**40 ЛЕТ. Я ВЫЖИЛ: Развод, одиночество и новая жизнь — Transcript & Summary | SozAI**
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A 40-year-old man reflects on life, divorce, loneliness, and his views on relationships and masculinity in an unedited heartfelt video.

## Key Takeaways

- Turning 40 brings a new perspective on life, emphasizing humility and ongoing learning.
- Divorce and sobriety can lead to social isolation but also clarity and authenticity.
- The speaker holds controversial views on relationships, particularly regarding divorced women with children.
- Humanism and honesty are core principles guiding his interactions and worldview.
- Support from loyal followers is crucial amid legal and social challenges.

## What the video covers

- The speaker turns 40 and shares raw, unedited reflections on his life journey, including personal hardships and growth.
- He recounts significant life events such as a failed proposal at 20 and his wife's miscarriage at 30.
- At 40, he expresses uncertainty about the future but emphasizes that life is just beginning.
- He discusses the loss of friendships due to his divorce, sobriety, and outspoken views.
- The speaker maintains a firm stance on men's issues, particularly criticizing divorced women with children as unsuitable partners.
- He highlights the importance of humanism and treating others as one wishes to be treated.
- He shares experiences of social isolation due to his honesty and controversial opinions.
- Legal troubles involving false reports and harassment from radical feminists and ex-deputies are mentioned.
- Despite challenges, he remains committed to his men's movement blogging and appreciates loyal supporters.
- He encourages viewers to support his channel and stay connected as he continues his journey.

## Chapters

1. 00:00 Turning 40 and Life Reflections
2. 01:12 Significant Life Events at 20 and 30
3. 02:17 Realizations at 40 and Life's Uncertainties
4. 03:23 Men's Movement and Controversial Views
5. 04:47 Desire for Peaceful Living and Hobbies
6. 05:55 Principles of Humanism and Relationships
7. 06:38 Social Isolation and True Friendships
8. 08:54 Honesty, Legal Issues, and Support
9. 10:07 Future Plans and Channel Anniversary

Answers

## Questions about this video

What major life events does the speaker reflect on turning 40?

He recalls a failed proposal at 20, his wife's miscarriage at 30, and his current feelings of uncertainty and new beginnings at 40.

Why does the speaker have few friends now?

Due to his divorce, quitting drinking, and outspoken views, many friends have drifted away, leaving only those who truly support him.

What is the speaker's stance on relationships with divorced women who have children?

He believes divorced women with children are generally unsuitable for relationships and emphasizes that men should be cautious about the 'price' of relationships.

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00:01

Speaker A

Hello everyone. Today is October 7th. My watch says it's 12:00, or about 12:15 AM. And I’ve turned 40. I'm honestly in shock. This video today has no editing, no cuts. I just decided to talk to the people closest to me. And

00:24

Speaker A

that’s you, my dear friends. You know, when you're 20, 40 feels like some kind of deep old age somewhere way ahead, and when you're 30, it seems like a crisis that’s still far off.

00:47

Speaker A

But when you turn 40, you start to realize that life has only just begun.

00:54

Speaker A

It works out in an interesting way. I wrote in my book that when I was 20, exactly on my birthday, the girl I wanted to propose to left on a trip with some guy who was 15 years older

01:12

Speaker A

than me. Well, God spared me that day, it seems. In general, that trouble somehow passed me by. When I was 30, my wife was rushed to intensive care with a missed miscarriage, and I spent the whole day comforting her because she

01:31

Speaker A

thought she’d never be able to have children. And today I’m 40, and I don't even know what to expect. Well, I hope everything will be fine. I’ve already eaten my share of salt in this life. And the only unpleasant thing,

01:48

Speaker A

basically, that happened to me, is that I lost my stabilizer while filming a video about Novokuznetsk prostitutes.

