**How to Deal With Loneliness — Transcript & Summary | SozAI**
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Dwayne from Dry Creek Wrangler School discusses loneliness, especially among men, and offers advice on becoming comfortable with oneself.

## Key Takeaways

- Loneliness is a significant issue, especially for young men, linked to broader societal problems.
- Men must learn to be comfortable and honest with themselves as their primary companion.
- Good relationships are valuable but being alone is better than unhealthy companionship.
- Self-forgiveness and truthful self-reflection are crucial for personal growth.
- Courage and self-encouragement help men overcome isolation and build resilience.

## What the video covers

- Dwayne addresses the rising loneliness and isolation felt by many young men, exacerbated by societal issues.
- He highlights alarming statistics about men's higher rates of suicide, homelessness, and incarceration compared to women.
- Dwayne critiques certain feminist attitudes that celebrate men's struggles rather than seek equality.
- He acknowledges the difficulty in finding good, solid women but assures they still exist.
- Dwayne emphasizes the importance of becoming comfortable with oneself as a companion to combat loneliness.
- He encourages honesty and self-truthfulness combined with understanding and forgiveness.
- The video touches on the biblical perspective of companionship and the reality of being alone.
- Dwayne shares personal reflections on loneliness and the value of self-acceptance.
- He advises men to cultivate courage, self-encouragement, and independence.
- The video concludes with a call for men to stand up, make hard decisions, and be comfortable in their own skin.

## Chapters

1. 00:00 Introduction and Context
2. 01:14 Men's Mental Health and Societal Issues
3. 02:31 Critique of Feminism and Gender Dynamics
4. 03:45 Personal Reflections and Cigar Talk
5. 05:49 Understanding Loneliness and Self-Companionship
6. 07:06 Biblical Perspective on Companionship
7. 08:23 Becoming Comfortable with Yourself
8. 09:35 Honesty, Forgiveness, and Self-Truth
9. 10:49 Encouragement and Final Thoughts

Answers

## Questions about this video

What is the main advice given for dealing with loneliness?

The main advice is to become comfortable being your own companion by practicing honesty, self-acceptance, and self-forgiveness.

Does the video address why men feel more isolated than women?

Yes, it discusses higher rates of suicide, homelessness, and incarceration among men, and societal attitudes that contribute to their isolation.

Are there any suggestions about relationships in the video?

Dwayne acknowledges good women still exist but emphasizes that being alone is better than being with a bad partner.

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00:01

Speaker A

Good morning. Dwayne here, Dry Creek Wrangler School. We got a morning here. We got a new class coming in, next to the last class for this year being this afternoon. So Mom and I are taking the chance and taking

00:17

Speaker A

the opportunity to make another video this morning. I've been chewing on this. We didn't make a video for a couple of weeks, and then I just posted two videos. They were both horse related, and this topic I've been chewing on for a little

00:34

Speaker A

while, but I've been hesitant to put it up because I didn't really have things clear in my mind. Um, but I'm going to take a chance this morning and see what we come up with. For the last many weeks, I've gotten a

00:49

Speaker A

lot of contacts, comments on the channel, um, emails, different things about young men especially. I mean, it's a pandemic around the world, I think, but young men especially in this country who are just feeling isolated and alone. Uh, it's a really bad situation in

01:14

Speaker A

this country. Mama sent me a video link of a guy, and he was talking about in this country the numbers of, uh, when it comes to suicides, when it comes to, uh, homelessness, when it comes to prisons, the numbers of men in

01:36

Speaker A

these situations are astronomically higher, uh, than women. And then this same guy read a lot of the feedback from women, and it was horrible. They were celebrating the fact that men are three times, three times more likely to commit suicide.

