what they don’t tell you about turning 18

A candid reflection on the realities of turning 18, debunking myths about adulthood and embracing living in the present.

Key Takeaways

Adulthood is not an instant change but a slow, gradual process.
Expectations about turning 18 often do not match reality.
Living in the present is more important than waiting for future milestones.
Youth is not necessarily the best time of life; every phase has its challenges.
Maturity comes with experience, not just age.

What the video covers

The video challenges the idealized view of adulthood as amazing and fulfilling.
Teenagers often believe turning 18 will drastically change their lives, but the reality is different.
Adolescence is marked by insecurity, identity crises, and hormonal changes that make life challenging.
Turning 18 brings legal freedoms but also new responsibilities and disappointments.
The narrator shares personal experiences of failing to meet expectations after turning 18.
Adulthood is a gradual process, not an instant transformation.
Life should be lived as a continuous whole, not divided into phases to be waited for.
The importance of living in the present rather than constantly waiting for the future is emphasized.
The narrator admits to still feeling immature years after turning 18.
The video ends on a hopeful note about embracing life’s unpredictability and ongoing growth.

Chapters

Does turning 18 immediately make you feel like an adult?

No, the video explains that turning 18 does not instantly make you feel like an adult. Adulthood is a gradual process that happens slowly over time.

What are some common misconceptions teenagers have about turning 18?

Teenagers often believe that turning 18 will give them complete freedom and drastically change their lives, but the video shows that many challenges and responsibilities remain.

What is the main message about how to approach life according to the video?

The main message is to stop waiting for future milestones to start living and instead focus on living fully in the present, embracing life as one continuous journey.

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When someone tells you adult life is amazing, don’t believe them. Adult life can be cold, empty, and uncomfortable, just like wearing a soaking wet hoodie.

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And you know the worst part? Every teenager genuinely believes that turning 18 is gonna completely change their life.

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And guess what? When I was a teenager, adults were always saying the same thing: “Enjoy your youth.” “This is the best time of your life.” “It never comes back.” And every time I heard that, I thought… WHAT?!

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NO, THIS CAN’T BE THE BEST PART OF MY LIFE, PLEASE NO! Because in my head, being a teenager sucked.

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One day you wake up full of confidence. The next day, you discover a pimple the size of Alabama that completely destroys your self-esteem for the rest of the month.

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Your voice changes every five minutes. You spend years stuck in an identity crisis, dealing with weird hormonal changes that make you look weird, feel sensitive, and suddenly full of new feelings.

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And as if that wasn’t enough, this is exactly the age when you start dreaming big.

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You want to travel. You want to drive. You want to make money. You want to do whatever you want.

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There’s just one small problem: you’re a teenager. Which means you’re too young for basically everything that actually seems fun.

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So I used to look at adults and think: Dude, they won. They have money, nobody tells them what to do, they do whatever they want!

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I couldn’t wait to finally turn 18. When I turned 18, I was still that same teenager full of ridiculous plans.

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When they sang “Happy Birthday” to me, I really thought something had changed. That now, I was finally free. Free to be who I always wanted to be.

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I was gonna have my own car, take the open road with my friends and show them amazing places, make unforgettable trips. I WAS READY TO LIVE.

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(Hannah) …but you’re not forgetting something? (Breu) Huh? (Hannah) You still need to get your license, remember? (Examiner) Alright! Final test, Mr. Breu! You excited? (Breu) Eh… heh… eh… maybe. (Examiner) What’s wrong? Cat got your tongue?? HAHAHAHAHA! (Breu) Oh… sorry, it’s just… I get kinda nervous about tests that decide what kind of cat I’m gonna be for the rest of my life. (Examiner) Relax! You’ve done great so far. I’m sure it’ll be fine. (Breu) Okay… (Examiner) Alright then! Go ahead and put it in first. (Examiner) You’re not forgetting something? (Breu) OH! YES! OF COURSE… THE SEATBELT… HOW COULD I FOR— FORGET?! (Examiner) Alright… now proceed. (Breu) O… okay.

