Tony Robbins Helps You Define Success — Transcript

Tony Robbins discusses success and fulfillment, emphasizing emotional management and daily mental practices for a quality life.

Key Takeaways

  • Success alone is not enough; fulfillment is essential for true happiness.
  • Managing your mental and emotional state is the foundation for both success and fulfillment.
  • Daily intentional mental practices can improve emotional quality and life satisfaction.
  • External factors like wealth or fame do not guarantee emotional well-being.
  • Quality relationships and controlling your emotional responses shape your overall life experience.

Summary

  • Success is defined as getting what you want, while fulfillment is living the life you are made to live by giving your gifts.
  • Achieving success without fulfillment is considered the ultimate failure.
  • The quality of life is directly linked to the quality of your emotions and habitual emotional states.
  • Many people struggle with managing their mental and emotional states, which are crucial for both success and fulfillment.
  • External achievements like wealth or fame do not guarantee happiness or fulfillment.
  • Emotions drive all human actions and relationships, and managing them is key to a meaningful life.
  • Modern culture's instant gratification and fear-driven media negatively impact emotional fitness.
  • Daily practices such as feeding your mind with inspiring and insightful content are essential to maintain a positive mental state.
  • Quality relationships amplify emotional well-being and contribute to overall life satisfaction.
  • Pursuing new perspectives through podcasts and other media can help regain faith and improve emotional health.

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00:01
Speaker A
your mental emotional state is the single most important ingredient in not only success but fulfillment.
00:05
Speaker A
And most of us do not know how to manage it.
00:07
Speaker A
What I really like people to understand is that the quality of your life is the quality of your emotions.
00:16
Speaker B
Well, Tony, thank you so much for coming on the Boss Babe podcast again.
00:20
Speaker B
I always feel like it's such an honor to spend time with you and every time I have conversations with you, whether it's in person or when you came on the Boss Babe podcast last time, you just give such wisdom and so I'm really, really excited to dive into the conversations that we're going to have today.
00:34
Speaker A
Great to be with you again.
00:37
Speaker B
So, I want to start off this conversation because, you know, we're heading into the new, well, we're in the new year right now.
00:40
Speaker B
Everyone's like enthusiastic about setting their next goals, what they're going to do with 2022, all these huge plans and really thinking about how they're going to create success, should we say in quotation marks.
00:56
Speaker B
But I'm curious, what do you feel like is the definition of success? Well, it's interesting, I think success is getting what you want and fulfillment is living the life you're made to be, you know, giving your gifts, so to speak, and I think if you just go for success, you end up achieving it usually, if you're really dedicated and you're, you don't give up and you keep trying different approaches, anybody who's persistent enough can succeed, get what they want, but often times you get what you want and you're not really fulfilled.
01:40
Speaker A
Well, it's interesting, I think success is getting what you want and fulfillment is living the life you're made to be, you know, giving your gifts, so to speak.
01:47
Speaker A
And I think if you just go for success, you end up achieving it usually, if you're really dedicated and you're, you don't give up and you keep trying different approaches, anybody who's persistent enough can succeed, get what they want, but often times you get what you want and you're not really fulfilled.
02:04
Speaker A
And I believe success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure.
02:10
Speaker A
So I think it's really important to understand not only what do you want, but what's really going to make you really fulfilled and happy because if you're making everybody else happy and you're unhappy or you succeed and you're still not happy, I mean, that's really terrible.
02:17
Speaker A
And we've seen that over and over again, you see people who have made huge fortunes, become extremely famous and they take their own lives.
02:26
Speaker A
And the reason is because, you know, success is not enough, anyone can succeed, the real, the real question is what are you going to do to be fulfilled?
02:31
Speaker B
I love that and I know that I always try to put myself in our listeners shoes and I always know they're going to be thinking, well, yeah, I understand that, but how do I know?
02:39
Speaker B
How do I know what makes me feel fulfilled? How do I know what makes me feel happy? And I'm curious, like what things that you've done over the years and what actions that you've taught for really people to like start to understand that, how they ask themselves those questions.
