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Explores why women may prefer 'bad boys' over nice men, analyzing traits women seek and the paradox of security in relationships.

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Key Takeaways

Women do not dislike nice men for being 'too good' but for lacking certain assertive traits.
Traits like confidence, independence, and decisiveness are highly valued by women.
Women may endure negative behaviors from 'bad boys' because these men display qualities linked to security.
Security in modern relationships is often equated with financial stability and competence.
The dynamics of attraction are complex and influenced by both emotional needs and practical considerations.

What the video covers

The video discusses the common perception that women prefer 'bad boys' to nice men.
It challenges the myth that women dislike nice men because they are too good or loyal.
The core argument is that women seek certain traits often found in 'bad boys' such as confidence, independence, and decisiveness.
Women may tolerate negative traits like manipulation or emotional unavailability in exchange for these desired qualities.
Security is identified as the number one value for women in relationships, often linked to financial stability today.
Nice men are described as passive, indecisive, submissive, and avoiding conflict, which may lack the traits women desire.
Bad boys are characterized as self-confident, independent, charismatic, and capable of confrontation.
The video questions whether traits like being controlling or irresponsible truly provide security.
Examples from real life illustrate complex relationship dynamics where women tolerate flaws for perceived security or other benefits.
The video critiques societal and media portrayals of men and relationships, emphasizing the nuanced reasons behind women's preferences.

Why do women sometimes prefer 'bad boys' over nice men?

Women may prefer 'bad boys' because they exhibit traits like confidence, independence, and decisiveness, which they find attractive and associate with security, even if these men have negative behaviors.

Is it true that women dislike nice men because they are too good?

No, the video argues that women do not dislike nice men for being too good or loyal, but rather because these men often lack assertiveness and other traits women desire.

What does security mean for women in modern relationships?

Security today is often linked to financial stability and competence, which women prioritize when choosing partners, sometimes even overlooking other negative traits.

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Why women don't like nice men. Good morning, ladies and gentlemen. In a sense, this is the topic of this episode. I'm saying it here in a sense because I didn't come up with this title. This title is based on the material that you willingly send me,

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whether via Instagram or via e-mail. I received from you a link to this material. For unknown reasons, you are simply interested in what I think about it. And ladies and gentlemen, this material by Ms.

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Monika Dudziak is almost or more than 20 minutes long, but it definitely revolves around this area. I took the liberty of watching this whole material, but I don't think I need to discuss the whole material for you, and I will only show you about

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two minutes of this material to explain to you what it's all about, and then we'll just move on to my monologue. So I'm playing ABE in the sense of WOP, I'm too late. Zym, play the material here. Monika, today I will talk about

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why women may prefer bad boys and not good boys. How many times have you heard or even seen in movies who is respected among others, who is liked, who is good, who is devoted, loyal, but still somehow the woman ends up with this

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man? So why does this happen? First of all, you can't think and it needs to be refuted that a woman doesn't want to be with a good guy because he is too nice or because he is too good. And then you need a man. Maybe I don't know, they think or people in general think

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that you have to be rude or you have to be bad, and then women fall for it if you are rude to them, if you say rude things to them, and so on, which is completely untrue. It's not about this man. He is

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too nice or too good or too loyal to a woman. It's about what these men don't have and what they theoretically can't provide to a woman, not that they are too good, not what they are like. It's about the lack of certain features that are usually

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present in bad guys. Boy, and I will list them in a moment, are so important to a woman that a woman is even able to withstand the fact that this bad boy is controlling, manipulative, is emotionally unavailable, is irresponsible, and sometimes even a woman is able

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to withstand this in exchange for this bad boy because he shows other features that a woman desires and that she needs to feel safe because security is number one value for a woman when it comes to entering into relationships with a man.

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That today security is ensured by one thing. These are not the times when they are spearing a mammoth. Today, safety is most often ensured through one asset - money. And I don't think there is anything wrong, but beating around the bush that the world revolves around something else, I think is

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inappropriate. Ladies and gentlemen, I could continue watching this material, but I think it makes no sense and is enough. Go to features that are shown here. Nice guy being liked, avoids conflicts, indecisive, dependent on others, passive, not very assertive, submissive, irresponsible, insincere, submissive for the second time, i.e.,

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he is submissive twice, cowardly. Good guy is guided by the good of others, emotionally mature, devoted, loyal, responsible, respects the boundaries of others, honest, authentic, competent, willing to subordinate, can avoid risks, avoids conflicts. It works, and here we go somewhere where this screen will be visible what it has. Bad boy

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self-confident, independent, difficult to control. I don't know what is written here, ud water ice. I have no idea. Dangerous, competent, lots of energy, charismatic, no need for approval, capable of confrontation, decisive, unyielding, i.