01:59

Speaker A

Um, I just can't, and it's no wonder good men in this world are backing away from women and saying, look, this is just, this is not, this is not right. And, uh, and when this attitude pervades, when this attitude pervades,

02:17

Speaker A

feminists cannot sit there and say we're only about equality. Let me, let me give you a thought, ladies. I'm going to get a lot of, I'm going to get a lot of grief for this, and I don't care. I don't know you,

02:31

Speaker A

and I ain't scared of you. Okay, if a man is here and you want to be equal, and the only way you can get equal is to band together and tear him down so that you can be at this level, you're not

02:50

Speaker A

equal. You're not equal, okay? You're a parasite. I'm not gonna go any further into that, all right, because I'll get, I will get wound up and get scratchy. Men, you're feeling isolated, alone, and lonely. What do you do?

03:09

Speaker A

You can't find a good woman these days, it seems like, and they're out there. Let me tell you right now, there's good women still out there. They come through here, we meet them around, and there are still really good solid women

03:24

Speaker A

of values who value themselves, who value the men around them. Um, they're just harder to find. So what's a guy to do? Look, I'm not a, I'm not a psychologist. I'm not trained. I don't, okay? I'm just, I

03:45

Speaker A

don't know. Uncle Dwayne, you go sit down and have a cup of coffee and a cigar and say, hey man, I don't know what to do. All I can do is give you my view, maybe to help, maybe it won't.

03:54

Speaker A

Speaking of cigar, Perdomo in Menso 70. It's the only Perdomo cigar, um, I've ever purchased that disappointed me. Um, I bought a box of them. I really like the 70 gauge. Um, sitting around in the evening, it gives me a lot of time, but this cigar

04:17

Speaker A

has been the least pleasing of any Perdomo cigar I've ever had. It's not that I don't like it. If I didn't like it, I wouldn't be, wouldn't be having one this morning, but it just, to me, it doesn't measure up. It's a Maduro,

04:33

Speaker A

made in Nicaragua. Everything should be, uh, and it's from a great company. Everything should be, but this is like, I'm down to three out of the box, and I have not yet had what I call a mustache burner, one that's so good I don't want

04:49

Speaker A

to let it go, and it gets all the way down to the point I'm afraid it's going to burn my mustache. And great cigar is a mustache, but, but it's, you know, it's pretty decent, and I do like the size, but

04:59

Speaker A

I mean, I'm getting a hot spot right here. Back away from my burn, and they're just, I don't know, uh, but it's still a, it's better than some other cigars, but I wanted one this morning just because of

05:13

Speaker A

the size. Um, so let's look at it, guys. Loneliness. Loneliness and what is the answer to loneliness? Well, if you're lonely, I mean, it stands to reason that you're not finding people outside, people that you can connect with

05:31

Speaker A

on a physical level, an emotional level, oh, a mental level, a spiritual level, whatever, wherever you're at. Now, it's harder for some people, and I understand personalities. I, I understand there's difficulty in this, like for me, I'm very comfortable in my own head.

05:55

Speaker A

I'm very comfortable alone for hours at a time, for days at a time. Um, I, uh, it doesn't mean I haven't felt loneliness. It doesn't mean that I don't feel lonely at times, but it's not acute. It's not something I can't, I can't deal

06:11

Speaker A

with. Um, and to me, from what I see, is the one companion, let's, let's think this through, the one companion outside of, of God, if you follow God, if you believe in God and you have Him, then there's always a friend

06:33

Speaker A

that sticketh closer to a brother. But this, we're talking about the human issue. The one companion that's always going to be with you is yourself. And I think the first thing you have to do, I think the first thing we have to do

06:47

Speaker A

is we have to get ourselves to the point where we don't necessarily need a companion. Now, um, it, you know, in, when God created, in the Bible, when God created Adam and then he looked down, he looked at him, he

07:06

Speaker A

said it's not good that man be alone. That's why he created Eve. It's not ideal. It's not ideal, but it's doable, and sometimes it beats the alternative. Uh, and ladies, the exact same thing. Uh, it's better to be by yourself than it is

07:23

Speaker A

to be with a bad man. Uh, and but sometimes we choose, we choose less than ideal companions because to us that beats the alternative of not having any companion. And the reason why we, um, cannot gr, we cannot face the concept of

