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Hello, viewer. What, how, and when should you propose to a girl? I have been working on this material for a long time. I added a lot and removed a lot. And in the end, it turned out to be, one might say, a full-fledged webinar or a mini-course. I admit, at first I thought about making this a paid product, but then I thought: "Fine, I'll gift it to my audience." That's all, my kindness. Friends, in this video, I have reflected on a great many basic things. And as I present the material, I will make remarks. But let's not stall, let's begin. I have noticed that many problems with girls lie in the realm of communication. Let's assume a guy is going through stages from meeting, well, say, to a relationship. And at each of these stages, there is a certain probability of losing the girl. Sometimes this probability is higher, sometimes it is lower. In my opinion, the highest probability of losing a girl is at the beginning, where the meeting and dating occur. But today we will analyze all stages up to the relationship and even beyond. Losses at these stages occur because the guy's proposal either lacks sufficient value, or is made in the wrong form, or at the wrong time. And today we will analyze the optimal scenario: what, how, and when to propose to a girl without appearing strange. We are taking the standard path, where an ordinary guy just wants to find an ordinary girl and have a relationship with her. That is all. I understand that among the viewers there will be a lot of people who understand attracting women much better than I do. And they don't need to go through all the stages. They meet a girl and get everything right away. I am very lucky to be your contemporary. Please share your knowledge in the comments. But we, ordinary guys, guys from the plow, need a simple, step-by-step algorithm. Let's break it down. It is important not just to go through these stages, but to go through them without losing your strong position. The terms strong position and weak position, or leading and following position, I took from clinical psychologist Dean Delis's book, "The Passion Paradox." Today we will rely on his terminology. We will also use the term "balance" from the same book. It is a certain parity of the state of the guy and the girl and the ratio of their strengths. What is a strong position? A strong position means that the partner who is in it makes the decision on whether the relationship continues or not, and determines where it is heading, while the partner in the weak position follows them. And interestingly, all these stages are points where one can either lose a strong position or regain it if everything is done correctly. Furthermore, I am considering this algorithm to minimize the loss of a girl at each stage so as not to make stupid mistakes. I want to insert an important remark. The line I've drawn here can also be visually represented as a funnel. Let me explain what I mean. Here is the line with all the stages I’ve sketched out. Ideally, its beginning is the widest level of a funnel that narrows over time. At the early stages, we must act in such a way that most women are retained and move forward, so they don't drop off right at the beginning. At the initial stages of this funnel, it is important to make the right, timely, and appropriate offers to women; otherwise, they will be lost at this very stage. That is, instead of 100% at this level, only 5% will reach you. Simply because you are taking the wrong actions. Instead of ensuring maximum choice and maximum efficiency at the very beginning, guys narrow the funnel entrance to the size of a needle's eye, through which only a few percent of women pass. And they still have to go through the other stages. So, they start filtering right here. As a result, they filtered well at this point and finally reached a date with 1% or 5% of the women. But then it turns out that at other stages, the women aren't a good fit. That is why I say that you need to maintain the maximum width of the funnel through correct and timely offers. It is important not only to navigate these stages correctly but also to maintain dynamics and speed. Here I want to use a metaphor. Chess masters, grandmasters who played against artificial intelligence, compared those matches to facing an inexorably advancing wall. We move here in exactly the same way, like an inexorable wall. And this does not mean we are banging our heads like sheep against a closed door. It means that we are inexorably advancing through the stages. We do not get stuck. I am reminded of a client who went on about seven dates with a girl. Maybe even more. And he made absolutely no progress at all. They didn't even really hold hands, she wouldn't let him touch her, and he couldn't do anything about it. Meaning he wasn't moving through the stages. This is important. Using this algorithm, we must check our actions and understand whether we are moving forward or not, or if we are being played for an idiot. This will help us decide whether to continue the relationship or not, or to leave and look for a new one. If you remember my popular video on how and why to look for a girl, I told the whole life scenario of a guy-girl relationship and how the movement goes along it; this is a sort of zoom-in, specifically the interaction stage, the stage of making an offer to a girl. Here, the guy takes the position of the one making an offer — this is important — not asking, but offering. We will talk about this more. I think that's enough prelude. Let's finally move on to the dating stage. In this framework, I am assuming that you are talking to a girl for the first time. That is, we are not considering online dating, because you've already got her contact there, but here you haven't. So, this is meeting in person, and you need to get her contact information. Meaning you need to suggest that she gives it to you. And at this stage, there is a fundamental mistake. A guy asks for a girl's contact, and she might even give it, in principle, give her phone number or Telegram or something else, just to get him to leave her alone. And then the girl doesn't pick up or respond. Why does this happen? Because at this stage, the guy didn't work on the so-called attraction. He didn't work on attraction, didn't offer value, and at the same time, didn't create any connection with the girl. Well, in psychology, this is also called rapport. A classic story in a club or a loud bar: a guy approaches a girl, chats with her a bit, gets her number, writes or calls her the next day, but she doesn't respond just because the next day she thinks, "Who is this guy? He's nobody special to me. We didn't really hit it off." In other words, it wasn't interesting. What am I getting at? You need to talk one way or another while meeting a girl, ask questions, hear the answers, tell her something about yourself, and demonstrate your value. I spoke about this separately in my video on storytelling. Therefore, here I am adding the step of getting the contact. This interval can be called value. That is, you demonstrate your value through stories, external attributes, or anything else. And I will emphasize separately that you shouldn't focus on the result of getting the phone number. You need to build a normal conversation. And it's better not to use the phrasing "Can I have your phone number?" No, you can suggest exchanging some information, offer to send her something, for example, find common interests in the conversation, then offer to share something and get, for instance, her Telegram. For some, this seems easy, but for others, it's difficult. We are currently considering guys with average communication skills. And again, I'm using real-world examples. Meaning a guy keeps getting phone numbers, over and over, but nobody responds. Precisely for this reason, no connection is created, and he doesn't demonstrate his value in any way. So, let's say you got the contact, now you need to set up a meeting, a

webinar or a mini-course. I admit, at first I thought about making this a paid product, but then I thought: "Fine , I'll gift it to my audience." That's all, my kindness. Friends, in this video, I have reflected on a great many

basic things. And as I present the material, I will make remarks. But let's not stall, let's begin. I have noticed that many problems with girls lie in the realm of communication.