03:32
Speaker A
Well, the answer to a question is going to be completely controlled by the mental and emotional state you're in.
03:38
Speaker A
So if you're feeling sad or frustrated, COVID, you don't know what's happening in the future and you're uncertain, you go like, oh, what do I want? I don't know, because your mental emotional state is the single most important ingredient in not only success but fulfillment.
03:52
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And most of us do not know how to manage it.
03:57
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When I say manage it, I'm really talking about your mind and your emotions, right? Those are the two things that if you can master those, because most people are trying to master the outside world and you can't control the outside world.
04:06
Speaker A
You can influence it, but the one thing you can control is how you use your mind, what you do with your emotions and if you think about the quality of your life.
04:12
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You know, again, look at people who supposedly have everything and they're miserable, I get those phone calls from the people that are so quote famous, the great actors, the great musicians, they won the Academy Award, they just won the gold medal and they're literally depressed.
05:04
Speaker A
And the reason is because they thought getting something would eventually make them feel a certain way and it does for this long and then you're off to the next thing and then when you work so hard for something forever like that, it's not there.
05:16
Speaker A
So what I really like people to understand is that the quality of your life is the quality of your emotions.
05:22
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If you have a billion dollars and every day you're habitual emotions are feeling frustrated and stressed and overwhelmed, your life is called frustrated, stressed and overwhelmed.
05:31
Speaker A
If you have three beautiful children and a great husband or a wife or boyfriend or girlfriend and every day you worry, your life is not love, your life is worried, it doesn't matter how you have this beautiful family.
05:43
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So, think of it, emotions control the quality of our life and we have habitual emotions.
05:49
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That's why you'll see people who, you know, they're always angry about something, I'm sure you know somebody like that, or they're always worried about something, if they're not worried about somebody they know, they worry about somebody they don't even know, right? Or you know some people that are, you know, think they're funny and they're not, but they have a good time, you know, who do you want to hang out with?
06:45
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So learning how to direct our emotions and emotions create everything, everything you want in your quote unquote success will be driven by having certain drives of emotion.
06:55
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And, you know, think about it, emotions create wars, emotions create peace eventually, emotions are what you get you in a relationship, emotions how we all got here, you know, somebody had sex and that was driven by emotion.
07:07
Speaker A
So, we are incredibly emotionally unfit, you know, we're fearful about everything, it's nobody's fault, it's just culturally.
07:16
Speaker A
We've been conditioned to get everything instantly by having it in our fingertips, in our phone or our iPad or our computer, whatever the case may be and so now when people don't get what they want immediately, I'm sure you've seen somebody standing on the street corner and they're banging on their phone like, give it a minute, it's going to a satellite and back, you know.
07:36
Speaker A
People today have zero patience and then that messes up the next part that's really your life, quality of life's quality of your emotions, but your emotions are magnified by the quality of your relationships, if you have terrible relationships, it's going to be hard to stay in a great emotional state.
08:27
Speaker A
And so what I try to teach people is what do you do to take control of your mind and emotions and fundamentally, the most basic thing you got to do, especially at a time like COVID is, you got to every day have a couple of simple practices.
08:42
Speaker A
One of those is every day you got to feed your mind and when I say feed your mind, I mean consciously seek out something that's going to give you new insight, new inspiration, new way of looking things.
08:50
Speaker A
Because otherwise today the news follows you, right, it's in your pocket and the news, people are good people, but they're doing their job, what's their job, make as much profit as possible, how do you get the most profit, get the most people to watch, how do you get the most people to watch, fear, if it, you know, if it, if it bleeds, it leads is the phrase they use in journalism, right?
09:08
Speaker A
And we've seen so much fear built up now that most people have lost their faith.
09:17
Speaker A
And you can't lose it fortunately, it's just a muscle that needs to be regained, but you have to fill your mind, you have to pursue it, great ideas are not going to interrupt you, they have to be pursued and the good news is today, if you get away from just the traditional news, you can do, go to podcasts like Boss Babes, you can go to different locations, you can get another perspective and you can feed your mind.
