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Okay, so today I'm going to show you three real life examples of my own personal text messages.
Casey Zander shares texting strategies to evoke female emotions and build attraction through photos, voice messages, and communication style.
Key Takeaways
- Authenticity in communication is key to attracting the right partner.
- Use a mix of photos, voice messages, and controlled texting to build attraction.
- Simple acknowledgments like hearting messages can increase emotional connection.
- Building anticipation before sharing content boosts engagement.
- Attraction depends largely on natural compatibility and personal style.
Summary
- Casey Zander demonstrates real-life texting examples to show how to engage women emotionally.
- He emphasizes finding a personal communication style that aligns with one’s natural personality.
- Key communication levers include sending photos, voice messages, and encouraging the woman to call.
- Using simple responses like hearting messages can create emotional investment and anticipation.
- Building anticipation before sending photos increases engagement and response rates.
- He advises men to be authentic and not alter themselves to attract women.
- Understanding that attraction depends on compatibility and personal type is crucial.
- Zander highlights the importance of tone in voice messages to create attraction.
- He discourages men from calling first after the initial date, letting the woman initiate calls.
- The video also promotes a holiday bundle offer related to dating strategies.
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And on top of that, the reasons why I choose these photos and why it works and the things that I do over text messages and why you should emulate a similar strategy that's going to help you in your dating life too.
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So, let's go through the very first, um, screenshot here of past messages, so she sends me a selfie.
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Okay, which I may have asked for, I may not have, I'm not, um, quite sure.
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But regardless, you have to find your own flow.
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And you have to find your own style.
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Like, as a man, you have to find your own communication structure.
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Some men, when they just communicate naturally with friends, with family, they're more direct, some guys are more, um, you know, indirect with how they communicate.
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Okay, I'm more of like a naturally just like direct person, okay, and on top of that, like, I want to make sure that whoever I do attract aligns with my natural vibe completely.
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I don't want to have to alter anything about myself in order to get somebody to like me, so like, I don't care.
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I'm going to send what I want and that's that.
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So, she sent me a selfie, all I said was so pretty.
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Okay, there's not a lot of emojis.
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There's not a lot of exclamation marks.
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I'm not saying that you can't send that either.
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Like, for example, if she thinks you're hot, you can pretty much send whatever you want.
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A lot of times, and she'll go, oh, he's just hot.
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But like, but like this is also why finding your own flow and personality congruence is so important.
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And then she put now you, okay, so she wanted a photo of me.
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Um, some guys would look at that as like a compliance test.
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I don't look at it as that way at all.
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Like, she sent one, so like, I'll send one.
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Okay, so here I am.
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So, all I was doing, um, was adjusting the sights on my bow.
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So, you can see I took a picture.
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And then she put Poppy.
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Okay, that's it.
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And all I did was heart the message.
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Okay, so another thing that I can tell you is this, in the early initial phases of communication, especially after you two have slept together, you can pretty much get a girlfriend.
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Or you can pretty much get a woman's emotions to completely work in your favor to where she wants to commit to you, simply by you just hearting the message and then not responding.
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Because all that does is that signals and that says, hey, I acknowledged what you said, I liked what you said, thank you for sending it.
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I'll give you a heart, but if you want to keep further communication, you have to message me.
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And if not, you'll just never hear from me again.
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That's the vibe and that's the attitude that I take.
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Now, just because I take that, doesn't mean you have to take it.
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But I'm just showing you what I do and why it works.
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So, you can see the timestamp on that message was April 14th.
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Okay, now this one's April 15th.
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So, just a day later.
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So, one of the things that I get in the habit of right away with, um, the whole dating experience, especially the first month of talking and communicating.
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Especially the first couple weeks is the main levers that I'm using to generate interest.
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It's going to be sending photos, okay, or pictures of things that I'm doing.
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Okay, number two is going to be voice messages so she can hear a vocal tone.
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Okay, just like when a woman, let's say, has a very like sweet feminine vocal tone, a lot of times that's attractive.
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The same thing goes, um, you know, for you and your dating life, when you can really, um, emphasize tone and masculine tonality at certain points of the interaction or certain points of the conversation.
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You can create, um, a different type of attraction or arousal.
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All through the phone, simply by sending a voice message.