Let's assume a guy is going through stages from meeting, well, say, to a relationship. And at each of these stages, there is a certain probability of losing the girl. Sometimes this probability is higher, sometimes it is lower. In my opinion, the highest

probability of losing a girl is at the beginning, where the meeting and dating occur. But today we will analyze all stages up to the relationship and even beyond. Losses at these stages occur because the guy's proposal either lacks

sufficient value, or is made in the wrong form, or at the wrong time. And today we will analyze the optimal scenario: what, how, and when to propose to a girl without appearing strange. We are taking the standard path, where an ordinary guy just wants

to find an ordinary girl and have a relationship with her. That is all. I understand that among the viewers there will be a lot of people who understand attracting women much better than I do.

And they don't need to go through all the stages. They meet a girl and get everything right away. I am very lucky to be your contemporary. Please share your knowledge in the comments. But we, ordinary guys, guys from the plow, need

a simple, step-by-step algorithm. Let's break it down. It is important not just to go through these stages, but to go through them without losing your strong position. The terms strong position and weak position, or leading and following position, I took from clinical

psychologist Dean Delis's book, "The Passion Paradox." Today we will rely on his terminology. We will also use the term "balance" from the same book. It is a certain parity of the state of the guy and the girl and the ratio of their

strengths. What is a strong position? A strong position means that the partner who is in it makes the decision on whether the relationship continues or not, and determines where it is heading , while the partner in the weak

position follows them. And interestingly, all these stages are points where one can either lose a strong position or regain it if everything is done correctly.

Furthermore, I am considering this algorithm to minimize the loss of a girl at each stage so as not to make stupid mistakes. I want to insert an important remark. The line I've drawn here can also be visually represented

as a funnel. Let me explain what I mean . Here is the line with all the stages I’ve sketched out. Ideally, its beginning is the widest level of a funnel that narrows over time. At the early stages, we must act in such a way

that most women are retained and move forward, so they don't drop off right at the beginning. At the initial stages of this funnel, it is important to make the right, timely, and appropriate offers to women; otherwise, they will

be lost at this very stage. That is, instead of 100%at this level, only 5% will reach you. Simply because you are taking the wrong actions. Instead of ensuring maximum choice and maximum efficiency at the very beginning, guys narrow the funnel entrance to the size

of a needle's eye, through which only a few percent of women pass. And they still have to go through the other stages. So, they start filtering right here. As a result, they filtered well at this point and finally reached a

date with 1%or 5%of the women. But then it turns out that at other stages, the women aren't a good fit. That is why I say that you need to maintain the maximum width of the funnel through correct and timely offers. It is

important not only to navigate these stages correctly but also to maintain dynamics and speed. Here I want to use a metaphor. Chess masters, grandmasters who played against artificial intelligence, compared those matches to facing an inexorably advancing wall. We

move here in exactly the same way, like an inexorable wall. And this does not mean we are banging our heads like sheep against a closed door. It means that we are inexorably advancing through the stages. We do not get stuck

. I am reminded of a client who went on about seven dates with a girl. Maybe even more. And he made absolutely no progress at all. They didn't even really hold hands, she wouldn't let him touch her, and he couldn't do anything

about it. Meaning he wasn't moving through the stages. This is important. Using this algorithm, we must check our actions and understand whether we are moving forward or not, or if we are being played for an idiot. This will

help us decide whether to continue the relationship or not, or to leave and look for a new one. If you remember my popular video on how and why to look for a girl, I told the whole life scenario of a guy-girl relationship and

how the movement goes along it; this is a sort of zoom-in, specifically the interaction stage, the stage of making an offer to a girl. Here, the guy takes the position of the one making an offer —this is important—not asking, but

offering. We will talk about this more. I think that's enough prelude. Let's finally move on to the dating stage. In this framework, I am assuming that you are talking to a girl for the first time. That is, we are not considering

online dating, because you've already got her contact there, but here you haven't. So, this is meeting in person, and you need to get her contact information. Meaning you need to suggest that she gives it to you. And at this stage, there is a fundamental

mistake. A guy asks for a girl's contact, and she might even give it, in principle, give her phone number or Telegram or something else, just to get him to leave her alone. And then the girl doesn't pick up or respond. Why

does this happen? Because at this stage , the guy didn't work on the so-called attraction. He didn't work on attraction, didn't offer value, and at the same time, didn't create any connection with the girl. Well, in psychology, this is also called rapport

. A classic story in a club or a loud bar: a guy approaches a girl, chats with her a bit, gets her number, writes or calls her the next day, but she doesn't respond just because the next day she thinks, "Who is this guy? He's

nobody special to me. We didn't really hit it off." In other words, it wasn't interesting. What am I getting at? You need to talk one way or another while meeting a girl, ask questions, hear the answers, tell her something about

yourself, and demonstrate your value. I spoke about this separately in my video on storytelling. Therefore, here I am adding the step of getting the contact.

This interval can be called value. That is, you demonstrate your value through stories, external attributes, or anything else. And I will emphasize separately that you shouldn't focus on the result of getting the phone number.

You need to build a normal conversation . And it's better not to use the phrasing "can I have your phone number?

" No, you can suggest exchanging some information, offer to send her something, for example, find common interests in the conversation, then offer to share something and get, for instance, her Telegram. For some, this seems easy, but for others, it's

difficult. We are currently considering guys with average communication skills. And again, I'm using real-world examples. Meaning a guy keeps getting phone numbers, over and over, but nobody responds. Precisely for this reason, no connection is created, and he doesn't demonstrate his value in any

way. So, let's say you got the contact, now you need to set up a meeting, a date. And at this stage, there are also a lot of losses, because the date is being set up incorrectly or at the

wrong time. Why does a girl go on a date with a guy? Not because she likes him. Of course, that might be a reason, but mainly because she is curious. Here is the main reason for the first meeting: curiosity. We aren't even

talking about some kind of direct interest here. No, curiosity. And it needs to be sparked. Curiosity. If value is demonstrated here, then, in principle, no problems arise at this stage. The girl is curious to find out who this guy is. And, of course, you

need to ask yourself: why should a girl end up in a specific place in your company? Why does she need that? And here, again, I recall examples of guys who sent me screenshots of their chats.

They suggest that the girl meet up. And this requires serious effort on the girl’s part. For example, they invite her from one city to another to visit them. And the girl naturally asks herself: "Why the hell should I go

somewhere for a guy I barely know? Especially if the acquaintance happened on the internet." To make the analogy clear, imagine you are a new viewer, seeing me for the first time. I tell you: "Subscribe to the channel." You’d also think: "Why the hell would

I?" Perhaps you’d think: "No, dude, first prove you’re an interesting blogger, then I’ll subscribe." And that is fair and honest. There is a certain level of benefit for a woman.