10:15
Speaker A
But if you don't feed your mind, my original teacher was a guy named Jim Rohn and he used to say, Tony, I got a question for you, he said, what if your worst enemy put sugar in your coffee, what's going to happen to you when you drink that coffee, is it you're going to have sweet coffee, he said, you know, what if your family member, your friend, your love, by accident drops one drop of strychnine, what's going to happen when you drink that coffee, is it you're going to be dead and he goes, that's right, life is sugar and strychnine, so watch your coffee, like every day, you got to stand guard at the door of your mind, especially at times like this when there's so much fear.
10:46
Speaker A
So you feed your mind and then the second thing you got to do is the mind and the body work together, meaning fear is physical, but so is courage, if you ever been so scared that, you know, like you have a hard time swallowing or you feel like in your gut, you know, that kind of fear, that's physical.
11:40
Speaker A
But courage is not that you're not afraid, courage is you're scared, you know what, but you're going to do it anyway, right, that it's a muscle and courage comes from doing something physical.
11:52
Speaker A
So every day, you got to feed your mind and you got to do something physical to push yourself beyond what you're normally comfortable with.
12:00
Speaker A
Meaning go for a jog or a run or walk really fast or go lift some weights a little more than you used to, because every time you push yourself to go beyond what's comfortable, you get more comfortable with a bigger challenge and pretty soon what was hard is easy and it isn't just the weight or the run, is what happens to your mind and emotions because they work together.
12:19
Speaker A
And then what you got to do is really, you got to find a great role model and decide what do I want to go after and let me have them show me a way, show me the way at least the pattern, rather than me learning by trial and error.
12:30
Speaker A
And then I got to take action and then ideally, I got to help somebody who's worse off than I am because that'll give me fuel that'll remind me that my life is there, you know, you know I feed, you know, 100 million people every single year now, but it's because somebody fed my family when I was young and it wasn't the food, it was that Thanksgiving somebody showed up with a surprise and it showed that they cared.
13:30
Speaker A
So I think if you learn to take control of your emotions, then you can take control of your entire life, but without that, it's just a pipe dream, it's just more New Year's resolutions and within six or eight weeks, you're back to where you were before.
13:41
Speaker B
I love that, we recently did a podcast on like responsibility and really taking responsibility for emotions and I think that's something that, like you say, a lot of people are like, well, I'll be happy when I achieve that, I'll be X when I achieve this, or I'll be happy when someone does this for me or treats me this way.
13:57
Speaker B
And just like, like inner responsibility of going, actually, no, I need to take responsibility for how I feel and make the changes for within, I think is, like you say, that's the only way that you're going to find that success or that fulfillment if you decide to start moving in that direction.
14:13
Speaker A
But I think the one of the challenges is, so many people have been conditioned over the last two years that they're disappointed so many times, they're afraid to get their hopes up, they're afraid to get excited again, like, you know, I remember last year we thought, okay, we're coming to the end of COVID and people are going to start and go, okay, New Year, new life, I'm ready and then boom, right, we go back and it's like, two weeks to shorten the spread, flatten the curve, has turned into almost two years.
15:04
Speaker A
So then what happens is people get into learned helplessness, where it hasn't worked for so long, I'm afraid to get my hopes up, so I start thinking the problem is permanent, like it's never going to change and it's not permanent, or it's pervasive, because I can't do this, my whole life is over, because my relationship isn't good, my whole life is over, because my finances are good and it's not pervasive, your life is more than that, but when you get in your head, then you start thinking there's something wrong with you.
15:43
Speaker A
And then there's no place to go, so what you need is to get out and change your body and change your perspective and you got to take control of, let me offer your audience three decisions, because every moment of your life, your audience right now where they're listening to both of us, Danielle, they're making three decisions.
15:57
Speaker A
The problem is, most people make these three decisions subconsciously, unconsciously, so what really is just running you is your habits, the way you thought before is the way you feel and the way you keep behaving, but if you want a new life, you got to make new decisions, so here are the three real fast, decision one is what are you going to focus on?
16:51
Speaker A
Because if the audience should hear this, where focus goes, energy flows.
