of what we just talked about: security, protection, financial support, love, and really the understanding that a man is there— well, I mean in the house, yes, just women, yes, and to this day...I mean, I am always surrounded by women, but when

a man appears, I can actually make him wait for 2-3 hours, like near the house , because I'm talking to some woman. I am so...my choice, this focus, this attention goes into the female world, that I feel so good and safe there, and

this world is sometimes unexplored. And yet, with my father, I always have great communication. I mean, he didn't hit me, didn't scold me, didn't call me names, didn't look at me a certain way, didn't punish me. So the father is a

figure with whom there is always great contact, but it is illusory, it is made up. And my dad is like that too; he was always trying to seem noble to me so that I wouldn't see what he was really like.

And what is he really like? Well, I need to find out. Weak. Weak. And in what way are they weak? And in some ways, an ordinary, simple person.

Hmm, he’s probably very soulful, not about business or ambition, but about petting a dog or healing a pigeon. So, that’s the kind of father I have.

Uh-huh. Painting a picture. Not about competing in this male world. Uh-huh. Were there situations in your childhood or in your past where you wanted your dad to protect you, but he wasn't there ?

Yes, of course, many, many situations, where if dad had been there, my life would have turned out differently.

And I never thought that way in the moment. But today as a specialist, yes, I will tell you openly that if you go into your unconscious, 100%every situation where I had to solve it myself, to put on this armor, I thought

:" Damn, it must be great for the girls who don't have to do that. " And what is good about having a father like that?

The freedom. Mmm, I'm creative, like him. I am very soulful. Can I change your mindset so that in order to feel your worth, I don't need the trauma of betrayal and replace it with a new one?

I can feel valuable without the trauma of betrayal. Yes, but that's my trauma. Yes.

Yes, the trauma of betrayal, but your psyche needs it in order to feel valuable.

That's why I'm asking, can I change your mindset, so that to feel valuable, you change that away from betrayal? Yes , that you don't have to overcome this pain every time to tell yourself:" I handled it, I did well. "

Uh-huh. It's possible, it's possible with ease. It's possible with ease, it's possible just out of joy, out of pleasure, without a" struggle "scenario.

Class. Well, this is one of my methods, that in a person's predicates you hear the scenario.

Uh-huh. But the energy didn't start flowing. I feel everything through my body. As soon as you asked me that, I felt my energy shoot upwards. Yes. Yes. Well, the body is responding. Good. Your body is very sensitive, somatic work is

definitely for you. Meaning, that's right. Even just, you know, a touch, a pimple pops up, and it's already a scar. Well, meaning I have very strong empathy given to me and this body sensitivity as a plus, yes, one side of the coin

and the other. Thank you. It's cool, yes, I feel something new. Awesome. How can I and other girls who just watched our podcast work with you? I have an integrative therapy course called Hypno-Relationships. For the first month and a half, we work on

self-esteem and feminine self-worth, addressing aggression, shadow selves, and underlying programming conflicts— specifically the core conflicts with parents—to break free from patterns that lead to meeting men who bail or break promises. Why do you feel you have to work through constant

self-exertion? Why do you feel you have to earn everything through blood and sweat instead of letting it come with ease? Because I believe in money with ease, and I believe in a life lived with ease. I believe in that state of

vibe and pleasure, where everything just happens in the best possible way without having to overwork or burn out.

But that only happens when we move out of the programming conflict of overexertion. By the way, the psychosomatics of this conflict are always linked to heart conditions. For example, a heart attack, where the heart can't take it anymore and the

body exits the overexertion conflict by literally stopping the heart. Yes, that is psychosomatics. One of my degrees is in psychology and psychosomatics, and we work on health and diagnoses through our method; I even have a three-month hypno-relationship therapy program

where we address these base conflicts and complexes. And at the end of the course, we give you the fun stuff. That includes flirting, gifts, scripts, and a feminine way of communicating with everything and the world at large. Also

, in the second module, I teach reality-design techniques where, through hypnosis and specific work with your consciousness, you can subconsciously create the best life for yourself. Everything I have now—my dream man, my dream director in my company, my dream reach—was once, you

could say, meditated into existence, and it really works. I provide these practices in the second module so that it's not just about doing the work for the sake of working, because you can work on yourself forever without seeing

any results. Instead, we provide techniques that you can apply here and now, repeat once or twice, and see the results. And that is all part of hypno-relationships.

Uh-huh. Cool. That really resonates with me; I like it a lot. I would love to work with you and try out one of your products. I know you also have a book. So many women have posted it on

their stories. I've seen various bloggers with it. Tell me about this book. The book is called" The Empress's Path.

"We will give it as a gift to the women who write their insights under our video with Violetta. It’s a book about feminine tricks, that" geisha-like "wisdom, how to communicate with different people, how to respond to them, what types of men exist, and

what the red flags are. Basically, it’s all that interesting, feminine stuff. It was published by one of the largest publishing houses in the CIS.

Overall, I am very proud of this book. We wrote it for a long time, a year and a half. I actually underestimated the work of authors. It is very difficult.

Well, maybe my persistence isn't that great. But we did it, we wrote this book. Now it is sold in bookstores, among other places. You can find it on shelves in your city.

You also have a free intensive course where the girls can connect to learn a little about you and what you teach.

Yes. The free" Life of Dreams "training is therapy using the Enneagram method. And how do you figure out which complex is dominant? That is where we discuss Jungian complexes. The rejected, the inferior, the abandoned. We do therapy and specific practices so you can feel

the results here and now. I will also leave that in the description under this video. Mash, that is really cool. Thank you so much.

Thanks for the breakdown, thank you for this information. I have wanted to talk to you and learn something for a long time. And it just happened all on its own here in Dubai. I thank you.

It is very valuable, very cool. And let the girls get to know you, learn, and touch your energy too, so they can have the most wonderful, cool relationships where they feel valuable.

Amen. We kiss you all and look forward to seeing you at Masha's Life of Dreams.

And I will be there too. and great