Why should she go on a date with you? And a lot of guys don't reach that level for many reasons. For instance, they didn't do the work here, didn't show their value, didn't explain to the woman why she should see them, didn't

intrigue her, didn't spark curiosity, and so on. And, of course, they come with their proposal, and the girl refuses, but she doesn't refuse them directly. She says, well, I don't have time. She signals that she isn't interested. She is basically hinting to

the guy that he should change his strategy. But the guy, instead of changing his strategy, starts pressuring her. For example, she says: "Oh, I can't, I'm busy at work." The guy, instead of changing the configuration of his proposal, starts

telling her: "Well, just take a day off ." Naturally, the woman gets irritated and brushes the guy off because he didn't understand what was going on.

And it is very wrong to ask a girl: " Are you busy on such-and-such day?" or "What are you doing this day?" Why the hell should she explain anything to you if you haven't even formed any real connection yet? Meaning, at best, you

are just a curiosity to her. This is comparable to a situation where a phone spammer calls you and says, "Do you have a minute to hear our offer?" and you realize that you'll lose at least five minutes to this meaningless

chatter that is of no benefit to you at all. Naturally, you hang up. How is this problem solved? You suggest a specific time and place—an interesting place—and you create some intrigue. That is, you don't engage in endless messaging for days, which does

happen. A guy chats with a girl, spending a ton of time on it, basically . She is simply milking him for attention. Why would she meet him if he is already giving her his attention?

Think about it. So, you propose a specific place and time, and it shouldn't be burdensome for the girl; it should be easy and interesting for her to get there. Or you can offer to meet her, say, by picking her up

yourself and taking her somewhere. If you are very confident in yourself and sure that you have done a good job here , you can invite her over to your place . Why not? But you have to be able to

see it, again, returning to this point —you must have an adequate understanding of the value of your offer. But that requires experience. If a guy is experienced, he generally won't be watching this right now. So, you don't ask the girl, "What are you

doing?" or "Are you busy?" No, that is very annoying. You suggest, or more accurately, you invite her to a specific place and time. And this stage between meeting and dating shouldn't be dragged out. A few days at most. If you

can do it sooner, even better. Can the first meeting happen on the day you meet? Easily. If you see that there is initial interest from the girl—for instance, you approached her on the street, started talking, and she is

generally ready to continue the conversation—that happens too; you can go with her right then, for example , to a coffee shop to talk. There are opposite situations where a guy heaps too much on her, meaning too much generosity, too many suggestions; he

starts promising her things, making plans, giving gifts—in short, overwhelming her with his attention. That also makes her uncomfortable because she realizes something is wrong with the guy; he has few options and is probably not very interesting to girls

if he is that invested in talking only to her. And she rejects him as well.

Therefore, it is necessary to see this balance. To do this, you need to understand the needs of the person who interests you. In this sense, I recently started to understand the psychology of beautiful women, specifically regarding how many

strangers message them, all wanting something in return. First and foremost , her time and her attention. Because many strangers also message me with the exact same goals. I’ve noticed that many guys simply don't know how to get what they need from others, precisely

because they either fail to offer enough value or, conversely, try way too hard. And naturally, these people have the same kinds of relationships with women. In other words, it projects onto their relationships with everyone.

That’s what I’m getting at. And this is where sales skills come in handy. Let me clarify this point separately. So many strangers message me asking why they can't succeed with women; they send me tons of screenshots , message logs, and long texts,

expecting me to drop everything and solve their problems. They are completely blind to their own issues.

And naturally, very few of them get what they are looking for. There are also strange types who want to meet up and chat for no reason at all. They are vague, and it’s unclear what they actually want. Understand, this isn't

about me at all; it’s about guys being unable to state their needs or understand what they are offering to whom. Imagine if strangers kept messaging you, asking you to do things for them or to meet up. Naturally, you’d be fed up with them within a

week. Now, put yourself in the shoes of a girl, an attractive girl. She has been used to receiving various "offers, " so to speak, since she was fifteen.

Just imagine how tired she is of those requests. But of course, there are guys who do get what they want from me. How?

They simply have a realistic idea of who I am, roughly how busy I am, and what they can offer me, and they immediately propose an exchange.

That’s all there is to it. And that doesn't mean you should be haggling with a girl. No, you just need to be realistic about the value of your offer and try to think from her perspective.

In other words, think about how your approach looks from the outside. And here, of course, Blackpill theorists are right in the sense that it’s easier for an attractive guy to bypass certain barriers. Yes, women make rules for some men, while they break them for

others. I’ve mentioned this before, but in reality, that won’t get you very far. Yes, it makes things easier at the start, but eventually, you'll still have to put in the work. And if you're not particularly attractive or interesting to begin with, that doesn't

mean it’s the end of the road for you . But you need to have a general idea of how you’re going to intrigue a woman. It’s not that difficult. You need to study the object of your interest. If you offer everyone the

exact same thing, there's no value in that. It's obvious right away. But let's get back to the women. You really need to figure out how to strike that balance with them. Ideally, at this stage, you should find out something

about her, check her social media, see what interests her, and based on that, understand her needs as a whole. A quick note regarding the first date.

The first date, guys and girls, is something like a crossroads. For maximum effectiveness, it should be something neutral, where you can meet almost anyone and find common ground.

This means the activity you plan for the first date should be simple, clear, and pleasant. It shouldn't be rock climbing, a hat museum, or a hockey game. You'll have time for those things with someone you already have mutual

chemistry with on the second or third date. What’s the problem? Again, of course, your unique suggestions will only appeal to a small percentage of women. I don't dispute that, but what’s next? There are still plenty of filters ahead. Actually, there is a

universal group of female needs. That is, first of all, to spend time with a cool guy. If you are one, great, that's half the battle. Eating delicious food, being in a cool place where you can take nice photos, getting some

excitement, for example, having fun, riding a motorcycle, going to an amusement park, or doing something worth talking about later. There, I've listed a group of universal female needs that you can use when suggesting a meeting. That's it. Based on this

group of needs, you choose a specific place and make a specific proposal. We’re spending so much time on this for a reason, because this is where the most women are lost in the process.