01:58

Speaker A

You can go find it and watch. It’s cool. At 20, you really think you know how to live, that you understand how your life will go, and that, in principle, nothing is impossible. At 40, you realize that you don’t

02:17

Speaker A

understand a damn thing. And all those moments when you were little and looked at adults, thinking you'd get smarter when you grew up—by 40, you realize that age doesn't give you any guarantees. Why am I saying this? But

02:36

Speaker A

you know, honestly, I really did decide to talk to the people closest to me, which means my viewers, my subscribers, those who were with me from the start, those who joined, those who stayed and aren't leaving, simply because I don't

02:50

Speaker A

really have friends anymore. I had fewer friends when I got married. There were even fewer when I got divorced.

03:04

Speaker A

After I quit drinking, there were none left at all. I mean, just the other day I had a falling out with one more person. It's all thanks to my worldview that I still, despite everything that's happening, despite all the hate,

03:23

Speaker A

despite all the statements from former—already former—deputies, they didn't succeed, you know. In general, despite all this, I continue to hold my position. I continue to be a blogger for the men's movement, and I won't budge for a second on the point that an

03:47

Speaker A

"RSP"—you know, a divorced woman with kids—is basically a woman unsuitable for a relationship or for anything at all. That in today's reality, a woman really should show more initiative. I still believe that the price of relationships for a man is inflated,

04:10

Speaker A

and many pay it. I pay it, those who watch me pay it. I hope there are those who watch me and won't pay it thanks to this. But honestly, all sorts of things happen in life. And as they say,

04:26

Speaker A

hindsight is 20/20. It's interesting how it turns out that when you're 20, you're really full of strength, you want to discover this world, you're open to this world, but when you're 40, you just want to live peacefully. You

04:47

Speaker A

just want to live so that no one bothers you, so you have the opportunity to exist comfortably, buy yourself things, and have some hobbies.

04:58

Speaker A

Passions, interests, and none of this is tied, strangely enough, to women or communication with women at all. I've noticed that, unfortunately, despite what I say, what other bloggers say, despite all this, there are still many, many "simps" who don't understand

05:19

Speaker A

what's happening. There are people who don't think about their lives at all, not at 30, 40, or 50 years old. Well, here is just such an example. I recently talked to one person. We were getting along great until the moment I

05:36

Speaker A

started to gain a masculine understanding, that is, until I started speaking the male truth. And he asked why I have such an attitude specifically toward interacting with women, with those types. I said, "Well, you know, first of all, I am basically

05:55

Speaker A

for humanism." And the first principle of humanism is not to do to others what you don't want to have done to you. So I say, imagine a situation. You got married somewhere, had a child, it doesn't matter what you think, whether

06:13

Speaker A

you are to blame that she divorced you or you aren't, that's not the point.

06:19

Speaker A

Your child lives apart from you, and then I show up to him. And you don't really agree, I say, with what I'm saying, do you? He's like, "Well, yeah."

06:27

Speaker A

I say, "Well, I'm going to explain this to him anyway." He says, "Well, I'll explain it to him in the opposite way." I say, "Dude, you'll see him maybe twice a week, three times, or however much, an hour or two a day,

06:38

Speaker A

right? But I, I tell him, will be living with him and will be explaining all of this to him, to your son or daughter. Will you like that?" "No, I won't like that." I say, "Well, you see, right, why I don't really get

06:50

Speaker A

involved with them. That's the first reason." The other 6, 7, 8, 15 reasons you already know. So, that is the first principle of humanism. Fine, I think, we've talked enough. He's like, "Well, what if it's like love?" I say,

07:03

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"Brother, you're 45. Let's leave love for the schoolkids. So that it's easier for them, you know, for the boys to drag girls into the bushes, and for the girls not to feel like, let them explain their hormonal highs with love."