07:47

Speaker A

not having any companion is because we're not comfortable with ourselves as a companion. Um, we don't want to be left alone by ourselves with ourselves, so we come in and we sit down and we get on our phone or we turn on the TV or, or

08:05

Speaker A

we go wherever we do whatever because we don't want to face the reality of being by ourselves with ourselves. And so fellas, I would say one of the things I would recommend that you think about, chew on, look into is start making

08:23

Speaker A

yourself a companion that you're comfortable with. Now, that sounds kind of maybe not real mainstream, but if you had a, if you had a friend, if you had a person you're gonna sit down, spend all the time with, what would you want

08:41

Speaker A

from that person? What would you want? Well, I would want to spend time with somebody who's honest, makes sense. I don't want to spend time with somebody who's going to be lying to me all the time, someone who's going to

08:57

Speaker A

gently tell me the truth about myself. One of the hardest things sometimes for the human to do is get to the point where they stop lying to themselves, where they tell themselves the truth, they speak the truth to themselves. Now,

09:19

Speaker A

you got to face the reality of who you are. You got to face the reality of what you are. All right, and, and nobody's going to tell you that like you yourself will tell you that. Um, you want to tell yourself the truth,

09:35

Speaker A

but you want to tell yourself the truth in understanding and forgiveness. I look back at things in my life, and I can't say it was somebody else's fault. I can't say I didn't do that. I can't say this is why I did that, so

09:55

Speaker A

that made it all right. I mean, all the way back, you know, human, our entire lives. So I got to tell myself the truth. Yeah, that was, that was not okay, but then I, at the same time, I have to

10:10

Speaker A

tell myself that, uh, you're a human, and you made it right, and you're making it right, and it's okay. It's okay wherever you've been in the past. That's bad if you're not still there. Your companion, which is yourself, needs

10:37

Speaker A

to feel free to tell you it's okay. That was a bad place to be. That was a bad person to be, but you're not that person anymore, and you're not in that place anymore. But if you're with yourself, and yourself

10:49

Speaker A

is always beating you up, you're not going to want to be with yourself. If I'm sitting out here by myself in the evening by a fire, a cup of coffee, and a cigar, and I'm constantly beating myself

11:07

Speaker A

someone that I want to be alone with does it make sense all right you got to make yourself and then the next thing I want I would want from a companion is I would want someone who is encouraging who sees the possibility in

11:27

Speaker A

the future who gently pushes me and encourages me to get out of the rut to get out of the hole to get out of the Sheepfold to get out of the swamp that I'm in and to move on and do better you want

11:43

Speaker A

someone who's going to encourage you well if you don't have somebody who's going to do that become that somebody and again now I'm fellas I'm I'm blessed I mean I've got mama okay I'm not speaking um I've got something a lot of you guys

12:00

Speaker A

don't I have mama but at the same time I have a a very comfortable relationship with myself all right and sometimes if you don't have someone like Mama yourself is what you have and you need to encourage yourself you

12:19

Speaker A

need to look around and you need to be able to encourage yourself and say look I'm not stuck here unless I choose to stay here I get people get on the Channel all the time and they're like Dwayne you're out

12:31

Speaker A

of touch you don't know what you're talking about you're out in the country those of us in the city we don't have that opportunity well now I've been in a lot of cities and I've never been in a city that had a

12:43

Speaker A

big wall around it that wouldn't let you out if you actually want to leave you actually want to get away from the crime from the the homelessness from the situations that are being bred in the cities today leave

13:09

Speaker A

now sometimes you can't I'm not totally stupid sometimes you can't um and but a lot of you a lot more of you can than can't now it takes courage it takes courage it takes sacrifice I mean I read if I was single and in

13:30

Speaker A

some of these cities and I read what's going on in these cities and I read about the politics and and the crime and the homelessness and the the um cost of living and and the cost of rent and the cost of groceries and and

13:43

Speaker A

the inability to do all this stuff I'd sell everything I could sell put enough in the backpack and I'd walk out I'd sell my car I'd sell everything don't tell me it can't be done watch the video on there I hitchhiked and took a