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Below are the characteristics that a woman is willing to accept in order to be with a man who does not exhibit these bad boy traits: control in the sense that he controls women, is contemptuous, manipulates, is destructive, takes away her freedom, lack of

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responsibility, explosive, unavailable, emotional. Well, I must admit that if a guy is capable of taking away freedom, has a lack of responsibility, explosive, then wait a minute. Pay attention to one thing this lady is saying that she wants security, that in the sense

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that women want security is an independent car, has a lot of energy, does not need approval, is capable of confrontation, firm, unyielding. Does it provide security, comparing it with the characteristics that he is so controlling, contemptuous, manipulating her, is destructive to her, takes away her freedom, is

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irresponsible, is explosive and emotionally unavailable? Is a guy who is explosive, irresponsible, taking away freedom, destructive, manipulative, controlling, a safe guy in the sense of, well, because she tolerates these traits? So I understand that she endures them in

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relation to herself, not in relation to others, because you know, when it would be in relation to others, she doesn't care what this guy has qualities, but I understand that he has these qualities such as contempt, manipulation, taking away freedom, lack of

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responsibility, and I don't agree with that, that he is self-confident, independent, and so on. They are often associated with a certain competence. This competence will now be presented on a few slides. This is how dear Peacock looks like. The guy may have bad boy,

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good guy, and nice guy. Especially since media figures around the world include some of the richest people, either in Poland or in the world, and these are people who are called "colleges." These are the so-called white knights and

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so on. These are men who are such nice guys who have made fortunes but are nice, they avoid confrontation, they are submissive, and that's what they want.

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Mawo women, let's notice that, for example, in Poland we have streamers, idiots, who are not responsible, who need approval. So if I were to say what makes her stand out, unfortunately, I even feel sorry for women in this respect because I wouldn't

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want to subordinate my life to someone who has money. For me, it would be simply ridiculous. Just kidding, and I know two such people in my environment. We have a lady. Let's call her Kasia so that no one will associate her,

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because from one source someone has already associated a certain person from my environment. I believe that it is her. You are really smart, and Mrs. Kasia had her own apartment which she still owns, but currently she rents it to third parties,

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her teenage car, she lives with Piotruś. Piotruś has a beautiful, large house which he inherited from his parents, which means that his parents inherited it. They are still alive, they bought it for him. He is not assertive, he is not, he is

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capable of confrontation, he is not a responsible person. His father is definitely responsible because he is the one who manages large enterprises. He is rather a good guy. I mean, you could say that if it weren't for the fact that he likes to have fun on

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the side and likes to shoot himself sometimes, head and so on. But for some reason, he can't stand it. He doesn't go back to his apartment. I emphasize his old car. She sold it now. He drives a brand new Mercedes, and he lives in a big house together.

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They don't go anywhere. They go separately. He goes to the gym separately. She goes to bars separately, and he does the same thing. The only thing they have in common is that they meet in the same house where such a bit of an emotional

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tragedy takes place. The other girl, Patrycja. Of course, I say her name is changed because the world is small. Years ago, she went to Germany to

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she met a German man there while she was working. Well, this German was her kid. And she moved in with him in

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a very large house. I won't even call it a house, but a residence. Well, they lived there mainly because the German once trusted her. And he did it right. Wrong, it's not my cup of tea, but he's in good shape, and they stayed together, and he likes to

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shoot her, he likes it on the side, he likes a lot of things. He has practically no contact with her at all, even though they live together, but they have separate lives. They have the same life. The child lives there, of course, an expensive

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car, handbags, when it comes.

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no, sorry in the case of n Good b Well, I would rather give it here when it comes to features money money money money and that's it and I didn't try to make any ridiculous suggestion that it's all about other things Regards

Topics:women preferencesnice guysbad boysrelationship dynamicsconfidencesecurity in relationshipsemotional availabilityassertivenessmodern datingrelationship psychology

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