That’s why it’s important to know these nuances to minimize those losses. Of course, this issue is usually resolved through messaging or a call. I recorded a separate video about messaging. Seven immutable axioms of messaging. And here I want to recall

one more axiom. Axiom number eight. The more information volume you send per unit of time, the longer it will take for them to reply, or they might not reply at all. Perhaps you are familiar with the situation where an

acquaintance sends you a bunch of voice messages totaling about 20 minutes, and it just stays in your unread folder.

And you realize that you'll have to open it and reply to something, and you have to spend time listening to it all.

And you put it off. And you keep putting it off, and off. And eventually , it’s just awkward. And, in principle, you just abandon that communication. It’s the same thing with girls. You need to write what can be read quickly and what can be

answered quickly. And—this is very important—it shouldn’t require any effort from her. At the very first stage of texting, many girls are lost because guys overwhelm them with questions, writing: "Tell me about yourself." Why on earth should she spend her energy on that? Explain that

to me. Or, for example, they start talking about themselves instead, writing a bunch of messages, and end up burdening the girl with that too. Guys, all of that is discussed when you meet.

If you write to a girl more than she writes to you, it looks like neediness in any case. So, keep the balance.

Since there’s a very high risk of losing a girl due to silly mistakes at these stages, it's better to avoid unnecessary actions here. That's how I’d put it. So, I won't go through all the possible situations where you

could lose a girl right now. Meaning, it’s better to make minimal moves here. And at these stages, it is very important to stay in the so-called neutral zone. That means not pushing too hard, not showing neediness, and not showing impatience, dissatisfaction

, or resentment. If a girl, for example , postpones a meeting or says she's busy or doesn't have time or something else. As I said before, it's better to change your strategy rather than show stubbornness. Although in some cases,

that can be useful. You can try to catch the girl's mood and meet here and now. So, the date has taken place. Next , it is assumed that you need to move toward physical intimacy, that is, you need to get confirmation of mutual

attraction. Let’s call the next stage the kiss. The first kiss is an important moment, and it is very individual. It is a precious memory for every person. I won’t steal those moments from you by giving you a step-by-step algorithm, but I will

explain the principles. The first principle: the kiss is preceded by physical contact. One way or another, it could be touching a hand, or, for example, when a girl rests her head on your shoulder—this is expanding boundaries. So, the second principle is

that you must reach the kiss first by expanding the boundaries of your physical interaction. I will mark this gap here. It’s physical contact. And just like with communication, there are neutral zones and, let's say, hot zones . For example, what you can safely

start with is touching a shoulder. That is, a friendly touch. For example, how can you do it? You're walking with a girl, she's saying something, and you sort of lean in towards her, you know, to hear her better. And in principle,

there's no problem with putting your arm around her shoulder a little bit. I mean, you've leaned in to hear what she's saying. This is the first phase, it's quite simple, it's hard to mess up and hard to cross personal boundaries,

but nevertheless, you've pushed them back this way. If the girl gives the green light, you can move on, for example, by touching her shoulder more actively. For instance, you made a joke , she laughed, you're both laughing together, and in that moment, you can

touch her. So that’s also a completely neutral action. You definitely shouldn't grab her under any circumstances. Just, you know, a light touch like, "Ha, that's funny, stop it.

" Do it a few times too. If the girl goes cold, it doesn't mean that's it, you need to go completely cold too. You are, in fact, moving through zones. So, okay, she was cold to that, you back

off, for example, just touch her shoulder. And an important point, don't get hung up on this, because you should feel comfortable too. You should, generally speaking, actually want to touch her. Because it happens that guys focus on this, get obsessed with it,

and that's it. They think about how to touch something, but no, it looks stiff and it can turn the girl off. So, what's next? Next, you can, for example , take the girl's hand. Of course, there should be a pretext for this.

Let's say, discuss the differences between men and women and bring up the topic that you read online that men's hands are, on average, colder than women's. And suggest checking, uh, just how warm her hand is. You don't need to

hold it for a long time, just a touch, check it, it might be that the woman herself won't want to pull her hand away longer than you intended for this handshake, to linger. Well, that's great. That's it, a step forward, a

step back, a step forward, a step back. Further, if everything is going well and there's no coldness from the girl, it would be desirable to hold hands.

How can this be done? Well, for example , it can be done with a joke. It's actually very funny, by the way. I tested it myself, and originally I learned about it on the internet. A guy walks up to a girl and says, "Can you

hold this for a second?" And he offers her his hand. Well, she ends up taking his hand, and that's it. And he walks with her hand in hand. It's funny, in principle, and the girl might react positively to it. Well, if not, just

say: "Well, I was joking, just testing a prank I saw online." Just explain your actions. Say: "Okay, yeah, I totally understand.""I just wanted to hold your hand." And that's it, you keep walking, no problems at all. Most importantly, don't get offended or walk

around sulking just because she didn't let you hold her hand. No, it's all fine, she refused, no big deal. A step forward, a step back. What I don't recommend doing is voicing your desire to kiss a woman. I mean, it’s a bit

off-putting. Although if she wants it too, there won't be any problems. But it's better to lead up to it smoothly and in a playful way. I’ll leave that up to your discretion. Though I can't leave you completely without a few

hints. A good, optimal moment is the end of the date. The end of the meeting . For example, you're saying goodbye, hugging, then you almost let her go, you say: "Thanks for the date," and kiss her, for instance. A perfectly

normal social situation. Besides, if she, for example, pulls away, it spares you from having to deal with awkwardness for the rest of the evening , because you're already saying goodbye . Logical. Logical. So, she pulled away . Okay. I understand, no big deal.

Goodbye. And this is an important point . I mean, it's better to lose the girl at this stage than to be afraid, for example, of moving on to contact, to a kiss and so on, and dragging it out for

6 or 10 dates while she's giving you the cold shoulder. Such cases happen. Remember, the looming wall. You must, one way or another, keep moving forward using various methods. And an important point: if you aren't moving forward at

all, it means, most likely, the girl doesn't like you. And she can say whatever she wants, that she doesn't get close to people quickly, that she needs time, or something else. Don't listen to that, I’m asking you, don't

listen. It means you need to either change your strategy or shift your attention to another girl. There's no need to bang your head against a closed door. And here is what few people talk about. If you are advancing through all

the stages too quickly, too easily, then watch out for a catch. It could be that they want to get something out of you, scam you, or something else. Be careful. Generally speaking, none of this should be easy. It shouldn't be

easy. One way or another, you have to overcome some sort of resistance. And that is normal. Why? Because if a girl gets close too easily, for example, there are situations where sex happens on the first date, it means this is the

norm for her. This is likely not the first, and hopefully not the last time.