17:00
Speaker B
Well, how do you know?
17:01
Speaker A
Most people are focused on what they're afraid of and so more fear comes their way.
17:10
Speaker A
And it's easy because we all have a two million year old brain that's designed to look for what's wrong to protect, so we protect ourselves, to fight it or to run for it or to freeze, right, that's the way our old brain is wired, it's a two million year old brain.
17:22
Speaker A
But that brain's never going to make you happy, you have to learn to take control of your focus and if you focus on, oh my God, it's never going to work or you listen to somebody who tells you, oh, you know, COVID's going to be here forever and we're never going to have any freedom again and you focus on that, you can get really depressed as most people have.
17:33
Speaker A
We've had 100,000 people overdose on drugs, we have more depression and more people in a suicidal mode than we've ever seen in the last two years, because people need a compelling future, you can deal with a tough today if you got a compelling tomorrow and so what I help people do is design that, but once you change your focus, you'll change how you feel, focus and feeling go together.
18:21
Speaker A
But once you change your focus, you'll change how you feel, focus and feeling go together, but the minute you decide to focus on something, your brain makes the second decision, what does this mean?
18:35
Speaker A
What does this mean, is this the end or the beginning?
18:44
Speaker A
Is this the end or the beginning?
18:49
Speaker A
If you think it's the end of a relationship, you're going to behave very differently than if you think it's the beginning of a relationship, right, if you think this person is disrespecting you or is this person challenging you or is this person coaching you or is this person actually loving on you?
19:06
Speaker A
But if you think they're disrespecting you, you're going to feel differently and behave differently.
19:13
Speaker A
You're going to make a different third decision, which is what am I going to do?
19:19
Speaker A
So if you're focused on what's wrong and you're constantly in a meaning of, oh my God, this is unfair, this is unjust, most of life is unfair and unjust, but if you put yourself in that emotional state, you're going to do very little and you're just going to accept things as they are.
20:02
Speaker A
But you can change all three, so let me give you just an example of a pattern for your audience.
20:09
Speaker A
And I'll do it with you, Danielle, if it, if it's okay, I think I know how your answers will be anyway, knowing you pretty well.
20:14
Speaker B
Let's go.
20:16
Speaker B
I'm getting a session from Tony Robbins right now.
20:22
Speaker A
So these are just three examples, so patterns of focus.
20:26
Speaker A
So, do you tend to focus more on what you have or what's missing during COVID?
20:31
Speaker B
I, I, okay, so I'll consciously focus on what's, um, I'm grateful for and really focus on what I have.
20:38
Speaker B
But subconsciously, I'll go to like what I'm missing for sure, like I have to watch that pattern.
20:41
Speaker A
That's right and you and I knew you would be that way, most people who are conscious catch it, but the problem is during these last two years, that survival brain has been going full tilt.
20:52
Speaker A
So it tends to make us focus on what's missing, well, when you focus constantly on what's missing, not even consciously, just subconsciously, how could you, no matter how great your life is, no matter how great your relationship is, no matter how great anything is, there's no way for you to stay happy because you're always finding what's missing and it's the most common pattern even during non-COVID times on a lot of achievers, because achievers are always trying to figure out how to make the next level, the next level, the next level and they're like on a hamster wheel.
21:57
Speaker B
I want to ask.
21:58
Speaker A
Nothing wrong with going to the next level.
22:00
Speaker A
What's that?
22:00
Speaker B
I want to ask you something about this because I actually know like so many of our audience suffer from this, I'm like, they're constantly like, what's next, what's next and like I'm a three in the whole enneagram, which is like the achiever piece and when you are in this ambitious community, it is something that is almost like plagues everyone because it's like that constant more, like I've got this, but now what's next? And it's like, when are you ever at peace with like where you're at?
22:21
Speaker B
Like what are some practices that you kind of like teach that allows people to sit in those gratitude moments versus feeling like, oh, I'll be happy, like we start this conversation off, I'll be happy when, and I'm still happy, you know, because I feel like this is a vicious circle that starts like a lot of people for travel.