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Okay, so that's, um, what I do in the beginning.
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And the third would be FaceTime.
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Now, in the beginning, specifically, um, I would even say you can stretch this out for four or five months.
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I'll never really call first ever past the first date, okay, maybe I'll do like an initial FaceTime call or phone call.
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Um, to set up the date.
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But past that, if she wants to actually hear my voice and talk to me through the phone, she has to call me.
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Because I just don't call.
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Okay, but those are the three levers that I'm generating would be, um, pictures.
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It would be voice messages and phone calls.
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Okay, so then the next day, um, I can't remember what was said above.
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But she said, yeah, they're pretty great.
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And then hours later, um, or I heart the message and then hours later that morning, when I'm ready, I put my YouTube get up for the day.
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So, whatever I was wearing.
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Okay, and then, um, right below that, she sends me another photo.
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Okay, this is flirting essentially back and forth.
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Um, especially in the beginning when things are new, it's like, you don't know when you two are going to see each other again.
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This creates excitement and anticipation for her.
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And then the next photo, um, you can see now April 17th, so this is two days later.
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Um, whatever she said up top, okay, you can see what I do first.
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Okay, is I will actually tell what I'm going to do.
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So, I will actually say, I will show you a pick of what I just got.
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Okay, now, the reason why I don't just straight up send the picture is because I want to build some anticipation first.
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Okay, now, even if women take hours to reply.
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You have to understand this, a lot of times they still have their cell phone right in their pocket.
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And they check their notifications like every minute.
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So, she's probably going to see it.
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So, what I did was I built some anticipation or some excitement.
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I go, I will show you a pick of what I just got.
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So, then obviously she's going to be sitting there wondering.
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Now, little stuff like this can actually increase your conversion rate for if you get a response or not.
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And then what I do is I send a picture of my ice cream.
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Like, this is just something very easy and simple to do.
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Like, ice cream, like, who doesn't like ice cream, right?
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And it looks really good.
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So, you can see she goes.
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That looks so good.
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And then she put, I want to go for an ice cream ride.
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And I put, it was amazing.
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So, very just simple stuff.
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Um, the reason why I'm showing you this.
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Is because like, you have to understand, as a man, in order to find your own communication flow.
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Especially through text messages and especially through like how you are and how you carry yourself.
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Either one of two things has to happen.
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Either number one, you're old enough, okay, where you know what your own internal personality is like.
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You know what your hobbies are like.
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You know what your interests are like.
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You know how you communicate.
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And there's really no changing that about you.
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You actually step into who you are.
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That's number one.
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Or number two, you'll just send whatever you want because you don't really care.
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Because you understand that like deep down, she'll either like you or she won't.
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And what that really comes down to is like, you will either be her type or you won't.
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Okay.
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Um, you know, even me, like over the years, I can count numerous times or examples where like, I've been out with friends.
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And one of my dude friends is like, oh, you know, look at her over there, she's, uh, you know, that's my ideal dream woman.
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You know, and I'm like, not really my type.
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Everybody has a type.
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Okay, so that's what you have to remember.
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The reason why I'm telling you this is because over the years.
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Okay, what I've done in my own life is like, um, I focused a lot on career, I focused a lot on my own internal self-development.
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I focused a lot on the gym.
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Okay, so throughout a lot of my 20s, I didn't go out a whole lot.
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So, a lot of times what I would do is I would, um, you know.
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Leverage, um, the cell phone.
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Okay, so over the years, I got really, really good at text messaging.
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So, let me give you an example.
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I truly believe the things that I do and the things that I teach works really, really well.
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So, like, for example, um, inside of this bundle that I put together for you.
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I include the language of women texting blueprint.
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And, um, you know, one of the messages that I got, um, within the past day here, this dude goes, first day in texting blueprint already seeing results.
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And then he goes, I changed little things that Casey mentioned and I already have her calling me to see me.
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So, like, that happened for him within the first day.
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So, like, the little things that I'm doing can frame your conversations differently to give you the illusion of higher value or higher status or that you are pre-selected and have more options.
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Due to your lack of effort and the way your sentences are structured, you can retain, um, the leverage in the relationship without giving away too much interest.
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And while keeping the conversation on statements about yourself without asking questions where you've now revealed your interest level.
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And we'll see you in the next one.
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