That's the situation. I certainly understand it's nice to think of yourself as special, someone who can pick up women as easily as shelling nuts. I understand how tempting that is , but you need to look a bit deeper at

this little moment. Why? Because for, well, a normal, mentally healthy woman, having sex means having serious emotional intimacy with a partner, and, generally speaking, taking a big, serious step. And if sex is as simple as eating for her, that means, most

likely, you won't be able to build a long-term relationship with her. And I'm not just pulling that out of thin air. Quite a lot of clients come to me after just such a situation, where things moved fast, almost from the

first meeting, and sometimes at the first meeting. And then they face some inconveniences, let's say, namely that they slept with a girl and lost the ability to think clearly and soberly.

And later they find out a lot about her . They find out about her issues, about certain facts that prevent the development of a relationship. She doesn't suit them on fundamentally important points, but they can't let her go because they are hooked on her,

because a very important sexual bond has formed. And why? Because many guys, young and inexperienced, have this logic: she's a cool girl, I like her, let's sleep together and see what happens. Well, that's how it happens.

We sleep together, then suffer, and can't get out of the situation painlessly. When a guy rushes into sex, he can't understand if he really needs this relationship or not. That is why you need to get to know a person first

to understand, well, though I'm saying obvious things. Alright, of course, there is a category of guys for whom it is fundamentally important to get sex as quickly as possible, but we aren't considering them today. They are, in principle, of little interest to us;

they aren't particularly interesting to themselves or to women either. That's why they quickly dump women who gave in to them quickly, because they simply don't respect such a woman. Food for thought. A few more additions regarding these stages. At each of them, if you

do everything wrong, you can undermine this balance and disrupt it. If you beg a girl to meet you for a long time and chase after her, it disrupts the balance. If she refuses to be held, won't let you touch her, or won't let

you kiss her, that also leads to a disruption of balance. A girl might deliberately make a guy wait for a date or a kiss and so on, just to gain the upper hand and put the guy in a weak

position. So, be vigilant. It is actually better to offer everything in a timely manner and no more than once.

Well, maybe twice at most if there are nuances, but you shouldn't be circling and chasing her like a cheetah on the savannah, because that is exhausting and leaves you with no strength to hunt . The next stage, or milestone if you

will, is sex. I must emphasize that the ideal situation is, of course, when intercourse happens after marriage, but we don't live in a perfect society. One way or another, a guy is obligated to propose it to reveal a woman's cards

and understand how she feels about it. That is what I wanted to say. Because not offering sex isn't great either, as it makes it unclear whether you're really a guy or not, whether you have needs, or if you're some kind of saint

or just oblivious. Therefore, one way or another, you have to propose it. And here we have a fork in the road with two situations. The first situation.

The girl has never had sex with a guy, and for her, for certain reasons—say, religious or traditional—it is unacceptable to have sex before marriage. Okay, you can agree to this condition because the girl has the right to set it in that specific

situation. So, you make a decision for yourself and wait until marriage. That is all. If a woman has already been with a man, then, naturally, she cannot set such boundaries for you for obvious reasons. Therefore, in this case,

intimacy should happen around this time . How do you lead up to this? So, for the first intimacy to happen, certain conditions must be met. You cannot offer it directly. What needs to be done? First, achieve a high degree of

comfort between you. I am not promoting any proprietary method of my own here. This is all described in principle, for example, in the Mystery book. I mean the Mystery method regarding comfort.

It is described in quite some detail there. What can I say? First, you need to be alone with the girl in a comfortable environment. For example, you have already had a few dates, and you need to invite the girl to your

place. But inviting her to your place out of the blue is just uncouth. I mean , it's not interesting. The girl understands everything, knows why it's needed, and she pulls away. Especially if these stages were rushed or handled

poorly, such a suggestion might simply offend her. Therefore, it should also involve something specific—well, some kind of activity. For example, you could invite a girl over to your place to cook something together, like dinner . You don't need clichéd lines like "

let's watch a movie." I mean, you’re basically putting the girl in a position right away......a rather delicate one. No, something neutral. An important point. You are inviting the girl to your place from the position of a tester. Not a requester, but a tester

. That doesn't mean you invite her over and run around cooking dinner for her while she texts her friends or guys she likes more. No. Invite her over so that she can cook something for you. Let her know that in doing so, you are testing

her domestic skills and culinary talent . And if you are satisfied with the result, everything else will follow.

And when she arrives, you, naturally, ensure the maximum level of comfort. The apartment is tidy, and at the same time, you are doing what you planned.

Give her a tour of your apartment, then lie down, for example, just to take a break, rest, and that’s it—it’s off to the races. That is, it just moves on to that stage. Everything is calm, without any acrobatics. Comments

might come up that this is somehow boring or too formulaic. Guys, I'm giving you a guideline, and I'm giving it primarily to guys who don't have a clue about this process, so they don't simply look awkward. And this is a

reliable plan that minimizes losses at every stage. That's why all of this is necessary. And believe me, you don't need to fear being formulaic at these stages, because if you are looking for a girl for a meaningful relationship,

there will be plenty of time for everything else ahead. But here, it’s better to work with the right structure . Well, that’s my position. And the right structure is needed to maintain balance and not lose your strong position. That’s what this is all

about. Question: why haven't I said anything yet about bringing up the topic of a relationship? I mean, when should that question be asked? Because it shouldn't be asked at all. Remember this—I’m hypnotizing you right now.

Never, guys, remember this, never bring up the question of a relationship. Don't tell a girl that you are dating.

Don't ask her: "Are we dating or not?"" Will you be my girlfriend? Let's go out ." No, never do that. That's it. Why?

Because people are adults already; they understand everything. And when you bring up the question of a relationship , you give the girl exclusive status.

Why? As a reward. For what specific behavior are you doing this? Why are you looking for certainty? Why do you want to stake a claim on a girl? It’s off-putting and it’s burdensome.

There's no need to do that. Let the woman handle that. A man lives by his achievements, a woman lives by her relationships. Let her be the one to build them. And we return to the very basics. A woman wants to fall in love.

What does it mean to fall in love? It means losing control. If the woman doesn't have control, then you do. It means you decide whether you move forward or not. You say yes or no. That is the essence of a strong position.