07:19

Speaker A

Anyway, we talked and both stayed unhappy, parted ways, didn't fight, naturally, but it's clear that the relationship ended. And I have practically no social circle now, simply because most people don't share my point of view. And I don't care. I

07:37

Speaker A

don't care, actually, simply because the ones who remained are the ones who are truly my own. These are the people with whom we've been through, well, maybe not together, but side by side, through fire, water, and everything else. In short, in short, thank you to

07:59

Speaker A

everyone who is still around. It is truly important, it is necessary. I, of course, had planned my life a bit differently. Even at 30, I couldn't have imagined that this is how I'd be living at 40. So from a social point of

08:16

Speaker A

view, from the perspective of the average vegetable-headed person, this vegetable, this conformist, I'm basically just used-up material. I'm a person who couldn't, cannot, and doesn't want to get over this divorce trauma, because, well, not everyone is like that, right, just, well, didn't

08:35

Speaker A

get lucky the first time, then some don't get lucky the second time, some the third. And when they gather in those groups of theirs, they’ve stopped inviting me, and people rarely call me, simply because, well, I’ve stopped lying, I’ve stopped being a

08:54

Speaker A

hypocrite. I tell people exactly what I think, right to their faces, dammit. That’s probably the trait that makes me who I am, but it also creates a lot of problems for me. Yes, you’re all aware that those unhinged, divorced,

09:13

Speaker A

problematic broads are filing reports against me—the ones who couldn’t keep a family together, who destroyed their families, who try to build a business on alimony, looking for suckers, milking chumps—in short, all those crazy ex-deputy types, radical feminists. Simply because of the trauma

09:33

Speaker A

inflicted by their mom and stepdad, basically man-haters, all that mold, that social dregs—they file reports against me, and someone is even submitting tax returns for me. Thanks a lot, by the way, for the support with the legal issues. We’ve cleared up

09:52

Speaker A

some of the issues thanks to you guys, thank you so much. We’ve settled everything with the tax office. Now I’m just waiting for this bureaucratic wheel to turn in the opposite direction. It doesn’t turn very fast going forward, but to turn it

10:07

Speaker A

backward, it takes double the effort. But thanks to you, the lawyer is on the job. Now we’re going to go after that prostitute from Anapa, the materials are already prepared, the lawyer is going to handle this matter to make

10:22

Speaker A

sure it’s done right. But new questions are coming up, right? I mean, not long ago a prosecut...

10:36

Speaker A

Anyway, in short, this issue also needs to be legally resolved. I’m currently in Novokuznetsk. I came here to enter my forties, see my parents, whom I haven’t seen in two years, and resolve the current issues that arose with them because of the same situation

10:57

Speaker A

, when all that filth got together and tried to shut my mouth. They still haven’t managed to. And that’s not because I’m some kind of super-tough guy, but simply because I have huge support from my audience. Huge thanks

11:13

Speaker A

to everyone for that. Why am I saying all this? Because when you’re 20, life seems easy. When you’re 30, you think you understand life. When you’re 40, you realize you don’t, but you know how you’re going to live

11:29

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. And you know, for the first time in my life, probably, for the first time in my life, I just feel, well, good. I feel like a happy person. I have a channel, thanks to which I'm not just

11:51

Speaker A

blogging, I'm working on creating a cool, wonderful future reality for myself, for every man, and for our children who will have to live after us . and clean up all this mess that their mommies have created. I have a channel,

12:17

Speaker A

thanks to which I feel that I am not alone, I feel that I am alive. Yes, I don't have a permanent woman in my apartment. And this also gives me, well , a sense of lightness, a feeling of

12:34

Speaker A

some kind of correctness, I would even say, a kind of chosen righteousness. Simply because no one is picking at my head, no one is nagging, no one is trying to manipulate me. And all my time and all my space belongs only to

12:54

Speaker A

me. And that is a real high. A high, when you can manage your own time, your own efforts, when you can just play PlayStation, get stuck at the computer, go for a walk, or just, I don't know, go to some cafe and have a cup of tea.