22:38
Speaker A
It's truly just a habit, it's the habit of thinking, right, it's a, thinking is nothing but answering and asking questions, people go, is that really true? Well, you just asked the question to see if it was true or not, right, you know, I mean, I do this to myself, I thought, is that really true? Well, that's a question, but, you know, are there any other ways of thinking besides asking and answering questions? And I go, that's a question and after about 30 minutes of this, I, I started to laugh at myself.
23:23
Speaker A
So, all it is, it's a habit, so you can develop a habit, I do this thing, I've shared with you, I think once before, called priming and if anybody wants a free demonstration of it, you can go to Tonyrobbins.com/priming and it's something I do 10 minutes every morning so that I prime my brain to constantly find real things that I'm grateful for.
23:50
Speaker A
So it starts to happen automatically, because if you don't do that, the mind is always looking for what's missing, but then here's the second decision that's really important.
24:12
Speaker A
Do you tend to focus more on what you can or can't control, what would you say?
25:00
Speaker B
Again, okay, so I would say I really.
25:05
Speaker B
And I'm like taking, it's really interesting because I'm trying to like to breathe in and focus on like what I do on a daily basis.
25:20
Speaker B
I actually think I struggle with focusing on what I cannot do sometimes, like I feel like that is in my like stomach a lot of the time, like, oh, I'm not good enough or I can't do these.
25:28
Speaker B
But I also have this like momentum behind me, which like, I guess it's like that courage piece, like I'll do it anyway and I'll like find a way around it.
25:31
Speaker B
But I constantly have that feeling of like, oh, I can't do this for sure.
25:32
Speaker A
Yes, and that, that tends to be true even more for women than men.
25:40
Speaker A
Men have this false sense of confidence sometimes, it's a bizarre thing.
25:49
Speaker A
Women are more self-conscious very often, I think culturally, it may be beyond cultural, I don't know, I can't tell you why.
25:56
Speaker A
But what I will say to you is, whether you're a man or a woman.
26:00
Speaker A
Think about this, if you keep, now you're disciplined.
26:05
Speaker A
And your momentum keeps you going, it's what's made you successful.
26:10
Speaker A
And that's what you teach people, it's why you're such a great role model.
26:15
Speaker A
You're scared, but you do it anyway.
26:18
Speaker A
But if you focus, just think of these two patterns, don't think of yourself, for anybody at home, just think of them as patterns, if you're constantly focusing on what you can't control and you're constantly focusing on what's missing, how are you going to feel no matter what your life is like, you, you know, you're going to be either frustrated or sad or angry or depressed, it doesn't matter who you are.
26:57
Speaker A
And then here's one more focus, just for one more pattern, do you tend to focus more on the past, the present or the future?
27:07
Speaker A
We all do all three, but where do you think you spend more time for yourself?
27:10
Speaker B
I actually, I think I'm in the future, I rarely look at the past, I'm like, what's done is done and I move on, I try to take the learnings with me, I consciously spend time in the present, but my default is to like, oh, what's next, like, can't wait to have that house, can't wait to this in the business, all those things.
27:25
Speaker A
And that's why you're successful, all successful people tend to focus on the future.
27:31
Speaker A
All people that are overwhelmed tend to focus on the past because you can't change it.
27:37
Speaker A
But so you say the past is past.
27:39
Speaker A
Well, let it go, right?
27:40
Speaker A
So imagine, just for a second, somebody's home, they were, they're a strong, smart person, but they're not feeling strong and smart because they've been sedentary, they're not using their body, when you don't use your body, you don't have that kind of energy, I don't care who you are, right, you're constantly hearing fear coming at you from all the news that's around there and so people tend to focus on what's missing, what they can't control and they think about the past and will the future ever be like that?
28:20
Speaker A
But none of these patterns are going to help you, but you can change all three, you can train yourselves to focus on what you're grateful for, what you have and you can always build on success, that's what creates momentum, you can train yourself to be able to say, okay, if that was missing, that's no problem with it, here's how I'm going to go after it.
