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When you're sitting in the pain of being discarded by your avoidant partner,
Coach Ryan explains why being discarded by an avoidant partner means they lost you, not the other way around.
Key Takeaways
- You did not lose the avoidant partner; they lost you.
- Avoidant partners are emotionally unavailable and self-centered.
- Choosing yourself and setting boundaries is crucial for healing.
- There are emotionally available people out there looking for genuine relationships.
- Recognizing red flags early helps avoid toxic relationships.
Summary
- Being discarded by an avoidant partner can feel devastating and confusing.
- The avoidant partner lost a loving, emotionally available person who gave unconditional love.
- You lost an emotionally unavailable, self-absorbed partner who lacks empathy and emotional capacity.
- Avoidant partners approach relationships with a selfish mindset focused on their own feelings.
- They can discard loving partners without remorse or consideration.
- The real loser is the avoidant partner, not you.
- There are many emotionally available people seeking genuine connections.
- People often stay stuck on unavailable partners instead of choosing themselves.
- Setting boundaries and recognizing red flags frees you to find the right partner.
- You are now free to meet someone who can truly meet you at your level.
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and your heart is in shambles and you're trying to figure out what the heck happened and how this person that you really thought was the love of your life could throw you away as if you never even mattered.
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And you feel like you just had your future ripped from you, remember this, because this is an important message to drill into your head because it's true.
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The avoidant lost you. You didn't lose them.
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They lost you.
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They lost a person that would give them the world.
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They lost a person that was emotionally available to them. They lost a person that loved them and chose them unconditionally.
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They lost a person that gave them their heart, that gave them the love that they have so deep it comes from the soul.
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They lost you.
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What did you lose? You lost an emotionally unavailable person.
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You lost a person that is self-absorbed, only thinks about what makes them feel good in that moment, a person that doesn't have empathy.
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You lost a person that doesn't have emotional capacity. You lost a person that can't do intimacy.
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You lost a person that approaches a relationship with a what's in it for me mindset, how does this person make me feel? What do I get? Me, me, me, me.
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That's what you lost. You lost a person that really was just in it for themselves.
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You lost a person that could literally discard someone that loves them without even a second thought.
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A person that just erases a person that loves them from existence as if it was never even important.
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That's what you lost. So who's really the loser here? It's not you.
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Because you know what? Even though you're hurting and you feel like you just got rejected, and if you're a loving person that's consistent and emotionally available, there are millions, millions of good people out there that would kill to have a partner like you.
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You're just not realizing it because your heart's in shambles, but as a coach, I work with those people, those men and women every single day that are asking me, where are all the emotionally available people at?
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All I can find are avoidance, and I tell them they're out there, but the problem is, instead of meeting each other, you're all hung up on the emotionally unavailable person.
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But when you start to choose yourself and hold boundaries, weed out the unavailable people, looking for early red flags, using discernment and not making excuses for bad behavior, you become free to meet that person that can actually choose you and meet you at your level.
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So in reality, they lost you. You on the other hand, you've been freed because now you can actually find the right person.
Topics:avoidant partneremotional availabilityrelationship advicebreakup recoverysetting boundariesemotional abusetoxic relationshipsCoach Ryanself-lovehealing after breakup
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