13:19

Speaker A

scroll through my phone, change the scenery, and just be alone with myself. I've been living alone for 6 years now, and the longer I live, the more I enjoy it. I sincerely hope and believe that my efforts in creating content and

13:39

Speaker A

keeping this channel running are helping many people. I know personally those whom I have helped. I don't know many of them personally, but if you believe the statistics, which, by the way, you can also see on YouTube, if

13:56

Speaker A

you believe those statistics, then it's tens of thousands of people. That's 125,000 men who watch me regularly, every month. And 60%of them watch me without subscribing. For YouTube, that is a huge red flag. So please like, comment, subscribe to the channel,

14:26

Speaker A

let's definitely keep this momentum going. All in all, 40 years old, we're doing well. We're doing well, flight is normal. And only now do I really begin to understand that life begins right here. At 40, a man is in a state where

14:46

Speaker A

he can really do anything, and he still has the strength for it. Well, I have another 5-10 years, so to speak, to actively live for myself and do something positive. I hope everything will be fine. It is customary for us to

15:07

Speaker A

give birthday presents, and I won't beat around the bush here now. I'll put it this way, guys, content takes a lot of time and a lot of effort. The higher I rise and the more media influence I gain, the stronger the opposition

15:27

Speaker A

against me naturally becomes. Therefore , if you want to support the channel, support me, or wish me a happy birthday —if my content, my videos, or my example of how I got through my divorce , how the cops broke down my doors, and

15:46

Speaker A

how I fought for my son alongside you —if my example is a positive one for you, you can thank me with a donation.

15:56

Speaker A

I’m currently staying with my parents , and I don't have much money right now . On top of that, I just took a fifteen-thousand ruble hit; I was filming a video and lost my stabilizer.

16:05

Speaker A

So, in short, we're living it up. For those who want to help, the link is in the description. It’s still my mom’s card, because my own accounts are still blocked, though they are in the process of being unblocked. The tax

16:19

Speaker A

office is just finishing up tying up the loose ends. Anyway, there are a lot of legal aspects to deal with, you know ? Maybe someone even feels like chipping in to get me a hooker or something. I’m not really a "hot dog"

16:32

Speaker A

either, if I’m being honest. No, I’m not an incel, I’m just a lazy ass who, well, sometimes I’m just too lazy to go chase women. Anyway, just for fun. For tea, for cookies, any donation at all—it’s cool, it’s

16:46

Speaker A

great, it’s awesome. Likes and subscriptions are great too, but unfortunately, you can’t pay for a camera, which I need for work, with damn likes. You can’t pay the utilities with them, or the internet, or my mobile service, which I also need

17:04

Speaker A

. In short, I want the channel to grow. I want the picture to get better, and the sound to become clearer, cleaner, and higher quality. I plan to reach at least a hundred thousand subscribers, and then we’ll talk about a million.

17:23

Speaker A

I have a lot of projects, a lot of thoughts, and a lot I want to do, but unfortunately, there are only 24 hours in a day. So, men, thank you all once again for your support. Write your birthday wishes in the donations, I

17:39

Speaker A

will definitely read them all. We’ll do a stream. I’ll answer everyone as best I can. The link is on Boosty. You can subscribe or send a donation.

17:51

Speaker A

Basically, through Boosty, however you like. Thank you all so much. Honestly, if it weren’t for you, I wouldn’t have made it out. I wouldn’t have made it out of that divorce, and I’d probably have been buried somewhere two

18:08

Speaker A

years ago. There were just people who wanted me to freeze to death in a puddle of my own vomit and somewhere drunk under a fence. But thanks to you, I didn't give my opponents that pleasure, and I never

18:21

Speaker A

will. Hold the line, men, we continue. 40 years, flight is normal. The channel , by the way, just turned 5. A mini-anniversary too. Anyway, thank you all very much. I said a lot, but not everything I wanted. Wait for the next

18:38

Speaker A

stream. On the stream, we'll talk more specifically and in detail. Wow, the fifth decade. Yeah, now I'm officially an adult and big. I can do whatever I want. I can eat ice cream while it's still cold. And not ask mom if I can go

18:53

Speaker A

out on the balcony to smoke. Thanks again to everyone. Like the video, leave some comments. It will only get worse from here. Well, I mean more interesting. Ah.

Topics: 40 years old life reflection divorce men's movement masculinity loneliness relationships humanism sobriety social isolation

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