28:45
Speaker A
Here's how I, I can find the answer if I don't have the answer and you can train yourself to enjoy this moment while you're building your future, so those three decisions alone, I could give you a dozen, but I'll give you an example.
29:05
Speaker A
I ask people sometimes in seminars and I've got, you know, 15,000, 30,000 people in a stadium.
29:11
Speaker A
And I'll say, how many of you know someone who takes antidepressants and they're still depressed and 90% of the people raise their hand all over the world and so how could you take antidepressants and still be depressed?
30:03
Speaker A
Well, because all they do is numb you, in fact, on the side of the box it says, can create suicidal thoughts.
30:14
Speaker A
So numbing you doesn't deal with the problem, as long as you're constantly focusing on what you don't have or is missing, as long as you're focusing on what you can't control, you're going to find yourself not having what you want.
30:25
Speaker A
So it's not that difficult, but what people need is they need to shake it up.
30:30
Speaker A
You can't do these things just being in your head sitting here at home in your head.
30:35
Speaker A
Because there's not enough energy, the one factor that changes anybody's life is energy.
30:40
Speaker A
And that's so that's why I've done my live events and that's why I started doing digital events.
30:50
Speaker A
I didn't want to do like a webinar, I wanted to do something that was a true event, that's why I built the stadium, 20 foot high LED screens, I created total interactivity, so we have people from 195 countries participating in real time, able to talk to them, connect with them, like they are a live event, bring them up large, have the impact.
31:40
Speaker A
So I didn't let, you know, COVID stop me from being able to help and serve people.
31:46
Speaker A
Because people need a new environment, we all need a new perspective, without it, you're just going to keep doing the same old stuff.
31:54
Speaker A
And if you want 2022 to be different than 2021 or 2020, it's not going to come by hoping.
32:03
Speaker B
Yeah.
32:04
Speaker A
It's come by coming up with a vision.
32:06
Speaker B
No, I love that.
32:07
Speaker A
Coming up with a plan, building a few skills so that you stay strong.
32:10
Speaker B
And I want to talk.
32:11
Speaker B
Because actually I visited your studio and it was absolutely incredible.
32:16
Speaker B
That's where we did our mastermind there as well and, you know, you're taking your in-person events into virtual has been absolutely phenomenal to see and, yeah, I just would love for you to talk about your breakthrough event as well because I know you have that coming up on the 25th and that's really leading on from a lot of the conversation which we've had today.
32:25
Speaker B
So, what are some things that you're going to be teaching there because I am like a testament to the true power of being in person with you, but I also have experienced that virtually, we've always done our podcast virtually as well and even on this call, you're like bringing that energy, so, just share with me some of the things that you're covering through that and then why people should really make the time for that.
33:24
Speaker A
Well, I'll tell you what, because people are stuck at home, the first year of 2020.
33:30
Speaker A
People are so depressed, I saw things are going.
33:34
Speaker A
And, you know, my events were canceled all over the world.
33:38
Speaker A
You know, because, you know, you couldn't have more than 10 people and I'm used to 10,000, 15,000.
33:43
Speaker A
So, I, I decided, okay, I'm going to do a free event for people.
33:48
Speaker A
And I thought, I'm going to do two hours and I thought, oh, that's not going to do anything.
33:53
Speaker A
People need momentum, as you and I just talked about, right, and when you go for emergence, like if you learn a language a little bit at a time, you don't remember it two years from now.
34:03
Speaker A
But if I dropped you in the middle of Italy for 30 days and you had no one teaching you, you're speaking Italian by the time you're there because you're in immersion.
34:10
Speaker A
So all my work is immersion.
34:14
Speaker A
So I decided I'd do two years ago, it's like, I'm going to do a free event for five days.
34:19
Speaker A
I'm going to go 90 minutes a day and of course, I get into it.
34:23
Speaker A
So sometimes it goes longer too.
34:26
Speaker A
Because I just want to add value.
34:28
Speaker A
I'm going to cover everything, so we had almost 410,000 people join us for.
34:32
Speaker A
It was the biggest seminar ever.
34:34
Speaker A
And then we did it again last year because COVID wasn't over.
