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There isn't a goal that I set in my 20s and 30s that I have not yet achieved.
John Asarf, a 63-year-old multi-millionaire, shares life lessons on success, discipline, and the true value of money beyond wealth.
Key Takeaways
- Money alone does not guarantee happiness or fulfillment.
- Commitment is essential for achieving goals, not just interest.
- Small, consistent actions build discipline and momentum.
- Health, relationships, and personal growth are more valuable than wealth.
- Failure is a necessary part of success and personal development.
What the video covers
- John Asarf has achieved every goal he set in his 20s and 30s and shares how commitment differs from mere interest.
- Money is a tool that provides options but is not the ultimate source of happiness or fulfillment.
- True success involves prioritizing health, relationships, and personal growth over financial gain alone.
- Building discipline starts with small, consistent daily actions to develop new habits and momentum.
- Commitment requires doing whatever it takes to upgrade knowledge, skills, and habits despite challenges.
- Failure is part of the journey and does not define a person’s worth or potential.
- John emphasizes the importance of perspective and balancing financial goals with meaningful life experiences.
- The video encourages viewers to start simple, focusing on tiny steps to build confidence and self-trust.
- Time accelerates as we age, making it crucial to act on goals and live intentionally.
- Discipline weighs ounces, regret weighs tons — choosing discipline leads to a life without regret.
Chapters
- 00:00Introduction and Achieving Goals
- 00:33Interview with John Asarf: Life Insights
- 01:11Money’s True Role in Life
- 01:57Happiness Beyond Financial Success
- 03:33Balancing Relationships and Priorities
- 05:04Invitation to Weekly Life Advice Newsletter
- 05:45Overcoming Failure and Staying Committed
- 07:50Developing Discipline Through Small Steps
- 10:16Building Momentum and Maintaining Focus
- 11:52The Passage of Time and Final Thoughts
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Are you interested in getting better at this? Or are you committed? If you're interested, you do what's easy and convenient. If you're interested, you'll allow your present circumstances and your present habits, automatic behaviors to control what you do.
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Because when you're committed, you will do whatever it takes to upgrade your knowledge and your skills and your disciplines. There are so many things that are more important than money. I know people that have money that they will never spend in this
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lifetime that are miserable. How could I start? The answer is this summer, I interviewed John Asarf, a 63-year-old multi-millionaire who for many reasons has completely figured life out. In our first interview with John, his advice reached millions of you guys
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across our social media platforms. So, we went and sat down with him again to answer some of your questions from the comment section.
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Today I am sharing the extended version of John's greatest life experiences and lessons that I guarantee will change the way you think about life. We've interviewed lots of, I would say, financially successful people over the last couple of months. A lot of these
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people come to the end of their journey and then share with us that money was not ultimately the objective. Why do you come to that conclusion? We need money but there are so many things that are more important than
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money. What you discover as you get older is who you're becoming is more important than money. Your health is more
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important than money. Your friendships are more important than money. Your relationships, the experiences you have, they're more
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important than money. Money is a tool. Money just gives you options. I know people that have money that they will never spend in this lifetime that are miserable. A lot of times, it's what the money represents that people
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are really searching for. So they represent success. They want to represent success.
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They want it to, you know, represent accomplishment.
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And that's true. Money tells you how well you're doing in the game you're playing at that time. So it's not that it's not
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important, it's just not the most important. There are people that pursue money and they reach a
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number and they're not happy and they're not fulfilled and they're not satisfied and they think that when I reach this level of income and success I will be happy, fulfilled and satisfied. But is that
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really true? You're going to be happy and fulfilled and satisfied when you
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choose to be happy and fulfilled and satisfied right now and pursue achieving more financial success.
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When I have money, I'll have more peace of mind. I'm saying, have you ever learned how to meditate and
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get peace of mind right there? Money will, you know, take away all my stress. Really. Have you ever considered
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that money sometimes creates way more stress? But now let's add perspective. Perception is one thing, how I perceive things to be, but perspective is, well, are there other ways to see this or do this? And so I say, well, can you focus
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on your relationship with your
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girlfriend or guy, you know, and make time for that, because that's really important stuff. Can you make time
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for your parents or whatever?
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Now, I'm all for making a lot of money, but not sacrificing something of greater importance for that.
