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You're not indecisive because of what they're doing, you're indecisive because you don't trust yourself.
Understanding your worth is key to overcoming indecision in relationships, inspired by 1 Corinthians 13.
Key Takeaways
- Indecision is linked to self-doubt, not just partner behavior.
- Self-love is essential for healthy relationships.
- 1 Corinthians 13 offers guidance on how to love oneself and others.
- Protect your heart by recognizing who deserves your love.
- Your worth should never be determined by how others treat you.
Summary
- Indecision in relationships often stems from a lack of self-trust rather than the other person's actions.
- People may stay in disrespectful relationships hoping to change their partner's mind.
- 1 Corinthians 13 describes love as patient, kind, and forgiving, which also applies to self-love.
- Loving yourself means being patient, kind, and trusting towards yourself.
- The love we perceive from others often reflects what we lack within ourselves.
- Without self-love, it is difficult to stand up for oneself in disrespectful situations.
- Practicing the virtues described in 1 Corinthians 13 is challenging but necessary.
- Jesus teaches to protect your heart and not give love to those who cannot reciprocate it.
- Understanding your value prevents you from giving your love to undeserving people.
- The video encourages viewers to stop selling themselves short and embrace their worth.
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You're allowing their actions to reflect on you, not because of what they're doing, but because you're staying.
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I'm not talking about situations in which you genuinely can't leave because there's an active threat, I'm talking about situations where you choose to stay when someone's disrespecting you because you want to change their mind.
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You might have heard a very old saying, it goes, love is patient, love is kind, it is not envy, it does not boast, it does not dishonor others, it is not easily angered or self-seeking, and it keeps no records of wrongs.
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This verse isn't just talking about love to other people, it's talking about how to love yourself.
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Do you dishonor yourself, are you patient with yourself, are you kind to yourself?
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It goes on to say, it always protects, it always trusts, it always hopes, it always perseveres, do you persevere through these times where you don't really feel like you love yourself, where you're determining your worth based on how other people treat you?
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I'm a firm believer that the love we interpret others giving us and we accept in our lives often times isn't actually love, but a reflection of the things that we lack within ourselves.
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Therefore, if you are not giving yourself patience, kindness, you're not trusting yourself.
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Of course, in a situation where you're disrespected, you're not going to be able to stand up for yourself.
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Now, while this verse sounds great, it's extremely difficult in practice.
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Like, girl, what do you mean, keep no records of wrongs, don't envy, don't boast?
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Like, literally, these are very difficult things, especially in today's society.
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But Jesus also calls us to protect our hearts and to not give our pearls to pigs.
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You need to understand that your value is important.
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And you can't just give your love to anyone and everyone who you think deserves it.
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You need to understand that what people come with is usually who they are and they're not capable of giving the type of love you give.
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So, I hope this helped you stop selling yourself short.
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Okay, I love you.
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