34:40
Speaker A
So I was like, okay, I'm going to do this one more time.
34:43
Speaker A
And we had 826,000 people join us from 195 countries.
34:48
Speaker A
But I decided to do one more, I'm doing it January 25th through the 29th.
34:53
Speaker A
At 2:00 p.m. Eastern, 11:00 a.m. Pacific or wherever you are in the world, but 2:00 p.m. Eastern is the anchor time.
35:00
Speaker A
And it's literally two hours a day roughly where we're going to take your body.
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And show you how to change that first because without the energy, nothing's going to change.
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I'm going to show you tools and strategies you can do immediately to feel that change in your body.
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I just finished writing a new book called Life Force and I spent three years interviewing the best doctors, 162 of them from around the world.
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On tools that will maximize your energy.
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Because when you're low energy, it's hard to have a great relationship, when you're low energy, you're not going to build a business, when you're low energy, you're not going to follow through.
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Then we get into figuring out what is it you really want and what has gotten in the way in the past, what's the patterns and let's deal with them right now.
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Then we take a look at your relationships because as I said, the quality of your life is your emotions and your relationships.
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And showing you what you can do to either create that relationship or reignite it.
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Wherever you want to go.
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And then we look at money and then we look at what are you going to do with either your business or your career to take it to the next level.
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So it's five days, total immersion, there's no charge.
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Here's why you go, number one is if you, if you're not willing to settle, you'll be there.
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Because there's no charge, it's not partially free, it's completely free.
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And you don't have to travel.
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So you're able to actually go to it.
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So all you have to do is go to breakthrough2022.com.
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Breakthrough22.com.
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And enroll yourself and then we'll join you and you'll have five days that'll blow your mind.
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I love this.
36:41
Speaker A
Last year we had a guy that did this.
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Who'd never have gone to an event.
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And his name is Matt and he was, he had gotten in a car accident.
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Injured himself and had been in bed for seven years.
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Oh my God.
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He gained over 700 pounds and since this thing was available and free.
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And it was on a computer.
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He's, and he's on, by the way, on oxygen, told he would never be able to get off oxygen, never left the bed, couldn't even go to the bathroom.
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Had to do it from the bed with the tools that they give.
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And he attended this five-day program with us, you know, we, we saw him at one point, I put him up on the screen.
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And, you know, said, listen, you can do this too.
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And I'm really proud to tell you, he's lost 258 pounds.
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He, for the first time, was told he'd never be able to breathe without the oxygen.
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Got rid of the oxygen.
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Got stood for the first time out of the bed.
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Went to the bathroom for the first time.
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Left for the first time.
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Drove a car for the first time.
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And then I challenged him, I said, if you can lose another 50 pounds.
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You'll be mobile enough, you can come to my live event in person.
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That we just did a few weeks ago in Palm Beach, Florida.
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And in the meantime, he met a woman and and he's engaged.
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And they both flew there and he walked the fire with us.
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Wow.
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And he keeps losing weight and doing great.
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And it all started because he went to this breakthrough event.
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And it didn't cost him anything for five days.
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I love that and I mean, there's just been so many stories like that.
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That's just one.
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I know you've had absolutely thousands.
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Uh, if not hundreds of thousands and millions at this point.
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I just want to ask a couple of questions in regards to like these five points that you talk about.
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You know, you talk about body, like what you want, relationships, money and business, like, do you feel like these are like when people go to set goals?
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Like these are some of the pillars that they should be utilizing.
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Is that like what they'll be doing?
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Or during the day is like asking these questions.
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And then setting goals from them.
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Like.
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They will.
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But if you try to do that before you learn to change your emotions and state.
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It, it becomes very weak.
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It's like, have you ever set a goal, I'm going to do this.
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And then your brain goes, who are you kidding?
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Right?
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You know.
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So unless we take control of the mind and emotion first.
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Setting goals is just an exercise in like New Year's resolutions.
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People write them every year and within six or eight weeks, they're back to where they were.
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So one of the secrets to making this a breakthrough is to really show you how you've created a breakthrough in yourself before.
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Like most people have struggled with something for years, smoking, drinking, anger, frustration, whatever.