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Just one sec. If you like the advice you hear on our channel, you're going to love this. Every single week, we take the five biggest regrets, the best life lessons, the things you really, really, really need to know. We put it into a
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free newsletter that we send out every single week to you. If you're interested, you can join by clicking the link in the description or scanning the QR code on the screen. It's totally free and every single week you'll get amazing
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life advice like you see on our channel straight to your inbox. What is a big goal that you set for yourself when you were younger that you have not yet achieved?
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There isn't a goal that I set in my 20s and 30s that I have not yet achieved. There are lots of goals that I have
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now that I am overwhelmed with figuring out how to achieve it.
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I'm confused. I'm stressed because I haven't figured out the path yet. But that, that's, that's, that's life.
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If you're a professional sports team, you know, the best in the world, you lose. But that's the game. That's where the muscle is built. And I've had a lot of failures of things that didn't work, but
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I'm not a failure. Right. They don't define you. I
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Yeah. I don't define myself as a failure. I'll have an eight-pack at 63.
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Hit financial
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goals, hit relationship goals, my children, career, business contribution. I've just
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finished eight new, you know, little books that I've, that I've, that I've, so these things like beyond what I ever thought. Like they're beyond what I
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ever thought. So, this is a comment from the video that we posted our first conversation. Lots of people have dreams, ideas, and whatnot. They never act on it because they are only interested, not committed. If I feel that I'm not capable of making big
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changes in my life, how could I start? Are you disciplined to how you think every day? Are you disciplined to your current habits right now? Are you disciplined to how much time you spend swiping left, right, up
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or down
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and looking at this social media and that social media? You already have your disciplines. Everybody is
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already 100% disciplined to your current habits. So now we say okay, how do I develop a new discipline? And that's say
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how do I develop a new habit? And the answer is I make a decision to change first and then I take small consistent action steps every day to build the new discipline first. What does that look like? Can I do one minute of
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something every day for 30 days? Well, of course I can. Um, okay. Now, if you're committed, then let's just start with that. Let's forget about the complexity and intensity and let's start with simplicity. If I make it too hard,
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my brain's going to resist it because it requires energy and our brain does not
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want to use up this precious energy. But if I say, you know, can you do one minute of this? Can you read
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one sentence? Can you watch one video? Can you
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make one better choice when you're eating? If you cannot do seven days of changing or
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starting something, you'll never succeed in your life. And if you can't do seven
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days, go for three. Can't do three, just do it twice today. So at least you get a little bit of self-confidence and certainty. Are you interested in getting better at this? Or are you committed?
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What is the difference between being interested in something and being committed to something? If you're interested, you do what's easy and convenient. If you're interested, you'll allow your present circumstances and your present habits and your automatic behaviors to control what you
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do. Because when you're committed, you will do whatever it takes to upgrade your knowledge and your skills and your habits and your disciplines.
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The whole idea is it starts off with a goal or a vision, then a commitment, and then the discipline
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to do the thing that's required to achieve that thing. But if you reduce what you need to do to the ridiculously small to
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start, you then build self-trust, you build
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a little confidence, a little bit of certainty, and you get a little momentum. And what do we all do when we get momentum? It's kind of like, hey, let's go. So, we want to keep that
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momentum going. You know, everybody wants to go to heaven. Very few people are willing to die. John's method of goal setting where you essentially take a goal and you break it down into such a bite-sized small piece
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that you have no choice but to...
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It goes. The time goes. It seems like it's slow when you're in your 20s, maybe even 30s. You get into [music] your 40s, 50s, and 60s, and January 1st, you think Christmas is tomorrow. [music] It just time just goes like gunpowder.
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It just goes. Make sure [music] that you pack your experiences in your life so [music] that you can look back at any time in your life and say the time that I had 20 years, 30 years, 10 years, 15
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years, 50 [music] years, wow, did I pack a lot of high value [music] things in my life. Go travel, go see the world. Um, you know, go do your charitable work. really build friendships [music] you know, uh that are loving, caring,
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kind. Take care of yourself and you will never regret those choices. You're either going to pay the price of discipline or you're going to pay the price of regret. [music] He says, "Discipline weighs ounces. Regret weighs tons." So live a life that [music] you
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don't regret. Easy life, hard choices. Hard life, easy choices. Yeah. It's hard now, easy later. Easy now, hard later. Yeah. So, thank you so much. That's true. I can
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