It’s all according to this book. The Passion Paradox. The strong partner defines where the relationship goes.

Meaning, I repeat, he reacts to a request. And the request is sent by the weak partner. We will talk more about these requests later. Pay close attention here, because there are women taught by female coaches that the topic

of relationships should be brought up by the man, not the woman. And there is a clash of views, of competing systems.

At the same time, for women, the arguments are the same: for a woman to maintain a strong position so that the man takes steps toward her and brings up the relationship. Thus, there is a small category of women for whom it is

fundamentally important to hold a strong position, and they are willing to sacrifice the relationship for it.

Be vigilant. Such women can be identified by their provocations and manipulations. For example, manipulating feelings of jealousy so the man brings up the relationship, gets worried, and tries to lock the woman down somehow. Usually, such manipulation happens at the beginning,

and that is a major reason. To reconsider the necessity of such a relationship. Why? Because if such a confrontation starts at the beginning, it will never end. A woman won't give you the strong position, which isn't a tragedy, because most women are

comfortable being in a weak position if the man is ready to take the strong one , but that's a different conversation.

The next stage, which can basically happen either after sex or before, is the "ILY" or "I love you" stage. You must not say that. That’s all there is to it. Why? For the very reason I explained earlier. Let the girl say it

first. How long it takes doesn't matter . A month is fine. 5 days is not so great, because that's too fast.

That’s just emotion; don’t even take it seriously. If it takes a year, fine, let it be a year. It will take as long as it needs to. But it’s very pathetic when a guy says to a girl, "I

love you" first. It’s simply a disruption of the balance. But you have to help the girl with this. Special conditions must be created for such a situation, so that her feelings reach a certain peak and she confesses it. She

won't just say it to you while you’re sitting around watching TV. Well, that’s logical. There must be circumstances. Well, I’ll mark " circumstances" right here. Actually, not even that. A peak. Why did I put " ILY" after sex anyway? Because after

the first coitus, this balance changes very significantly. A guy, even if he’s a total loser, gains a strong position for a short time. Why? Because he achieved what he wanted. And the woman, consequently, is in a vulnerable position, because the guy might leave,

and then it turns out he dumped her, so she is more interested in him staying.

And, in principle, biological mechanisms are at play here as well. That’s why there is an important rule here. Or Mr. Wo’s postulate, number eight, I believe. Keep your pants dry.

What does that mean? It means that you treat it calmly, as a part of life.

Okay, it happened yesterday, today is a new day. And if you did everything correctly, the mechanism of love kicks in, specifically the woman’s attachment, and you move toward that stage. I am TL. The next stage is meeting the parents. Meeting the P.

Parents. Yes, that’s the spirit of the times. People sleep together first, and then introduce each other to their parents. Yes, it’s not super healthy, but that’s real life, and we operate within these limits. And here, the request must come from the woman. I

want to draw a very important line here between initiative and a request. Initiative, that you keep to yourself.

Meaning the man holds the initiative, but the woman should send the request. A request means some sort of desire that she can express in one form or another. She might say directly that she wants to know what wonderful people

raised such a wonderful person as you. Or it can be expressed in roundabout ways? Well, for example, just asking what your parents do, or maybe suggesting going out somewhere as a group of four, something like that. And you are the one who decides exactly

when and where it will happen. That’s the request. And the initiative, accordingly, is the when and where. But , I repeat, the request comes from the woman. Why did I start talking about a request from the woman? Because after

this point, namely sex, all requests one way or another must come from the woman. Meaning she begins to build the relationship. And here is an important equation of modern relationships. A man wants to get physical intimacy from a

woman, while a woman wants to get certainty, stability, and exclusive status from a man, that is, a relationship. A woman wants to pull a man into a relationship, and a man wants to get physical intimacy. Of course, sometimes it's the other way

around, but we aren’t considering those cases right now. Although I understand that it happens, because some guys have written to me in the comments: "Hey, Mr. Wo, tell us how to build a relationship so that the woman is in charge?""Well, guys, I haven't

figured out how to do that yet, but if I come up with such a scenario, I'll definitely share it. So, what precedes meeting the parents? A certain level of trust, because this is, after all, raising the question of family in one

way or another—introducing her to your family, to your kin, you could say . Battery's charged, let's continue. So , this stage of meeting the parents is preceded by trust. Trust and a desire to introduce the families to each other

. I recommend choosing a simple activity for the meeting. This could be dinner, lunch, going to the theater— something that doesn't require active interaction between people who don't know each other. That is, it should take place in a calm environment. The

next stage is cohabitation. The question of living together is raised. Here, the request should also come from the woman. She must, in one way or another, hint that she wants to live together. She might not say it directly

, for example. She might say that she wants to be with the man more. For instance, seeing each other more often, being together. That is precisely a hint at cohabitation. And a man in a strong position says:" Yes or no. "

Moreover, you don't necessarily have to do it in the moment. You can listen to it, take it into account, and create the conditions for it after some time.

I already filmed a separate video on this topic, it's in my archive right now. Why shouldn't you move in together quickly? For many reasons. Firstly, when you suggest moving in, you automatically grant the girl the highest exclusive status. I understand

guys 'desire, firstly, to have control over a woman, to know where she is and what she's doing. Secondly, to have constant access to intimacy. I understand these desires, but when you invite a woman to live with you, you

also give her control over your own behavior. That is, one way or another, you now have to report where you are and what you're doing. And I repeat, you grant her exclusive status. For what reason? It's unclear. It should be

a reward for her good behavior, or rather, her good attitude toward you, and not just like that. And what do many guys do? They suggest moving in right at the beginning for some reason, and that's it. And so they start this

surrogate version of family life. They skip the most pleasant part, the honeymoon period, so to speak, the birth of that very important connection . And the daily grind begins. And I have already said before that a woman's love is born in the absence of the man

nearby. If a guy suggests moving in quickly, then, accordingly, he deprives the woman of this opportunity. That is, they are in each other's sight all the time, and that gets boring quickly. And , of course, one of the common mistakes

is living on a woman's territory. I’ve already talked about this in previous videos. You shouldn't do that.