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(Breu) Great. Now I officially won’t be able to take my friends on a trip this year. (Hannah) Come on, don’t be like that. Everyone gets nervous on their first big test. (Breu) Did you? (Hannah) Of course! (Breu) So you failed too?? (Hannah) What? No! I passed on the first try! He said I have a natural talent for it. (Breu) Ugh… this might be the worst day of my life. (Hannah) If you want, I can give you a ride home. (Breu) A ride? From you? Never. My pride would never allow that kind of humiliation.

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(Breu) So, Hannah, Friday, you free? Because I’m gonna need a ride to Ruby’s party. Okay, driving can wait another year.

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I’ve got my whole life ahead of me, right? Let’s see what’s next on the list… “Buy alcohol”… dope… Gonna need to see some ID, kid. (Bartender) Oh, congrats. You’re legal now. So, what’ll it be? (Breu) Uh, I don’t know, there are so many options… (Bartender) No rush, take a look. (Breu) Hmm… I’ll take a beer, please. (Breu) Thanks… That day, my world collapsed.

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I had discovered that I didn’t like beer. What was I supposed to do now?

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I didn’t have a car, I didn’t have alcohol, and that beer still cost me $8.

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That night I went home, turned on my console, and spent the rest of the night playing video games to drown my sorrows until I got tired and went to sleep.

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Ironically, the exact same thing I always did before turning 18. It took me a while to accept it, but… NOTHING CHANGED! ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!

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That was almost six years ago. Today, I can finally drive, I can drink, I have bills to pay, a job, and a bunch of responsibilities.

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And to be honest, I still don’t feel like an adult. I’m not gonna lie, I still feel like the same 16-year-old who was a complete immature idiot.

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Because that weird, hopeful transformation I created in my head? It doesn’t exist. The only difference is that now I’m slightly better at pretending I know what I’m doing.

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Because nobody just wakes up one day and becomes an adult. It just happens. And it’s so slow, you don’t even notice.

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One day you pay your first bill. Another day you go grocery shopping by yourself.

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Another day you learn how to cook. And one day you realize you’d rather stay home on a Friday night.

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And that’s when you realize you became an adult. That’s when I finally understood what that lady meant.

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When she said “enjoy your youth,” she wasn’t saying that adolescence would be the best part of my life.

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Because how could she even know that? She was just telling me to stop waiting to start living.

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Not as a kid, not as a teenager, but as a whole. Your life isn’t a sequence of phases. It’s just one life!

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Because for years, I kept waiting to turn 18, then waiting to get my license, then waiting to make money, then waiting to finally feel like an adult. And while I was waiting for the next phase to begin, I forgot that my life…

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had already started a long time ago. The only thing I really didn’t understand back then was that while I was busy worrying about the future, I wasn’t living in the present.

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And the present is all that matters. Anyway, I guess that’s what nobody ever told me about turning 18. (Hannah) So, where do you want a ride to now? (Breu) I have no idea, Hannah. I think I’m just gonna let life take me wherever.

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(Hannah) Okay!

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Not as a kid, not as a teenager… but as a whole. Your life isn’t a sequence of phases. It’s just one life!

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Because for years… I kept waiting to turn 18, then waiting to get my license, then waiting to make money, then waiting to finally feel like an adult… And while I was waiting for the next phase to begin, I forgot that my life…

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had already started a long time ago. The only thing I really didn’t understand back then was that while I was busy worrying about the future, I wasn’t living in the present.

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And the present is all that matters. Anyway… I guess that’s what nobody ever told me about turning 18. (Hannah) So… where do you want a ride to now? (Breu) I have no idea, Hannah. I think I’m just gonna let life take me wherever.

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(Hannah) …Okay!

Topics:turning 18adulthoodgrowing upteenage yearsexpectations vs realitylife lessonspersonal growthresponsibilityliving in the presentyouth

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