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Not following through, trying to start a business.
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Not doing it.
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And they get mad at themselves.
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And they try again and again.
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But eventually, some people break through, they have a moment where they go, not another day.
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Not another, I'm out of this relationship.
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Or I'm never smoking a cigarette again.
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Or I'm whatever.
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And my expertise is getting people to those states and showing you how to use those states.
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So that now when you set a goal, it's real.
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As a, and then you can come up with the right strategies too.
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Because if you got this great goal, I want to see a sunset.
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And you start running east.
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Yeah.
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I don't care how positive you are.
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Yeah.
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How enthusiastic you are, it ain't going to work.
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So you need both the shift in your mindset and perspective that will give people, you need the tools and skills that actually work.
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And then you need the clarity that'll come from that so you can really turn it into reality.
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I love that, I think that's like such a fresh way for a lot of people to look at it.
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It's like the layers of goal setting because I think a lot of people just dive straight into it.
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Going, okay, well, I'm going to set this goal.
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And like you say, they've given, they've given up by the end of January.
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Versus like, okay, if I really want to create change, I need to first of all, look at the foundation of my mindset.
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Then look at what I'm doing in my habitual habits, which we've spoken about.
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The body and just like layering it on.
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And I think ultimately, you know, um, I've like changed my life significantly over the last few years.
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And if I reflect back, that's probably the biggest change that I actually started to make was like the mindset.
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And how I exercise my mind.
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Like I always have exercised my body and just recognizing that, oh, it's a muscle that you get to change.
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And I think empowering people just to know that just because you've thought a certain way for so long.
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Like you get to change that.
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Like it doesn't have to be set in stone on how you approach things every single year.
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Or how you approach your, like the depression or any of these pieces.
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Like you can really like lean into some of these changes and exercise that muscle.
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And I, I just feel so blessed to like have met you and met so many people in this space.
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Because you guys have been my mentors and allowing me to see that because I grew up with, you know.
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People weren't discussing this thing, particularly in the UK, like mental health is such, such a taboo subject.
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Like you don't really talk about your feelings or your struggles.
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And I think it's just really, um, empowering and amazing to have, you know, someone like you and other people.
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Like sharing this like wisdom that actually, you know, you get to talk about it.
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And you get to make the changes.
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So I'm just really appreciative for everything that you've given to our audience today as well.
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And, you know, supported Natalie and I and our Boss Babe journey, we really, really appreciate it.
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Well, thank you and I, you know, the secret though is you can't get someone to do something you haven't done.
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So one of the beautiful things is you've gotten yourself to make these changes, so you're able to empower other women because you've really done it.
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Same thing with me and this is, you know, my, how.
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I've been doing this 45 years to give you an idea.
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Speaker A
I started when I was two, of course, right?
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Speaker B
Yeah.
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So, you know, 45 years, I, you know, I could be an idiot at this point.
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You start to see there's patterns, patterns that'll make you angry, patterns that'll make you sad.
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Patterns that'll make you feel overwhelmed and stressed.
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Patterns that'll make you excited, patterns that'll make you grateful.
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Patterns that'll get you to take action.
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And all I'm going to do with people is give them an experience of changing their perspective.
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Changing their body and then given the tools to be able to change things.
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So, I look forward to seeing people January 25th through the 29th.
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It's at 2:00 p.m. Eastern and again, there's no cost for it, you can just go to breakthrough2022.com.
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Speaker A
And love to have you guys there.
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Speaker A
And start your new year the right way.
44:13
Speaker B
Thank you so much, Tony, we'll put the links in as well.
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Speaker B
And if anyone has any takeaways they want to share with us, please tag us as well.
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Speaker B
I know we both appreciate that, so thank you so much, Tony, it was amazing.
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Speaker A
Thanks for having me on, happy New Year to you.
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Speaker B
We'll see you soon, happy New Year.
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Speaker A
Blessings.
Topics:Tony Robbinssuccessfulfillmentemotional managementmental statepersonal developmentdaily practicesquality of lifeemotionsBoss Babe podcast

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