You must have your own territory that you control and where you set the rules . I also understand that it is practical to live with a woman, for example, for household chores or splitting rent, but you need to

understand why you are doing it. There are still certain risks if you start living with a woman too early, when you suggest living together. I recommend a benchmark of about six months before you are ready to propose to her, if you

intend to build a family with her. And, of course, you are already considering her for a family. This is an important point. Therefore, cohabitation should be viewed not as a way to increase your personal comfort, but specifically as a

stepping stone to creating a family union. Cohabitation should be reached by mutual agreement. It is the height of stupidity to suggest that a woman move in when you are already arguing almost every day, isn't it? Yet even that happens. An important point. As

part of advancing through each of these stages, you must accompany this progress with so-called PR. PR, that is , informational support, an explanation of each of your actions. And the explanation should be that you are getting closer to the woman, and this

closeness is a reward for her good treatment of you and correct behavior. This, in turn, gives you room to maneuver. If a woman behaves in a way you don't want, in a way you don't like , or incorrectly, you have the

opportunity to take a step back. That is, each of your proposals is a way to reward the woman, I repeat, and not a way to fix something that is already falling apart. Meaning, you don't invite a woman to live with you to tie

her to you. You don't ask her to marry you so she won't leave you. Thus, if something goes wrong, you move backward , and if everything is fine, you move forward, not the other way around, as sometimes happens. And finally, the

stage of creating a family. This is led by love and a readiness for cooperation , a fundamental readiness on both sides . And before you hover your hands over the keyboard to write comments about how everything will be taken from you

in marriage, watch my least popular video on how to save your property in marriage and what precautionary measures exist. One of the most frequent comments on my channel is that marriage will take all your money. At the same time, almost no one watches

the video where I give specific recommendations on how to keep your money. People like stating the problem, but not solving it. Well, that’s not my fault. I did everything I could. For men, in principle, with just one video

I have done more than a multitude of loudmouths who have proclaimed themselves" men's bloggers. "I forgot to mention that the request for a family must also come from the woman.

That is an important point: the request . And what does a request for a family from a woman actually mean? It means she brings up important issues and leads a corresponding lifestyle.

Meaning she raises the question of children, first of all, and expresses a readiness to bear them, and secondly, she adjusts her lifestyle. That is, she doesn't wander around clubs, she doesn't make any reckless moves, and she doesn't play any incomprehensible

games. In other words, she demonstrates a real readiness for family life. This is a very important point, because there are such cases, including among my clients, where sex happens almost before they even get to know each other . Then the woman says something like,"

It wouldn't be bad to have a family. " And the guy is sincerely convinced that the girl has family values. That is quite strange. Actually, I am reminded of a joke about when sex happens even before getting acquainted, when they

don't even know each other's names yet, but are already having sex. And that happens too. I am reminded of a joke about Lieutenant Rzhevsky. Lieutenant Rzhevsky arrives at a ball, and a certain lady recognizes him. She says:" Lieutenant, hello, is that you? "And he

pretends he doesn't know her. She confronts him:" What, you don't recognize me? "And he says to her:" Madame, the bed is not yet a reason for an acquaintance. "That's how we live, friends. In our culture, it is customary to propose marriage to a girl

. What I do not recommend doing is getting down on one knee. It is my deep conviction that there is not the slightest need for this. Why? Because when a guy makes a proposal, he is making an offer; he is not taking an

oath, for example, he is not filing a petition; no, he is making a proposal.

That is all there is to it. And, in principle, further discussion here is pointless. Next, as I said in the main video about how and why to look for a girl, comes the ritual stage, but that is for those for whom it is relevant.

And a ritual, for example, a church wedding or a Nikah in Islam, cannot be performed without official registration of the marriage. Well, at least a church wedding, for sure. I will mark" ritual "here. This is already a question of being of one mind on

spiritual matters. And, of course, that should be there. I would say it like this: values, of course, ideally, consensus, love, and values—they should align right here, even before intimate closeness, in an ideal world.

I personally know couples who waited to have sex until the wedding. And after the wedding ceremony, they got on with it. And no problems at all. I am simply offering you a range of options. I am explaining to you how one can live. And

people live quite peacefully without this whole hookup culture of short-term flings. Or one-night stands. And I cannot say that their lives have become any poorer for it. Separately, I want to discuss the necessity of ritual. Why is it needed? To begin with, I will

explain why all these divine matters are needed in this grand scheme. Let me say right away that this is a very bold assumption, and it can neither be fully refuted nor fully confirmed. Which, by the way, is good, if we believe the

mathematician Kurt Gödel, because it is the presence of such an element in any theory that makes it consistent. I know, my brain boils too when I think about it. But let us get to the heart of the matter. So, here we have a man

and a woman. Let us imagine there is only a man and a woman and no one else.

Any dispute between them is a dispute between two egos. One ego arguing with another ego. A clash of two egoisms.

And, of course, any serious conflict will lead to the collapse of these relations, because neither of them has a reason to back down or to make concessions. And, of course, the approach that says a man and a woman

can always reach an agreement, that two people can always agree, does not hold up to any criticism for this very reason. And for the same reason, neither patriarchy nor matriarchy will work. Because if a woman follows a man,

it means she is following his ego, and for her, that is humiliating. And conversely, if a man follows a woman, it is humiliating for him, because he suppresses his ego and follows her ego.

Everything is quite simple. Therefore, a third element is needed: shifting the center of gravity and adding a so-called arbiter, for example, in the form of God. That is how I will define the center of gravity. And it is very

important that, according to the Christian tradition, the man serves God . Accordingly, that is how he builds his life. And the woman, based on this mission of the man, follows her man.

And it is not humiliating for her, because they are both, in effect, fulfilling a third will. It is not that each serves themselves, nor do both serve one of the other; rather, they together serve a global task. And the

question of whether God exists or not is, within this system, unimportant to us. What is important is the principle of this movement. That is what I wanted to explain. And here we rely on Pascal and his wager that if God exists,

everyone wins. Simply because they were moving in the right direction. It turns out that even if God does not exist, they are not losers. They don't lose, because in any case they've maintained harmony within the couple, having preserved a dynamic that isn't

demeaning for either participant. That's all. That is my view on this matter as of today. Could it change?

Yes, absolutely. If someone convinces me otherwise, please, the truth won't hurt me. I will only benefit from it.

Yes, one could say I'm an idealist, but you must agree that a tree cannot grow to the sky, yet it strives in that direction nonetheless. It's the same with humans and ideals. A person doesn't reach the ideal in their

lifetime, but nonetheless, it is precisely this movement that makes them human. And as we can observe, people have different heights, just like trees . And finally, there's the matter of children. I don't see any point in dragging that out. I mean, this is one

of the reasons why a family is actually created. And if you put it off for too long, the couple gets used to comfort, and children start to seem a bit too burdensome to them. And for children, it's always the wrong time or wrong

place. But I'm not here to lecture anyone on how to live. That’s not my business; it’s a personal matter for everyone. When and how to have children . This is just a guideline. Now let's talk about the timing for each of these

stages. We've answered the question of what to offer a woman and how. Now let's discuss when. I will now set out a time frame that you can look at and use to check whether you are progressing through the stages or not.