13:58

Speaker A

bus from Tennessee to Cody Wyoming and picked up cigarette butts in the campground for soup and a sandwich and a place to stay until I finally got a job now that job was 350 a month but it included a room in a bunk

14:14

Speaker A

house and it got me started don't tell me it can't be done it takes guts and you need to have a companion you need to be a companion that's going to gently encourage you and give you the courage to take that next

14:29

Speaker A

step and to do better and to be better I know guys I know that the how do I the physical aspects of a relationship I know that they're positive I know that they are are things that is hardwired in

14:57

Speaker A

us to search for but it's not something we gotta have it's not something we have to have and the hell that you go through with these relationships just in order to have someone to sleep with from time to time is not worth a

15:20

Speaker A

destruction that is doing to your soul and your spirit to your life it's not worth it become your own man become your own man if these feminazis want to burn their own world down around them let them do it you don't have to be

15:37

Speaker A

in it you don't need their world and you don't need them you don't need them I was asking Deanna this morning I was reading this stuff and I'm like if these women have their way are they going to get out and asphalt

15:53

Speaker A

these highways are they going to get up on these high lines and do this is I'm not saying they can't but I'm saying the dang sure won't are they going to do sewer lines are they going to go into burning

16:09

Speaker A

buildings and haul people over their shoulder down off the ladders here and there scattered here and there there's one but women as a whole are not going to do this and that's fine that's their business they can live their life as they want

16:20

Speaker A

I'm not here bashing women but I am I am totally fed up with this whole feminazi movement that is destroying the young men in this country and nobody can destroy you if you won't let them all right don't let them you're a man you are a

16:41

Speaker A

man stand up and be a man make the hard decisions make the sacrifices make the unpopular decisions and become comfortable in your own skin and if you are not a person that you are comfortable being alone with that is the one person in this universe

17:02

Speaker A

that you have full power full right and full responsibility to change okay I don't have the right I don't have the desire to and I do not have the right to try to change my wife's personality and who she is I

17:17

Speaker A

don't have the right to change anybody except myself now there's people out there I don't like and if I don't like them I just walk away I'm 55 years old I've done without that person my whole dang life I

17:31

Speaker A

don't need them now and I don't have the right or the desire to try to change them but if I don't like me if I don't like me if I'm not comfortable being with me well that's a different story

17:45

Speaker A

all right so it doesn't provide all the answers probably doesn't provide any answers I don't know but mailers a little bit of encouragement there maybe somebody there's a little seed a little step a little something that you can say hey

17:59

Speaker A

you know what I think that helped me and listen just be strong stay strong and ladies I'm not bashing women but I am bashing this this this Godless hateful movement that is destroying this country and destroying the men in this country

18:18

Speaker A

okay um it's it's not and fellas just don't let me add one more thing here all right I'm choosing my words give me a moment it is human nature it is human nature when a pendulum swings too far one way

18:44

Speaker A

when the pendulum swings too far one weight we react and swing that pendulum too far the other way all right for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction all right don't do that do not do not react to this

19:08

Speaker A

with opposite all the way over here don't be hateful and mean and derogatory to women all right I I am referring obliquely to a former um kickboxer who now resides in Europe somewhere who has been all the all the

19:34

Speaker A

rage there are some things he says that he's writing he's spot on but his pendulum has swung too far the other way okay and and some impressionable young men have taken it that way we're not at War fellas

19:49

Speaker A

regardless of how this side wants to frame this picture we are not at war with women all right we're not you be that warrior in that Garden all right and you stand strong you'll be a strong man you be a good man

20:14

Speaker A

and you just let the world rage around you all right I hope this helps and uh and my heart's with you guys anything I can do to help I'll be happy to do and so we'll catch you all next time

Topics: loneliness men's mental health self-acceptance Dry Creek Wrangler School Dwayne suicide prevention male isolation self-companionship personal growth relationships


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