So, from meeting to a date, on average, it should take from 3 to 7 days. It can be less, of course; 3-7 days from a date to the first physical contact.

This can happen on the first date. Well , let's say up to three dates. From a kiss to sex, I would set an acceptable time frame, depending on the circumstances, of up to 2-3 months.

Closer to two, perhaps. Some might say that only losers wait that long. Guys, this is a question of the level of women you encounter and the level of their self-esteem, education, and upbringing. That’s all there is to it

. If the women you see agree to sex on the first night, that says more about you and your social circle. But nevertheless, I won't name a minimum time frame. I'll provide an approximate range of up to 2 months. I had a

situation in my life, there was a girl who was very cultured. No matter what I did, it never went beyond a simple kiss . I mean, I tried this way and that way , and I even tried inviting her home.

And she says," No, it's still too early for something. "And so it was neither here nor there, neither one way nor the other. But at the same time, she was nagging me as if we’d been living together for 30 years. And so,

naturally, we had to part ways, I mean, break up. Next, how much time passes until the" I love yous "? A lot of time can pass. It really depends on how much time a girl needs to open up. And, uh,

this needs to be correlated with her past experience. Well, I would say it can really take up to a year. And I repeat, there were situations in my life, too, where a girl would say she loved me almost on the first date, out

of emotion. Again, you shouldn't take that seriously. So let's write it down: up to one year. I emphasize once again, up to one year. It could be a month, it could be 3 months, it could even be more than a year. In principle, that

happens too. But nevertheless, that is no reason to go and ruin the balance. In what cases can you tolerate such a long period? If the woman doesn't mess up otherwise, if she behaves adequately and treats you well, you can calmly

give her time. Meeting the parents—I would say: 3-6 months is, in principle, a reasonable timeframe. Because if you drag it out longer, it might not have a very good effect on your relationship with your future father-in-law and mother-in-law, because, well, they will

start asking questions:" Why haven't you introduced us to your daughter's boyfriend for so long? "" Why have you been waiting so long to introduce us to your boyfriend? "" Is he hiding from us ? "" But 3-6 months is optimal, not too

fast and not too long. When should you suggest living together? It is entirely possible to wait until the wedding, but definitely not right away. I would say: 6-12 months after the start of the relationship. And remember, about 6

months before you're ready to propose. Thus, if you put it all together, a reasonable time to start a family is about a year and a half, give or take.

If for some reason you aren't starting a family and you've already been together for 5-10 years, why not ask yourself: "What are you even doing together?""I mean, where are you headed ?" If you have some kind of consensus

on this matter, there are no problems here. The ritual is usually performed more or less immediately. Well, let's say within a month, a month after the wedding, I mean. And as for children, I leave that to your discretion and your

own range of possibilities. Now I suggest we go through the mistakes, how not to make a mess of things. So, these are the most common mistakes that can happen. First, going on dates too often and being too pushy. I mean, you go on

a date, and the guy starts texting that same evening: "Hey, how are you?""Or the next day he starts writing:" Good morning, how are you doing, my princess , when are we meeting next? "" No.

There needs to be some space; meeting once or twice a week is optimal, so we'll mark "too often" as a mistake.

When I talk about mistakes, I mean incorrect actions that lead to a loss of balance. Next, after sex, a guy loses his head, again, he loses his balance. I would also include the mistake of violating the timeline here.

This is a mistake. So, if you had sex too quickly, or if the woman made you wait too long—that is, too long a period—that is also a loss of balance . I mean, there must be very compelling reasons why this isn't happening. Yes,

I'll add, of course, that if the timeline for the first kiss is violated , that is, the transition to the first physical contact, if you wait too long, well, that's not great either. The next mistake that leads to a loss of balance

is when the guy says "I love you" first . It's important. I'm not saying that under no circumstances, even if you're being tortured, should you not tell a girl you love her. If we speak philosophically, we don't know how much

time each of us has left. After all, we are not eternal, and you might not get the chance to tell someone how you feel . Therefore, if you are really sure that you want to say it, and you feel

that you will get reciprocity, okay, you can take that risk. In principle, love is, to some extent, a risk. So, yes, I'm not limiting you to just one option, of course, but be prepared for your balance to waver or at least be at

risk. The next mistake is living together too soon, or living in the woman's place. Roughly speaking, you might be able to bend some timelines a bit, but be more careful with these ones. I also wouldn't recommend delaying starting a family if you see

this girl as a future wife and mother of your children, because every year, every month, her dissatisfaction with the current relationship grows if you delay the proposal. That's why I would also classify this as a mistake, because sooner or later it will

definitely come back to bite you. So, here I will just highlight this timeline: three years. Basically, that's the boundary. Here I recommend keeping in mind the external factors that can either disrupt the balance or restore it. For example, finding a job

or losing one, illness, recovery, expanding your social circle, narrowing it, moving, or, for instance, forced separation. There are so many external factors. Roughly speaking, time is your ally and your enemy at the same time.

Everything can change in any second. Any defeat is not fatal, any victory is not final. Again, this is not some kind of universal axiom. By no means. I am simply providing a picture for those who don't have much of an idea about

this at all. Also, you can just think about it, come up with something of your own, adapt it to yourself, to your vision of reality. No problem at all.

It is basically just an ABC, so to speak. This plan here is quite adequate . You won't look strange, and you can pay attention to it so you don't mess things up too badly. Acting according to this plan, it is quite hard to make

a mistake. And once again, what could be a mistake? That the balance is broken, meaning you lose your strong position. Most women still want to be in a weak position, and they expect the man to know where he is going and what

he is doing. And they need a man who can hold a strong position. I am explaining to you how to do this. And another important point is why it is important to keep these timelines in your head. Because if you don't have an

idea of them, then other people or circumstances will decide for you one way or another. Having your own deadlines allows you to have your so-called frame, that is, to control the parameters of what is happening.

That is being a man. That's all I have for today. It turned out to be quite an extensive video. And remember, to be a grandmaster, you don't necessarily need to know how to play chess. From Victoria.